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Post by NancysSummerSip on Aug 24, 2019 15:55:29 GMT -5
Dearest friend J, It was a long and emotional lunch today. And I was grateful beyond words to see you and the kid. Not a kid, really. A young lady and soooo pretty! And it's clear she's daddy's girl and your heartstrings are wrapped around her finger, in a good way. You teared up when you talked about her. I am so proud of you. This is the you I never thought I'd see. I know you have a lot to get through with the divorce and all, but she is your child, and you need to fight for full custody. Her mother has abandoned her and has lied to everyone, running around with a boyfriend while telling people she's on trips and outings with girlfriends (this 'ho is one lousy liar -- the gal pals she claims to be with are always seen around town without her at the time she claims to be with them. And she's been spotted in the boyfriend's very expensive and tricked out truck -- the design is so outrageous that the two of them and the truck are impossible for people in their town to miss). You are the most stable person in your child's life and nothing is worth fighting harder for than your kid's well-being. Since your STBX has been caught on video and audio lying as to her whereabouts and trying to hide her intentions from you, a judge should have no issue (I hope) granting you custody and relieving you of alimony, since she refuses to work. I hate that it's come to this, but you will move through it.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Aug 25, 2019 10:53:20 GMT -5
Well I have to eat some crow. My brother is still a douche but he's been really stepping up at the restuarant.
It's A that is the issue. She seems to think assistant manager means co owner and has been making decisions without my dad's approval. She's also not showing up for work. She's trying to see if dad will be a doormat.
She's on probation. If she makes another decision behind my parents' back she's fired.
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Post by ners on Aug 26, 2019 17:17:09 GMT -5
Dear Driver of the white truck that almost rear ended me and then cut me off.
Why did you give me the finger. I was driving the speed limit in the right lane when out of nowhere you appeared. You appeared like you were getting off at the exit. You even entered the exit lane and then changed your mind and cut me off.
Signed
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Aug 27, 2019 7:55:32 GMT -5
Well I have to eat some crow. My brother is still a douche but he's been really stepping up at the restuarant. It's A that is the issue. She seems to think assistant manager means co owner and has been making decisions without my dad's approval. She's also not showing up for work. She's trying to see if dad will be a doormat. She's on probation. If she makes another decision behind my parents' back she's fired. Who's A? The baby momma? Or another relative? Or an employee? I'm trying to keep the scorecard straight!
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Aug 27, 2019 8:41:39 GMT -5
Well I have to eat some crow. My brother is still a douche but he's been really stepping up at the restuarant. It's A that is the issue. She seems to think assistant manager means co owner and has been making decisions without my dad's approval. She's also not showing up for work. She's trying to see if dad will be a doormat. She's on probation. If she makes another decision behind my parents' back she's fired. Who's A? The baby momma? Or another relative? Or an employee? I'm trying to keep the scorecard straight! She's another employee. She worked with my dad to open the business and has her own following of customers. Her heart is in the right place but she's not the owner. My dad hasn't been his own boss/a manager for so long that it's taking some time to get into the swing of things so she's been trying to push her boundaries. He had it out with her a couple of weeks ago and she's now on probation. He doesn't want to out right fire her because she has her own customer following and we don't want her turning against us, but at the same time if she cannot be bothered to show up and is undermining my dad (whether intentional or not we're not sure) then she has to go. She tried to dictate that front of the house has to do all the prep for bread and salads. I laughed in the chick's face on Saturday when she told me that because it's impossible. My dad made A put her money where her mouth is and she had to do it. He told her this is why I don't want things run this way and I hope you have a better appreciation for what front of the house does now.
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Post by Iggy aka IG on Aug 27, 2019 9:57:25 GMT -5
Dear Driver of the white truck that almost rear ended me and then cut me off. Why did you give me the finger. I was driving the speed limit in the right lane when out of nowhere you appeared. You appeared like you were getting off at the exit. You even entered the exit lane and then changed your mind and cut me off. Signed Defensive Driver Dear ners, Sorry this happened to you. Sounds like you did an excellent job keeping safe. We have the same problem here with incompetent drivers. In fact, I've started a new game for when I must drive into town. Leaving my office parking lot, I start counting traffic violations of others. Rolling stops, stopping past the white line, not stopping at all, blowing through red lights, swerving in front of me because the driver is on the phone and/or stoned. I count an average of 3 or so in just the 2 miles to the grocery store. Signed, It's scary out there
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Post by NoNamePerson on Aug 27, 2019 11:24:23 GMT -5
Dear Driver of the white truck that almost rear ended me and then cut me off. Why did you give me the finger. I was driving the speed limit in the right lane when out of nowhere you appeared. You appeared like you were getting off at the exit. You even entered the exit lane and then changed your mind and cut me off. Signed Defensive Driver Dear ners, Sorry this happened to you. Sounds like you did an excellent job keeping safe. We have the same problem here with incompetent drivers. In fact, I've started a new game for when I must drive into town. Leaving my office parking lot, I start counting traffic violations of others. Rolling stops, stopping past the white line, not stopping at all, blowing through red lights, swerving in front of me because the driver is on the phone and/or stoned. I count an average of 3 or so in just the 2 miles to the grocery store. Signed, It's scary out there Dang, I didn’t know you had moved here. Some time back there was a report on the 10 most dangerous intersections in the state. I think we had 4 or 5. Been ages since that report was published but at the time I went thru 2 of them to get to and from work
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Post by Iggy aka IG on Aug 27, 2019 11:35:04 GMT -5
Dear ners, Sorry this happened to you. Sounds like you did an excellent job keeping safe. We have the same problem here with incompetent drivers. In fact, I've started a new game for when I must drive into town. Leaving my office parking lot, I start counting traffic violations of others. Rolling stops, stopping past the white line, not stopping at all, blowing through red lights, swerving in front of me because the driver is on the phone and/or stoned. I count an average of 3 or so in just the 2 miles to the grocery store. Signed, It's scary out there Dang, I didn’t know you had moved here. Some time back there was a report on the 10 most dangerous intersections in the state. I think we had 4 or 5. Been ages since that report was published but at the time I went thru 2 of them to get to and from work So glad you survived, NNP!
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Post by Iggy aka IG on Sept 4, 2019 13:26:08 GMT -5
Deleted. Rant over.
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Post by busymom on Sept 4, 2019 13:42:58 GMT -5
Dear Woman with Idaho plates driving through Illinois: Did you really think that while driving 70 mph, with a sleeping husband next to you, that it'd be a good time to send a text message? I seriously need to get a camera for my car to record these idiots. "> Trying to drive safely, Busymom
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Post by NoNamePerson on Sept 4, 2019 13:47:33 GMT -5
Dear Woman with Idaho plates driving through Illinois: Did you really think that while driving 70 mph, with a sleeping husband next to you, that it'd be a good time to send a text message? I seriously need to get a camera for my car to record these idiots. "> Trying to drive safely, Busymom Maybe he was dead and she was asking for advice on where to him Ok, I'm leaving for now before I get booed off the board
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Post by Artemis Windsong on Sept 4, 2019 14:03:27 GMT -5
I am feeling very dismissed. The family had a drink to my late SIL in the parking lot of the bar and didn't tell me. I was not in the photo. Being left out has happened too frequently. Feeling very hurt.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Sept 4, 2019 14:27:42 GMT -5
I am feeling very dismissed. The family had a drink to my late SIL in the parking lot of the bar and didn't tell me. I was not in the photo. Being left out has happened too frequently. Feeling very hurt. Families just plain suck sometimes
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Sept 4, 2019 14:44:04 GMT -5
Dear Databases.
I hate you. More than you will ever know. Beth
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Post by TheOtherMe on Sept 4, 2019 14:46:04 GMT -5
I am feeling very dismissed. The family had a drink to my late SIL in the parking lot of the bar and didn't tell me. I was not in the photo. Being left out has happened too frequently. Feeling very hurt. Families do suck at times. You are already grieving which makes you vulnerable with your feelings. My family did this to me when my DN1 (and favorite) nephew got married. I was not included in any of the wedding photos. There were photos of her entire family and his entire family minus me. Things like that hurt.
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Post by busymom on Sept 4, 2019 15:19:46 GMT -5
Sometimes, friends make better family than blood relatives. Just because they're related, doesn't mean they've got your back. And yes, it sucks.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Sept 4, 2019 18:51:39 GMT -5
Families can totally suck -- I have family I have not spoken to in over a decade thanks to their habit of stealing money and property and abusing old people in order to commit those crimes. Nothing about them would ever make me change my mind. I am instead grateful for the few fabulous friends I have that I'd gladly get up for at 3 in the morning and rescue from anything. Oh, and thankful for my EE friends, too.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Sept 7, 2019 11:47:59 GMT -5
Oh, wow gang. Not even sure how to begin with this one. Dear coworker, We received the news Thursday about your accident. You, your husband and your MIL driving on the interstate during the height of the wind and rain we we were getting from Dorian. Husband lost control of the vehicle, slamming into the only vehicle parked on the side of the road -- a tow truck, with its lights on and cones out. How on earth it happened to be there, in that exact unfortunate spot when you spun out of control, we may never know. Husband died at the scene, MIL sustained a broken arm. Coworker in a coma with brain and other injuries.
Coworker and husband have four kids, ages 5 to 16; 2 hers and 2 theirs. Some extended family local but not very many. A home they just barely rescued from foreclosure (missed mortgage and insurance payments).
I am going to the hospital tomorrow after my race. She is in intensive care, so it is unlikely I will be allowed to see her. But I do want to see the family and offer help. Coworker does not live far from me, and although no one is occupying the house at this point I can probably help out on the maintenance side of things (I've learned a lot of that because DH cannot do most of the stuff around the house anymore). Not sure where the family stands on immediate issues, like SS death benefits for his kids, SSDI for coworker (we cannot hold her job because we are not ADA obligated; we have fewer than 20 employees and need a full working staff), social services and the like. I won't ask anything intrusive, but will offer any help I can, if the family asks. I guess I am one of those relentlessly forward people: there are four children who need to be fed, housed, educated and loved. All my other coworkers are offering the "thoughts and prayers" answer only, but I guess maybe I lack that spirituality. No matter what, that has to be a priority. Coworker's recovery is vital in all of this, but the kids' lives move forward with one or neither parent.
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Post by saveinla on Sept 7, 2019 12:54:19 GMT -5
That's a really sad situation Nancy. Glad that you are thinking of the children.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Sept 7, 2019 15:17:55 GMT -5
NancysSummerSip You are very kind. Thank you for trying to help this family and especially the children.
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Post by busymom on Sept 7, 2019 19:19:43 GMT -5
You are such a blessing, NancysSummerSip! My parents knew of a family who lost both parents many years ago, leaving younger kids, but the oldest was old enough to "raise" the other kids. Their house was out in the country, with a wood-burning stove, and a group of guys used to cut timber into logs small enough to put into that stove. People who actually roll up their sleeves & help, instead of just sending "best wishes", are what makes this country great. And yes, if you can help get those kids set up with whatever benefits they're eligible to receive, that would be great!
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Sept 8, 2019 12:52:29 GMT -5
Well, so much for good intentions. I stopped at the hospital, and she is not there. No information as to her whereabouts. I texted my HR guy (who visited her there two days ago) and asked if he could or had been in contact with the family. He texted, I waited. Nothing. No help from the miserable hospital staff, who apparently have the collective compassion of a pet rock. (Sorry, that's not directed at any of you in the medical field. Just this place, which has an awful rating). They were angry that I was even in their lobby.
Given her condition, she could only have been transferred to another facility, or she passed away. Discharge is extremely unlikely, given that she was in a coma 48 hours ago.
I feel sick over this, angry and sucker-punched. I want to help and just left wondering if she is dead or alive. Literally no clue.
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Post by busymom on Sept 8, 2019 13:41:04 GMT -5
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Post by TheOtherMe on Sept 8, 2019 13:49:32 GMT -5
I'm sorry NancysSummerSip Not sticking up for the hospital, but is it over privacy concerns that they can't tell you anything?
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Post by mollyanna58 on Sept 9, 2019 9:44:36 GMT -5
Dear oil well investor guy,
I don't know how my name got on a phone list of prospects who might be willing to invest in an oil well drilling operation. The fact that you mentioned that most of your investors get to write off their investment against their taxes did not cause me to jump up and down and beg you to take my money.
Signed,
Really?
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Sept 9, 2019 12:49:55 GMT -5
Well, so much for good intentions. I stopped at the hospital, and she is not there. No information as to her whereabouts. I texted my HR guy (who visited her there two days ago) and asked if he could or had been in contact with the family. He texted, I waited. Nothing. No help from the miserable hospital staff, who apparently have the collective compassion of a pet rock. (Sorry, that's not directed at any of you in the medical field. Just this place, which has an awful rating). They were angry that I was even in their lobby.
Given her condition, she could only have been transferred to another facility, or she passed away. Discharge is extremely unlikely, given that she was in a coma 48 hours ago.
I feel sick over this, angry and sucker-punched. I want to help and just left wondering if she is dead or alive. Literally no clue. That is a HIPAA violation. They have no idea who you are or why you would be looking for that information. They could lose their jobs or even possibly face jail time if they told you that without documentation that you are authorized to have it. They could have been nicer about it though I will give you that.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Sept 13, 2019 19:34:55 GMT -5
Well, so much for good intentions. I stopped at the hospital, and she is not there. No information as to her whereabouts. I texted my HR guy (who visited her there two days ago) and asked if he could or had been in contact with the family. He texted, I waited. Nothing. No help from the miserable hospital staff, who apparently have the collective compassion of a pet rock. (Sorry, that's not directed at any of you in the medical field. Just this place, which has an awful rating). They were angry that I was even in their lobby.
Given her condition, she could only have been transferred to another facility, or she passed away. Discharge is extremely unlikely, given that she was in a coma 48 hours ago.
I feel sick over this, angry and sucker-punched. I want to help and just left wondering if she is dead or alive. Literally no clue. That is a HIPAA violation. They have no idea who you are or why you would be looking for that information. They could lose their jobs or even possibly face jail time if they told you that without documentation that you are authorized to have it. They could have been nicer about it though I will give you that. Totally understood. And an update: she is in fact still there. But under a no contact order. Family never bothered to impart that information to anyone at our company. Had they done that, I would never have bothered stopping there and looking like a jerk. I have used the same no contact order myself once, while hospitalized. So I understand its use. But I let immediate family know that I had it and that it was fine to advise others of it. I also let the hospital know to tell prospective visitors that I was not receiving them.
In the coworker's case, the staff said she did not exist at the hospital, which is a pretty scary thing to hear, especially when someone else at my company saw her less than 48 hours before I stopped by. Why the no contact order went into effect after that, I don't know. Possibly to keep the media out (the accident did make the local news) or some unwanted relatives.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Sept 16, 2019 13:26:20 GMT -5
Who's A? The baby momma? Or another relative? Or an employee? I'm trying to keep the scorecard straight! She's another employee. She worked with my dad to open the business and has her own following of customers. Her heart is in the right place but she's not the owner. My dad hasn't been his own boss/a manager for so long that it's taking some time to get into the swing of things so she's been trying to push her boundaries. He had it out with her a couple of weeks ago and she's now on probation. He doesn't want to out right fire her because she has her own customer following and we don't want her turning against us, but at the same time if she cannot be bothered to show up and is undermining my dad (whether intentional or not we're not sure) then she has to go. She tried to dictate that front of the house has to do all the prep for bread and salads. I laughed in the chick's face on Saturday when she told me that because it's impossible. My dad made A put her money where her mouth is and she had to do it. He told her this is why I don't want things run this way and I hope you have a better appreciation for what front of the house does now. So back to this. A quit. My dad REALLY put her in her place after he went on vacation. He told her that he's the F-ing boss and she was not.. period. Her friends were banned, her boyfriend was banned (after getting in my brother's face) and she was told to get her ass back to work because she was scheduled to close and she wasn't going to make my brother do it after he had been at the store since 11 working on a 25+ pizza order that SHE took but refused to do the work on. She ghosted him until he threatened to call the cops over $1200 she was supposed to deposit and not returning her keys. Super professional right? DH said he was surprised and I said I wasn't. She behaved the exact same way with my great uncle but the difference is he let her get away with it. She assumed I guess we were all push overs and found out real quick that wasn't the case. I know she did not like me out there because she couldn't boss me around plus it meant she couldn't sneak in one of her buddies (I have no idea what rock these women crawled out from under. ..brother swears one is a crack head ). She now works at a bar, where she can have her friends surround her and do absolutely nothing but chat and drink. I am actually glad she's gone because she was starting to create a real toxic environment, everyone is much calmer/happier with her not around.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Sept 16, 2019 15:00:53 GMT -5
Good for your dad.
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