laterbloomer
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Post by laterbloomer on Dec 29, 2019 23:20:54 GMT -5
You don't need to tell him you already knew it was him. That was what he was calculating in that time he was hesitating. If it was me I would hire someone to fix it and make him pay for that. With neighbours you always do the passive aggressive thing and maintain your deniability. But he will know you didn't go out of your way to save him money. As for being awkward, only if you let him put you on the defensive. You have nothing to feel awkward about, don't let him lay that on you. You don't have to make any announcements to the other neighbours but don't go out of your way to keep it a secret for him either.
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Post by dannylion on Dec 29, 2019 23:48:34 GMT -5
You don't need to tell him you already knew it was him. That was what he was calculating in that time he was hesitating. If it was me I would hire someone to fix it and make him pay for that. With neighbours you always do the passive aggressive thing and maintain your deniability. But he will know you didn't go out of your way to save him money. As for being awkward, only if you let him put you on the defensive. You have nothing to feel awkward about, don't let him lay that on you. You don't have to make any announcements to the other neighbours but don't go out of your way to keep it a secret for him either. The awkwardness should be all on his side. It will be interesting to see how he spins the story if he discusses it with anyone else. Maybe he'll figure out that everyone already knows he did it and had to be prodded into owning up.
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schildi
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Post by schildi on Dec 30, 2019 0:23:21 GMT -5
I do think that the awkwardness is on his side. But at the same time, I don't want to start separating him out because he made this mistake. I will always have this in my mind when dealing with hime in the future, but don't want to blow it out of proportion either.
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Post by hoops902 on Dec 30, 2019 8:57:42 GMT -5
I'm probably not as offended at this guy at some other people in this thread are. The post broke off below the ground. I'm guessing he hit it, got out, stood it back up, and figured he'd just pushed it over a little, that he set it back up straight, and that there was no damage. He could have easily thought it was the equivalent of knocking over someone's garbage can, you pick it back up, look at it to see it isn't damaged, and you go about your day. If I had hit it, I would know it's a problem...but I find most people aren't smart enough to understand that just setting the post back up isn't fixing the likely issue (but then again I also have neighbors who sink their fence posts in about 1 foot of dirt on a 6 foot privacy fence and then seem confused when it blows over in a stiff wind).
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Post by NoNamePerson on Dec 30, 2019 9:01:53 GMT -5
I'm probably not as offended at this guy at some other people in this thread are. The post broke off below the ground. I'm guessing he hit it, got out, stood it back up, and figured he'd just pushed it over a little, that he set it back up straight, and that there was no damage. He could have easily thought it was the equivalent of knocking over someone's garbage can, you pick it back up, look at it to see it isn't damaged, and you go about your day. If I had hit it, I would know it's a problem...but I find most people aren't smart enough to understand that just setting the post back up isn't fixing the likely issue (but then again I also have neighbors who sink their fence posts in about 1 foot of dirt on a 6 foot privacy fence and then seem confused when it blows over in a stiff wind).Had a neighbor like this once. Several of us just sat around scratching our heads and waited for a big blow. Was just hoping it blew down before a hurricane headed our way. The thought of all that airborne fencing was scary. Fortunately neighbor saw the error of his ways and had things done the proper way.
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Post by hoops902 on Dec 30, 2019 9:12:07 GMT -5
I'm probably not as offended at this guy at some other people in this thread are. The post broke off below the ground. I'm guessing he hit it, got out, stood it back up, and figured he'd just pushed it over a little, that he set it back up straight, and that there was no damage. He could have easily thought it was the equivalent of knocking over someone's garbage can, you pick it back up, look at it to see it isn't damaged, and you go about your day. If I had hit it, I would know it's a problem...but I find most people aren't smart enough to understand that just setting the post back up isn't fixing the likely issue (but then again I also have neighbors who sink their fence posts in about 1 foot of dirt on a 6 foot privacy fence and then seem confused when it blows over in a stiff wind).Had a neighbor like this once. Several of us just sat around scratching our heads and waited for a big blow. Was just hoping it blew down before a hurricane headed our way. The thought of all that airborne fencing was scary. Fortunately neighbor saw the error of his ways and had things done the proper way. Honestly if I'd seen him doing it, I would have stopped him. He was new to the neighborhood and a super nice guy. He was just getting into DIY stuff. He had the posts up with an electric post-hole digger in a weekend (I'm not sure why he needed to buy an expensive gas powered digger to go a foot down) and it all seemed to be going well until I saw his fence after an average wind (20-30mph probably). He knew I did stuff like that and asked me to look at it. I was asking him questions and he told me he dug down a foot. I told him it was probably better the wind blew it down because at least it was nice enough weather to fix it, because otherwise it would have heaved in the winter anyways.
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Post by schildi on Dec 30, 2019 12:29:35 GMT -5
I'm probably not as offended at this guy at some other people in this thread are. The post broke off below the ground. I'm guessing he hit it, got out, stood it back up, and figured he'd just pushed it over a little, that he set it back up straight, and that there was no damage. He could have easily thought it was the equivalent of knocking over someone's garbage can, you pick it back up, look at it to see it isn't damaged, and you go about your day. If I had hit it, I would know it's a problem...but I find most people aren't smart enough to understand that just setting the post back up isn't fixing the likely issue (but then again I also have neighbors who sink their fence posts in about 1 foot of dirt on a 6 foot privacy fence and then seem confused when it blows over in a stiff wind). A agree that some responses are maybe a little too serious about it, but the damage was/is pretty obvious. The post is kinda freely flopping around, and there is a vertical crack also, all the way top to bottom. Thinking it was fixed after pushing it back up would be weird for a maintenance manager for many years at a large facility, and he didn't use that excuse either when I approached him. I don't think he ever thought the fence post was fine. But the issue is resolved, no bad feelings anymore. Thanks for all the responses!
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Post by Works4me on Dec 30, 2019 15:12:30 GMT -5
Also: I would have really loved to do #4, but the wife told me that I am too old for that kind of thing. Ouch, these reminders really hurt!
LOL - except I disagree. Older is the perfect age for #4. Seriously though, it sounds like you are handling a difficult situation well.
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