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Post by Sam_2.0 on Feb 19, 2017 12:01:03 GMT -5
Sorry for the repeat from my fb friends, but I got the boys room sorted out yesterday. Dresser gone and 8 plastic file totes in the closet to use instead (cover Mrs Carl's eyes, lol!) And I went ahead to set up the pnp and got the mattress out of the plastic so it can all air out before baby gets here. Aly insisted on adding a blankie Now theres room to read and play cars, and nothing that would hurt too bad to climb on. Which is good because we've had to resort to locking J in at bedtime he keeps getting up and playing in the toilet. I put a cloth diaper on top of his door so it shuts tight. Its too tight for him to open but easy enough for the rest of us. And we open the door as soon as he is asleep. Hopefully he catches on soon and stays in bed again. Dang 2yr olds
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Post by tcu2003 on Feb 19, 2017 20:39:25 GMT -5
On clothes: I'm a big fan of the jersey-lined cargo pants from Old Navy for the winter, but DS has been ripping the knees. He's too tall to consider buying more 4T, but the 5T are probably gonna fall off him. I've just been fixing the holes with needle and thread (Mrs C would have a fit! ) I stopped buying jeans when the last daycare told me it was easier for them to potty train if they didn't have to deal with buttons and could pull pants up and down (prior to that I liked the lined jeans from ON)...we don't really miss them. He is also in love with his blue firetruck shirt (as opposed to the red, grey, and black ones which I have in duplicate)...keeps fishing it out of his hamper and asking me to wash it. It was kinda cute the first three times. Children's Place has jeans that are pull on with no buttons/snaps - I LOVED those when C was younger and couldn't do buttons/snaps himself.
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Post by quince on Feb 19, 2017 21:26:13 GMT -5
I learned the perils of pants that have fasteners with my son. Potty trained, but he gives himself no margin of error, so with the stumbling block of a button on his pants, disaster!
There will be no overalls for him anymore as well. those are even worse.
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Post by zibazinski on Feb 20, 2017 5:53:55 GMT -5
I learned the perils of pants that have fasteners with my son. Potty trained, but he gives himself no margin of error, so with the stumbling block of a button on his pants, disaster! There will be no overalls for him anymore as well. those are even worse. I always wondered at the parents who sent their kids to school in those overalls. Yes, they're cute but no way is your kid going to get out of them in time to use the bathroom!
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Post by Deleted on Feb 20, 2017 9:32:03 GMT -5
I learned the perils of pants that have fasteners with my son. Potty trained, but he gives himself no margin of error, so with the stumbling block of a button on his pants, disaster! There will be no overalls for him anymore as well. those are even worse. I always wondered at the parents who sent their kids to school in those overalls. Yes, they're cute but no way is your kid going to get out of them in time to use the bathroom! Don't the boys' overall have a zipper? I'm not a fan of the style, but I doubt the farmers are pulling theirs down.
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Feb 20, 2017 9:45:02 GMT -5
I always wondered at the parents who sent their kids to school in those overalls. Yes, they're cute but no way is your kid going to get out of them in time to use the bathroom! Don't the boys' overall have a zipper? I'm not a fan of the style, but I doubt the farmers are pulling theirs down. Maybe adult ones do. But I haven't seen kids ones with a zipper
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Post by andi9899 on Feb 20, 2017 10:03:46 GMT -5
Sam, can you come organize my house? I'll feed you.
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Post by chen35 on Feb 20, 2017 11:06:28 GMT -5
Sam, can you come organize my house? I'll feed you. Me too! I'm due in less than 5 weeks and I don't have nearly the stuff done that you do!
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Post by steph08 on Feb 20, 2017 11:33:43 GMT -5
chen - 5 weeks?! Geez, it's getting close!
Nothing much on our front - Harper finished her first set of swim lessons and is moving up to the next class. I ordered her some goggles this week to see if it helps with her fear of going underwater.
We went out to breakfast afterwards, and both kids were very well behaved. DH and I agreed that we need to start going at least once/month to restaurants to get them used to it.
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Post by 973beachbum on Feb 20, 2017 12:05:06 GMT -5
Reading this thread reminds me what a mean mommie I am. My discussion on what clothes the kids did and didn't like went more like this. Mom I don't want to wear jeans I don't like them. Me That's nice now put on the jeans. But Mom I really don't like jeans. Me That's nice now put them on now. If it went on much longer there would have been an adjective before the word jeans. To make sure everyone knows both kids managed to make it from toddlerhood and youngish childhood with no scars from wearing clothes they didn't like. PS and I should add they also had to eat food they didn't like also.
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Post by TheHaitian on Feb 20, 2017 13:41:46 GMT -5
Sam, can you come organize my house? I'll feed you. Me too! I'm due in less than 5 weeks and I don't have nearly the stuff done that you do! Wow... cannot believe you are so close! I am so happy for you, cannot wait to see baby pictures 😀😀😀
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Post by swamp on Feb 20, 2017 13:48:45 GMT -5
My kids dont' like jeans either. DD will wear them once in a while, but DS hates them. I make him wear them for school concerts and stuff like that.
I don't fight about it. I buy them what they will wear.
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Post by TheHaitian on Feb 20, 2017 13:55:16 GMT -5
Marriage side news: my wife agreed to go to counseling with me (marriage counselor).
She feels all our issues is because we have not been intimate; not just sexually but she can't remember the last time we kissed or even a simple kiss goodbye, touched etc.
I feel it is because she drives me bunkers.
Now we need to find a marriage counselor I guess and figure a good time to start going.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Feb 20, 2017 13:57:20 GMT -5
DS is not too fussy about clothing, but there are certain colors that he will not wear. And if given a choice, he would probably pick sweatpants or athletic pants over jeans. Even though he's a string bean, I do try to give him more carpenter style jeans so they're more forgiving.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Feb 20, 2017 14:00:45 GMT -5
Marriage side news: my wife agreed to go to counseling with me (marriage counselor). She feels all our issues is because we have not been intimate; not just sexually but she can't remember the last time we kissed or even a simple kiss goodbye, touched etc. I feel it is because she drives me bunkers. Now we need to find a marriage counselor I guess and figure a good time to start going. I am so so sooooo glad to hear that. Relationships are hard - I don't care what anybody says. And they are 100x harder when kids enter the mix. I am pulling for you guys. Good luck and keep us posted (if you want).
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Post by tcu2003 on Feb 20, 2017 14:39:24 GMT -5
I so didn't need to check out Carter's and Disney Store online sales today. Or maybe I did as DS is growing like a weed and doesn't have many short-sleeve t-shirts that fit. M on the other hand didn't need anything, but cute dresses on clearance at Carter's that were an extra 40% off called my name.
I did pick up a couple pairs of C's favorite PJs from Disney Store in a bigger size for next winter, so woo hoo.
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Post by gooddecisions on Feb 20, 2017 14:52:14 GMT -5
Speaking of inlaws and therapy, my inlaws were over this weekend. I feel like I need therapy after their visits. I could really use some perspective because I am getting to a point where I don't even want a relationship with them but I suck it up so my kids can have grandparents in their life. They put me is such a bad mood.
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Post by suesinfl on Feb 20, 2017 14:54:48 GMT -5
Marriage side news: my wife agreed to go to counseling with me (marriage counselor). She feels all our issues is because we have not been intimate; not just sexually but she can't remember the last time we kissed or even a simple kiss goodbye, touched etc. I feel it is because she drives me bunkers. Now we need to find a marriage counselor I guess and figure a good time to start going. I'm glad that you both agree on counseling and the time to start is ASAP. The longer you put it off the harder it will be to agree on a time. It's none of my business, but you guys don't give a quick peck/hug as you rush off to work, come home or when she is rushing out the door to do something? That has to be hard to take but so easily to fix.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Feb 20, 2017 15:27:46 GMT -5
Speaking of inlaws and therapy, my inlaws were over this weekend. I feel like I need therapy after their visits. I could really use some perspective because I am getting to a point where I don't even want a relationship with them but I suck it up so my kids can have grandparents in their life. They put me is such a bad mood. Depends on what it is they're going to put you in therapy over. There is baggage and then there is baggage if that makes any sense. For the most part I ask myself if this is something I want my kids to emulate. Kids aren't stupid, they pick up a lot more than we are aware of. If I don't have the type of relationship with that person I'd want my kids to have then I cut them out. Me being emotionally healthy and stable is far more important than the toxic person having a relationship with them.
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Post by zibazinski on Feb 20, 2017 15:36:39 GMT -5
Absolutely. It's my job as a parent to protect my children. My children had as little contact with my mother as I did. Probably less. I had no problem telling her off but I didn't want my children to hear it. I know she'd have taken advantage of that and started spewing her crap so I made sure there was always an adult audience but not my kids. Not ever.
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Post by zibazinski on Feb 20, 2017 15:37:46 GMT -5
But you're right. Your kids do sense your feelings about someone.
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Post by dee27 on Feb 20, 2017 15:51:13 GMT -5
Good luck to Carl and his wife. Therapy can be very rewarding, but it is also a safe place to express your grievances and work on making your marriage better.
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Post by gooddecisions on Feb 20, 2017 16:02:21 GMT -5
Speaking of inlaws and therapy, my inlaws were over this weekend. I feel like I need therapy after their visits. I could really use some perspective because I am getting to a point where I don't even want a relationship with them but I suck it up so my kids can have grandparents in their life. They put me is such a bad mood. Depends on what it is they're going to put you in therapy over. There is baggage and then there is baggage if that makes any sense. For the most part I ask myself if this is something I want my kids to emulate. Kids aren't stupid, they pick up a lot more than we are aware of. If I don't have the type of relationship with that person I'd want my kids to have then I cut them out. Me being emotionally healthy and stable is far more important than the toxic person having a relationship with them. I really shouldn't say they, because fil is mostly quiet and falls asleep in a chair. Mil likes to talk bad about everyone in the family and it pisses me off. She loves to talk about money and how much they have helped each of their five adult kids when they haven't at all. All 5 are responsible and taking care of themselves, took out their own loans for college and fully launched. Their oldest granddaughter just went to college and they just knew they would have to pay for her. Stressed out for years about it. Well this granddaughter got a full ride and doesn't need their help either. She complains about money non stop and how hard they have to work crafting to make a living. They are 72 and fil worked until he was 68. They have a generous federal pension and ss, so I don't get it. She rewrites history to suit her own narrative. And I really want to call her out on all her b.s. As far as helping my husband, his granddad's house burned down years ago, so they needed to buy him a house. My husband, who I hadn't met, just graduated college and got a job back in the city they live. They convinced him to buy the house across the street so granddad wouldnt have to move in with them because she didn't want her fil living with them. Nevermind that they had a 5 bedroom house just the two of them. they put the down payment on it. My husband lived there 6 months before getting an apartment with some roommates in the city. For the next 10 years, his grandad paid him $1000 a month and the house and bills cost $1500 month. He meets me, moves in and refuses to pay me anything because he is paying for his granddad. So a few years ago, my inlaws ask for their down payment back and we write a check for $15 grand. You would think that would be the end of it, but no I still have to hear about it! The house only appreciated $10,000 in 18 year. We sold it last year. It was a horrible investment, but I have to hear about how they helped him out buying that house almost every time they come over. I have another equally annoying story that cost us $10 grand. And I just know she goes to the others and lies and complains about me too! I suffer in silence though and keep my mouth shut, maybe venting here once in a while. She has no relationship with her 3 other daughter in laws and I am beginning to understand why.
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Post by swasat on Feb 20, 2017 16:12:27 GMT -5
Depends on what it is they're going to put you in therapy over. There is baggage and then there is baggage if that makes any sense. For the most part I ask myself if this is something I want my kids to emulate. Kids aren't stupid, they pick up a lot more than we are aware of. If I don't have the type of relationship with that person I'd want my kids to have then I cut them out. Me being emotionally healthy and stable is far more important than the toxic person having a relationship with them. I really shouldn't say they, because fil is mostly quiet and falls asleep in a chair. Mil likes to talk bad about everyone in the family and it pisses me off. She loves to talk about money and how much they have helped each of their five adult kids when they haven't at all. All 5 are responsible and taking care of themselves, took out their own loans for college and fully launched. Their oldest granddaughter just went to college and they just knew they would have to pay for her. Stressed out for years about it. Well this granddaughter got a full ride and doesn't need their help either. She complains about money non stop and how hard they have to work crafting to make a living. They are 72 and fil worked until he was 68. They have a generous federal pension and ss, so I don't get it. She rewrites history to suit her own narrative. And I really want to call her out on all her b.s. As far as helping my husband, his granddad's house burned down years ago, so they needed to buy him a house. My husband, who I hadn't met, just graduated college and got a job back in the city they live. They convinced him to buy the house across the street so granddad wouldnt have to move in with them because she didn't want her fil living with them. Nevermind that they had a 5 bedroom house just the two of them. they put the down payment on it. My husband lived there 6 months before getting an apartment with some roommates in the city. For the next 10 years, his grandad paid him $1000 a month and the house and bills cost $1500 month. He meets me, moves in and refuses to pay me anything because he is paying for his granddad. So a few years ago, my inlaws ask for their down payment back and we write a check for $15 grand. You would think that would be the end of it, but no I still have to hear about it! The house only appreciated $10,000 in 18 year. We sold it last year. It was a horrible investment, but I have to hear about how they helped him out buying that house almost every time they come over. I have another equally annoying story that cost us $10 grand. And I just know she goes to the others and lies and complains about me too! I suffer in silence though and keep my mouth shut, maybe venting here once in a while. She has no relationship with her 3 other daughter in laws and I am beginning to understand why. Right there is your problem. May I ask just WHY do you suffer through it? I would be very inclined to say "You know Jane, I wasn't even there in your son's life when all these incidents happened. I have no idea or interest in any of these incidents. Why don't you talk to your son about all of this?" Rinse and repeat. If anyone has to suffer through such talks it should be your husband. Not you!!
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Feb 20, 2017 16:13:07 GMT -5
My MIL likes to complain a lot. Sometimes I amuse myself by throwing things out there and seeing if she will top it. DH has started to amuse himself by giving over the top reactions/responses and seeing if she notices. He got me laughing so hard once I could hardly breathe.
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Post by swasat on Feb 20, 2017 16:15:06 GMT -5
I just stay away from the whiners. Especially if they are from my in-laws side, not mine. DH and I have an unwritten rule in our home- You deal with the crazy in your family and I will deal with the ones in mine.
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Post by zibazinski on Feb 20, 2017 16:55:41 GMT -5
I still remember the time my ex called his mother a whore. She kind of went wild during and after her divorce and unfortunately he and another sibling were still in the house so were exposed to it. Thankfully the kids were too young to understand what he said about her and never repeated it. But she'd been drinking and loose lips flapped too much. Ugh.
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Post by zibazinski on Feb 20, 2017 16:58:53 GMT -5
His father was no better. A cheater as well as anti-Semitic. Loudly and publicly anti Semitic. Furious when I told him to lower his voice and then in private I told him if he ever spoke that way again, he'd no longer be welcome in our home. He couldn't believe anyone spoke to him like that and was mad that my then husband didn't put me in my place.
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Post by gooddecisions on Feb 20, 2017 17:00:05 GMT -5
He is usually doing yard work during visits so I am stuck entertaining them and my kids. I don't think she has an issue, she just feels like everyone needs to know how much they have sacrificed perhaps so when time comes we will all step up to the plate and sacrifice for them. So she changes the narrative to paint a picture of more help then they have given. It doesn't need to be like that. She raised good kids and they will most likely all pitch in when the time comes. And my mom is dead so I do try to have perspective and patience with things but I can't stand twisting the truth.
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Post by zibazinski on Feb 20, 2017 17:07:44 GMT -5
You know, when you call them out on it, they usually stop.
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