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Post by alabamagal on May 4, 2019 11:38:59 GMT -5
Thanks. It was a new-ish Honda Accord, four door. The impact blew out the rear window and crushed the back end, including the frame. No fixing a frame in that condition. The vehicle that hit them was a Cadillac Escalade. I hope he's got money and insurance. He wrecked several cars with his driving. Cadillac Escalade and other large luxury SUV drivers are the worst around here for driving like that, especially around those of us with smaller vehicles. We call it entitled driving. <not meaning to insult those of you with luxury SUVs, most of you are responsible drivers>
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Post by taz157 on May 4, 2019 11:58:05 GMT -5
Dear brother (and family), Glad that everyone is OK after the wreck on I-75. Even better: a trucker with dashcam caught the whole thing. The SUV driver who claims he fell asleep at the wheel, lost control and hit several cars (including the one my nieces were in, which was totaled, but its safety features saved their lives) could not have been asleep. He was driving in excess of 90 MPH, in a perfectly straight line, weaving in and out of traffic with no sign of loss of control such as straying into the median or off the shoulder. He was in "perfect" control of his vehicle -- until he came upon three lanes of "slower" (AKA driving the speed limit) traffic that just happened to get in his way. Wow. Glad your nieces are okay. Yeah that.
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Post by NastyWoman on May 4, 2019 12:51:57 GMT -5
Wow. Glad your nieces are okay. Yeah that. x2
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Post by ners on May 4, 2019 12:58:17 GMT -5
NancysSummerSip very glad your family is okay. Cars can be replaced. People cannot.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on May 4, 2019 13:01:16 GMT -5
NancysSummerSip very glad your family is okay. Cars can be replaced. People cannot. The insurance company has already officially totaled the car. Just as well. I feel bad for my niece. She actually needs a car, living on campus and working off campus. She's a good kid and a hard worker. So I hope this gets resolved fast. And the butthead who caused this loses his license - if in fact he even has one.
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Post by busymom on May 4, 2019 14:19:35 GMT -5
That sounds typical, sadly, for the crazy-fast drivers around here. I was on I-95 last weekend, where the traffic was actually moving at the speed limit (they have a lot of slow-downs there), and some idiot blew past me like I was standing still. No wonder there are so many fatalities on the news. Plenty of pick-up trucks and sports cars drive like the limit is only a suggestion. We've got a major festival in our community this weekend, and I am THRILLED at how many highway patrol and police have set up speed traps. Gotta catch 'em all. I hope, NancysSummerSip, that your relatives were checked out at a hospital. Back pain can be the worst kind of pain.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on May 4, 2019 14:39:26 GMT -5
Everyone checked out OK...paramedics at the scene insisted on a hospital trip for all. Good thing, I think. You always think you are OK, until a few days later, yanno? On another subject, which I forgot to tell y'all about... Hot Mama in the office got back together with the Dude (the one who came into the office, quit and broke up with her when he quit the job). Seriously. That is some weird WTF there. And "K" (who was out of the office for March and April) still has not come back. Turns out her mom was very ill, waiting to get well enough for a liver transplant, and passed about two weeks ago. Very sad; the liver issues were the result of a long, hard life of heavy drinking and cirrhosis of the liver. She had stopped drinking years ago, but the damage was done.
That said, "K" is planning a celebration of life service for two weeks from this weekend. And get this: she is selling T-shirts with her mom's photo on them, for $25 per shirt. Seriously this was on FB. It is not for any kind of charity fundraiser. It's so she can make some money, having been out of work all this time. I don't know what to say about this. Profiting at a funeral? Isn't this kind of like expecting people to pony up a certain amount for a gift at a wedding, or contribute cash to a honeymoon or house fund for the newlyweds?
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Post by TheOtherMe on May 4, 2019 15:44:18 GMT -5
Yes to the above and I see it here.
I don't mind helping people families pay for expenses not covered by insurance (like driving back and forth for medical care, etc). I helped a friend's daughter who was diagnosed with leukemia while between jobs. I'm so glad I did because she made a miracle recovery and even though she was told she the chemo and radiation would have left her infertile, she has married the man she was dating while ill and had two miracle babies. I did not mind donating for that.
She was losing jobs because of being too tired and feeling so poorly. It took a lot of tests to determine she had leukemia.
Was "K" not working because her mother was ill? I think you have said this has been a pattern. I wouldn't buy a t-shirt anyway. I'd rather make direct donations to help cover costs or go to a charity.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on May 4, 2019 18:47:37 GMT -5
Yes to the above and I see it here. I don't mind helping people families pay for expenses not covered by insurance (like driving back and forth for medical care, etc). I helped a friend's daughter who was diagnosed with leukemia while between jobs. I'm so glad I did because she made a miracle recovery and even though she was told she the chemo and radiation would have left her infertile, she has married the man she was dating while ill and had two miracle babies. I did not mind donating for that. She was losing jobs because of being too tired and feeling so poorly. It took a lot of tests to determine she had leukemia. Was "K" not working because her mother was ill? I think you have said this has been a pattern. I wouldn't buy a t-shirt anyway. I'd rather make direct donations to help cover costs or go to a charity. Exactly. Her mother was chronically ill for years, and took the final turn for the worse two months before she finally passed. There are other family members in the area, but knowing "K," she would never entrust anyone else to manage her mother's care. I overheard Hot Mama (who is a friend of hers) telling someone about a confrontation "K" had with the nursing staff at the local hospital. Not sure what the issue was or if there was any kind of fault involved on anyone's part, but "K" was insistent that her mother was not treated right and wanted her out of that hospital, doctors' orders be damned. She was moved to another facility, two counties away, and that was part of the problem. "K" could not work and go to the hospital, given the distance. Keep in mind, "K" used up all her PTO in the first MONTH of 2019 for her own issues. So she has not been paid since. We are not FMLA because of our company size, and no one on the staff could donate PTO to her except me (I am the only one who has any time available, and I won't do it).
I just found the T-shirts for sale thing to be odd. I understand grieving, having buried both parents. I did ask for charitable donations at my mother's funeral for the local animal shelter, but it was voluntary (I had the envelopes for donation available and gave them to those who wanted one), not a personal money grab. Plus she put it on FB, plus she's been all weepy and crying on FB every day. She posts a lot of sad memes and homilies and all I can think is "OK, your mom was sick for years. I get it. So was mine. You are entering your third month out of work, putting a lot of pressure on other people. She passed two weeks ago, and you have made NO attempt to even contact our HR department to let anyone know your status, like when you are coming back. You have a new house with a mortgage and two kids. And a husband with an irregular job that offers no benefits. If I were in your shoes right now, I'd be hustling my butt back to work for the sake of my future."
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Post by wvugurl26 on May 4, 2019 19:16:36 GMT -5
People are crazy. There was a shooting in my college town at like 5am. Turned out to be an all night memorial service at a strip club. They were charging a $10 cover to get into this so called memorial service.
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Post by TheOtherMe on May 5, 2019 7:02:14 GMT -5
Mom was in hospice for 6 months. We took off work the day she entered hospice care at the request of the social worker. They wanted to make sure family was on board.
My sister and I both worked the rest of her illness. My tax job ended so I was finished working. We did spend the final 48 hours by her bedside and were with her when she passed.
My sister did not go back to school that year. However, she had bereavement time that covered it. Her principal told her not to come back. By the time the funeral was held, it would have been for two or three days--the last of the school year.
We requested no flowers and donations to Hospice and that is what people did.
If I were in your shoes right now, I'd be hustling my butt back to work for the sake of my future." Definitely. It's time for "K" to contact HR. Is she even going back to work? Does she have a job?
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Post by NancysSummerSip on May 5, 2019 15:35:53 GMT -5
Mom was in hospice for 6 months. We took off work the day she entered hospice care at the request of the social worker. They wanted to make sure family was on board. My sister and I both worked the rest of her illness. My tax job ended so I was finished working. We did spend the final 48 hours by her bedside and were with her when she passed. My sister did not go back to school that year. However, she had bereavement time that covered it. Her principal told her not to come back. By the time the funeral was held, it would have been for two or three days--the last of the school year. We requested no flowers and donations to Hospice and that is what people did. If I were in your shoes right now, I'd be hustling my butt back to work for the sake of my future." Definitely. It's time for "K" to contact HR. Is she even going back to work? Does she have a job? Anywhere else, she would not have a job. But the company owner will probably take her back. Which is really not fair. Again, I'm not a meanie about this. But it it were anyone else in the company, would they be treated the same way? That is the fairness test. I know our HR guy is very unhappy about the situation, but he feels his hands are tied. It's going to be very awkward when she does return. Not everyone is going to be happy to see her. We're not unsympathetic, but we think there should be a fair standard applied.
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Post by TheOtherMe on May 5, 2019 17:23:10 GMT -5
A fair standard should be applied. It's a small company. The rest of you have had to do her work. Yes, HR's hands are tied if the owner will take her back.
No, it isn't fair.
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Post by Iggy aka IG on May 6, 2019 17:12:47 GMT -5
Dear Monday, BITE ME. Signed,
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Post by NoNamePerson on May 6, 2019 19:06:26 GMT -5
Dear Monday, BITE ME. Signed, There there it's gonna get better
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Post by Opti on May 6, 2019 19:16:21 GMT -5
Just a quick drive by posting. Just emailed the scrip to HR from my doctor about returning to work the end of this week. Which will be a total time out, - of 2 weeks. Not sure if it counts as 10 days, the official 30 hr. PT hours. OR the unofficial Opti works 40+ hrs. a week over 6 days, with only Wednesday off.
Next is to craft my proposed job & salary by Thurs/Fri.
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Post by steff on May 8, 2019 13:54:11 GMT -5
anyone want to see before & after bathroom makeover pics? I redid hubby's bathroom while he's gone. he hasn't seen it at all.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on May 8, 2019 14:22:43 GMT -5
That said, "K" is planning a celebration of life service for two weeks from this weekend. And get this: she is selling T-shirts with her mom's photo on them, for $25 per shirt
So tacky. So creepy.
We always put money in a sympathy card when we go to a funeral, it's customary for people to do so around here. However if I was approached with something like this I'd be opening it up and taking my money back. Good lord.
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Post by Opti on May 8, 2019 14:31:43 GMT -5
anyone want to see before & after bathroom makeover pics? I redid hubby's bathroom while he's gone. he hasn't seen it at all. Sure. I wish I had a phone with a camera. I'd love to share my "garden" pics around my building. Picking up some cheap plants from Walmart, while my sinuses are inflamed, sometimes on nice discount.
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Post by steff on May 8, 2019 16:00:38 GMT -5
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Post by steff on May 8, 2019 16:02:30 GMT -5
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Post by steff on May 8, 2019 16:10:56 GMT -5
I did add a drape & a dark wood medicine cabinet after I took the pictures. I started the whole project with the shower curtain. It's a VERY bright room naturally, so it can handle the very dark color. The general goal was "don't make it look girly". lol That's why there's a picture of a longhorn, so it could never be called a "girly" bathroom.
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Post by busymom on May 8, 2019 17:42:00 GMT -5
Nice job steff! Love the tile you put in the shower, too.
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Post by TheOtherMe on May 8, 2019 18:05:35 GMT -5
Beautiful! Are you for hire?
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Post by buystoys on May 9, 2019 7:42:18 GMT -5
Love the kitty pic.
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Post by Artemis Windsong on May 9, 2019 16:44:40 GMT -5
I am on the jerk list of friends today. My GF is recovering from hand surgery and will not take it easy. I went to Sam's today and bought 2 lbs of artichokes in a jar. I know she likes them. I sent her a text at noon and asked if she wanted to share. Yes. I txt back I will be right over. I missed her next message she was going down for a nap. I feel bad for waking her and her husband. She seldom sleeps. I don't know how she keeps from collapsing. Then the shark that was going ran over the chicken bits she left on the floor for her dog. I saw the food but didn't remove it. Ugh. I will ask her to put a do not disturb on her phone. Or shut it off.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on May 11, 2019 15:53:36 GMT -5
Holy potty perfection, steff! That is fantabulous!!!!! And is kitty upside down for joy over the new bathroom or what?
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Post by NancysSummerSip on May 11, 2019 16:00:03 GMT -5
OK, I managed to date myself (I think) at a recent staff meeting.
At the end of the meeting, HR guy asks if anyone has anything to discuss beyond the already-dealt-with agenda. A staffer gets up, does a little dance and announces her divorce became the day before. I failed to applaud, unlike everyone else. I had no idea 1) this was fodder for an office staff meeting and 2) divorce was to be applauded. Granted, it is the best end to a horrible, hideous and inhumane relationship, but I wondered if I was missing something the younger generation thinks is now OK. I know Hallmark has a line of "congrats on your divorce" cards, but I still thought this was something best handled with tact and that you let people know without the bells and whistles. Am I outdated on this?
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Post by taz157 on May 11, 2019 16:02:53 GMT -5
I don’t think it was appropriate to announce your divorce at a staff meeting either. I could see telling your close coworkers if you wanted too, but not at a staff meeting.
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Post by TheOtherMe on May 11, 2019 16:46:57 GMT -5
I don't think it should have been an announcement at a staff meeting.
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