OH YES I DID!!!

[The Captain]

So,

DH and I were at a pool party over the weekend.  There were several families there and a lot of kids.  Everyone running around, having fun, just being goofy.

There was a group of about 7 teen boys (man did I forget how much fun they can actually be when their guard is down!!!) tossing each other in the pool, dunking each other, running around and just overall being very physical and silly.  Very fun and comfortable with themselves.

Two in the group were beanpoles, three were (to be honest) buff, and two were heavy set.

Set apart from the pool there was a group of us adults just chatting, when the resident "expert" decided to start commenting on the weight of the two heavy set boys.  Saying some pretty callous things IMHO.  Adding that someone should take it upon them selves to tell the two boys how fat they were, that it wasn't healthy, and that they should join some sports.  This while the boys in question are running around and goofing off just as much as the beanpoles.

Couldn't help myself. 

In my driest tone possible I looked the individual straight in the eye and said "Trust me when I say people who are heavy are very aware they are fat, live it every day, and don't need to be given advice on the matter from strangers".

To which the individual states that they would never say anything directly to the boys, at which point I respond "But yet you feel entirely justified sitting here saying it behind their backs?"

So yea, yes I did. 

[Jaguar]

Dayum I like you, lol

[NoNamePerson]

Good for you and I admire your restraint. I probably would have said something like "they can do something about being overweight, but you are stuck with ugly for life"   

[TheHaitian]

May 26, 2015 9:19:58 GMT -5 Jaguar said:

Dayum I like you, lol

X 2!

You go Captain

[lexxy703]

[NancysSummerSip]

I met Captain and Mr. Captain. A lot to like when it comes to both of them, and by that, I mean it's due to the size of their hearts. Oh, and their collective chutzpah.

[andi9899]

Good for you. What an ass.

[Ryan]

Kids can be real SOBs.  That's one of the benefits of living in an area without a lot of kids right in the immediate area.  They wouldn't be forced to hang out with kids that they didn't get along with (or with douchebags) just because they happened to be closeby.

[The Captain]

May 26, 2015 11:10:12 GMT -5 Ryan said:

Kids can be real SOBs.  That's one of the benefits of living in an area without a lot of kids right in the immediate area.  They wouldn't be forced to hang out with kids that they didn't get along with (or with douchebags) just because they happened to be closeby.

But that's the thing Ryan, the kids were all cool with each other.

It was the supposed adult who was being an ass.

[Ryan]

May 26, 2015 11:13:58 GMT -5 The Captain said:

May 26, 2015 11:10:12 GMT -5 Ryan said:

Kids can be real SOBs.  That's one of the benefits of living in an area without a lot of kids right in the immediate area.  They wouldn't be forced to hang out with kids that they didn't get along with (or with douchebags) just because they happened to be closeby.

But that's the thing Ryan, the kids were all cool with each other.

It was the supposed adult who was being an ass.

Oh, I must've missed that.  I assumed the resident expert was a kid.

[The Captain]

May 26, 2015 9:41:29 GMT -5 NancysSummerSip said:

I met Captain and Mr. Captain. A lot to like when it comes to both of them, and by that, I mean it's due to the size of their hearts. Oh, and their collective chutzpah.

...and here I thought you were going to talk about the size of my waistband .

Yep, I'm not skinny, never have been never will be.

As far as chutzpah - yea it took a while for me to develop my inner bitch, but once she set up house watch out!

[NancysSummerSip]

May 26, 2015 11:16:04 GMT -5 The Captain said:

May 26, 2015 9:41:29 GMT -5 NancysSummerSip said:

I met Captain and Mr. Captain. A lot to like when it comes to both of them, and by that, I mean it's due to the size of their hearts. Oh, and their collective chutzpah.

...and here I thought you were going to talk about the size of my waistband .

Yep, I'm not skinny, never have been never will be.

As far as chutzpah - yea it took a while for me to develop my inner bitch, but once she set up house watch out!

Chutzpah, in the literal sense, is not about bitchiness quotient.  It's about nerve and daring and the willingness to speak one's mind. Chutzpah is not a bad or negative thing, though it can be, if used wrong. Nothing wrong with honest chutzpah.

[Deleted]

The Captain you are my hero 

[ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ]

The boys were all having a good time romping in the pool and being silly. No judgments, just boys being boys & having a good time.

Good for you for leaving the jerk speechless. I doubt he'd have said that - or appreciated anyone else saying it - if it had been one of HIS boys.

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[Ryan]

I would never say anything outloud (except to my wife), but when I see kids that are really overweight at a young age it does make you wonder.  Are the parents trying to control the weight gain?  Are they just not paying attention?

I just feel bad for the kids because that is something that is really tough to break out of and will probably be a lifelong struggle for them. My parents did not police that much when I was growing up, but my wife's family ate much more healthy.  As a result, I think that taste preference is for crappy food and my wife's is for healthy food.  Seeing that in action makes me realize the importance with my kids.

[zibazinski]

As a former PE teacher, I tend to worry but if the kids are healthy, eh, so what? They'll grow out of it or they won't.

[mroped]

I had a kid working for me for 5 yrs. he started when he was about 19 and at the time he was tipping the scale at 275# at 6'-2". I told him not to worry about it, he'll loose anything he wants. By God he gained 30#! 
So at 305# he told me he feels better than ever. 
When we were going on the job he would let people in shock and awe by his strength. Doesn't even look like he is 300#! Except for a bit of belly fat there is no tell.
Now, at 26 he's still at 300 and runs his own business. 

It it depends on ones frame and the way he/she feels about it.
if somebody looks at you and judges you by your size or weight then that is a vane person and sure as Hell you don't want anything to do with.

I've always been skinny so never had that issue(?!) but I wonder if skinny/lean/buff people feel smarter than the larger ones?

[alabamagal]

Good for you! Adults can be such jerks!

When my boys were teens we knew 3 other families with 2 boys and coincidentally all famines older boy was beanpole and younger was heavier. But the younger was more active and athletic. All played football in high school

In my case my older son is 22 6'1" and maybe 150. He put on 5 lbs in college and I was pleased. He was so skinny as a teen that you could see his ribs and his heartbeat. I would like for him to put on 20 lbs.

My younger son went through chunky periods growing up. He was 6'1" 245 at start of senior year football camp. By first year of college he was 6'3" 205. He is not skinny he is athletic and looks much better than my underweight son.

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

May 26, 2015 14:38:47 GMT -5 Ryan said:

I would never say anything outloud (except to my wife), but when I see kids that are really overweight at a young age it does make you wonder.  Are the parents trying to control the weight gain?  Are they just not paying attention?

I just feel bad for the kids because that is something that is really tough to break out of and will probably be a lifelong struggle for them. My parents did not police that much when I was growing up, but my wife's family ate much more healthy.  As a result, I think that taste preference is for crappy food and my wife's is for healthy food.  Seeing that in action makes me realize the importance with my kids.

They do know, but it is a very difficult line to walk.

My sister has 4 kids, 3 normal weight and one overweight.  All are very active and all eat the exact same thing.  My sister is an excellent, healthy cook that advocates healthy eating, with little junk food.  The overweight one plays basketball, volleyball and soccer.  Youngest swims on a team, and oldest is very involved in dance.  Oldest boy played basketball and baseball.

So it just goes to show that everyone is not the same and assuming that one is overweight because they are couch potatoes, or because they eat junk is a misconception.

Not only that, my niece was relatively slender until she hit middle school/puberty.

[NastyWoman]

May 26, 2015 13:17:59 GMT -5 @rockit said:

The Captain you are my hero 

[Peace77]

Thanks for speaking up.  Sometimes people need to know when they're being judgemental jerks.

[Virgil Showlion]

May 26, 2015 9:17:00 GMT -5 The Captain said:

In my driest tone possible I looked the individual straight in the eye and said "Trust me when I say people who are heavy are very aware they are fat, live it every day, and don't need to be given advice on the matter from strangers".

Apply Kant's imperative to your reaction here. If everyone refrained from shaming fatties, people wouldn't worry about being obese, and we'd all die off of heart disease in middle age.

Your discouraging fat shaming is unethical, O captain my Captain.

To make matters worse, the US just hit a new obesity record in 2014. Your countrymen are not only fatter than ever, the rate of increase also hit a 20-year high. You waddle about like sapient mounds of lard, trapped in your prison bodies with your quivering rolls of fat bulging forth over belts pulled as tight as piano wire.

Where have all the fat shamers gone?

They've been driven into hiding by uppity Captains, is where. They've bought into the "fat people have feelings too" narrative. They've jumped on the "fat shaming doesn't work" bandwagon.

Meanwhile, America swells up like a balloon. The ground thunders with the sound of 150 million hearts desperately struggling to beat. O Captain, what have you done?

What have you done?

[NastyWoman]

What have you done?

Just trying to drive the healthcare cost down.  I read an article a while back that it is the very old that cost the most, not the fatties who die prematurely of heart disease, diabetes and other obesity related diseases.

Note: I am too lazy to look for the link, but Mr. Google should be able to help you out