Thing you did that p!ssed off your parent(s)

[The Captain]

The graduation thread got me thinking about this, it has not even crossed my mind for some time.

I went back to school and finished my masters after spending some time in the workforce.  I did this for me, and me, alone.  My final two classes I was pregnant with DD and took my last final exam a few days after she was born.

So I got my masters, with a newborn, household to run, working full time and managing a department of 13+ people. 

I didn't walk at graduation, have a party, or make a big deal of it.  It was an item to cross off my bucket list and move on.  I had the school mail me my degree.

Later that summer DH casually mentioned my completion of it in the past tense at a family gathering.  My mom was very upset, the family should have been invited to the graduation, we should have had a party, yadda, yadda.  Even my Dad (usually Mr. Noncomenttal) was a bit miffed at me.  I was kinda surprised by this and don't understand it to this day.

Now the time I went to Chinatown with some friends without permission OTOH .

What have you done to piss off your folks.   that you really don't understand why?

[lexxy703]

Not where I thought this thread was going.  I've done a few things to piss my parents off but I understand why in all cases

Congrats on getting the Masters BTW.

[wyouser]

November 27, 1967.  Having to walk my folks up with the "happy" news:  " Uhmmmm......the car is upside down in the ditch 4 miles south of town"   And, I had NO doubt...No Doubt at all that my folks were pissed (They were not happy with me either)

[wyouser]

See, my fingers still shake to this day with the memory...the word was wake..

[The Captain]

Jun 13, 2014 14:29:55 GMT -5 lexxy703 said:

Not where I thought this thread was going.  I've done a few things to piss my parents off but I understand why in all cases

Congrats on getting the Masters BTW.

Thanks.  Ok, I'll bite - what was the worst thing you did to piss off your parents?

[lexxy703]

Jun 13, 2014 14:37:10 GMT -5 The Captain said:

Jun 13, 2014 14:29:55 GMT -5 lexxy703 said:

Not where I thought this thread was going.  I've done a few things to piss my parents off but I understand why in all cases

Congrats on getting the Masters BTW.

Thanks.  Ok, I'll bite - what was the worst thing you did to piss off your parents?

I got arrested twice in the same day.  It was really hard trying to explain that one.  Both were marijuana charges.  Nothing violent.

[The Captain]

Jun 13, 2014 14:59:26 GMT -5 lexxy703 said:

Jun 13, 2014 14:37:10 GMT -5 The Captain said:

Thanks.  Ok, I'll bite - what was the worst thing you did to piss off your parents?

I got arrested twice in the same day.  It was really hard trying to explain that one.  Both were marijuana charges.  Nothing violent.

Well, they must love you - they let you live .

[Deleted]

Oh boy

Hitchhiked with my girlfriend about 900 miles to go to a concert we had no tickets to and no money to get them..

We never got there, but we did make it back home completely unharmed and we were lucky.

[lazysundays]

More like disappointed. At age 14-15, my year older sis had been sneaking out of the house after midnight to meet up w her 21 yo boyfriend. I snuck out w her one time, and my mom was waiting up for us when we got home. She just looked at me exasperated and said not you too. That alone would have been enough not to do it again, but the idiot boyfriend was drunk and we almost got into an accident. I stopped, sis kept being a screw up for a few more years.

The thing I did on purpose to piss mom off was my hunger strikes when I was pissed at her. That was her number one button. I could go on for days just popping Advil for the headaches.

[billisonboard]

Pretty much the first half of my whole existence would qualify.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

My dad told me not to play in a neighbor's yard that today would qualify to be on Hoarders.

I did it anyhow. I fell and broke off most of my front left tooth. Man my dad was PISSED.

I didn't get it till a few years ago when I had to replace the cap. They showed me a picture of the tooth without the cap. I apologized to my dad when I got home.

Then I cut my own bangs in 5th grade and did a terrible job. My mom has a picture of it she likes to whip out sometimes.

I married my husband. THAT was one of the biggest fights I've ever had with my dad. It ended with me telling him not to bother coming to the wedding. He ended up showing up and we mended fences enough that he was able to walk me down the aisle and do the father/daughter dance with me.

Things are a lot better nowadays 6 years later. My DH and father are never going to be BFFs but they get along pretty well.

I do understand where my dad was coming from and why he was so disapproving. I had asked myself the same questions over and over before walking down the aisle. What drove us apart was how he handled the subject. I was 24 years old you can't order me around like I am six. Things would have gone much better if he'd had an adult child/parent conversation with me on the subject.

[Pants]

Depends... what day is it? Because whatever it was last today, it will be the same thing tomorrow. Or something completely different. You never know...

[Deleted]

I got sloppy drunk at a family reunion out of town when I was 14. A distant cousin and I drank his Aunt's liquor. I was so drunk that when my Mom and aunt were grilling me about what I'd had and where I got it from, I told them I'd taken some drugs with another cousin who was hundreds of miles away, at home in Mississippi. Not only was I drunk, I was beligerant. I don't know who was more pissed and disgusted with me, my Mom or my aunt (her sister). I've seen my Mom that angry at other people before and after that, but I've never seen my aunt so mad at anybody. That was my first and last time drinking underage.

I sent her into a rage when I was about 17 because I was disrespectful to her husband. They hadn't been married long and I hated him. I had more street smarts than my Mom and I knew he was an addict even though I'd never seen him with any drugs. He was using my Mom to feed his habit. She was still in denial about everything and still defending him. That particular night, my Mom was so mad at me that when I locked myself in my bedroom because we were arguing, she started taking my doorknob off the door to get in. I climbed out the window and drove to my cousin's house. I didn't do a lot of things teenagers do because frankly, I was scared of my Mom. I definitely didn't do the same thing twice. Except be hostile toward him. I hated him and what he was doing enough to repeatedly risk incurring my Mom's wrath when it came to him. I wish I had been wrong about him, but I wasn't. He really was an addict and by the time she got him out of her life for good, she'd lost everything. 

[The Captain]

@pinkcshmere - sorry you had to go through that but I am glad she did eventually get rid of him.

[zibazinski]

Marry my ex. Yes, she was right.

[The Captain]

Jun 13, 2014 20:17:25 GMT -5 zibazinski said:

Marry my ex. Yes, she was right.

Ouch!  Yea - there are some things I don't want to be right on...

[taz157]

When I was 17, I had my first boyfriend and before cell phones. We met at a restaurant both of us worked at. We dated for 7-8 months and broke up. A week or 2 later, we got back together. I had called to say that I was working late and would be home after work. At the time, the restaurant closed at 10 and it wasn't unusual to get home close to 11:30 or so depending on how much stuff needed to be done. Needless to say, I still wasn't home at midnight and my (now former) stepdad got worried (mom was already asleep), and called the restaurant. They told him that I had left. Needless to say, I was with my BF at the time. I got home at 2:30am and he was PISSED! My mom was PISSED too when she found out the next day. The relationship lasted less than a month the 2nd time, and we broke up for good. Found out after we had broken up for good that they didn't like him anyway.

Since then, she hasn't been too pissed with me.

[imanangel]

It would probably be easier to list what I did that didn't piss my mom off. Breath.....of course it depends on the day for that too.

[truthbound]

I never got into trouble so there was nothing in my formative years for them to get mad at. As far as my adult years I dunno. I have never asked. They don't pay my bills so I don't care what they think.

[Spellbound454]

I didn't get on with my mother at all....She was quite mean to me largely because she wasn't well.

At 17 I moved out and only contacted her on occasion.

Sad really when I think of the good relationships I have with my own kids....but not everyone is cut out for parenthood.

[zibazinski]

Actually, it was a very valuable lesson. I told the story to my kids how my mom, because she wasnt emotionally involved, could see more clearly than I could the problems. She was right. My son very nicely asked me to tell him if I ever was concerned about anyone and when I said NO WAY because you'll marry her anyway and then tell her I don't like her and I'm screwed!!

[Artemis Windsong]

Besides being born, I would say I was a problem everyday.  One of those kids not to be left alone or I would dream up something.  There was nothing that I got praised for only berated.  Reverse psychology my late DM said.

I overcame a lot in the 18 to 25 y.o. range.  One was being able to communicate in a conversation.

The best advice I ever read was a person has to take care of themselves because no one else will.  I started eating correctly, exercising, etc.  Those were easy compared to making a social life.  That has taken years.  A friend got me into a ladies social club where I found acceptance and activities.  A couple of trouble makers reared up but the group had a way of dealing with them. 

[Deleted]

Jun 13, 2014 19:53:13 GMT -5 The Captain said:

@pinkcshmere - sorry you had to go through that but I am glad she did eventually get rid of him.

Thank you. I pissed her off regularly during that time, but other than that (and the drinking incident) I was a fairly good kid.

[ZaireinHD]

now that you crossed out and updated - sure I'll add!


first let me say I have a 4 year younger brother. HE IS THE FAVORITE - in my opinion/IMHO. I have all my life been the good son, and my younger brother is the trouble maker. when I was 19 or 20 - my mom SAID to me - raising me was easy it was my brother that was the terror!

so me getting my parents upset that I don't understand why didn't happen.
However! LOL
I was 18/19 the first time I was arrested and spent the night in jail. Next day my dad bailed me out. we got home and I turned to go to my room and he punched me and I fell to the floor, tried to get up and he kicked me - I rolled over and tried to get up again and he kicked me again - I was now thinking he lost his fucking mind! I got to get out of here! THEN he starts the yelling at me! ok pops! lesson learned - will not happen again. and that is the last time I can remember upsetting my parents.

but when my Brother got arrested THE FIRST TIME! LOL
my dad picked him up from jail and he got yelled at!

and too this day he still pisses them off! and they just .....
don't get me started

[KaraBoo]

I could never do anything right for my mom unless it was doing exactly what she wanted while in front of other people (and even that - if I did it "wrong" in her eyes, even if the others approved, I'd get in trouble later at home).  By the time I was in high school, I was an honor student, in multiple school clubs, worked as much as possible once I turned 15, paid my bills (insurance and gas and phone) and from the outside was the "perfect" kid.

I was messed up as a teenager - always looking for someone to give me acceptance for who I was/am - and it led to me running away with my boyfriend (who was not only years older than men, but had money and promised me everything I wanted to hear).  I was 17 when I ran away and was gone for around 6 months.  When I finally came back, all I heard was how much I hurt her and how horrible I was.

My mom rubbed it in my face for over 10 years about how she couldn't trust me and how much damage I did.     At one point I finally commented to her, "Since that time I ran away, I have gotten my GED, got married, had a kid, got divorced and now living as a single mom.  I do not ask you for any money, never moved back in with you, and only occasionally ask you to babysit when I have to work a weekend.  If you cannot get over a choice I made when I was 17 that lasted 6 months, I don't know what to tell you!"

I'm 40 now and she'll still occasionally bring up what I did when I was 17.  She likes to tell me that any struggles I have with my stepkids is payback for what I did to her as a kid.  It's messed up.  

[Bonny]

Announcing that I wanted to go to college...and then completed it in about 3 years. I honestly can't figure out why they were so hard on me, whether it was jealousy or if they thought I was going to make them pay for it? Because they made it clear they wouldn't.

Not spending enough money at my wedding. I didn't ask for any money but when I announced that DH and I were getting married my mother said she and my dad would give us $2,000 like they did for my brother. I think I came in at around $1700. She didn't understand why we didn't spend more. And DH's father and stepmother (wife #2) were mad that we didn't ask them for money.

One of the positive things I learned really early on was that if you don't use other people's money you don't have to deal with their rules/issues/cr*p. Or maybe that's just my red hair.

[raeoflyte]

I didn't finish my girl scout gold award. Mom doesn't bring it up but I know she's sad I didn't do that.

They were crushed about my choice in relationship but 17 years later and I think they'be accepted it.

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[Sum Dum Gai]

what was the worst thing you did to piss off your parents?

In chronological order;
Stopped maintaining perfect grades in school.
Got arrested.
Got arrested.
Dropped out of high school.
Dropped out of college.
Got arrested.
Knocked up my girlfriend.
Joined the military.
Moved out of state when I left the military.

I think that's it, but her list might be longer.  Oh, and some level she has to feel that I haven't lived up to my potential in general.  Call that one number one and sprinkle it throughout the list.

[NoNamePerson]

Called my mother and told her I hope she had a second bedroom because here I come ready of not (age 16)   Probably pissed her off for the whole two years I lived with her. But moved on at 18 so she got off easy 

[Bonny]

Jun 15, 2014 14:20:35 GMT -5 Sum Dum Gai said:

what was the worst thing you did to piss off your parents?

In chronological order;
Stopped maintaining perfect grades in school.
Got arrested.
Got arrested.
Dropped out of high school.
Dropped out of college.
Got arrested.
Knocked up my girlfriend.
Joined the military.
Moved out of state when I left the military.

I think that's it, but her list might be longer.  Oh, and some level she has to feel that I haven't lived up to my potential in general.  Call that one number one and sprinkle it throughout the list.

What did you keep getting arrested for? Did you actually go to jail for any period of time?