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Post by Artemis Windsong on Jun 4, 2020 17:50:01 GMT -5
I have NOT been discriminated against? Never, ever on any level? I cannot. I faced discrimination.
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Post by mollyanna58 on Jun 4, 2020 18:21:11 GMT -5
Yes, I have faced discrimination for being female. However, it was not a monthly/weekly/daily occurrence. It wasn't going to get me arrested. It wasn't going to get me killed. For me, it was an occasional annoyance.
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Post by Cheesy FL-Vol on Jun 4, 2020 18:34:32 GMT -5
I have experienced disability discrimination. Like molly though, not a potentially life threatening situation like citizens of color experience.
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Post by chiver78 on Jun 4, 2020 18:43:32 GMT -5
given some of your other recent posts, I'm curious where your question is coming from. call me cynical, or an asshole. doesn't bother me either way. 🤷♀️
to answer your question, though. I am a woman who holds an engineering degree. i experienced a lot of discrimination early in my career at the hands of a boss who, to this day, I honestly don't know why he hired me as an engineer when he really needed a file clerk and coffee pourer. as Molly and Cheesy have said, it wasnt life-threatening like what many others face just waking up and being vertical.
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Post by sesfw on Jun 4, 2020 21:09:26 GMT -5
I'm a female with an electronics tech degree. When I went to DeVry in 1991 to get this at age 50 I couldn't buy some things I needed from a parts store across from the school. Snot-nosed kids couldn't believe a 50 yr old lady wanted a student discount. I didn't argue, just walked out and told my school mates. Went to a different parts store with no problems.
As a repair tech I've had a lot of guys laugh when I wanted clarification on problems ........... until I asked to speak to their supervisors.
Even today when I'm working I surprise people with my working knowledge of hardware.
I just shrug it off and let them be surprised ........... lol
I have never had my life in jeopardy though ...... never even close
I can't begin to imagine the horror
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Post by kadee79 on Jun 4, 2020 22:46:36 GMT -5
I've been discriminated against in many ways over the years...female, my Daddy didn't raise a dumb daughter...I could do a tune up on a vehicle years ago, change a tube tire & patch the tube too, helped do many repairs on vehicles over the years. I was the only female licensed contractor in our county for a few years. In my youth, I was discriminated against because I was poor. But none of these have been life threatening like what people of color face every day!
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Post by laterbloomer on Jun 4, 2020 23:10:42 GMT -5
I have NOT been discriminated against? Never, ever on any level? I cannot. I faced discrimination.
I've experienced more of what I would call misogyny. I don't know why I'm constantly surprised by how many men will try to "put me in my place". Many men really don't like dealing with a smart, strong woman. I have often had to tell a man I wasn't finished talking, or to back off and speak to me respectfully. It is tiring. I have also had to threaten physical injury to get certain men to back off. I gave up on the system protecting me from men at a fairly young age. At that point I decided I was willing to go to any length to protect myself. Up to and including hiring others to physically harm the threat. I don't think black people are obligated to shut up about being murdered by police because I have experienced misogyny. That's a very immature attitude. And I have yet to have a black person tell me I have to accept misogyny because they have to deal with police brutality.
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Post by tractor on Jun 5, 2020 8:10:44 GMT -5
Nope. At least not that I am aware of.
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Post by thyme4change on Jun 5, 2020 9:49:18 GMT -5
I used to think I was discriminated against for being young, but looking back, I think maybe I was just stupid. So, maybe I was discriminated against for being stupid. Can't really blame anyone for that.
I'm sure I've had some female discrimination, but it didn't seem to hurt me in the long term.
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Post by swamp on Jun 5, 2020 10:11:46 GMT -5
Yes, I have faced discrimination for being female. However, it was not a monthly/weekly/daily occurrence. It wasn't going to get me arrested. It wasn't going to get me killed. For me, it was an occasional annoyance.
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Post by stillmovingforward on Jun 5, 2020 10:22:18 GMT -5
So much what latebloomer said. And then I adopted one brown and two black kids. And because I'm white, people in a crowd don't always know I'm thier parent. I have threatened men with the police for how they talked about my underage daughter. And I have asked security to walk us to our car due to things I've heard in sports events while my DD2 has been playing (terrible things and it was junior high and high school sports!). I took my DS2 to the local police station for a lesson on how to behave towards police to minimize his chances of being arrested for no reason or hurt during an arrest. You never see that shit in the parenting books! Nor is it discussed in school or general parent conversation.
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Post by thyme4change on Jun 5, 2020 11:04:02 GMT -5
So much what latebloomer said. And then I adopted one brown and two black kids. And because I'm white, people in a crowd don't always know I'm thier parent. I have threatened men with the police for how they talked about my underage daughter. And I have asked security to walk us to our car due to things I've heard in sports events while my DD2 has been playing (terrible things and it was junior high and high school sports!). I took my DS2 to the local police station for a lesson on how to behave towards police to minimize his chances of being arrested for no reason or hurt during an arrest. You never see that shit in the parenting books! Nor is it discussed in school or general parent conversation. This breaks my heart.
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Post by Artemis Windsong on Jun 5, 2020 12:47:45 GMT -5
My family has rainbow children. They are my grandchildren and great grandchildren.
Yes, misogyny.
This is a pretty general statement and doesn't apply to everyone. Most people who are challenged by the police or anyone in uniform, fire department, etc. will display some level of guilt. Even those who have been instructed on how to talk to the authorities.
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Post by stillmovingforward on Jun 5, 2020 14:01:31 GMT -5
Every time my DS2 carries his little cousin (who is white) on his shoulders, he gets stopped and they get questioned. Every. Single. Time. I've watched it. I've intervened. It's heartbreaking.
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Post by mollyanna58 on Jun 5, 2020 15:11:27 GMT -5
Every time my DS2 carries his little cousin (who is white) on his shoulders, he gets stopped and they get questioned. Every. Single. Time. I've watched it. I've intervened. It's heartbreaking.
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Post by empress of self-improvement on Jun 5, 2020 15:21:22 GMT -5
I'm fat, female and have worn glasses and a hearing aid for most of my life. Yeah, it wasn't life-threatening, unless you count the jumpings I got in junior high, but it wasn't fun. ETA: I forgot, my mother's former friend/roommate discriminated against me because I read a lot and ate my weekly spaghettios out of the pan. She kicked me out for reading too much. At least I didn't pickle my liver to death. Literally.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jun 5, 2020 15:30:51 GMT -5
I was regularly told, by supposed friends no less, that if I stopped being so assertive and acted a little dumber (and put out depending on who I was talking to) then I would be able to get myself a boyfriend. Because being a smart woman who speaks her mind is unattractive. Even more unattractive apparently was that I decided that I was in charge of my sexuality. Apparently as a teenage girl my only purpose in life was to be a vessel for a teenage boy's dick all while cooing about how smart he is. I told them all then I am just fine being single thank you very much. However that does not come remotely close to what black people experience. I will NEVER be able to relate to what a black man or a black woman goes through in their lives. To equate the two is yet another form of white privilege.
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Post by crazycat on Jun 5, 2020 15:59:07 GMT -5
As a woman , yes . Also as a wife and mother to my Hispanic husband and boys .
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Jun 6, 2020 19:24:38 GMT -5
As a woman and a Jew, yes. But never shot at or tailed by the police or Tasered or beaten for it. It's very different when you get attention because your skin is your target.
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Post by Artemis Windsong on Jun 6, 2020 20:11:42 GMT -5
given some of your other recent posts, I'm curious where your question is coming from. call me cynical, or an asshole. doesn't bother me either way. 🤷♀️ to answer your question, though. I am a woman who holds an engineering degree. i experienced a lot of discrimination early in my career at the hands of a boss who, to this day, I honestly don't know why he hired me as an engineer when he really needed a file clerk and coffee pourer. as Molly and Cheesy have said, it wasnt life-threatening like what many others face just waking up and being vertical. The reason I asked is discrimination comes in many forms and levels. We have seen the extreme recently.
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Post by laterbloomer on Jun 6, 2020 21:00:44 GMT -5
given some of your other recent posts, I'm curious where your question is coming from. call me cynical, or an asshole. doesn't bother me either way. 🤷♀️ to answer your question, though. I am a woman who holds an engineering degree. i experienced a lot of discrimination early in my career at the hands of a boss who, to this day, I honestly don't know why he hired me as an engineer when he really needed a file clerk and coffee pourer. as Molly and Cheesy have said, it wasnt life-threatening like what many others face just waking up and being vertical. The reason I asked is discrimination comes in many forms and levels. We have seen the extreme recently.
I'm worried about somehow belittling experiences of discrimination, bigotry, misogyny etc because it's "not as bad as what black people deal with" or conversely, belittling the importance of what POC face because "everyone is discriminated against in some way". I am backing BLM right now (well I always back BLM but I'm putting it out there more right now) because they have the stage right now. But it is part of Social Justice all around for me. BLM, metoo, LGBTQ etc. is all part of the same animal. I believe in social justice.
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Post by happyhoix on Jun 11, 2020 20:20:44 GMT -5
My weirdest experience in discrimination was as a high school freshmen was a home ec teacher who asked me if I was a yankee the first day of class. This was at a military dependent school at an American airbase in Germany. No one had ever called me a yankee before. The teacher was southern and explained upfront how she didn’t like Yankees because they were cold and unfriendly. Then she ignored me and all the other yankee girls for the rest of the semester while she sat at a table chatting with the Southern girls in class.
My first experience at being disliked for something completely out of my control for really stupid stereotypes. Eye opening.
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