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Post by cael on Sept 4, 2015 7:30:55 GMT -5
Hey I was 30 before I got my first (and only so far) tattoo, and recently I've been considering a nose stud, at 32. sometimes it takes that long to decide you really want it, and that's ok! I know so many professional people who have piercings or tattoos, I feel it's pretty normal now - within reason obviously. My 70-yo dad is trying to convince my mom to let him get a tattoo on his arm like his dad had - his dad was a boxer in Philly when he was young, and had "Richie Sal" (shortened version of his name) tattooed on his arm. FFS I told him if he's serious he should just do it - but if my mother put up that much of a stink, he never would. My mom also complained when I got my tattoo... which I have had many people including several older church friends of theirs say is very classy and they love it. (I have an infinity on my upper back, only visible if I wear a tank top or low back shirt) The Captain - go for it! Worst case scenario you don't like it and you take the earrings out. I thought about second piercings for a while, but I almost never wear earrings in the piercings I have, so what would the point be lol. I do wear a stud in my cartilage piercing all the time though.
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Post by The Captain on Sept 4, 2015 7:59:26 GMT -5
So those who actually remember anything that I post know I'm pretty much a plain vanilla, almost as conservative as they get, tax professional. No tattoos, only one piercing in each ear, no hair color etc. Really as milk and white bread as they get. When I was younger I promised myself I'd get a second set of piercings in my ears when I passed the CPA exam as an incentive. Well, that never happened. Several milestones have come and gone and I still never did it because the original goal was never achieved. So why am I considering a second set of piercings now? I'm set in my career, have nothing to prove (and actually will raise a few eyebrows at my ultra conservative company if I do it) and have a teen daughter I need to set a (conservative) example for. It's not like I need to act out a rebellious phase of youth. Maybe I should just get a small tat somewhere only DH could see? But then the tattoo artist would have to see that area and well, I'm conservative and all, so we know the dilemma here, right? Ok, fine. I'll just go back to my numbers. Lol! You consider a second ear piercing "going rogue"? Honey, that's still very vanilla. I know, right?!?
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Post by The Captain on Sept 4, 2015 8:01:01 GMT -5
Then how about having the stones reset so that you can wear them?? Goodness... I see we need a field trip to gather up some YMAM folks get them drunk and take them to the tattoo/piercing parlor I really am opposed to tattoos...and yet I think I should get one... Copious amounts of alcohol could squelch my absolutely sane reasons why this would be a bad idea and yet I kinda want to do it anyway And who am I? Whenever I think about politicians who flip flop, I have to look at my own views on tattoos are bad/I want one. See, I think this is so freaking hilarious cause I like your avatar so much I'm thinking about that for a tat....
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Post by The Captain on Sept 4, 2015 8:02:40 GMT -5
So those who actually remember anything that I post know I'm pretty much a plain vanilla, almost as conservative as they get, tax professional. No tattoos, only one piercing in each ear, no hair color etc. Really as milk and white bread as they get. When I was younger I promised myself I'd get a second set of piercings in my ears when I passed the CPA exam as an incentive. Well, that never happened. Several milestones have come and gone and I still never did it because the original goal was never achieved. So why am I considering a second set of piercings now? I'm set in my career, have nothing to prove (and actually will raise a few eyebrows at my ultra conservative company if I do it) and have a teen daughter I need to set a (conservative) example for. It's not like I need to act out a rebellious phase of youth. Maybe I should just get a small tat somewhere only DH could see? But then the tattoo artist would have to see that area and well, I'm conservative and all, so we know the dilemma here, right?Ok, fine. I'll just go back to my numbers. Simple solution... buy DH tattoo lessons and his own tattoo ink and machine... Nope, Nope, Nope! The man can't draw a straight line. Besides, doesn't it involve a needle? You think I'm letting him near me with a sharp object?
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Post by wvugurl26 on Sept 4, 2015 8:19:52 GMT -5
Needles don't bother me at all. That being said I've never come up with something I think I want on me forever.
I have single ear piercings. Trying to go double could be problematic. I have the original piercings from when I was a kid. They got messed up from constant ear infections. They had closed up I thought but I can still get earrings through them. The one is too low to the bottom of my lobe.
These posts about conservative make me happy that I can be business casual in the office and only need to break out the conservative stuff on site for audits. Which are very few for me. When I worked in public accounting open toed heels seemed risque.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Sept 4, 2015 8:45:02 GMT -5
I got a temporary tat when I was in Vegas. Loved it and it lasted about three weeks, but I had to be careful about washing it. I will say that it shocked folks when they first saw it - but that was my intent.
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Post by The Captain on Sept 4, 2015 8:57:15 GMT -5
Needles don't bother me at all. That being said I've never come up with something I think I want on me forever. I have single ear piercings. Trying to go double could be problematic. I have the original piercings from when I was a kid. They got messed up from constant ear infections. They had closed up I thought but I can still get earrings through them. The one is too low to the bottom of my lobe. These posts about conservative make me happy that I can be business casual in the office and only need to break out the conservative stuff on site for audits. Which are very few for me. When I worked in public accounting open toed heels seemed risque. Our dress code explicitly states shoes have to have closed toes and backs. Even on jeans days (like maybe 4X a year for charity) we can't wear gym shoes. We're THAT conservative. It is what it is. I'm well paid, get a fair amount of respect, and get to run my function with almost no interference (which is gold, I tell you, gold!). As with everything there are positives and negatives. I know it's hard to understand there are still pockets of ultra-conservatism out there if you haven't encountered them, but trust me they still exist. A double ear piercing will raise a few eyebrows in the E-suite. Remember, these are guys in ties and cufflinks every freaking day. I'm thinking a double piercing in the lobes with small diamond studs as a perm fixture.
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Post by wvugurl26 on Sept 4, 2015 9:06:58 GMT -5
I go into DC enough where if you aren't in a suit and tie every day you are underdressed. I've been in the conservative firm and I was hardly well paid at $39k and salaried. Happy to be where I'm at now.
I can pull out the conservative for audits or dealing with the DC crowd but the rest of the time it's business casual except for meetings with certain people. Today's a polo, jeans and sneakers. Monday will be a skirt, blouse and heels. Closed back is hell for me because of a narrow heel. I gravitate to open back because it's easier. I don't waste hours trying to find a pair that will work.
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Post by The Captain on Sept 4, 2015 9:19:57 GMT -5
I go into DC enough where if you aren't in a suit and tie every day you are underdressed. I've been in the conservative firm and I was hardly well paid at $39k and salaried. Happy to be where I'm at now. I can pull out the conservative for audits or dealing with the DC crowd but the rest of the time it's business casual except for meetings with certain people. Today's a polo, jeans and sneakers. Monday will be a skirt, blouse and heels. Closed back is hell for me because of a narrow heel. I gravitate to open back because it's easier. I don't waste hours trying to find a pair that will work. Jealous!!! Seriously...I harp on the E-wing about our dress policy all the time. Sure if you are meeting with someone external you should put on the monkey suit but what is accomplished by having to go business professional every day? Since so many other companies are more casual it is a bit of a downer. I can't remember the last time I wore jeans to work on a weekday.
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Post by flamingo on Sept 4, 2015 9:32:33 GMT -5
I go into DC enough where if you aren't in a suit and tie every day you are underdressed. I've been in the conservative firm and I was hardly well paid at $39k and salaried. Happy to be where I'm at now. I can pull out the conservative for audits or dealing with the DC crowd but the rest of the time it's business casual except for meetings with certain people. Today's a polo, jeans and sneakers. Monday will be a skirt, blouse and heels. Closed back is hell for me because of a narrow heel. I gravitate to open back because it's easier. I don't waste hours trying to find a pair that will work. Jealous!!! Seriously...I harp on the E-wing about our dress policy all the time. Sure if you are meeting with someone external you should put on the monkey suit but what is accomplished by having to go business professional every day? Since so many other companies are more casual it is a bit of a downer. I can't remember the last time I wore jeans to work on a weekday. My first job was like this. Business professional every day (suites and closed toe/heeled shoes), for the "professionals" in the office. Support staff could be more business casual, but jeans were never allowed, even on the days that you could pay/donate to a charity to wear jeans. Other offices were much more relaxed, but my boss was old-fashioned and believed suits made a difference in how people acted and were perceived. Every place I've worked since then has been business casual. Where I work now is much more casual than business, with jeans allowed every Friday, and sandals allowed in the summer. I am much happier here
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Post by wvugurl26 on Sept 4, 2015 9:33:34 GMT -5
That policy came from our current big boss. He started as an IT guy so he's very much not into wearing a tie every day. The dress code has relaxed since I started. We did not ever wear jeans when I started. It's gone more to business casual/dress for your day and jeans on Friday. We also wear jeans sometimes right before Christmas because so many people are out on use or lose leave. No one is here to see!!
My aunt used to work for Vanguard and they required a jacket every day except for the summer. A few years after she left they let up on the dress code. They couldn't hire new talented people because they didn't want to wear a jacket every day. And the economy had improved enough that they had options.
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Post by imanangel on Sept 5, 2015 8:51:12 GMT -5
I have 4 tattoos, one pretty much covers my entire upper thigh. I have them all in places that I can still appear conservative at work. In Italy, my tattoos didn't matter, neither did my nose piercing. Here in Texas, holy poop are people conservative. If I get a job in the school, I cannot have any piercings other than my ears. I cannot have any visible tattoos, if I do, I have to cover them with a band aid. I do not do well in such restrictive, conservative environments.
I do not think my tattoos or piercings make me a rebel, a bad mom, or a bad employee. It really makes me sad that it is still viewed that way by so many here (here as in the U.S.)
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Post by Pants on Sept 5, 2015 10:29:29 GMT -5
I have 4 tattoos, one pretty much covers my entire upper thigh. I have them all in places that I can still appear conservative at work. In Italy, my tattoos didn't matter, neither did my nose piercing. Here in Texas, holy poop are people conservative. If I get a job in the school, I cannot have any piercings other than my ears. I cannot have any visible tattoos, if I do, I have to cover them with a band aid. I do not do well in such restrictive, conservative environments. I do not think my tattoos or piercings make me a rebel, a bad mom, or a bad employee. It really makes me sad that it is still viewed that way by so many here (here as in the U.S.) Tsk tsk, don't you know piercings and tattoos are not classy and also (wait for it)... DISTRACTING.
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Post by zibazinski on Sept 5, 2015 10:59:03 GMT -5
I have 4 tattoos, one pretty much covers my entire upper thigh. I have them all in places that I can still appear conservative at work. In Italy, my tattoos didn't matter, neither did my nose piercing. Here in Texas, holy poop are people conservative. If I get a job in the school, I cannot have any piercings other than my ears. I cannot have any visible tattoos, if I do, I have to cover them with a band aid. I do not do well in such restrictive, conservative environments. I do not think my tattoos or piercings make me a rebel, a bad mom, or a bad employee. It really makes me sad that it is still viewed that way by so many here (here as in the U.S.) Hey, what happened with your daughter and her nose?
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Post by imanangel on Sept 5, 2015 11:40:54 GMT -5
I have 4 tattoos, one pretty much covers my entire upper thigh. I have them all in places that I can still appear conservative at work. In Italy, my tattoos didn't matter, neither did my nose piercing. Here in Texas, holy poop are people conservative. If I get a job in the school, I cannot have any piercings other than my ears. I cannot have any visible tattoos, if I do, I have to cover them with a band aid. I do not do well in such restrictive, conservative environments. I do not think my tattoos or piercings make me a rebel, a bad mom, or a bad employee. It really makes me sad that it is still viewed that way by so many here (here as in the U.S.) Hey, what happened with your daughter and her nose? The Principal refused to return my phone calls and I was told I would have to take it all the way to the school board and fight it. DD and I agreed it wasn't going to be worth me getting blackballed over a piercing. So... We went and bought her a clear one that you can't really see, she dabs a little foundation on it, and she goes to school. She wears her nose stud and the Principal doesn't have a clue yet.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 5, 2015 19:06:05 GMT -5
I got my ears pierced when I was 7. My Aunt was close to 30yo and she got her ears pierced for the first time when she took me. In middle school I decided to get a second piercing in one ear. I've worn the same small diamond stud in that piercing since my late teens. I only take it out to clean it, never changed it in all these years. Actually, the other 2 earrings are diamond studs I got in my 20's, and it's very rare for me to change them. I'm a boring rebel lol. Beyond my routine of cleaning them, I hardly ever think about earrings. They're always covered by my hair anyway.
I got my nose pierced at 18, let it close after a few years, got it done again, and let it close again in about a year, and got it done again in my late 30's. I still wear a tiny jeweled stud in it. I change it often to change the color of the "jewel".
The comments about "mechanical" issues with nose rings made me laugh. I have terrible allergies.... it's not like the stem gets crusty and nasty though lol. And it doesn't have a back on it like an earring, if that matters.
My employer doesn't care what I look like as long as I'm not a safety hazard and I'm not nekkid or close to it. I have a co-worker that was going through some things and shaved her head bald. She decided she likes it and has kept it shaved for several years.
I use to want a tattoo, but I never got one. I have co-workers with visible tattoos,
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Post by The Captain on Sept 6, 2015 7:41:09 GMT -5
The comments about "mechanical" issues with nose rings made me laugh. I have terrible allergies.... it's not like the stem gets crusty and nasty though lol. And it doesn't have a back on it like an earring, if that matters.
My employer doesn't care what I look like as long as I'm not a safety hazard and I'm not nekkid or close to it. I have a co-worker that was going through some things and shaved her head bald. She decided she likes it and has kept it shaved for several years. I use to want a tattoo, but I never got one. I have co-workers with visible tattoos, Pink - if you don't mind me asking, how does it stay in then? Is it prone to falling out?
In other news I am living proof that people's views can change. When I was younger (in college) I absolutely believed tats did not belong on women. My sorority went through a phase where everyone got the greek symbols on their ankles. I think I was one of maybe 5 holdouts and got a lot of grief for it, which among other things made me leave the organization my senior year.
Now I can appreciate good body art for what it is and may still get a small one someplace discreet someday. I still think there are places where tats are not appropriate, especially if you choose to go into certain professions but as always - I'm sure some may disagree.
DH is freaking out BTW. He can't imagine me with a tat or a cartilage piercing.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 6, 2015 8:03:11 GMT -5
There was one, 3 am 'oh no my stud fell out and I cant find it' ... right after daughter got her nose done. But I don't think there has been much of an ongoing issue with them being displaced. Some of them have an L shaped stud which 'catches'. She has a little ring in it righ now, so those close.
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Post by Apple on Sept 6, 2015 9:43:59 GMT -5
For tattoos, lots of discrete places you don't have to worry about the tattoo artist seeing, if that's something that worries you... Shoulder, wear a tank top, thigh, wear a skirt and underwear/bikini bottoms, wrist (wear a watch to cover it at work, however it does take some time to heal, so you'd have to figure something else out while it does--long sleeves and a bandage or something).
For the piercings, I'd say go for it. My parents are very, very conservative, mom has never dyed her hair, doesn't have her ears pierced, etc, but even for them it was a brief moment of notice when my oldest sister got a double piercing (visible tattoos are still an issue for them).
Someday I want a chain of small elephants around my ankle, each drawn slightly different (tribal or script like), with one red one drawn from my son's name or initials (would have to see what the artist could come up with). Work wouldn't care at all (it would be covered by socks/boots anyway), but I know my parent's wouldn't appreciate it.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 6, 2015 19:12:13 GMT -5
Pink - if you don't mind me asking, how does it stay in then? Is it prone to falling out?
The Captain, nose piercings were unusual here when I got my first one 25 years ago..... total strangers asked and said the darndest things, so no I don't mind you asking a sensible question lol. I buy the ones with bendable stems, it bends into an L shape like oped mentioned and you bend it as much or as little as you need to so it'll stay in place and the stem won't be visible inside your nose. It only comes out if I pull it out. There are some with a tiny ball on the end that's inside your nose to keep it from coming out, but the hole in my nose is so small that trying to get the ball through it almost feels like I'm getting my nose pierced all over again. And the jewels don't stay flush against my nose anyway. I just remembered that I pierced my ex-husband's ear(s) with a needle soon after we got married. I can't remember if it was one ear or both. Either way, he must have been crazy to want me to do that. That could have gone SO wrong, but thankfully it didn't. I got my daughter's ears pierced when she was a baby. By professionals. lol
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