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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jun 23, 2015 15:08:53 GMT -5
But, but, but steff needed a bag limit of one for the girlfriend from hell her son was dating. And what about the single parents, where, for whatever reason, Dad is gone (military, dead, deadbeat, whathaveyou) - don't the Moms get in on this too? but but but....she's GONE! and she actually left & went to Tennessee and that's even better. And he didn't replace her instantly with another one! but you COULD have used it.
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Post by steff on Jun 23, 2015 15:12:19 GMT -5
If I only get 1 bag per lifetime, I would have kept working my "I'm his mom, I can make you go away" plan for awhile longer. but if it hadn't worked, I would have had to use the bag & bartered for a back up bag....just in case. I do realize that "I'm his mom, I can make you go away" will only work while he's still living in my house & I have influence. Once he's on his own, I might need a new plan....just in case.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jun 23, 2015 15:18:53 GMT -5
And steff, I'm sorry (sort of) to have dragged you into this thread. But you were the first Mom with the son scenario that sprang to mind.
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Post by justme on Jun 23, 2015 15:22:35 GMT -5
The downside of the 1 bag limit is everyone will know your hands are tied from then on.
You'd have to master being able to miss the shot or give a flash wound and say they get to live another day.
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Post by steff on Jun 23, 2015 15:27:40 GMT -5
And steff, I'm sorry (sort of) to have dragged you into this thread. But you were the first Mom with the son scenario that sprang to mind. Not a problem
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Post by weltschmerz on Jun 23, 2015 15:45:05 GMT -5
Good luck with that - it'll probably be when she reaches 16 that your hair decides to suddenly turn gray.
Being the only girl (and the youngest) in my family, I think I was the reason my parents spent many evenings when I was out on a date waiting by the window when it was time for me to arrive home - only to pretend they were either nonchalantly watching tv or sleeping by the time I walked in the door.
They never worried about my older brothers like that - I guess it didn't occur to them that my older brothers were also dating other mothers' daughters. Yours waited by the window? Mine went out looking for me.
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Post by kittensaver on Jun 23, 2015 15:45:15 GMT -5
I move we enact legislation giving every father a bag limit of 1( ONE) boyfriend. No drawing of names, no voting, no contemplating, just blow the first one away that raises the slightest doubt in your mind. Make sure you do this outside in full view of the public, and don't pick up any pieces. You want every detail running in the rumor mill. Thoughts of gory details should be on the mind of any and all you come to take your daughter on a date. Choice of firearm shall be left up to you, BUT, it should be of a VERY large caliber......Oh, an get a rocking chair that can be put on the porch...under the light ...while you and your firearm can await the return of your daughter from her date........And lest I forget, the bag limit automatically renews for grandfathers when they have granddaughters.....All in favor, signify by saying Aye........(all opposed will be shot ) But, but, but steff needed a bag limit of one for the girlfriend from hell her son was dating. And what about the single parents, where, for whatever reason, Dad is gone (military, dead, deadbeat, whathaveyou) - don't the Moms get in on this too? I agree that moms of sons need in on this limit too! Most moms have a pretty good skank-o-meter and can tell if she's just looking for a baby daddy, aka, a guaranteed meal ticket for the next 18 years . . . .
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Post by weltschmerz on Jun 23, 2015 15:46:21 GMT -5
I liked the gals my son dated.
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Post by steff on Jun 23, 2015 16:26:13 GMT -5
I didn't dislike the first girl he dated, but this last one was a skanky little ho.
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Post by Jaguar on Jun 23, 2015 16:28:32 GMT -5
Good luck with that - it'll probably be when she reaches 16 that your hair decides to suddenly turn gray.
Being the only girl (and the youngest) in my family, I think I was the reason my parents spent many evenings when I was out on a date waiting by the window when it was time for me to arrive home - only to pretend they were either nonchalantly watching tv or sleeping by the time I walked in the door.
They never worried about my older brothers like that - I guess it didn't occur to them that my older brothers were also dating other mothers' daughters. Yours waited by the window? Mine went out looking for me. My brother and sister and all their friends went out looking for me.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 23, 2015 18:50:13 GMT -5
Only read the OP so far... You used the wrong word(s)... they won't want to DATE her... they'll want to MATE WITH her... (dating is just a pretext... trust me, I was a teen boy once) ETA: So you can relax... Dating won't be a big deal...
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Post by The Captain on Jun 24, 2015 8:12:49 GMT -5
Only read the OP so far... You used the wrong word(s)... they won't want to DATE her... they'll want to MATE WITH her... (dating is just a pretext... trust me, I was a teen boy once) ETA: So you can relax... Dating won't be a big deal... Gee, thanks Dude, NOT REALLY HELPING!!! You obviously haven't gotten to my post about guys not knowing which head to think with. Yea. We've been over that.
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Post by mmhmm on Jun 24, 2015 8:36:31 GMT -5
If I had a date with someone my father and mother didn't know, I had to tell the guy he had to be there early (if we were going to a movie, or something that started at a specific time). It was understood he'd have to come in, have a seat, and be charming to the 'rents. Otherwise, I wasn't going anywhere.
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Post by The Captain on Jun 24, 2015 8:46:16 GMT -5
Oh man, some of the stories are bringing back memories.
My Dad is the big, tall, strong silent type. Imagine Johnny Cash crossed with John Wayne (no kidding!). Intimidating as hell if you didn't know him. Guys would come to pick my sister up (she dated a lot more than I did) and he'd say one sentence and scare them out the door. Dad didn't need a shotgun or cleaver to scare the guys off.
The guy I dated all through HS either saw through the façade, or had zero sense of self preservation. He was about 6 inches shorter than my Dad, would shake his hand, give Dad a wide grin and promise he'd have me home only 30 minutes late.
Which was always a joke since we had curfew and my date still had to drive to his house before curfew ended anyway. We were always early.
Oh yea, another rule - they always had to come to the door to pick you up. Anyone that honked for you to come out could just keep on driving.
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Post by thyme4change on Jun 24, 2015 8:48:34 GMT -5
I'm in the same boat. Although, I am not as much worried about my daughter becoming a teenager, as I am about my son becoming a teenager. She has a strong sense of self - and she is going to do what she is going to do. He, however, will be prone to inconsistent and possibly poor choices and I feel like I should be doing something to help guide him. I am not sure how to do that.
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Post by lexxy703 on Jun 24, 2015 10:13:32 GMT -5
Absolutely. I'm not even sure it was a rule in my house. It was just the way it was done.
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Post by jeep108 on Jun 24, 2015 11:15:36 GMT -5
My daughter told me when she was in 10th grade that she liked girls. There was one girl she wanted to get serious with but decided that she didn't want to deal with her baggage so high school was uneventful. She plans on joining the LGBT club when she starts college in the fall. This will be new territory for me.
I married my high school sweetheart so I really don't have any dating advise for her.
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Post by andi9899 on Jun 24, 2015 11:18:59 GMT -5
1. Tell her she CANNOT date until she is 25. 2. If she defies you and brings home a boy, make sure you are sharpening a knife. And wave it around from time to time. You know where. 3. If the boy is toooooooo polite, use the knife. I went out with a guy in HS & he brought me home drunk. The next time he picked me up my dad was cleaning his knife & pointed it at him & told him he better bring me home sober this time. And so it began. Vodka companies are still thanking this guy.
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Post by The Captain on Jun 24, 2015 11:19:47 GMT -5
My daughter told me when she was in 10th grade that she liked girls. There was one girl she wanted to get serious with but decided that she didn't want to deal with her baggage so high school was uneventful. She plans on joining the LGBT club when she starts college in the fall. This will be new territory for me. I married my high school sweetheart so I really don't have any dating advise for her. I applaud her maturity and wisdom at such a young age. I knew so many that were into the drama, I just didn't get it.
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Post by lexxy703 on Jun 24, 2015 11:23:01 GMT -5
I went out with a guy in HS & he brought me home drunk. The next time he picked me up my dad was cleaning his knife & pointed it at him & told him he better bring me home sober this time. And so it began. Vodka companies are still thanking this guy. LMAO Andi! Actually it was Irish Whiskey & I have never touched it again.
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Post by andi9899 on Jun 24, 2015 11:29:20 GMT -5
I don't think I've ever had Irish Whiskey. I should try it. I am a whiskey fan.
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Post by lexxy703 on Jun 24, 2015 11:31:29 GMT -5
I don't think I've ever had Irish Whiskey. I should try it. I am a whiskey fan. It made me puke but I probably drank way more than I should have.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jun 24, 2015 11:37:30 GMT -5
My daughter told me when she was in 10th grade that she liked girls. There was one girl she wanted to get serious with but decided that she didn't want to deal with her baggage so high school was uneventful. She plans on joining the LGBT club when she starts college in the fall. This will be new territory for me. I married my high school sweetheart so I really don't have any dating advise for her. Sure you do - be treated respectfully, don't be a doormat, pay for your share of dates/events, watch your drinks bars and all that. What you likely don't have is sex advice for her beyond "no is no" ETA - I think a lot of advice for dating, in general, can be gender neutral. Not meaning to pick on jeep108.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 24, 2015 18:46:56 GMT -5
My daughter told me when she was in 10th grade that she liked girls. There was one girl she wanted to get serious with but decided that she didn't want to deal with her baggage so high school was uneventful. She plans on joining the LGBT club when she starts college in the fall. This will be new territory for me. I married my high school sweetheart so I really don't have any dating advise for her. Sure you do - be treated respectfully, don't be a doormat, pay for your share of dates/events, watch your drinks bars and all that. What you likely don't have is sex advice for her beyond "no is no" ETA - I think a lot of advice for dating, in general, can be gender neutral. Not meaning to pick on jeep108. I agree with that. With the exception of "don't get pregnant" ("use protection" still applies though because STDs don't care which gender a person is), all GOOD dating advice applies no matter the genders of the date. (obviously "don't get pregnant" only applies if the date is boy+girl...)
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