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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Feb 11, 2015 10:26:48 GMT -5
I just had a difficult conversation with my sister this morning. If someone needs to be in NY, she said she will go as she is the most flexible. I didn't have to ask. I love my sister for assuming this and not making me ask.
i still plan on going out when the semester ends though.
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Post by jeep108 on Feb 11, 2015 10:30:10 GMT -5
Hugs..I'm sorry Mich.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 11, 2015 12:24:47 GMT -5
So sorry.
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Post by giramomma on Feb 11, 2015 13:12:21 GMT -5
I'm sorry.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Feb 11, 2015 14:54:09 GMT -5
I had a friend who died of COPD and was there while she was in ICU, gasping for air. I'm not sure that dying of pulmonary fibrosis is any better than pancreatic cancer - at least that they can give you drugs for.
This sucks. I just notified one of my instructors what's going on, and will notify the other tomorrow when I see her. I don't think I'll be taking a quick trip, but I just don't know right now.
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Post by dannylion on Feb 11, 2015 15:06:41 GMT -5
I'm so sorry, Mich. Sending good thoughts for your Dad and all who love him.
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Post by NastyWoman on Feb 11, 2015 15:19:30 GMT -5
I'm so sorry Mich. Wishing you much strength
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Feb 11, 2015 15:23:19 GMT -5
So sorry Mich
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Post by cronewitch on Feb 11, 2015 15:51:16 GMT -5
I am happy your sister is being a good daughter. When my mom was on hospice my brothers and I were all doing what we needed to do, it made us closer. She lived with little bro and wife and big bro and wife came for the duration, I was working but came every evening. Now my older brother is back to being part of the family after setting himself away from us. His daughter and Son in law are going to Mexico today to see him, my little bro and wife already went to see him then took a cruise with them. I might go see him sometime, it was nice to have him back in the family and we adore his newest wife.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Feb 11, 2015 15:57:01 GMT -5
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Feb 11, 2015 16:09:58 GMT -5
I'm glad your father can still make this decision, Mich. And that all who love him can respect the decision. No one should leave this world without a fight, but when there's no more to fight for, then may the leaving be a peaceful one for all of you.
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Post by Jaguar on Feb 11, 2015 16:12:35 GMT -5
<<< BIG HUGS >>>
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Post by jlbear71 on Feb 13, 2015 18:09:48 GMT -5
I had a friend who died of COPD and was there while she was in ICU, gasping for air. I'm not sure that dying of pulmonary fibrosis is any better than pancreatic cancer - at least that they can give you drugs for. This sucks. I just notified one of my instructors what's going on, and will notify the other tomorrow when I see her. I don't think I'll be taking a quick trip, but I just don't know right now. First, hugs. I was only 150 miles from my dad but it was still hard to get there. FIL had PF. While he struggled some for air, he was not gasping for air near the end. We think it was his heart that just went finally during his nap.
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Post by kjto1 on Feb 13, 2015 20:56:31 GMT -5
Hugs to you. I'm sending thoughts/prayers for your Dad.
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Post by happyhoix on Feb 17, 2015 13:18:49 GMT -5
My older sister and I have been caring for my mom, who lives in an assisted living facility, for about 4 years now. Mom was living near little sister when she initial got incapacitated, and little sister was quick to state that she was unable to take care of her and Mom had to move near us, so older sister and I closed mom's condo, packed up her stuff and moved Mom four states away to live near us.
Little sister has a part time job and she only works when she has to (if she can find a replacement, she doesn't have to work). She takes at least four vacations every year. She has one high school aged kid. My older sister and I both work full time and have been using sick days/vacation days to get mom to doctor's appointments. Older sister hasn't had a vacation since she began taking care of mom four years ago. I can usually squeeze in one vacation week per year. Older sister asked little sister to time one of her twice per year visits so that she could take Mom to a doctor's appointment for her, and little sister said that wasn't possible.
In short you would hope your siblings would pitch in when needed, but some of them won't, or can't, for whatever reason. I think my little sister is afraid of death, and she can't stand to see our mom incapacitated with dementia and becoming weaker all the time. She deals with that by avoiding mom all together. Unfortunately, my big sister and I will alway remember how little sister failed to step up to the plate when she easily could have helped us more. Mom will pass away at some point, but I doubt our relationship will ever be what it once was.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 17, 2015 13:29:56 GMT -5
I'm really sorry to hear about all this stuff going on with your Dad Mich.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Feb 17, 2015 17:22:14 GMT -5
My older sister and I have been caring for my mom, who lives in an assisted living facility, for about 4 years now. Mom was living near little sister when she initial got incapacitated, and little sister was quick to state that she was unable to take care of her and Mom had to move near us, so older sister and I closed mom's condo, packed up her stuff and moved Mom four states away to live near us. Little sister has a part time job and she only works when she has to (if she can find a replacement, she doesn't have to work). She takes at least four vacations every year. She has one high school aged kid. My older sister and I both work full time and have been using sick days/vacation days to get mom to doctor's appointments. Older sister hasn't had a vacation since she began taking care of mom four years ago. I can usually squeeze in one vacation week per year. Older sister asked little sister to time one of her twice per year visits so that she could take Mom to a doctor's appointment for her, and little sister said that wasn't possible. In short you would hope your siblings would pitch in when needed, but some of them won't, or can't, for whatever reason. I think my little sister is afraid of death, and she can't stand to see our mom incapacitated with dementia and becoming weaker all the time. She deals with that by avoiding mom all together. Unfortunately, my big sister and I will alway remember how little sister failed to step up to the plate when she easily could have helped us more. Mom will pass away at some point, but I doubt our relationship will ever be what it once was. This isn't an issue anymore. My sister stepped up to the plate.
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