did I make a faux paz?

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moms who frequent the WIR pregnancy thread - did I make an oopsie when I asked those questions about that woman BFing?

[DebMD (banned)]

Gosh MoneyJ ask them over there...barfing in pregnancy is expected.

[Deleted]

no, that's not what BFing is. I did ask about what someone in particular was doing and as far as I can tell, the conversation pretty much stopped. I wanted to know if I offended her or anyone else.

[sheilaincali]

jenny- muttley is usually pretty easy going- I wouldn't worry too much.

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I don't think. If people are going to discuss their backdoor sexual acts they shouldn't get offended when someone asks about it.

[ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ]

How could asking about BF offend someone?

[Deleted]

it was that it was done past 1 year. That just strikes me as odd for some reason - I just assumed you stopped BFing when they get teeth.

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Apr 1, 2011 15:17:21 GMT -5 @moneyjenny82 said:

it was that it was done past 1 year. That just strikes me as odd for some reason - I just assumed you stopped BFing when they get teeth.

After doing it for a year it gets teeth??? How do porn stars keep at it for so long?

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Apr 1, 2011 15:19:07 GMT -5 ArchietheDragon said:

Apr 1, 2011 15:17:21 GMT -5 @moneyjenny82 said:

it was that it was done past 1 year. That just strikes me as odd for some reason - I just assumed you stopped BFing when they get teeth.

After doing it for a year it gets teeth??? How do porn stars keep at it for so long?

drugs?

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Nah, the board goes dead quite often during the day.

It's not as busy as it was over on MSN. Less people came over here and less people can access pro-boards at work.

It usually picks up around the evening when people are getting off.

[Malarky]

Any one who is offended by breastfeeding should stop reading now.


Jenny,
I breastfed my son for a year and my daughter for 13 months. Towards the end it was very little and more of a comfort/transitional thing. Neither if them were biters so that wasn't a consideration. For DD I did it a little longer because we were 3000 miles from home for 3 weeks just after she turned one and there were so few familiar things around her.
I did it because it was what worked for us. Neither of my kids ever had a bottle. They learned to drink from a cup while still breastfeeding so I never had to wean them from the bottle.
Whatever you decide will be the right thing for you and your child.

[Deleted]

By the way.. BFing at eight years old.

[DebMD (banned)]

Apr 1, 2011 15:07:17 GMT -5 @moneyjenny82 said:

no, that's not what BFing is. I did ask about what someone in particular was doing and as far as I can tell, the conversation pretty much stopped. I wanted to know if I offended her or anyone else.

PM her.

At first I thought that BF-ing was what it was but then I thought on any other NON EE thread unlike this one I'd better think the other option.

I would be offended if I didn't bring it up and it was brought to me. BUT If I brought it up then it's fair game for discussion.

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Apr 1, 2011 15:22:32 GMT -5 Malarky said:

Any one who is offended by breastfeeding should stop reading now.


Jenny,
I breastfed my son for a year and my daughter for 13 months. Towards the end it was very little and more of a comfort/transitional thing. Neither if them were biters so that wasn't a consideration. For DD I did it a little longer because we were 3000 miles from home for 3 weeks just after she turned one and there were so few familiar things around her.
I did it because it was what worked for us. Neither of my kids ever had a bottle. They learned to drink from a cup while still breastfeeding so I never had to wean them from the bottle.
Whatever you decide will be the right thing for you and your child.

My kid will have a bottle simply because I will need to go back to work after I have him and he'll need to be fed when I'm not there. Even if I was to stay home, I just can't see myself doing it past the point where he is eating solid foods regularly. But you're right, it's a very personal decision and moms have to do what they feel is best.

My mom told me I was bottle-fed from the beginning FWIW.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

I am stopping after a year because I don't enjoy breastfeedding. The pump is going to be packed up as soon as humanly possible after a year. It's a PITA and while my bosses are supportive, I feel that going longer than a year is pushing it.

Plus I am tired of being her pacifier and REALLY want my body back to myself.

At 8 months there is no point in not going the remaining four since we'd have to switch to formula at this stage and why incur that expense when I only have four months left to go?

But after a year, I am done.

[Genuine GA Peach]

OMG...Archie!!!

not having children, I was wondering if this was some kind of make do act until normal spousal relations could resume

breast feeding...ok, resume serious conversation

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

To my recollection only one poster ever got pissed during a breastfeeding discussion. She thought we were attacking her and we weren't, there was another poster in extreme distress over not producing enough milk and having to supplement so people were trying to reassure her it was okay.

BF-ing poster took it as we were attacking her and her viewpoints because we "constantly kept saying not breastfeeding is fine" and she never came back.

Muttely is pretty easy going, the only time I saw her get pissed is when FormerRoommate99 dismissed oversupply as an "issue" and said that Muttley should consider herself lucky to have had that "issue" since it isn't a real one compared to undersupply.

Other than that she's pretty laid back when it comes to breastfeeding questions.
Activity is down during the day compared to MSN.

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

I just assumed you stopped BFing when they get teeth.

I think it more depends upon whether the kids are biters. My sister's were, all 4 of them. She made attempts to get them to stop, but decided that the pain wasn't worth it when they didn't.

All of them started the biting around 6 mo or so, as I remember it.

[DebMD (banned)]

I have a friend who breast fed her 6 y/o son with a newborn. I told her the boy had a full set of teeth and could eat hamburgers. She said DS would be jealous of the newborn and that he liked being breastfed....

what boy wouldn't? ? ?

[Malarky]

I feel really strongly about doing what feels right. For me, it was easy. Others struggle with breastfeeding.
Drama, if you really want to stop, then do it. My understanding is that most of the benefit is in the first couple of months. Although, I really don't know how much formula a baby drinks at that age and how expensive it would be.
I initially chose to breastfeed out of poverty.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Drama, if you really want to stop, then do it. My understanding is that most of the benefit is in the first couple of months. Although, I really don't know how much formula a baby drinks at that age and how expensive it would be

That's my thought on it. Why wean her to formula when in four months we'll be getting ready to wean her off that?

Too much work!

We are going to wean her off using me as her pacifier this week. Dh has it off so we can FINALLY devote all night to it if we have to.

Part of the problem is she uses me for comfort. DH has to go to work at 4 am and can't tolerate CIO. I've been ready to do it for the past month but he hasn't, it won't work if he goes in there to snatch her up.

He's now finally gotten to the point of where he is ready to.

Once we can get her off nighttime comfort feedings I'll feel a lot better.

[TD2K]

and that he liked being breastfed....

what boy wouldn't? ? ?



Some of us pick up that habit again later in life

[DebMD (banned)]

Ahhh

The naked baby boy at mom's breast ...basking in the warm summer's sun and fondling himself.....such a paradise.

[Wisconsin Beth]

I didn't make it to a year with either kid. I made it to 10 months with DD when I got pregnant with DS. And with DS, around 9 months my supply tanked and I was just done bfing, physically and emotionally. I'd been pregnant or breastfeeding continually for almost 3 years at that point.

So we ended up switching to formula for about 4 months. I don't recall any issues in weaning to formula or to whole milk. You have to do what's right for you.

[Apple]

Jen--with DS being a preemie and in the hospital for his first two weeks we had to start right off with both breast feeding and bottle feeding. I pumped, but it wasn't always enough. He started eating solids at 4 months (and started sleeping through the night then, yay!) I had to go back to work the day after we got home from the hospital and had a wacky schedule. By the time he was 6 months old I just couldn't produce much anymore so I had to stop. I've seen some moms with kids that could walk (16 months or so) and they would still bf at times. I don't know that poster, but questions usually don't bother the moms that are willing to share. I probably would have stopped around a year if I wasn't working.

As far as teeth though, some baby get those at just a month or two old so I wouldn't really base it on that, but like malarky said, what feels right.

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Oh I plan on pumping too. I meant they won't be feeding from me physically for too long.

[973beachbum]

I have a friend who was a leader in La Leche. She had 5 kids and hers were all still BF till after 2 years. Truthfully even she admitted that they were weaned because the kids really didn't want to BF anymore. They had been using a cup since maybe 6 months so they were done long before they actually stopped.

I BF'd both kids but for varying times. My DD I BF'd exclusively for the first couple of months. But I was never the person who liked pumping so when I went back to work she took a bottle with formula during the day from her babysitter or dad and BF'd with me, Truthfully it really wasn't hard at all to get her to do it. She learned very quick where the food was from which person. DS I stitched quicker because he was a monster child and I couldn't keep up the supply he needed. And he knew that there was a bottle in the fridge with his name on it that was just fine with him.

When it comes to eating my kids are geniuses.

[Deleted]

I breastfed my first son until he was 6 months old and then he started to bite. He bit every time he fed! It was horrible. So...he got weened real quick. My second son I only breastfed until he was about 2 months old. I didn't have enough supply to keep him fed because the stupid Dr. talked me into getting the Depo. It dried up my milk. I was pissed and cried. I would have probably weened him at 6 months or a year old though.

My cousin breastfed her kids until they were 4. To me that seems very weird.