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Post by TheOtherMe on Apr 15, 2019 16:27:52 GMT -5
I got a middle of the night text from my friend that her husband was found deceased. I slept through it and I haven't been able to get in touch with her all day. I feel awful Her family is all in town and I am sure she's more than overwhelmed with people and food right now. I ran to Target over lunch and got TP, paper towels, Kleenex, Clorox wipes, paper plates and plastic ware. I figure with people in & out the last thing she needs to worry about is running out of TP. I feel so useless though. I wish there was anything at all I could do. This is my friend that lost her daughter months before we lost Aubree, and Claudette's birthday celebration giving back to the community is why I started making those sleeping mats to begin with. This friend has been through too much - her momma, her baby, and now her husband I'm so very sorry. What you are giving her are the kinds of things people don't think about. I'm sure it will be appreciated.
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Post by alabamagal on Apr 15, 2019 17:15:26 GMT -5
My DD will be traveling from Germany with her 1yo DD this summer and traveling a lot. And by 1yo she is off the growth charts size girl. Lots of recommendation for window seats it seems. She will be traveling with her DH on trip from Germany to Oregon so she will have some help. But he had to return when leave is up, and she will probably be flying with baby to Phoenix, then flying to Alabama or Georgia. Then will be road trip to Florida, and fly back to Germany from Miami. I may gift her an extra seat for the return trip for the baby, it will be overnight flight. An extra seat would be great - even nicer would be a first-class pod if you could afford it. No idea what the pricing looks like, but some friends of mine had the lay-flat beds when traveling with a young kid (Chicago to Paris) and said it was the best flight they'd ever taken. First class seats are at least $7k per person. An extra seat should be under $1k - only need it one way, but one way overseas are as much as round trip. They also have bassinet seats for use in bulkhead for a small fee, but it says it is only for kids up to 22 lbs, and she already weighs that much at 9 months. I’m not sure that they would actually weigh her though.
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Post by cktc on Apr 15, 2019 17:19:27 GMT -5
We have a row of seats reserved for the family. I'll probably take the window for nursing privacy and hand her off to her tall father on the aisle if she gets restless and needs to pace. DS is 3 and might like window clings. He's easier to entertain though. DD just wants what everyone else has, and if she has a new toy DS will want it. Maybe I'll hit up the dollar store or bins at target and pick up some cheap new things for both of them.
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Apr 15, 2019 17:42:05 GMT -5
We have a row of seats reserved for the family. I'll probably take the window for nursing privacy and hand her off to her tall father on the aisle if she gets restless and needs to pace. DS is 3 and might like window clings. He's easier to entertain though. DD just wants what everyone else has, and if she has a new toy DS will want it. Maybe I'll hit up the dollar store or bins at target and pick up some cheap new things for both of them. I went to the dollar store and got some little stuffed animals, some crayons and coloring books, and other little toys and things. That way if they got lost we didn't care and the kids all thought they were awesome because it was brand new stuff. I swear by the dollar store for Barbies. I let Alyvia take them to the lake or the pool and they float because they're Hollow :-) and then we can toss them in the recycle bin or the trash once we're done because they always fill up with nasty pool or lake water
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Post by azucena on Apr 15, 2019 17:47:06 GMT -5
I got a middle of the night text from my friend that her husband was found deceased. I slept through it and I haven't been able to get in touch with her all day. I feel awful Her family is all in town and I am sure she's more than overwhelmed with people and food right now. I ran to Target over lunch and got TP, paper towels, Kleenex, Clorox wipes, paper plates and plastic ware. I figure with people in & out the last thing she needs to worry about is running out of TP. I feel so useless though. I wish there was anything at all I could do. This is my friend that lost her daughter months before we lost Aubree, and Claudette's birthday celebration giving back to the community is why I started making those sleeping mats to begin with. This friend has been through too much - her momma, her baby, and now her husband Don't beat yourself up about missing the middle of the night call. Be the friend that's there weeks from now when other support has faded.
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Post by Pants on Apr 15, 2019 17:48:21 GMT -5
An extra seat would be great - even nicer would be a first-class pod if you could afford it. No idea what the pricing looks like, but some friends of mine had the lay-flat beds when traveling with a young kid (Chicago to Paris) and said it was the best flight they'd ever taken. First class seats are at least $7k per person. An extra seat should be under $1k - only need it one way, but one way overseas are as much as round trip. They also have bassinet seats for use in bulkhead for a small fee, but it says it is only for kids up to 22 lbs, and she already weighs that much at 9 months. I’m not sure that they would actually weigh her though. So this is one of my stupider suggestions.
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Post by TheHaitian on Apr 15, 2019 18:23:16 GMT -5
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Post by taz157 on Apr 15, 2019 18:25:35 GMT -5
Sam_2.0 - I'm so sorry about your friend and her DH. Has he been sick? I think picking the items for her was a good idea.
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Post by taz157 on Apr 15, 2019 18:27:37 GMT -5
cktc - My DD loves your avatar!
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Post by cktc on Apr 15, 2019 19:02:22 GMT -5
Ah, I was looking at that one, but it gets filed under 3 year old would want it and at $20 I really dont want to get 2.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Apr 15, 2019 19:14:52 GMT -5
Well that was an epic parenting fail.
Abby has a fly phobia. She had a massive tantrum and refused to come in off the front porch.
I decided to wait to see if she blew off steam rather than drag her into the house. I was watching the entire time.
A couple minutes go by and I hear "Are you lost? Do you need help?" A lady had gotten out of her van to check on Abby. I came out and explained the situation.
I don't blame her but God that was mortifying. Naturally Abby is fine now.
Now I know don't let your kid tantrum on the front porch.
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Post by raeoflyte on Apr 16, 2019 9:59:43 GMT -5
Dh got up with the kids this morning, and everyone was through their entire lists before I got out of bed. It was amazing! I was profusely appreciative to which dh was a little bristly at. I know he is capable, but actions speaker louder than words yo and actions are what have been lacking.
He and I watched the Ellen bit on netflix last night. I cannot accept that she is 60. We watched her sitcom when we were in our first condo together.
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Apr 16, 2019 10:02:41 GMT -5
LOL, Drama! I'm sure that was mortifying, but think of the story you can tell her later
Tay didn't want me to leave this morning. He kept following me around, holding up his hands and saying "On?" meaning he wanted to be picked up. I was late to work because I needed those snuggles as much as he did. I went to see my friend but she was asleep. I talked with her sisters for awhile and Ill be back over in a couple of days. She's so out of it right now I just don't want to add to her overload. I know her one sister will take good care of things. Friend has T1D so I worry about her blood sugars and making sure she eats and keeps things in control as much as possible. I got some ideas of protein shakes and bars to get for her from another friend, but if anyone has other good tips on specific brands and items I'm all ears. Its not certain if the death was an accident or intentional. Either way, both of them have been struggling since their baby passed and they were considering divorce too. I saw somewhere the divorce rate is something like 90% when a kid passes, so its super common, but doesn't make all the other stuff easier to deal with.
And I'm having another useless day at work, lol. Glad I down-shifted to that other role. My co-workers have been super nice about my spacey-ness.
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Post by raeoflyte on Apr 16, 2019 10:21:44 GMT -5
LOL, Drama! I'm sure that was mortifying, but think of the story you can tell her later
Tay didn't want me to leave this morning. He kept following me around, holding up his hands and saying "On?" meaning he wanted to be picked up. I was late to work because I needed those snuggles as much as he did. I went to see my friend but she was asleep. I talked with her sisters for awhile and Ill be back over in a couple of days. She's so out of it right now I just don't want to add to her overload. I know her one sister will take good care of things. Friend has T1D so I worry about her blood sugars and making sure she eats and keeps things in control as much as possible. I got some ideas of protein shakes and bars to get for her from another friend, but if anyone has other good tips on specific brands and items I'm all ears. Its not certain if the death was an accident or intentional. Either way, both of them have been struggling since their baby passed and they were considering divorce too. I saw somewhere the divorce rate is something like 90% when a kid passes, so its super common, but doesn't make all the other stuff easier to deal with.
And I'm having another useless day at work, lol. Glad I down-shifted to that other role. My co-workers have been super nice about my spacey-ness. Oh Sam...hugs. That is just too much to deal with and so, so heartbreaking. I was thinking about her and you this morning. I really don't know what I'd do. If you bring her snacks, include the carb count really visibly. It's not complicated math, but its constant and its tiresome. If there is a juice she likes for lows (C really loves sunny d--he misses orange juice). Assuming she eats meat, honey baked ham is our go to food to get people because there's no prep involved. It's food for people staying with her, and while there are carbs in it that she should likely dose for, its a low prep, low carb food that I'd feel better about skipping dosing for. Rotisserie chicken would be similar.
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Post by alabamagal on Apr 16, 2019 11:35:50 GMT -5
Well that was an epic parenting fail. Abby has a fly phobia. She had a massive tantrum and refused to come in off the front porch. I decided to wait to see if she blew off steam rather than drag her into the house. I was watching the entire time. A couple minutes go by and I hear "Are you lost? Do you need help?" A lady had gotten out of her van to check on Abby. I came out and explained the situation. I don't blame her but God that was mortifying. Naturally Abby is fine now. Now I know don't let your kid tantrum on the front porch. Not nearly as mortifying as a 2yo running down the street when you leave for work in the morning because you forgot to give him a hug, and he is found by a neighbor you don’t know. The only thing that stopped her from calling the cops was that DS was able to point to his house. BTDT!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 16, 2019 14:32:46 GMT -5
My older son used to run away from me in stores. Then when he was done doing whatever he wanted to do or was sick of the hide and seek game, he'd have me paged to the front desk and act like I was Mommy Dearest and he was this poor abused child. "I'm sorry Mommy, I was just trying to find the bathroom and didn't want to bother you. Please don't be mad Mommy."
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Post by oped on Apr 16, 2019 15:09:57 GMT -5
My older son used to run away from me in stores. Then when he was done doing whatever he wanted to do or was sick of the hide and seek game, he'd have me paged to the front desk and act like I was Mommy Dearest and he was this poor abused child. "I'm sorry Mommy, I was just trying to find the bathroom and didn't want to bother you. Please don't be mad Mommy." I’m so sorry but I laughed out loud at this. Maybe because I think our sons would get along...
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Post by Deleted on Apr 16, 2019 15:25:17 GMT -5
I have stories galore with that kid.
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Post by raeoflyte on Apr 17, 2019 7:21:24 GMT -5
I need talking points to explain to the kids why school is closed today because of a credible safety threat, that includes it will be safe to go back to school tomorrow or whenever she's caught. When I can't make myself feel that safety. Ideas?
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Post by oped on Apr 17, 2019 7:45:28 GMT -5
I'd lie, but tomorrow other kids will talk about it, so that's out.
I'd say that someone was angry at the school and didn't know how to use their words and so threatened to break windows and hurt the building and the police didn't want any kids to be in the building in case she decided to do what she threatened, so they asked the kids to stay home until they could catch her... ? maybe. probably needs work... how old are they again?
My cousin actually got arrested and spent time in jail for a credible threat. His ex said he couldn't get his daughter for Christmas and he told her he'd go to the school and get her then and no one would stop him... about a week after Sandy Hook happened... sigh. He wasn't going to act on it, they caught him in a completely different direction... but it was enough.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Apr 17, 2019 8:02:04 GMT -5
I need talking points to explain to the kids why school is closed today because of a credible safety threat, that includes it will be safe to go back to school tomorrow or whenever she's caught. When I can't make myself feel that safety. Ideas? It's so sad that you and so many parents are having to do this. I hope they find the woman ASAP. Can't believe an 18 year old is infatuated with Columbine all these years later. That tragedy happened 20 years ago. Hugs to you and your kids.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 17, 2019 8:34:59 GMT -5
I need talking points to explain to the kids why school is closed today because of a credible safety threat, that includes it will be safe to go back to school tomorrow or whenever she's caught. When I can't make myself feel that safety. Ideas? It's so sad that you and so many parents are having to do this. I hope they find the woman ASAP. Can't believe an 18 year old is infatuated with Columbine all these years later. That tragedy happened 20 years ago. Hugs to you and your kids. There are a lot of sick people out there.
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Post by raeoflyte on Apr 17, 2019 9:11:31 GMT -5
Lying was my first thought too.
They just did one of the big lock down drills, so I started with that. That we practice those to keep you safe if someone got in the school. But that police and schools are always watching for possible dangerous people or things to stop them before they could get that far, and right now they're is a woman they believe could be dangerous and closed all schools to be extra cautious.
Kids seem ok about everything. We explained that yesterday afternoon the school was on secured perimeter because of it and they hadn't noticed which I think helped.
C has really freaked out about actual violence so hopefully being ahead of it is good. Of course a day off is like christmas for him. E and I tried out the 20 inch bike this morning on our walk and she just took off. I knew she didnt need training wheels anymore but the smaller bikes were hard to turn with.
So so far so good, but I'm fighting back tears every time I think about it.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Apr 17, 2019 9:25:19 GMT -5
I think we're putting Fritzie down today. She's not moving at all. Just breathing and laying in her basket.
I haven't called the vet yet. K is still sleeping and I don't want to wake her.
I told both kids we were taking Fritzie to the vet today and K said she wants to go. C said he doesn't. I think I'm taking both kids at first, then mom will come and get whomever doesn't want to stay.
Rae, I'm sorry you had to have that talk with C and E.
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Apr 17, 2019 9:44:17 GMT -5
All the hugs, Beth
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Post by raeoflyte on Apr 17, 2019 9:45:56 GMT -5
Sorry about Fritzie Beth. It sounds like it is the right decision but that doesn't make it any easier.
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Post by andi9899 on Apr 17, 2019 9:48:29 GMT -5
I think we're putting Fritzie down today. She's not moving at all. Just breathing and laying in her basket. I haven't called the vet yet. K is still sleeping and I don't want to wake her. I told both kids we were taking Fritzie to the vet today and K said she wants to go. C said he doesn't. I think I'm taking both kids at first, then mom will come and get whomever doesn't want to stay. Rae, I'm sorry you had to have that talk with C and E. I'm so sorry! That's so sad. It's a learning experience for the kids about liffe and death, but it still sucks.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Apr 17, 2019 9:58:38 GMT -5
I told dh we're not getting new pets until we're positive the damn fleas are gone for good. But the kids are going to want more pets.
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Post by Pants on Apr 17, 2019 10:12:13 GMT -5
I told dh we're not getting new pets until we're positive the damn fleas are gone for good. But the kids are going to want more pets. Kids want a lot of things. It's ok to take a break.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 17, 2019 10:17:14 GMT -5
I told dh we're not getting new pets until we're positive the damn fleas are gone for good. But the kids are going to want more pets. Gecko.
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