GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl
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Post by GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl on Jan 6, 2018 12:50:49 GMT -5
😏. I thought he was being sarcastically humorous and laughed when I read it...? Some aren’t capable of grasping sarcasm let alone creating it. Ouch! You two should just get a room and get on with it. 😏
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Post by Deleted on Jan 6, 2018 12:52:06 GMT -5
Some aren’t capable of grasping sarcasm let alone creating it. Ouch! You two should just get a room and get on with it. 😏 Only if you join.
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daisy
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Post by daisy on Jan 6, 2018 13:01:26 GMT -5
Dh and I are both huggers...under certain circumstances I tend to hug without asking/thinking about it (meeting a fellow cancer survivor) but I normally ask. I've been training DH to ask - he hugs everyone and I had to explain that sometimes it's not welcome. But he's like that puppy that just has to slobber all over you and jump in your lap
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MJ2.0
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jan 6, 2018 13:05:20 GMT -5
I can be a hugger or not, depends on the person and situation. I grew up with very good, very Italian friends so not hugging at all isn't an option, lol.
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GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl
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Post by GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl on Jan 6, 2018 13:54:19 GMT -5
Ouch! You two should just get a room and get on with it. 😏 Only if you join. In your dreams. 😂
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dee27
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Post by dee27 on Jan 6, 2018 13:57:48 GMT -5
DH and I are huggers, but if it is someone we don't really know, we shake hands.
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thyme4change
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Post by thyme4change on Jan 6, 2018 14:06:52 GMT -5
I undid my husband's tendencies to hug co-workers. Now he tries to hug me 14 hours a day. It is over a hundred degrees 150 days per year here. I need some space!
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MJ2.0
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jan 6, 2018 18:00:39 GMT -5
I undid my husband's tendencies to hug co-workers. Now he tries to hug me 14 hours a day. It is over a hundred degrees 150 days per year here. I need some space! What do you mean? Did you tell him to stop hugging co-workers?
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zibazinski
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Post by zibazinski on Jan 6, 2018 18:08:16 GMT -5
That’s creepy
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Miss Tequila
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Post by Miss Tequila on Jan 7, 2018 8:02:39 GMT -5
But how much of it is cultural? Like I said in an above post, when I was working in Brazil is was very normal to hug and kiss everyone. No asking. upon greeting, everyone leans in for a hug and kiss on the cheek. Everyone says that people like me who do not want to see other people naked are just conforming to what we were taught. So how much of our "don't touch me or it is harassment" is just learned behavior? I'm not offended by someone hugging me but I do think it is awkard at work because I have been so conditioned to everything being inappropriate at work. But when I was hugged in Brazil I didn't think "harassment or inappropriate"...
When in Rome.................. One of my good friends is Greek. She is very huggy/kissy, but tones in down when she's in the US. When she comes back from visiting family in Greece, it's fun to watch her try to remember not to hug, lol. But that is point. Is there really an issue with hugging? Or in the US are we programmed to automatically think any touch is a bad touch? In other countries it is the norm. Why is a simple hug considered harassment in the US unless a person asks first?
I laugh because in other threads I've been told the fact that I don't think everyone should be naked is nothing more that social norms and that we should all get past that. Isn't hugging kind of the same thing?
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MJ2.0
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jan 7, 2018 21:18:39 GMT -5
I don't know. I think there is a difference between wanting to not see certain things and not wanting to be touched by every person you interact with. Also, since we are a country of immigrants, we don't really have a "culture". People in the US are all over the board regarding just about all cultural and social norms. There are times when I'm totally fine being hugged and such (most of the time) and there are times when I don't want anyone near me.
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