DD and potty training

[countrygirl2]

My DIL is having a time with little guy, he will be 2 in June. She hasn't forced him or made a big deal. They have pottys

and a potty seat. He is afraid of the potty seat and will not go on the potty. She said now he will take his diaper off

and poop on the floor. I said what!! At this point I might smack his butt. I agree with not making it a big issue but really.

I'm going to send training pants, she is having a hard time getting them big enough there, those kids are smaller. She

should have asked sooner, will send with a package of stuff I have for his birthday.

She said at daycare he is well behaved and home he is not, he isn't mean, just busy.  While we were talking he was trying

karoke, he was having fun with it.  He drinks from a cup at daycare, at home will just throw the cup, away and so she ends

up giving him a sippy cup. She said he laughs all time he is doing this. I can see the little imp in him just like his dad, but I

must admit the potty thing is unusual to me. I never had a problem getting both of the kids to use it and they weren't early.

Son was 2, DD was earlier.

I think when they get here which will be year end they are likely to leave him with us a few weeks.  We will see, but I bet

I straighten his act up, grandkid or no, that won't go here.  She said they used to stay at grandmas for the summer in the

country.  We will gladly do it if we are still able, have to see how that goes.  DD is thrilled by the idea of him being here,

I bet until she realizes she won't get undivided attention.

She said he is understanding Korean, she said I can read a lot of it but can't speak it very well, its very hard. I know he

understand Russian. He is babbling but with 3 languages, I don't know what or when he will be speaking much. 

Thoughts on this??

[taz157]

Your grandson is still a little young to be potty trained.  Personally, I wouldn't try until he seems ready.  It would cause more frustration on both sides to push it.

FWIW, we didn't start potty training our DD until she was 2.5 years old and she was trained in about a month.  The daycare we used worked with her on this, and did it under our guidelines.  We used Gerber training pants and after a few wet pants and the promise to wear the underwear she picked out, she got it!

As an FYI, I have a co-worker who is sending her DS (will be 3 soon) to preschool so that they can potty-train him.     Before she had her son, she was convinced her son would be potty-trained by the time he was 10 months old.  Needless to say, that didn't happen.

[Pants]

May 1, 2017 9:54:50 GMT -5 countrygirl2 said:

My DIL is having a time with little guy, he will be 2 in June. She hasn't forced him or made a big deal. They have pottys

and a potty seat. He is afraid of the potty seat and will not go on the potty. She said now he will take his diaper off

and poop on the floor. I said what!! At this point I might smack his butt. I agree with not making it a big issue but really.

I'm going to send training pants, she is having a hard time getting them big enough there, those kids are smaller. She

should have asked sooner, will send with a package of stuff I have for his birthday.

She said at daycare he is well behaved and home he is not, he isn't mean, just busy.  While we were talking he was trying

karoke, he was having fun with it.  He drinks from a cup at daycare, at home will just throw the cup, away and so she ends

up giving him a sippy cup. She said he laughs all time he is doing this. I can see the little imp in him just like his dad, but I

must admit the potty thing is unusual to me. I never had a problem getting both of the kids to use it and they weren't early.

Son was 2, DD was earlier.

I think when they get here which will be year end they are likely to leave him with us a few weeks.  We will see, but I bet

I straighten his act up, grandkid or no, that won't go here.  She said they used to stay at grandmas for the summer in the

country.  We will gladly do it if we are still able, have to see how that goes.  DD is thrilled by the idea of him being here,

I bet until she realizes she won't get undivided attention.

She said he is understanding Korean, she said I can read a lot of it but can't speak it very well, its very hard. I know he

understand Russian. He is babbling but with 3 languages, I don't know what or when he will be speaking much. 

Thoughts on this??

Literally all of this is normal. Medical evidence says kids shouldn't potty train really till around 3.

[Bluerobin]

Your DIL is reinforcing the kid's bad behavior.  If he throws the cup, so be it.  No sippy cup, etc. 

[zibazinski]

They'll let you know it seems. DD came late to her two year old class because she had a January birthday so she was moved up when she was two. All the other kids were pretty well potty trained and they'd line up to go potty before every new event. She didn't want to wear pull-ups or diapers in front of the other kids. So we bought her Little Mermaid underwear and that pretty much did it. Night time was different and if she got too involved there could be accidents but not often. Everyone says boys are harder and I believe it. I'm amazed DS was ever potty trained and he's in his 30's.

[countrygirl2]

Apparently in Russia its different, sounds like they are pretty strict.

I don't think they are in Korea, she and son aren't to concerned, nor

neither am I. I told her I bet at day care that messing his pants will

stop pretty quick. He won't like others making fun of him.

They are trying, but I remember son well, he was and is one hard

headed kid.

Just wondering, never heard of that one before.

[swamp]

My kids were over 3 when potty trained.

And for the other stuff, kids are assholes.

[whoisjohngalt]

May 1, 2017 11:35:53 GMT -5 countrygirl2 said:

Apparently in Russia its different, sounds like they are pretty strict.

I don't think they are in Korea, she and son aren't to concerned, nor

neither am I. I told her I bet at day care that messing his pants will

stop pretty quick. He won't like others making fun of him.

They are trying, but I remember son well, he was and is one hard

headed kid.

Just wondering, never heard of that one before.

It has nothing to do with strictness.  It just parents didn't feel like washing cloth diapers for 2-3-4 yrs.  We didn't have disposable diapers or wipes.  Also, women had one year of maternity leave and it was fairly easy to do while you are home with the kid.  It might all different now, though

If the kid is not trained by 1, you really should wait until they are ready bc otherwise it's too hard to do it. 

[Value Buy]

Girls seem to like to learn to potty train early.
Boys, not so much.
Boys are more like 2 1/2 to 3 yrs before making the transition, based on my boys and grand boys.
Girls seem to like to get out of the crap at an earlier age

[bean29]

Neither of my kids was 100% Potty trained at 2. DD potty trained closer to 2, but DS was 3+.

My SIL had good success with her son, by putting cheerios in the toilet and encouraging him to "Aim" for them.  My kids never used a "potty chair". We put the insert in the toilet to make it "kid sized" and they used the regular toilet. I had a potty chair, but they did not want anything to do with it. We decided that was just fine, as it was a tight squeeze to fit a potty chair in our bathroom at the time.

On language development. My in-laws speak Spanish for the most part at home. They were my primary caregivers. In-laws also babysat for several other grandbabies at various times. DH says that I sometimes could not understand our oldest when he first started talking b/c he was talking in Spanish, not English.   I did not understand that clearly at the time.  Language development experts say that toddlers learn multiple languages better if the same people always speak the same language to them.  We had to keep reminding the in-laws not to speak English or worse (Spanglish) to our kids.

We have friends in Chicago that are a very tight knit Mexican American Family.  When they have parties, it is Business Associates, College Friends, Co-workers, Aunts, Uncles and Cousins.  One of the Mexican American Friends married a girl from Poland.  They have 2 kids about 7 and 5.  The Mom speaks perfect English and Polish and pretty good Spanish.  Her Parents spend about 6 months a year in Poland and about 6 months a year in Chi.  Those two boys speak English, Spanish and Polish.  It is very amusing when we go to family events b/c they sing "Happy Birthday" in all 3 languages and all the cousins, even the ones who don't speak full Polish have learned the words to "Happy Birthday" in Polish.  I think this was helped along, b/c one of the Cousins of Dh's friend Married a guy with Polish background, he spoke Polish to his Grandparents when he was little but had pretty much forgotten it.   I think his parents taught their Grandchildren the words too, and then other cousins picked up the challenge. 

Remind your Son and DIL that the same person should always speak the same language to your Grandson so that he differentiates the languages.  Someone better be speaking English to him consistently or he will be very frustrated when he gets here.  I don't know if you can find a Korean community near where your Son will live in the US - it might be wise to find a Korean day care provider for your grandson to ease the transition.

Good Luck!

[zibazinski]

How wonderful to learn all those languages!!

[countrygirl2]

Son speaks English, daughter in law speaks English and Russian to him, but I bet more Russian. His grandma calls I think

about everyday, Russian. He is immersed totally in Korean at the daycare, she said she can see he understands it. Of

course, she says see here is babushka, that's me.  So we have a mix.

She said he isn't very interested in other kids but is now recognizing and speaking to his daycare teacher. He sounds like

me, he reacts more to adults then kids his age, she said he isn't much interested in playing with them and was worried

something was wrong with him. I told her I doubt it seriously. Then she said she was pretty solo growing up too.

I'm sure they worry with his sister with problems but he does not look to me like he has any problems other then

being spoiled rotten which I bet he is.  Karma is biting son in the butt big time.  His kid is just like him and he

is admitting it.

[countrygirl2]

They will be near an army base somewhere so I'm sure there will be Koreans, but I bet he loses it. If they stayed

there he would probably be fluent in time but not this way.