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Post by imawino on Jul 14, 2015 15:33:46 GMT -5
No.
If you require further clarification, see Meg's post.
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Post by The Captain on Jul 14, 2015 15:35:52 GMT -5
Hopefully you're joking.
No offense to the single moms on the thread, but I barely keep my shit together with one and DH doing a lot. I can't imagine going solo and trying to handle two.
Plus, you don't seem the type to be ok with total chaos in her life.
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Post by nutty on Jul 14, 2015 15:37:45 GMT -5
My sister (never has made good choices) was always complaining about baby daddy, they got divorced, THEN had a second child. My niece did the same thing, her and baby daddy are not together and haven't been for a long time but none the less baby number two came along.
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Jul 14, 2015 15:38:15 GMT -5
kids make everything better.
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Post by imawino on Jul 14, 2015 15:44:07 GMT -5
kids make everything better. I suspect we have a difference of opinion on the meaning of the word "everything".
And the meaning of the word "better".
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jul 14, 2015 16:01:20 GMT -5
I think you guys can tell this was a mostly tongue and cheek thread. I think I just need to "experience" a baby again - hold it, change it, cuddle it, and play with it..... and then promptly return it to its owner(s). As much as I feel bad not giving DS a sibling, I've realized that I don't have it in me now. And I may not have it in me again. And that wouldn't be fair to a child that didn't ask to be born. I give DS the best of me that I can give and IMO I fall short a lot - I'm not the most patient person, and when I burn out I BURN OUT!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 14, 2015 16:04:22 GMT -5
Please remind me of how I have no romantic prospects, how I can't afford another kid, how I like sleep too much, how I want to go to school and that would mess that up, and basically how it would be an AWFUL idea.You're not trying to get into anything serious with a man right now. At least I don't get the impression you are. Having a baby with someone is serious imo. I give you enough credit to think that even if you have a baby you can't "afford", you'd make things work anyway. But that doesn't sound like a lot of fun. Have some fun for a while. Babies keep odd hours and they have built-in nap sensors to alert them as soon as you settle in for a good nap, so they can wake you up. Can't have you getting a nap in. You want to go to school.... you can focus on school better if you're not worrying about being broke and also sleep-deprived. Did I cover everything? You know you don't really want another baby right now anyway. ETA: I knew it!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 14, 2015 16:09:40 GMT -5
I wouldn't feel bad about the sibling part. My son used to beg for a sibling and now he tells me he wishes he never would have done that.
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Post by NastyWoman on Jul 14, 2015 16:10:54 GMT -5
I think you guys can tell this was a mostly tongue and cheek thread. I think I just need to "experience" a baby again - hold it, change it, cuddle it, and play with it..... and then promptly return it to its owner(s). As much as I feel bad not giving DS a sibling, I've realized that I don't have it in me now. And I may not have it in me again. And that wouldn't be fair to a child that didn't ask to be born. I give DS the best of me that I can give and IMO I fall short a lot - I'm not the most patient person, and when I burn out I BURN OUT! A rent-a-baby would be a great solution for you
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Post by vonna on Jul 14, 2015 16:12:58 GMT -5
I wouldn't feel bad about the sibling part. My son used to beg for a sibling and now he tells me he wishes he never would have done that. LOL! I just told my DS (oldest) that he needed a big brother the other day -- LOL -- he agreed
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 14, 2015 16:13:45 GMT -5
I'll happily beat the dead horse subject of my brother if you want reasons why having a sibling isn't all it's cracked up to be. I could share Dh's relationship with his siblings as well. You can't win that discussion. There are people that resent being only children and people who resent having siblings or don't have an ideal relationship with them. We all tend to think the grass would have been greener on the other side. At hte end of the day though our kids don't get a vote since we're the ones who have to raise child #2. SO don't feel guilty, if you don't want a second child or feel you'd be up to the task that is your business. Your son can have all the children he wants when he gets older to make up for the lack of a sibling.
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Post by milee on Jul 14, 2015 16:20:55 GMT -5
Super easy to talk you out of this idea:
You are almost done with reading "Blueberries for Sal" for your son. If you have another baby, you're sentencing yourself to reading it for another 3-4 years, or approximately 12,849 more times. Sound like fun?
You're welcome.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jul 14, 2015 16:23:00 GMT -5
Super easy to talk you out of this idea:
You are almost done with reading "Blueberries for Sal" for your son. If you have another baby, you're sentencing yourself to reading it for another 3-4 years, or approximately 12,849 more times. Sound like fun?
You're welcome. Good God, woman - you're a monster!!!
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 14, 2015 16:23:30 GMT -5
I'm sorry I never had another. There's no stigma or shame in having one without being married and I could have afforded it . It's one of my many regrets in life. Now I'm too damn old and basically have an adult child to deal with.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 14, 2015 16:33:04 GMT -5
If you got pregnant with puppies you could give them to Blond granny if you changed your mind.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jul 14, 2015 16:50:48 GMT -5
If you got pregnant with puppies you could give them to Blond granny if you changed your mind. I like doggystyle, but not literally.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 14, 2015 17:05:01 GMT -5
If you got pregnant with puppies you could give them to Blond granny if you changed your mind. I like doggystyle, but not literally. Reason number 69. You have sex on the brain. Babies are not conducive to an active sex life. They can be the result of one, but then it's over for a loooooong time.
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Post by giramomma on Jul 14, 2015 18:10:40 GMT -5
I think you guys can tell this was a mostly tongue and cheek thread. I think I just need to "experience" a baby again - hold it, change it, cuddle it, and play with it..... and then promptly return it to its owner(s). As much as I feel bad not giving DS a sibling, I've realized that I don't have it in me now. And I may not have it in me again. And that wouldn't be fair to a child that didn't ask to be born. I give DS the best of me that I can give and IMO I fall short a lot - I'm not the most patient person, and when I burn out I BURN OUT! I've always said I think one and done are THE smartest parents around. Though, I get it. I totally want another baby. But I know it's not happening. We also can't look into foster/adopting, because our youngest is too young. Once she gets older and we have another driver in the house, I think it may be on the table. It depends on where we are 5 years. In the mean time, I've decided to channel all my baby-wanting energy by figuring out how to help kids in need. This last weekend, our once upon a child had a sale: everything on clearance was a buck. I bought some New with Tags clothes for cheap to donate to the pregnancy crisis center that works with our church. I also knitted up a few pairs of baby booties to donate eventually. I'm currently working on knitting up some washcloths that will go to disadvantaged kids..I also have a couple baby quilts to work on, as well, which I should start on. If my schedule allows, I might volunteer some time at my community center: They offer English classes to non-english speakers, but folks need someone to watch their kids during that time. I thought doing child care there would be a nice thing.
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Post by Artemis Windsong on Jul 14, 2015 18:16:28 GMT -5
You just want some sweet baby to love and cuddle. See if your local hospital is looking for baby rockers. That will calm your hormones. The love will be well placed.
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Post by 973beachbum on Jul 14, 2015 18:31:26 GMT -5
I'm sorry I never had another. There's no stigma or shame in having one without being married and I could have afforded it . It's one of my many regrets in life. Now I'm too damn old and basically have an adult child to deal with. I wish we had had a third. When we had DS our financial lives were in what felt like ruin so it just didn't seem like the financially responsible thing to do. Looking back I'm not sure it would have actually made a financial difference it just felt like it. I will add though that my kids are almost 8 years apart and DD was totally my big helper with DS. And not just when he was little. I really felt the difference when she went to college this past year. When it comes down to it she does more of the help with him than DH does. I do agree that enjoying some practice runs with a man, NOT YOUR EX!, might make you feel a little better.
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Post by taz157 on Jul 14, 2015 19:02:04 GMT -5
I'm sorry I never had another. There's no stigma or shame in having one without being married and I could have afforded it . It's one of my many regrets in life. Now I'm too damn old and basically have an adult child to deal with. At times, I think we would regret not having another. My DD turns 4 in 22 days (we counted today) and would have loved to kids closer In age. With DH's health issues on depending on if his heart is getting stronger (as it did at his last test 8 months ago or so), I'm not sure it will be in the cards. That makes me sad. I also think it makes DH sad (not that he would probably say anyway). I know life happens and I do truly hope we have another, but we'll see. FWIW, I will be 36 next week and imagined we'd be done by the time I turned 35. Of course, I thought I'd have my first by the time I was 30 and I was 32 when DD was born.
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Post by WholeLottaNothin on Jul 14, 2015 19:10:54 GMT -5
You can come cuddle my 9 month old and I'll go take a nap.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jul 14, 2015 19:12:02 GMT -5
Deal! ;D
Funny, my son was starting to walk at 9 months and wasn't very cuddly.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 14, 2015 19:14:46 GMT -5
Blueberries for Sal was one of the books I procured last year as a choice for this year's book club. After the press its been getting here lately I felt like a sadist adding it to the box.
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Jul 14, 2015 19:16:02 GMT -5
Blueberries for Sal was one of the books I procured last year as a choice for this year's book club. After the press its been getting here lately I felt like a sadist adding it to the box. what kind of press does Blueberries for Sal get?
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Post by Deleted on Jul 14, 2015 19:18:31 GMT -5
Apparently it makes more than one mom want to poke her eyes out... you know, after the 1000th time or so.
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Jul 14, 2015 19:20:35 GMT -5
Get a dog! Dogs>kids ;D
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jul 14, 2015 19:21:39 GMT -5
It's just VERY repetitive and wordy IMO.
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Jul 14, 2015 19:22:12 GMT -5
Apparently it makes more than one mom want to poke her eyes out... you know, after the 1000th time or so. It can' be worse than
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Post by cronewitch on Jul 14, 2015 19:29:23 GMT -5
You should try for a girl this time, they are so cute and sweet and no trouble at all.
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