Ulp! What do I do now?

[Gardening Grandma]

I was just telling DH about one of the very informative posts on this board. He asked me to foward him the link. "Sure", I said. But now I'm realizing that I've posted quite a lot of information about us here. If I send him the link, he's gonna figure out pretty quickly who I am. And he's probably gonna be pissed that I've osted quite a bit about him as well.....
What do I do now? Change my user id? "Forget" to send the link?
Hide?

[chiver78]

you can go back and edit your post. or contact a mod and ask them to wipe the post or thread for you. I had a thread I started completely wiped when I gave enough info to allow people to answer my question, and an asshat over in MT pretty much outed my employer, the details behind my question, and a whole bunch of other stuff that would have definitely ID'd me with other details I've given about myself in other places on this board.

you'll be OK.

[The J]

Just copy and paste the post(s) you want him to see.

[Gardening Grandma]

theJ
thanks - I think that's exactly what I will do after I ask the mod to remove my posts.....


I'm selfish. I don't want to share you guys with him....

[Plain Old Petunia]

Lol. I have had second thoughts in the past about sharing something I read on YM for the very same reasons! I didn't want that person to start reading the boards and end up identifying me. I'm not nearly so open IRL as I am here, where it is all nice and anonymous.

[kindthatjingles]

That is why I am glad they have the delete button on Facebook. Sometimes I rant and when I look again I get I chicken.

[robbase]

just wave your hand in front of his face and softly whisper "this is not the website you are looking for"---- it worked for Obi Wan ("these are not the droids you are looking for") and Yoda is much stronger than Obi Wan :-)

ETA: I see now you have changed your avatar from yoda to pokemon so my post makes no sense now :-)

[azphx1972]

"Forget" to send the link. If he asks, tell him that you could tell him, but then you'd have to kill him. ;D

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BTW, you're one high tech grandma!

[midjd]

Copy/pasting the thread is a genius idea.

I have really handicapped myself here, because I would be super-easily outed and share a LOT of financial info I wouldn't necessarily want my friends/family to know - but at the same time there are so many people in my life who could benefit from the advice on these boards, it's hard not to share!

[motherto2]

GG, I totally know what you mean! I likewise share alot of info about me and my situations than I would tell most people I know. Most of them really don't care enough about what I go through because they are more worried about themselves and their drama, plus since I don't really go anywhere or do anything exciting, I'm pretty boring to them. But still, I wouldn't want them to know some things I post, mostly because they don't care enough in real life . I've never given this board out because they would pretty easily pick me out. And most everyone I know is in a state of denial, so they wouldn't find this stuff interesting or worthwhile, because they are just fine, thank you very much .

[lurkyloo]

I think you should give him the URL for the old boards

[thyme4change]

Tell him what you posted first, and after he has cooled down - send the link.

It helps if you are wearing lacy underpants and he is drunk or eating.

[Wisconsin Beth]

I sympathize. I'd like to get DH over here but I'm not sure he'd be comfortable with the information I've put out here (and on MSN) over the years. On other side of the coin, you can't get GOOD info/help if you don't present a complete picture.

[Gardening Grandma]

On other side of the coin, you can't get GOOD info/help if you don't present a complete picture.

My thought exactly. One reason that I'm comfortable posting very detailed information is the anonymity. If I knew DH were reading, I could not be as blunt.

Of course, it's unlikely. He hates dealing with financial issues. But he'd be pizzed if he knew that I posted that....

ETa - My avatar is back!!!

[Wisconsin Beth]

Yeah, it's not so much the financial details, because he can see the logic of why it's important to have a complete picture. It's the odds and ends I've let slip/vented about from our personal lives that would be the problem.

ETA to change pronouns.

[sheilaincali]

GG-- back on the old boards I really only posted on the WIR (specifically the controlled spend threads). DH was bored one day and started reading through old posts. At the time I felt really violated like he was reading my email or diary or something. Now (a few years wiser) it doesn't bother me but I had to warn him "these are my people so I get to say whatever I want"

Not knowing how easy going your DH is I would either have a mod delete the thread you are worried about or forget to send him the link.

[Gardening Grandma]

Apr 1, 2011 15:50:30 GMT -5 sheilaincali said:

GG-- back on the old boards I really only posted on the WIR (specifically the controlled spend threads). DH was bored one day and started reading through old posts. At the time I felt really violated like he was reading my email or diary or something. Now (a few years wiser) it doesn't bother me but I had to warn him "these are my people so I get to say whatever I want"

Not knowing how easy going your DH is I would either have a mod delete the thread you are worried about or forget to send him the link.

Well, I cut and pasted the thread (after deleting my own posts). That seemed to satisfy him and he's not really curious about personal finance.....
You guys had some great suggestions (but then, I knew you would).... ;D

[debtheaven]

Glad it worked out GG! I didn't post because I really didn't know what to suggest. I loved Lurkyloo's suggestion but I wasn't sure it would work LOL.

My DH is a total ditz so I could easily have just "forgotten" to do what I said I would, but depending on your DH, that might not have worked either.