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Post by taz157 on Apr 28, 2017 11:45:42 GMT -5
Um...what kind of oopsie? Because in my world, that word is reserved for a pretty specific type. Oh, yes. Oh, yes. And I'm only saying it here, because it's killing me not to say anything in real life. We want to wait minimally until we know if it's viable. And I know I'm going to get judged all to kindgom come about this. Congrats!  Also, congrats on getting into grad school! |
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Post by taz157 on Apr 28, 2017 11:45:59 GMT -5
Good thoughts for you giramomma. And no judging here.  |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 28, 2017 11:51:05 GMT -5
Um...what kind of oopsie? Because in my world, that word is reserved for a pretty specific type. Oh, yes. Oh, yes. And I'm only saying it here, because it's killing me not to say anything in real life. We want to wait minimally until we know if it's viable. And I know I'm going to get judged all to kindgom come about this. No judgement here at all. Only wishing the best for you and your family. Everything will work out. |
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Post by giramomma on Apr 28, 2017 11:57:48 GMT -5
Oh, yes. Oh, yes. And I'm only saying it here, because it's killing me not to say anything in real life. We want to wait minimally until we know if it's viable. And I know I'm going to get judged all to kindgom come about this. No judgement here at all. Only wishing the best for you and your family. Everything will work out. Actually, for it being poor timing...it's not so bad. We've got more access to resources than we had when we were younger, in terms of people helping and all that. My retirement plans aren't completely ruined. We are still pretty shocked, though. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 28, 2017 12:00:40 GMT -5
Didn't you have to do fertility treatments with the others?
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Post by taz157 on Apr 28, 2017 12:11:55 GMT -5
No judgement here at all. Only wishing the best for you and your family. Everything will work out. Actually, for it being poor timing...it's not so bad. We've got more access to resources than we had when we were younger, in terms of people helping and all that. My retirement plans aren't completely ruined. We are still pretty shocked, though. When did you find out? |
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Post by Lizard Queen on Apr 28, 2017 12:21:34 GMT -5
Oh, yes. Oh, yes. And I'm only saying it here, because it's killing me not to say anything in real life. We want to wait minimally until we know if it's viable. And I know I'm going to get judged all to kindgom come about this. No judgement here at all. Only wishing the best for you and your family. Everything will work out. |
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Post by NastyWoman on Apr 28, 2017 12:58:32 GMT -5
Didn't you have to do fertility treatments with the others? I believe she did and that may be the source of "we are pretty shocked". I remember receiving a phone call from DSIS4 that was similar to that. She asked me if I was sitting down, I was not → I am flat on my back at 1AM and she forgot about the time difference, and then she told me. Funniest thing of that call, which I'll never let her live down, towards the end she said something along the lines of "who would have thought you can also get pregnant just by having sex"  In her defense there were 10 years of trying and 2 "IVF babies" in her life by that time. Won't stop me from yanking her chain though... |
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Apr 28, 2017 13:34:43 GMT -5
Um...what kind of oopsie? Because in my world, that word is reserved for a pretty specific type. Oh, yes. Oh, yes. And I'm only saying it here, because it's killing me not to say anything in real life. We want to wait minimally until we know if it's viable. And I know I'm going to get judged all to kindgom come about this. I'm going to borrow Cael for a minute...  I'm kidding. I have no idea what your personal story is so I'll say Congrats! You got a cat, right?  |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 28, 2017 13:45:29 GMT -5
Sitting at a bar 17 floors off the ground staring at the snow capped mountains of Switzerland and Jack n cokes are $15 a pop, tonight it's gonna cost me probably $150 to be me, plus train fare.
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Post by giramomma on Apr 28, 2017 13:52:07 GMT -5
Didn't you have to do fertility treatments with the others? Yes. The third I had to stick myself with drugs and get an IUI. That's the one that I like to joke that DH managed to knock me up when he wasn't even in the same building. We've still be good about using BC. We've gone rogue once a month or so. And yes, normally I don't ovulate without drugs. We just told DS. He was like "OMG. You are old! How did this happen?" I asked if he needed me to draw pictures for him. He declined. |
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Post by giramomma on Apr 28, 2017 13:53:18 GMT -5
Actually, for it being poor timing...it's not so bad. We've got more access to resources than we had when we were younger, in terms of people helping and all that. My retirement plans aren't completely ruined. We are still pretty shocked, though. When did you find out? Wednesday. My first Drs appointment is in 2 weeks. Anyone got a time machine to make it go faster? |
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Post by NoNamePerson on Apr 28, 2017 13:58:30 GMT -5
Sitting at a bar 17 floors off the ground staring at the snow capped mountains of Switzerland and Jack n cokes are $15 a pop, tonight it's gonna cost me probably $150 to be me, plus train fare. Bite me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  |
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Post by zibazinski on Apr 28, 2017 14:36:24 GMT -5
Didn't you have to do fertility treatments with the others? Yes. The third I had to stick myself with drugs and get an IUI. That's the one that I like to joke that DH managed to knock me up when he wasn't even in the same building. We've still be good about using BC. We've gone rogue once a month or so. And yes, normally I don't ovulate without drugs. We just told DS. He was like "OMG. You are old! How did this happen?" I asked if he needed me to draw pictures for him. He declined. 😂🎉🎊🎈 |
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Post by NastyWoman on Apr 28, 2017 14:53:39 GMT -5
I'll take responsibility for 1/3 of the family's monthly expenses, so 2.3K.
We live in a VHCOLA! I am single and live in the same VHCOLA area as quince . Since I paid off my mortgage the cost of being me is ~$2.2k/month. I do like to travel and celebrate holidays lavishly so that is included in the $2.2k.
Someone keep me away from toys and stuff around Xmas time please...
ETA: no don't you dare. I love it too much 
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Post by countrygirl2 on Apr 28, 2017 16:55:10 GMT -5
I just finished adding in medicare and supplement so fixed costs for us before any other spending, is $1000 a month, $12000 a year. Nothing in this pertaining to business, its separate.
That's just ins, property taxes, health insurance and registrations.
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Post by NastyWoman on Apr 28, 2017 17:07:09 GMT -5
I just finished adding in medicare and supplement so fixed costs for us before any other spending, is $1000 a month, $12000 a year. Nothing in this pertaining to business, its separate.
That's just ins, property taxes, health insurance and registrations.
Unless you add in food somewhere that cost is going to go down to zero pretty darn quickly  |
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Post by countrygirl2 on Apr 28, 2017 21:35:40 GMT -5
I was just looking at basics that will not go away. I can adjust food costs. I'm getting ready to plant a big garden again, since I can a bunch, I do keep food costs down. Could bake bread, etc if I would and reduce more. We are frugal on some things and spend way to much on others.
I have been trying to really see what all our basic tax and insurance costs are on everything. Pretty damn high, you never really own anything. |
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Post by cronewitch on Apr 29, 2017 13:55:56 GMT -5
I don't have an actual budget. I guess I spend about 30K a year not counting medical and dental or emergencies. Last year I spent over 22K on just dentist. Is giving money to people considered a cost of being me?
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Post by countrygirl2 on Apr 29, 2017 15:53:07 GMT -5
I know that ours is $5000 a month plus, trying to get that down since we are pulling from savings to do that. If we ever get all the houses rented 2 more, we will be fine, but he has so much to do and now he is doing some volunteering. We can live on less but we have not been depriving ourselves.
I am likely spending $500 for the duck concession we are doing for our local festival. We bought a stock tank and pump, hubby is fixing it up, I just ordered over $200 of prizes and ducks. Just stuff like that.
Until last month I was still tweeking insurance and stuff, hubbys last company return also. I have a better handle on it all and we just need to spend less period. It's very hard to adjust down from what he was making even though we saved a lot of it. It's him too, not just me and its finally sinking in. |
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Post by naughtybear on Apr 29, 2017 18:33:01 GMT -5
And there is my third.
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Post by zibazinski on Apr 29, 2017 20:36:05 GMT -5
I'm going to keep track of what I'm going to spend on this house. I feel like I'm going to leak money. I made a list of what needs to be done now and what can wait. There's screens that need to be repaired. Since I'm not going to be opening my windows for several months, that can wait. Landscaping to have everything plants, flowers, and bark dust, no grass, that'll wait as well. Electric and plumbing and roof-now as well as interior paint. No waiting. Depending on that cost, the master bath and kitchen. Then the hall bath. Gasp.
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Post by dee27 on Apr 29, 2017 23:10:18 GMT -5
Please post pictures of the updates, Zib.
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Post by Nazgul Girl on Apr 30, 2017 4:55:57 GMT -5
Congrats giramomma !! and congrats on your new house, zib.
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Post by countrygirl2 on May 1, 2017 9:39:23 GMT -5
I told my husband, we will be able to live well once we start taking RMD out, that will be $20k a year before taxes for 20 years, we will be 90 by then. And there is other money saved.
He says what, we are putting that in CD's every year. I told him he is crazy, we are supposed to pinch pennies for what? I think he will change his mind once the kids get home, we want to go see them, do things with them, etc and that costs money.
This man will try to save money after he is in the grave. LOL!
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Post by Deleted on May 2, 2017 17:02:44 GMT -5
Giramomma, no judging and positive thoughts for you.
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Post by zibazinski on May 2, 2017 17:13:25 GMT -5
Should I just replace the sink and refrigerator, I can hopefully sell the old refrigerator as it's SS and less than 2 years old? I have always wanted an apron or farm sink. We didn't do it up north because we would have had to replace all the granite and some cabinets. This wouldn't be the case here. There's very little counterspace and it's not anything remotely expensive so I don't feel guilty. I will get two prices of course, one with the new sink and countertops and one just with the new sink. My aunt says I can always redo it later but I know i never will if I don't do it up front. Ack. These decisions will do me in.
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