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Post by whoisjohngalt on Feb 21, 2017 9:51:40 GMT -5
Anyone have any advice for a sore bottom on a preschooler? C either ate something that didn't agree with him or had a mild virus because daycare said he had diarrhea and was going to the bathroom every 20-ish minutes yesterday. So now, his booty hurts - I'm guessing he was the one wiping it, which means he didn't do a great job, and daycare toilet paper probably isn't as soft as at home. Last night we wiped him really well with baby wipes after he used the toilet, and I put diaper cream on it, and did so again this morning, but he's still complaining. Any other thoughts? I always used Balmex. It was a magic cream in our house.
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Post by cael on Feb 21, 2017 10:01:46 GMT -5
Funny the overalls chat came up - I realized last night I was given a pair of 6-12 month overalls and it I didn't put them on him soon, he'd be too big for them - put him in 'em today, and he looks adorable! (and they fit his bum and aren't too short yet, lol) I went through a jeans-hating phase too, I hated how denim felt on my fingers, weird I know. I didn't get over that until I was probably 15 or 16. Food - I've started to be less anxious about feeding A. He eats mushed bananas now, loves puffs and I gave him a small piece of a pancake last night torn up into little bits - he even picked them up to feed himself, which he's getting better at too! I've been trying to feed him the Gerber lil' bits food with the meat and veggies, and he haaaaates it. I guess I'll just try small shreds of real meat maybe, poor guy, told DH I was going to stop trying to force that stuff on him. Going to move on to steamed/mashed up veggies soon too hopefully. He likes his food! On the food topic, how did you guys deal with the bottles and trying to establish meal times as babies got older? Right now we have what I feel is a really wonky mismatched schedule for things. He's been having bottles at 7-7:30, 11:30-12, 3:30-4, and 7-7:30. He has food in the morning after his first bottle, sometimes DH gives him some around noon, then he has 'dinner' around 5:30-6. DH wants to drop his last bottle, but he needs the formula for a few more months.. how did you guys deal with transitioning to meals at good times from the hourly structured bottles? I mean, this isn't really awful but sometimes I feel like we're rushing and cramming his last bottle in when he may not be that hungry (although he's been chugging all of the last bottle the last few nights.. sometimes he just has 4 or 5oz and is done. Generally his bottles are all 8oz each.) And now for something completely different... did any of you do the baby modeling thing? DH really wants to and I'm not against it necessarily, there are several places in Boston... I know it's stupid but maybe it's a fun stupid thing to do, as long as you go in with zero expectations obviously. My SIL did a little with her oldest and they liked it ok, but she ended up not wanting to do all the traveling because he actually got calls for things I think. Just looking for any experiences with it, since I don't think I know anyone IRL besides SIL who's done it.
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Feb 21, 2017 10:03:26 GMT -5
Food: most of the time dinner is just some fruits, veggies, and protein source thrown on a plate. I cook maybe 1-2 times per week. I give each kid the same size serving and start with a small amount when I do cook. Their choice is to eat it or to go get their own pb crackers from the pantry. They are also not allowed to say mean things about the food. They can say it is not their favorite but that that's it. They also are not allowed to comment until they've at least tried it, because they almost always end up liking it. Trying to get them to learn to be kind even if they don't like something so when we go to someone else's house they aren't rude.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Feb 21, 2017 10:08:39 GMT -5
I used to have people shove food in my face all the time insisting I "had to eat because I was so skinny!" and the only reason I am tiny is because I must be super duper picky. I'm really not but like all people on Earth I have my preferences and wish for them to be respected. People forcing food on me created the exact opposite situation of what they were hoping to achieve.
In the grand scheme of things Gwen is not as picky as people think she is. She's willing to try things, like the other day she ate a raw parsnip. That did backfire on me because they aren't that great raw and she then refused to eat it cooked but hey at least she tried it.
Brussel sprouts and asparagus are two of her favorites. I'll happily make those over and over again for her. I figure it's better she eat A vegetable rather than no vegetables at all.
I'll also serve something raw for her while cooking it for the rest of us if that's how she wants to eat it.
Otherwise the choices are dinner or scrambled eggs/cereal. For awhile I was buying Kid Cuisine thinking that at least she was getting a whole meal but she started eating only the vegetables out of those as well. So I stopped buying them. It's better for my wallet and her health.
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Post by andi9899 on Feb 21, 2017 10:28:37 GMT -5
My kids always liked fruits and veggies. The only thing I could never get them to eat is peas. I figured as long as they ate the other veggies that I wasn't going to get all excited about the one they don't like. They also have liked any protein I've ever put in front of them including fish and any game animal.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Feb 21, 2017 10:31:25 GMT -5
I do this at least every other week, so I'll share:
Rotisserie chicken "hack"
1. ball up 3-4 pieces of foil and put them at the bottom of a slow cooker (can't be the small slow cooker) 2. rinse and season 2-3 chicken leg quarters 3. put leg quarters on top of the foil balls 4. set slow cooker on low for 8 hours 5. come home to delicious and juicy rotisserie style chicken!!!
It is a life saver, tastes like it took hours to make, and DS always eats it.
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Post by Pants on Feb 21, 2017 10:33:34 GMT -5
Funny the overalls chat came up - I realized last night I was given a pair of 6-12 month overalls and it I didn't put them on him soon, he'd be too big for them - put him in 'em today, and he looks adorable! (and they fit his bum and aren't too short yet, lol) I went through a jeans-hating phase too, I hated how denim felt on my fingers, weird I know. I didn't get over that until I was probably 15 or 16. Food - I've started to be less anxious about feeding A. He eats mushed bananas now, loves puffs and I gave him a small piece of a pancake last night torn up into little bits - he even picked them up to feed himself, which he's getting better at too! I've been trying to feed him the Gerber lil' bits food with the meat and veggies, and he haaaaates it. I guess I'll just try small shreds of real meat maybe, poor guy, told DH I was going to stop trying to force that stuff on him. Going to move on to steamed/mashed up veggies soon too hopefully. He likes his food! On the food topic, how did you guys deal with the bottles and trying to establish meal times as babies got older? Right now we have what I feel is a really wonky mismatched schedule for things. He's been having bottles at 7-7:30, 11:30-12, 3:30-4, and 7-7:30. He has food in the morning after his first bottle, sometimes DH gives him some around noon, then he has 'dinner' around 5:30-6. DH wants to drop his last bottle, but he needs the formula for a few more months.. how did you guys deal with transitioning to meals at good times from the hourly structured bottles? I mean, this isn't really awful but sometimes I feel like we're rushing and cramming his last bottle in when he may not be that hungry (although he's been chugging all of the last bottle the last few nights.. sometimes he just has 4 or 5oz and is done. Generally his bottles are all 8oz each.) And now for something completely different... did any of you do the baby modeling thing? DH really wants to and I'm not against it necessarily, there are several places in Boston... I know it's stupid but maybe it's a fun stupid thing to do, as long as you go in with zero expectations obviously. My SIL did a little with her oldest and they liked it ok, but she ended up not wanting to do all the traveling because he actually got calls for things I think. Just looking for any experiences with it, since I don't think I know anyone IRL besides SIL who's done it. I guess I never thought my kids were cute enough to be baby models? I guess my considerations would be: what happens if they don't call - is that going to make me feel like my kid isn't cute? What happens if they do call - do I actually want to haul my kid around - not to mention I have a full time job as does DH so how would that even work? For me I think those questions lead to definitely no. I wouldn't want to feel bad about other people not thinking my kids are cute if they didn't call, and I wouldn't want to spend my PTO or weekends hauling the baby around places if they did call. But that's me, and you're you, so figure out the answer to those questions for you and go from there.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Feb 21, 2017 10:35:32 GMT -5
I would have loved for DS to model, and that money would have gone toward his college education. I've been told many times from lots of people that DS is beautiful, but I know X would never allow it. And now that DS is older, I can't see him cooperating enough to model.
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Post by zibazinski on Feb 21, 2017 10:36:34 GMT -5
If your kids are photogenic, they'll find you. DS and DD got asked in Cancun and on Captiva Island. DS was asked to continue but was not interested.
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Post by cael on Feb 21, 2017 10:39:44 GMT -5
I guess at this stage I'm more curious about the logistics of it, to start - I don't think we would be devastated if he didn't "make" it or whatever. It sounds like maybe a fun thing and who knows, if he did get a call maybe he'd make some college money? That's how we're looking at it. If we tried it once and it was a ridiculous zoo filled with assholes and ridiculous people, sure, we don't go back. And if he got called and a ridiculous amount of travel was expected we'd probably bail too. I guess we see it as a potential fun thing to do? And if we tried it and it was definitely not fun, no qualms quitting. I dunno. Have to decide if I even want to bother to try once.
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Post by cael on Feb 21, 2017 10:41:59 GMT -5
I would have loved for DS to model, and that money would have gone toward his college education. I've been told many times from lots of people that DS is beautiful, but I know X would never allow it. And now that DS is older, I can't see him cooperating enough to model. He is gorgeous! funny, my husband is all about it and I'm like "Meh... might be fun and make him some money?" lol.
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Post by Pants on Feb 21, 2017 10:59:00 GMT -5
I would have loved for DS to model, and that money would have gone toward his college education. I've been told many times from lots of people that DS is beautiful, but I know X would never allow it. And now that DS is older, I can't see him cooperating enough to model. He is gorgeous! funny, my husband is all about it and I'm like "Meh... might be fun and make him some money?" lol. Sounds like you think it might be fun but your DH is more invested. Another thing to consider.
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Post by raeoflyte on Feb 21, 2017 11:08:16 GMT -5
Food is a constant conversation in our house, and I just really hope I don't seriously screw them up over it.
Apples, oranges, and bananas are out on the counter all the time and no one needs permission to eat those, along with cheese, nuts, seeds, etc. Obviously C has to be dosed for all carbs, so he doesn't get nearly the freedom that E does, but we're changing the conversation to asking for help on dosing instead of permission to eat. With him, its more important that he is dosed for every carb than that he follows all of our rules about food. If C doesn't like what's for dinner letting him go hungry isn't an option, which gives a very different perspective on making meal changes. I'm not a short order cook, but I can make a sandwich or something similar to substitute when needed. We've had a couple issues at the school where someone deems he can't eat something he's been dosed for, and then we're treating lows. Our repeated message is that C is in charge of C's food, and that is something we have to live at home too. The less we fight about these things, the better it seems to get. C encourages E to try food she doesn't think she'll like, and I really try to talk (probably too much sometimes) about my feelings about food, meal planning, etc. in addition to talking about overall nutrition and how we make the choices we do, what leads to good choices, what leads to poor ones, etc.
I don't mind serving multiple vegetables at each meal if it gets everyone to eat them, and usually have a handful of meals worth of veggies cooked at a time so that its easy to reheat broccoli for this one and peas for that one, or whatever the acceptable vegetable of the day is. They also prefer brussel sprouts and spinach raw, so between those, carrots and snap peas we are in a decent spot on veggies I feel like most days.
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Post by cael on Feb 21, 2017 11:11:20 GMT -5
He is gorgeous! funny, my husband is all about it and I'm like "Meh... might be fun and make him some money?" lol. Sounds like you think it might be fun but your DH is more invested. Another thing to consider. Yeah, if push came to shove I'd be the one carting him around for gigs. DH just thinks he's so cute we have to do it. and of course I do too, but DH seems like he has expectation of this, while I don't have any. Which is probably the right attitude to go into it with. Found a few agencies in Boston, at least one of which does open baby/child interviews weekly, so at least we could try that once and it doesn't sound like it would be a big deal to get there. I'll think about it.
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Post by Pants on Feb 21, 2017 11:41:41 GMT -5
Sounds like you think it might be fun but your DH is more invested. Another thing to consider. Yeah, if push came to shove I'd be the one carting him around for gigs. DH just thinks he's so cute we have to do it. and of course I do too, but DH seems like he has expectation of this, while I don't have any. Which is probably the right attitude to go into it with. Found a few agencies in Boston, at least one of which does open baby/child interviews weekly, so at least we could try that once and it doesn't sound like it would be a big deal to get there. I'll think about it. Ok, so I'm home with a sick kid today and not feeling great myself, so I'm going to be blunt and please know I don't mean anything by it. But - I think this is a terrible idea. I was trying to be subtle, but apparently that's not in me today. You have a fussy baby who doesn't sleep. You dont have a SAHP and that's flexibility you need to be able to drop things on a few hours notice and haul him to god knows where to go on auditions, not to mention paying gigs. The audition to paid gig ratio is high, meaning your likely success rate for any given time spent is low. The pay for baby models is crap because there is a literal never-ending supply of cute babies. Like $50-$100 for a gig, less taxes and the agency's fee. It may not even be enough to cover gas to get to the gig. Your DH is emotionally invested in the idea and likely to take rejection hard. The chance of meaningful success in the industry is low. You do you, obviously, but the cost in time and energy is high and the upside is low.
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Post by cael on Feb 21, 2017 11:48:24 GMT -5
Yep, that's the reaction I figured it would get. I don't disagree with a lot of it but ::shrug:: it doesn't deter me from thinking about trying it.
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Post by Pants on Feb 21, 2017 11:51:40 GMT -5
Okey dokey then.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Feb 21, 2017 11:54:47 GMT -5
Anyone have any advice for a sore bottom on a preschooler? C either ate something that didn't agree with him or had a mild virus because daycare said he had diarrhea and was going to the bathroom every 20-ish minutes yesterday. So now, his booty hurts - I'm guessing he was the one wiping it, which means he didn't do a great job, and daycare toilet paper probably isn't as soft as at home. Last night we wiped him really well with baby wipes after he used the toilet, and I put diaper cream on it, and did so again this morning, but he's still complaining. Any other thoughts? some baking soda in a warm bath and give him enough toys to stay in it for a while. Epsom salts may work too.
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Post by cktc on Feb 21, 2017 12:07:38 GMT -5
Yep, that's the reaction I figured it would get. I don't disagree with a lot of it but ::shrug:: it doesn't deter me from thinking about trying it. Well you have me considering it just as an excuse to get more professional photos of DS. He loves going out and flashing his dimples for strangers, and I suck at taking pics, so it'd be win-win. I don't think my DH would be on board though.
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Post by tcu2003 on Feb 21, 2017 13:44:25 GMT -5
Thanks, all! I'll try the baking soda bath tonight and some Balmex or PrepH (whatever I can find at CVS).
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Post by Pants on Feb 21, 2017 13:48:37 GMT -5
Thanks, all! I'll try the baking soda bath tonight and some Balmex or PrepH (whatever I can find at CVS). Vote here for triple paste - only thing that's ever worked for us. It's pricey though.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Feb 21, 2017 14:02:35 GMT -5
Butt Paste. The one in the red tube not the yellow tube. I liked it because it was so much thicker than the other brands we tried. I felt like I could get a much better coat on her bottom with less product/mess. It also smelled good. If you can find it they have a spray version too. We used this when she'd get rashes from antibiotics and refused to let us touch her bottom. It's like dermaplast for babies.
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Post by tcu2003 on Feb 21, 2017 14:24:06 GMT -5
Spray sounds good. Putting goop on a kid who wears underwear is not fun.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Feb 21, 2017 14:27:10 GMT -5
Dr. Brown also has a spray but it wasn't cheap. I used the spray exclusively with Abby because once she figured out how to roll over she would never hold still long enough for me to get the paste on her butt as opposed to myself, the furniture, her clothes, the dog, the ceiling.
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Post by muttleynfelix on Feb 21, 2017 14:29:39 GMT -5
Well I didn't actually "make" them eat anything but I also didn't cater to anything either. I never intentionally made something I knew they hated but just because oatmeal isn't your favorite didn't mean it wasn't going to be breakfast from time to time. They never got someone to give in though. So they did get hungry. So if DD decided she didn't like chicken she had to eat around it or just not eat. And my kids didn't miss many meals if they had a choice. My kids did get choices but it wasn't open ended. I was would ask "do you want peanut butter or chicken for your sandwich". Not what do you want for lunch. Do you want to wear the red jeans or the cargo not what clothes do you want to wear. So while they did get to choose there was never a question they had to do one of the things we gave them as a choice. I will say I would have never entertained fifteen different things as conditions to get a kid to eat. It would have never entered my mind that that was going to happen. I just put out food that was nutritious and let them eat what they wanted. Or not eat it. That was completely their choice! But I seriously never ever worried that they didn't eat enough. This hard because I'm on my phone. "I never intentionally made something I knew they hated" this one is so hard because I know she won't eat things mixed up. I mean really half the time she wants her sandwhich not put together. If I went by that rule, we would have plain chickens pork chops and ham for meat. I've changed up a lot of things in the last 2 years to keep things simpler and more to her tastes. She gets a choice for breakfast and lunch, but not when we have something planned for supper (usually 3 days week). Yes she will cover her mouth rather than try stuff (always has). Yes she will skip supper and just go to bed rather than eat. I don't worry she is starving herself, but I guess I was just seeing what everyone else does with picky eaters and "making kids eat"
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Feb 21, 2017 14:33:44 GMT -5
Gwen won't eat anything seasoned either. What I do is I divide out a portion from the rest and set it aside. I cook what I was planning to cook and will cook it the same way but I don't put any seasoning on her portion. So if we have chicken for dinner she gets a plain unsalted breast instead of whatever version we're eating.
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Post by Pants on Feb 21, 2017 14:55:36 GMT -5
Well I didn't actually "make" them eat anything but I also didn't cater to anything either. I never intentionally made something I knew they hated but just because oatmeal isn't your favorite didn't mean it wasn't going to be breakfast from time to time. They never got someone to give in though. So they did get hungry. So if DD decided she didn't like chicken she had to eat around it or just not eat. And my kids didn't miss many meals if they had a choice. My kids did get choices but it wasn't open ended. I was would ask "do you want peanut butter or chicken for your sandwich". Not what do you want for lunch. Do you want to wear the red jeans or the cargo not what clothes do you want to wear. So while they did get to choose there was never a question they had to do one of the things we gave them as a choice. I will say I would have never entertained fifteen different things as conditions to get a kid to eat. It would have never entered my mind that that was going to happen. I just put out food that was nutritious and let them eat what they wanted. Or not eat it. That was completely their choice! But I seriously never ever worried that they didn't eat enough. This hard because I'm on my phone. "I never intentionally made something I knew they hated" this one is so hard because I know she won't eat things mixed up. I mean really half the time she wants her sandwhich not put together. If I went by that rule, we would have plain chickens pork chops and ham for meat. I've changed up a lot of things in the last 2 years to keep things simpler and more to her tastes. She gets a choice for breakfast and lunch, but not when we have something planned for supper (usually 3 days week). Yes she will cover her mouth rather than try stuff (always has). Yes she will skip supper and just go to bed rather than eat. I don't worry she is starving herself, but I guess I was just seeing what everyone else does with picky eaters and "making kids eat" Mutt - my experience here has been different than everyone else's, and my response has been different as well. B was picky before she got sick. Once she got sick, eating became a battle royale - her disease changed her tastebuds, her mouth feel, and was also literally the only thing she could control and was a way to express her displeasure at being paralyzed. Didn't like the hospital food? Wouldn't eat. Mad at us? Wouldn't eat. We made her do PT instead of watching cartoons? Wouldn't eat. And we could not let her not eat, because weight loss and muscle wastage was such a huge issue that the hospital was threatening to put her on a feeding tube. We fed her whatever she would eat - even if that was only peanut butter and jelly or chocolate milk or a protein bar. So, all to say, I am now a short-order cook, which of course I promised myself I would never be. I don't cook during the week, so generally just make her a PB&J, or a bagel with butter, or cheese, a veggie and some crackers. Honestly, it's actually much easier than cooking and I don't want to fight her on this any more than we have already had to. She eats well at school, things she would never try at home, but at home it's the old standbys. We will occasionally enforce that she has to try something new or must have a veggie or some protein with her meal (or whatever the priority is that day.) But I'm not going to fight her, and I've let my guilt on this go. One day I do intend to get back to family meals, but for now this is easy and it works. I've decided that in the scheme of things, letting my kid eat yogurt for dinner isn't going to hurt anyone. But again, that's my perspective from this side of the journey we've been on and may not work for all situations. FWIW, I was a picky kid and as an adult I am simultaneously picky and adventurous. As in, I have a very defined, fairly long list of foods that I do not like. But, I am willing to try new foods and enjoy a ton of different flavor profiles with very few limitations on spices or cuisines. I grew into liking different foods more slowly than other people, perhaps, but have reached a point where I very much enjoy food and experimenting with it. Sorry for the wall of text - apparently I have some thoughts on the subject LOL.
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Post by 973beachbum on Feb 21, 2017 15:03:36 GMT -5
Well I didn't actually "make" them eat anything but I also didn't cater to anything either. I never intentionally made something I knew they hated but just because oatmeal isn't your favorite didn't mean it wasn't going to be breakfast from time to time. They never got someone to give in though. So they did get hungry. So if DD decided she didn't like chicken she had to eat around it or just not eat. And my kids didn't miss many meals if they had a choice. My kids did get choices but it wasn't open ended. I was would ask "do you want peanut butter or chicken for your sandwich". Not what do you want for lunch. Do you want to wear the red jeans or the cargo not what clothes do you want to wear. So while they did get to choose there was never a question they had to do one of the things we gave them as a choice. I will say I would have never entertained fifteen different things as conditions to get a kid to eat. It would have never entered my mind that that was going to happen. I just put out food that was nutritious and let them eat what they wanted. Or not eat it. That was completely their choice! But I seriously never ever worried that they didn't eat enough. This hard because I'm on my phone. "I never intentionally made something I knew they hated" this one is so hard because I know she won't eat things mixed up. I mean really half the time she wants her sandwhich not put together. If I went by that rule, we would have plain chickens pork chops and ham for meat. I've changed up a lot of things in the last 2 years to keep things simpler and more to her tastes. She gets a choice for breakfast and lunch, but not when we have something planned for supper (usually 3 days week). Yes she will cover her mouth rather than try stuff (always has). Yes she will skip supper and just go to bed rather than eat. I don't worry she is starving herself, but I guess I was just seeing what everyone else does with picky eaters and "making kids eat" See this probably wouldn't bug me that much. I don't many casorolle type of things so the food is mostly already seperated so I wouldn't probably just put it like that on her plate and never give it a second thought. I actually roast my own things like chicken. So I slice up the breasts to make sandwiches. If she wanted her chicken in one baggie and her bread in another I would probably do it. As long as she ate it I wouldn't give it a second thought. But I will say we had pretty set meal times and there were not other people around to hand out snacks or other food. I understand not liking some foods. I HATE mustard. I won't eat lunch if it is on my sandwich. Then again I could stand to lose a few pounds.
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Post by NastyWoman on Feb 21, 2017 15:25:24 GMT -5
Yep, that's the reaction I figured it would get. I don't disagree with a lot of it but ::shrug:: it doesn't deter me from thinking about trying it. I had twice a company approach me about having my sons in fashion shoots (once for each of them). My answer both times was a flatout "no way!" I just didn't want pictures of my kids out there without having any control whatsoever who/where/what would look at them. And this was way before the advent of the internet...
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Wisconsin Beth
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Feb 21, 2017 15:45:37 GMT -5
Thanks, all! I'll try the baking soda bath tonight and some Balmex or PrepH (whatever I can find at CVS). good luck!
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