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Post by Deleted on Feb 24, 2016 12:11:15 GMT -5
I remember when I went in the 90's some kids in Jr. High and High School being ruthless in picking on people and the school staff witnessed it and did nothing about it. I wish I would have done something to stop it but at the time feared having it turned on me. Small communities are the worst, you are a captive prisoner being in the same school and classes year after year with the same people. I can't imagine how bad it would have been with social media.
I do enjoy knowing now that the bullies are still stuck in that small community with crap jobs while a couple of the kids that were really picked on went to bigger and better things.
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Post by wvugurl26 on Feb 24, 2016 12:24:09 GMT -5
I remember when I went in the 90's some kids in Jr. High and High School being ruthless in picking on people and the school staff witnessed it and did nothing about it. I wish I would have done something to stop it but at the time feared having it turned on me. Small communities are the worst, you are a captive prisoner being in the same school and classes year after year with the same people. I can't imagine how bad it would have been with social media. I do enjoy knowing now that the bullies are still stuck in that small community with crap jobs while a couple of the kids that were really picked on went to bigger and better things. Yeah I noticed a year ago that one of the girls who threatened me with physical violence throughout junior high moved back from Florida. Her new job was one I did over the summer as a college freshman with next to no experience. 10 years later I had a professional license in two states and a great job and the best job she can get is one I did years ago. I don't dwell on it but it does show that things will probably get better. It's hard to look that far ahead when you are living it though. I imagine it's much harder now with social media. I was in college when Facebook came out and you needed a .edu address to sign up. We had cell phones but they were those little Nokia ones. No one was texting. Or sexting. Digital cameras weren't of a very good quality yet.
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Post by lexxy703 on Feb 24, 2016 12:24:40 GMT -5
I'm so sorry for this young girl & her family. And all others who suffer so much they feel the answer is permanently ending it all. It is hard to understand.
I was neither popular nor picked on in high school. I had my small group of friends & we just went our own way. I'm not sure if many people from my graduating class would remember me.
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Post by shanendoah on Feb 24, 2016 16:38:28 GMT -5
So sorry for the young girl and her family.
And while I appreciate the "it gets better" message, that may help some pre-teens/teens, but not all of them. Because, sadly, for many who experience suicidal or self-harm ideation, it will not magically get better on it's own. It requires those mental health services mentioned in the first post, and sometime, even then, it may not help.
I say this as the mother of a 12 year old who suffers from anxiety and added depression to the mix this year. January was a terrible month and she experience self-harm ideation. This is a child who is already in therapy, whose parents are aware, familiar, and (sadly) experienced in this sort of issue. And yet, we can't stop the ideation. For now, we take solace in the fact that she is telling us (and her therapist) about the ideation and not hiding it or trying to follow through. But who knows how that will change as she gets older?
It gets better is a great mantra, but we have to make sure that it actually can (and does) get better. Depression is a disease that needs to be treated, and simply graduating high school is not a cure.
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Post by zibazinski on Feb 24, 2016 17:31:58 GMT -5
So sorry for the young girl and her family.
And while I appreciate the "it gets better" message, that may help some pre-teens/teens, but not all of them. Because, sadly, for many who experience suicidal or self-harm ideation, it will not magically get better on it's own. It requires those mental health services mentioned in the first post, and sometime, even then, it may not help.
I say this as the mother of a 12 year old who suffers from anxiety and added depression to the mix this year. January was a terrible month and she experience self-harm ideation. This is a child who is already in therapy, whose parents are aware, familiar, and (sadly) experienced in this sort of issue. And yet, we can't stop the ideation. For now, we take solace in the fact that she is telling us (and her therapist) about the ideation and not hiding it or trying to follow through. But who knows how that will change as she gets older?
It gets better is a great mantra, but we have to make sure that it actually can (and does) get better. Depression is a disease that needs to be treated, and simply graduating high school is not a cure. Very true. Even though mentally I know I will get better, I ended up needing meds. It irks me but it is what it is.
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Post by Phoenix84 on Feb 24, 2016 19:05:09 GMT -5
I'm surprised so many people had such a hard time in high school.
While high school wasn't all roses and sunshine, for me it was pretty manageable. And it's not like I was a popular kid, far from it. I was socially awkward and never had many friends. But I never had much trouble with bullying.
Maybe it's because I've always been a big guy, bigger than most everyone else. Maybe it's because I went to a fairly affluent school in the suburbs. Maybe it's because I was a introvert and social pressure didn't really affect me much (i.e. I didn't really care what others thought of me).
But I never had major problems.
For a point of reference, I graduated high school in 2003, so not THAT long ago.
Anyway, sorry to hear about this girl's suicide.
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