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Post by TheOtherMe on Jul 19, 2023 20:33:39 GMT -5
I really hope that my kids nurture their relationships as adults. That's the one nice thing about having four kids and making our family bigger. I really hope we can rent a large house out somewhere and have that be our time to visit. This way, too hopefully there will be less pressure during the holidays.
My sister and her oldest daughter and the daughter's family take a vacation together every year. It's a great vacation for my niece and her family because Mom pays. NIL does all of the driving. The focus so far has been on visiting all 48 of the continental US states. She said after they got back, they will need to start going west because that is where we went as children and her grandchildren have not been there. I don't know how long this will continue since the oldest grandson goes to college this fall. They went to Disney World 3 years in a row and took two of her sons one year, one the next year and none the next year. They didn't seem to enjoy their week this summer because they picked cheap motels in resort towns and that never works out well. After a few historical places were recommended by some of her friends, she has decided she doesn't like to visit anything historical.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Jul 20, 2023 7:23:31 GMT -5
(I've not read passed the original post.)
The only couple we do that with is my husband's brother and his wife. At this point, our children are adults, and we would likely vacation with them and their partners also.
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Post by nittanycheme on Jul 20, 2023 13:19:34 GMT -5
We have, but primarily just an overnight trip or a weekend trip. Usually its planned around a specific activity (i.e., concert, PS football game, etc.) that pretty much controls the schedule for the trip. We are usually also in separate hotel rooms, although very occasionally we have stayed in an airBnB. It helps that it is only a day or two, so we can't get on each others nerves too much. We have stayed with friends on a couple of longer trips - one of my friends lived in Paris for a while, and I had relatives in Orlando, Florida. For both of those types of trips, we would spend time with our hosts, but also had quite a lot of time free for us to travel around where we wanted as they worked during our visits (since as you can imagine, they were popular host locations for people to visit!).
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Post by imawino on Jul 20, 2023 14:31:19 GMT -5
hooooo boy! We vacationed with other people and it went....badly. In one case EPICALLY badly. oh my. The stories. So we swore off taking trips with other couples and said never again. After many years we decided to give it another go and spent a week with another couple in a 2 bedroom rental in the caribbean this past February and it went well. So perhaps my nightmares and fears will cease.
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Post by swamp on Jul 20, 2023 22:02:54 GMT -5
hooooo boy! We vacationed with other people and it went....badly. In one case EPICALLY badly. oh my. The stories. So we swore off taking trips with other couples and said never again. After many years we decided to give it another go and spent a week with another couple in a 2 bedroom rental in the caribbean this past February and it went well. So perhaps my nightmares and fears will cease. Suns out, guns out.
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Post by skeeter on Jul 21, 2023 9:28:44 GMT -5
hooooo boy! We vacationed with other people and it went....badly. In one case EPICALLY badly. oh my. The stories. So we swore off taking trips with other couples and said never again. After many years we decided to give it another go and spent a week with another couple in a 2 bedroom rental in the caribbean this past February and it went well. So perhaps my nightmares and fears will cease. Care to give any examples? Inquiring (a/k/a nosey) minds want to know.
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Post by Artemis Windsong on Jul 23, 2023 15:57:12 GMT -5
We take our own vehicle. Normally meeting family either for camping or a destination like Duluth MN. We meet friends for sport type things. Usually a couple of days. Sometimes I envy people who can travel and share experiences but imawino reminds me it's not always good. I/we used to do day trips with my GFs for golf years ago.
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Post by imawino on Jul 25, 2023 13:12:55 GMT -5
hooooo boy! We vacationed with other people and it went....badly. In one case EPICALLY badly. oh my. The stories. So we swore off taking trips with other couples and said never again. After many years we decided to give it another go and spent a week with another couple in a 2 bedroom rental in the caribbean this past February and it went well. So perhaps my nightmares and fears will cease. Care to give any examples? Inquiring (a/k/a nosey) minds want to know. Well, to begin with the wife of the other couple found out the husband was cheating and then he told her he wanted a divorce. This happened on the FIRST DAY. Things went waaaaaayyyyyy wrong from there on in. I'd need alcohol and therapy to revisit some of the more traumatic moments. But a couple of amusing ones (referenced in Swamps post) were the wife's emphatic insistence that she could deadlift more than me. Which....probably? I have no idea, it certainly wasn't a topic I brought up.... and that she (approx 5'2" 105lbs) could beat my sweetie (6'3" male) in a fight. Again, no one was suggesting fightsor feats of strength, so WHY WOULD THIS KEEP COMING UP? hahahahahah ugh
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Post by happyhoix on Jul 25, 2023 19:30:59 GMT -5
NO.
Years ago, allowed myself to get talked into family trips, with my mom and dad, sisters, spouses and kids. NOPE.
Mom and little sister were control freaks who wanted to plan everything out, down to where we would eat and what time. (EARLY). Suggestions that your family might want to do something else was met with fury that you were WRECKING THEIR PLANS. We had to do everything together.
The last year we did it, Mom and LS didn’t want to eat out because they wanted to save money, so we bought a lot of groceries and split the costs between us evenly. The day we lleft, LS packed up every bit of the leftover groceries (filled her truck with them) - handing me a box of tea bags because she doesn’t like tea. Everything else was hers. And that was the last family vacation we went on.
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Post by skeeter on Jul 28, 2023 10:15:29 GMT -5
NO. Years ago, allowed myself to get talked into family trips, with my mom and dad, sisters, spouses and kids. NOPE. Mom and little sister were control freaks who wanted to plan everything out, down to where we would eat and what time. (EARLY). Suggestions that your family might want to do something else was met with fury that you were WRECKING THEIR PLANS. We had to do everything together. The last year we did it, Mom and LS didn’t want to eat out because they wanted to save money, so we bought a lot of groceries and split the costs between us evenly. The day we lleft, LS packed up every bit of the leftover groceries (filled her truck with them) - handing me a box of tea bags because she doesn’t like tea. Everything else was hers. And that was the last family vacation we went on. I can definitely understand why trips in the future are a hard NO. The way you were treated is just awful and selfish on their part!!
Both your and imawino's experiences would make a good tv soap opera, but neither one should have happened in real life..........
One for each of you.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Aug 19, 2023 11:47:27 GMT -5
The time has come,' the Walrus said, To talk of many things: Of shoes — and ships — and sealing-wax — Of cabbages — and kings —
As I mentioned earlier in this thread, we have only ever stayed in the same vacation house with one set of SIL/BIL. SIL wants to go on a weekend-trip in a few months. A nephew of hers just bought a 3-bd house in a resort community a few hours from where we all live. She makes a comment like let's go stay in that house; we'll get it for cheaper than the regular amount. At the time, DH and I nodded politely. SIL said something to the effect of I'm going to invite my sister also, to which I responded sounds great! I meant that genuinely. THEN she says, oh, but one of the bedrooms is only bunkbeds. I'm not sleeping in a bunkbed. I figured that would kind of be the end of the conversation because she is is not a planner. Also, DH, as I just found out, completely missed the comment about one of the three bedrooms being just twin bunkbeds.
The next day she made a comment to my husband about having our children join us, and he's like sure! MY HUSBAND TELLS OUR CHILDREN IT'S OUR TREAT. Somehow, I'm not included in the conversation. Next thing I know, I'm expected to get and pay for lodging for our four children and their SOs. Um...WTE? I'm now out $1500 I didn't plan on spending AT ALL.
Anyhoo, I got one condo for our daughters and their dogs. I got another house for our sons, us, and our grandchild who is allergic to dogs. SIL and BIL will be in their house; I think they've still invited the other SIL. I will have my own bed with my husband. Because by golly, if I'm paying $1500, I'm not sleeping in a bunk bed.
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