Sum Dum Gai
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Mar 5, 2013 16:02:16 GMT -5
Who can. Just kiss somebody else goodbye.
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Post by Firebird on Mar 5, 2013 16:02:43 GMT -5
Firebird - you are way more likely to have a screaming child and the drunk guy next to you will slap her than the plane going down. Assholes are everywhere, but plane crashes are rare.
Touch my baby and he'll land with fewer hands than he remembered having when we took off! Actually, I'm not too worried about the trip there. I figured the best way to combat the time difference was to make the trip at night. We leave around 10:00 at night and land in our final destination at about 10:00 am (local time obviously) the next morning. With any luck, Babybird will sleep through most of the actual travel. Needless to say, *I* will be snorting coke to stay awake by the time we arrive.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 5, 2013 16:04:13 GMT -5
ok, seriously - where in PA, dammit?! It better be in the Philly area or else!!!! <<shakes fist>> Oh, and I haven't really done anything to prepare for my imminent death. I have been meaning to increase my life insurance since DS was born, but I keep forgetting. But like Arch I don't want to make things TOO easy where my death would benefit the family.
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Firebird
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Post by Firebird on Mar 5, 2013 16:07:41 GMT -5
I signed up for Roboform so DH will have an easy way to access all my logins/passwords. He has it too. We're in the process of consolidating our financial accounts so we both access to everything. We have a trust, will, advance directive, etc. And lots of life insurance. anne, what's Roboform? I agree about being prepared.
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Post by Firebird on Mar 5, 2013 16:10:21 GMT -5
ok, seriously - where in PA, dammit?! It better be in the Philly area or else!!!! <<shakes fist>> MJ, sorry. We're flying to Harrisburg to visit friends who live... not in Harrisburg. I think it's an additional hour or so to their place by car. I wish I were flying into Philly too. Lots of buddies there!
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Post by zibazinski on Mar 5, 2013 16:38:00 GMT -5
Firebird, a thing about that flight is that there may be a lot of empty seats so you can put the baby in between you and the seat and both of you lay down. Our trip from Honolulu to San Francisco was two thirds empty. We all were snoozing away with whole rows to ourselves.
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Post by Firebird on Mar 5, 2013 16:52:12 GMT -5
zib, that sounds awesome but I don't think I could let Babybird lay down even with an extra seat. She's a kicker and a squirmer and it just isn't a good idea. www.wahloo.com/fleece-baby-sling.phpThis is what she's going to (hopefully) sleep in on the plane. It's very cozy and Babybird loves it. Nice and dark in there too.
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Post by mrsdutt on Mar 5, 2013 17:17:49 GMT -5
Planning to die just seems too much like wanting it to happen. I don't want to tempt fate that way. I haven't even filled out the new life insurance forms when I switched companies, so if I die Loop only get's like 1.5 times my salary or something. No will. No medical directives. Nothing stating who gets the kids. I'm planning to be around for another few decades so I don't have to worry about that stuff. You hear that Karma, Destiny, or whatever shitty stripper name the universe's sense of humor is going by these days? You got a problem with it? Bring it on bitch. You really need to work on this. Loop would have a hard enough time if something happened to you without having to worry about money issues. The kids would be destabilized as well. These things are done with love for the people in your family.
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Post by cronewitch on Mar 5, 2013 17:18:33 GMT -5
I have a will from 29 years ago leaving everything to my mom. My 86 yo mom will have to deal with everything she will be sorry I didn't outlive her. My 401K is half each to favorite niece and favorite nephew but my brokerage account and ROTH might not have anyone on them so ISO would get nothing. I don't know what I want to do ISO should get something but I expect to outlive him and mom. Great nephews are becoming adults one will be 17 this month but I won't leave anything to minor children. I will wait for retirement, sell the house, get new house and new will maybe a trust to keep the house in. Then when I die the ISO can live in the house until he dies then it goes to my family maybe a great nephew or my favorite nephew or favorite niece. One of these days I will make a thumb drive off all my passwords and log in stuff for favorite nephew and ask him to be executor and trustee along with a few other people. ISO is bad with money so the trust could hold money and give him an allowance for life.
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Sum Dum Gai
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Mar 5, 2013 19:00:10 GMT -5
Eh... I'm sure she'll remarry well.
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zibazinski
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Post by zibazinski on Mar 5, 2013 19:53:11 GMT -5
What would make you think that?
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Post by naturallyfrugal on Mar 5, 2013 21:16:49 GMT -5
Firebird - I hope Babybird sleeps for you, but I took my son on a redeye once as a baby and it was the worst flight ever! He's normally a great traveller and had flown before with no problems. On this flight, however, he didn't sleep at all and cried and he rarely cried. We flew from the west coast back to the east coast. We had a short layover at Dulles and then a short flight to our destination - I vowed never to fly overnight again. I truly hope you have a great, and safe, flight.
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Sum Dum Gai
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Mar 5, 2013 21:32:59 GMT -5
She married so well the first time.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 5, 2013 21:53:31 GMT -5
What kind of provisions have you made, if any, for your spouse or family in case you suddenly pass away? The normal will, power of attorney and life insurance. Plus I keep an "If I Die" book in the kitchen cupboard that DH, ODS and my Mom know about. It has a list of all accounts, account numbers and passwords.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 5, 2013 22:26:22 GMT -5
roboform is an online password file system - basically it's a site where you store all your logins and passwords. You have one password for roboform. Then when you need to login you go to roboform and click login for proboards, for example, and it fills in your username and password for you. A lot of our bills, medical information, and financial information is online so it's helpful for keeping track.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Mar 5, 2013 23:47:02 GMT -5
What would make you think that? You crack me up!! We have a trust for our kitty children and are leaving almost everything to my SIL (DH's little sister). Her new husband is also a sweetie. They love our life, our house and our kitties and will just move right in if we are both killed. If she predeceases us then I have friends/neighbors who are next in line who I know will do everything possible to honor our wishes. They will also get the house, etc. Actually the will states that kitties/pets are first in line then their new staff will get our life, if they want it, until their natural deaths. Life insurance policies are divided between SIL and favorite charities (after spouses) and we have a living will, POA, medical directives... I think that's everything. We are hoping Murphy's law will apply here too. If prepared - not needed. If not prepared...- .
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Post by tcu2003 on Mar 6, 2013 8:26:17 GMT -5
zib, that sounds awesome but I don't think I could let Babybird lay down even with an extra seat. She's a kicker and a squirmer and it just isn't a good idea. www.wahloo.com/fleece-baby-sling.phpThis is what she's going to (hopefully) sleep in on the plane. It's very cozy and Babybird loves it. Nice and dark in there too. I'm assuming you already know this, but just in case, you probably can't wear babybird in the carrier for takeoff and landing. I don't know if it's airline policy or FAA, but I wear C in our Ergo when flying, and we always have to take him out for takeoff and landing. That works for us, though, as when we're seated, he wants to be able to stand on our laps so he can see.
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Post by zibazinski on Mar 6, 2013 9:57:35 GMT -5
You get lucky one time in your life.
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Post by thyme4change on Mar 6, 2013 10:46:49 GMT -5
zib, that sounds awesome but I don't think I could let Babybird lay down even with an extra seat. She's a kicker and a squirmer and it just isn't a good idea. www.wahloo.com/fleece-baby-sling.phpThis is what she's going to (hopefully) sleep in on the plane. It's very cozy and Babybird loves it. Nice and dark in there too. I'm assuming you already know this, but just in case, you probably can't wear babybird in the carrier for takeoff and landing. I don't know if it's airline policy or FAA, but I wear C in our Ergo when flying, and we always have to take him out for takeoff and landing. That works for us, though, as when we're seated, he wants to be able to stand on our laps so he can see. When I traveled with my baby (10 years ago) the flight attendants encouraged me to wear the carrier during take off and landing. But I did have to take her out to go through security. Things may have changed, but the FAs said that if something goes wrong during takeoff or landing, the most important thing is that I'm able to keep a hold of the baby, and having that baby strapped into my chest was more reliable than just sitting on my lap. Mine wasn't a sling - it was one of these type of things:
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Post by Gardening Grandma on Mar 6, 2013 11:30:50 GMT -5
Used to be that whenever I flew somewhee, I'd feel bad because I did not have a will/instructions/etc. As the plane would take off, I'd fret about the mess I'd leave behind if something happened. Then my ex died, my son had to deal with the mess he left, and I promised my son that I would not do that to him.
Now, when I fly, I know that my son knows where to look for the will, instructions, and a document listing accounts, insurance and contact information. It does make me feel better.
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Post by Bob Ross on Mar 6, 2013 11:34:38 GMT -5
Since my definition of "worst case scenario" is the ZombieAIDSpocalypse, I see no need to store internet passwords. The only password I might need is my FB one so I can post stuff like "Oh noes! I'm being eaten by an AIDS Zombie!" but the problem is that a bunch of folks will probably "like" that.
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Post by telephus44 on Mar 6, 2013 11:46:33 GMT -5
I have my passwords written down somewhere DH can access them.
Last time we started going through "we should get wills/life insruance/etc" was right before some issues in our marraige blew up and we almost got divorced, so it didn't get completed. I'm going to try and finish that this year.
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Post by Firebird on Mar 6, 2013 12:07:30 GMT -5
He's normally a great traveller and had flown before with no problems. On this flight, however, he didn't sleep at all and cried and he rarely cried. naturallyfrugal, I was about to reply that she's flown before and done great but then I kept reading and... this... damn it... roboform is an online password file system - basically it's a site where you store all your logins and passwords.
anne, that's pretty cool. How much does it cost? I hope they don't let Melissa McCarthy work there... I'm assuming you already know this, but just in case, you probably can't wear babybird in the carrier for takeoff and landing.
tcu, I do remember that from flying before. I've been practicing taking Babybird in and out of the pouch, both sleeping and awake (you have to kind of squash her into it, not the easiest carrier in that regard) so she'll be prepared. Thyme, I was able to carry Babybird through security in the sling but had to take her out for takeoff and landing. Their rationale on that one escapes me, but that's how it was the last time we flew (December). telephus, I truly hope things are going better for you now.
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Post by tcu2003 on Mar 6, 2013 13:52:58 GMT -5
I do love that you can wear babies through security! It makes getting all of the stuff scanned so much easier that I don't have to deal with DS - he's securely in the Ergo, and I have both hands free to deal with everything else.
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Post by Firebird on Mar 6, 2013 14:48:44 GMT -5
Seriously. Especially this time, when I have to deal with all luggage (that I'm carrying on) by myself.
I'm going to try to take as little as possible on the plane - if I can get away with just a diaper bag, super. We'll see how it goes.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Mar 6, 2013 21:53:05 GMT -5
I have a will, medical and financial POA, medical directive, funeral pre-arranged, etc. Passwords are in a letter to my DN, who will be executor. I hope it's a long time in the future before any of it's needed.
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Post by bookkeeper on Mar 7, 2013 17:09:30 GMT -5
I got busy and made up the "what do we do now?" book for my two grown sons. I was busy gathering up year end information for income tax prep anyway, so I just made a few more copies.
So far, I have included copies of account statements, life insurance statements, long term care statements, real estate tax statements, and a short letter to say goodbye.
I included contact person and phone number info for each account, the year end balance and legal descriptions. I thought about making a list of my recurring bills, but I figured the satellite TV company can just be out my monthly payment when I die. My sons are pretty self sufficient, but they have never taken an interest in my finances, so I thought I had better give them a clue as to where to look.
I don't think passwords will come into play for them. All of our banking can be done the old fashioned way, and the retirement accounts list the boys as beneficiaries, so all they should need is a death certificate and a day to start calling the phone numbers in the book.
It feels a little weird, that the sumtotal of your financial life to date can be contained in a few copied pages.
I think I will leave this book with my neighbor and best friend. That way it will be close by to update, but off site in case we die in a house explosion. I always wanted to go out with a bang!!
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