Peace Of Mind
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Dec 16, 2012 17:19:39 GMT -5
That's usually how you know it's the right thing. I hope you find a place she will be happy at soon and that all of her closest friends will follow. What a shame that this has to happen.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 16, 2012 20:32:53 GMT -5
If she wants to stay in gymnastics, then find her a new gym & she'll make new friends. I would not force her into dance if that is not what she wants to do.
The other option is soccer - very active, very team oriented, good for life skills as well as physical activity. My kids wanted to do soccer, but I couldn't support 4 days a weeks practices so they didn't get to do it. Sometimes life doesn't give you everything you want. They lament it every now & then but they also know you have to make choices.
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Post by skubikky on Dec 17, 2012 10:13:16 GMT -5
One of my acquaintances has her son in swim and her daughter in dance. I'm shocked at how much time it takes, how much travel and cost is involved. They are competitive but not big leagues. I think hockey is the most shocking -both in the time requirements and cost. I purposely avoided it with my kids. (And I felt a little bad because my sister's son plays. ) Hockey can be expensive and take a lot of time and many times not. My DS played house hockey for 13 years. The costs weren't bad and the league his team was in played within a 70 miles radius of the home rink. We live in the Rochester, NY area so hockey is very popular up here. Lots of rinks and lots of clubs to play. He loved it. Now can play Zamboni league as an adult and have a great time.
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thyme4change
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Post by thyme4change on Dec 17, 2012 12:12:10 GMT -5
She and I had a talk this weekend. The good news is that she said "absolutely not" to a bunch of activities that I mentioned (Soccer, tennis and golf being among them.) So, now I know that there is a word "no" in there. We basically have "no" and "Maybe" and "I'm not sure." So, I will follow through with the "maybes" and "I'm not sures" - they are as close to "yes" as I will get.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Dec 17, 2012 12:34:07 GMT -5
Good luck Thyme.
I told DD this weekend we were signing her up for swimming. She doesn't get a choice on this one so I'm hoping she'll enjoy it. But she's 4.5 and I feel strongly that kids need to learn how to swim and be comfortable in the water.
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Post by spicyhotpepper on Dec 17, 2012 12:42:21 GMT -5
Wow I think my parents really lucked out with me. I was literally the only kid besides one other in my entire school (ok, there were only 100 kids in K-8) that didn't play sports. I never liked them and hating playing them. I enjoyed reading and making crafts all day long. I did eventually take piano lessons but that was an hour once a week or so.
If I ever have kids I hope they don't want to play sports either! With my sports-loving husband, though, that could be an issue.
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Post by thyme4change on Dec 17, 2012 12:47:28 GMT -5
The problem I have with not playing "sports" is the health issue. Everyone should find a physical activity that works for them. I happen to be skinny-ish, but I am weak and unhealthy. I never found a physical activity that really interested me. I never tried, because when I grew up you were either branded "sporty" or not. I kind of liked raquetball, but didn't want anyone to think I was trying to be athletic. Now, I look on facebook and all the non-sporty crowd weighs 200+ pounds. Too bad we couldn't find a place where health was valued over winning.
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Post by spicyhotpepper on Dec 17, 2012 12:53:37 GMT -5
The problem I have with not playing "sports" is the health issue. Everyone should find a physical activity that works for them. I happen to be skinny-ish, but I am weak and unhealthy. I never found a physical activity that really interested me. I never tried, because when I grew up you were either branded "sporty" or not. I kind of liked raquetball, but didn't want anyone to think I was trying to be athletic. Now, I look on facebook and all the non-sporty crowd weighs 200+ pounds. Too bad we couldn't find a place where health was valued over winning. That is true. But I would hope I could get my kids to be kids and play outside and be active like us kids used to be. I don't think video games an tv all day is appropriate. I've always been thin and am healthy and didn't play sports.
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Post by thyme4change on Dec 17, 2012 12:56:41 GMT -5
And that is great when you are a kid. But I just don't ever go outside and "run around." Adults appear to need a little more structure to get activity in their lives. It is hard to "take up" tennis when you are 40, have two kids, a job, a husband and a house.
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Post by spicyhotpepper on Dec 17, 2012 13:00:33 GMT -5
Understood. My activitiy of choice as an adult is walking and lifting weights at the gym. And more recently, yoga, if that counts.
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Post by thyme4change on Dec 17, 2012 13:01:28 GMT -5
Walking takes too long to see benefits. Lifting weights has always helped me. I thought yoga was so boring.
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Post by justme on Dec 17, 2012 13:03:52 GMT -5
Not a parent, but did gymnastics as a kid. Went to about 3 different gyms. I think the most I was asked was whether I wanted to keep doing gymnastics or not, not whether I wanted to stay at that gym. I think I was moved around because the first gym I was at they fired my coach and the one that replaced him knocked me back down several levels because I wasn't on the "team" (I want to say he was let go because he wasn't pushing his girls to go "team" and instead coached to whatever their ability was on the days they could come), the next gym wanted me on the team but because of the time/money issue my parents wouldn't let me and they also stunted my growth because of that, the last gym was awesome - the owner totally got that not ever kid could put that much time or money into the sport and just wanted them to enjoy it. He and the other coaches would train me with stuff the team was doing even though I wasn't in that class.
Long story short, I would say if you know she still loves gymnastics just find a gym you like and sign her up and then check in with her. If I had been asked about changing gyms and given the gymnastics somewhere else or not at all choice I honestly don't know which I would have chosen, but I loved gymnastics at the next gym just as much.
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Post by spicyhotpepper on Dec 17, 2012 13:07:51 GMT -5
Walking takes too long to see benefits. Lifting weights has always helped me. I thought yoga was so boring. I like yoga mainly for the mental health benefits. Sometimes I walk out of there feeling better than what any massage or pill or whatever will give me. And the feeling can stay with me for several hours! I think the instructor could make a difference. Some are better than others.
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Post by happyscooter on Dec 17, 2012 13:09:53 GMT -5
We started going to a church when my sons were in middle school and high school. The music director would take a group on a trip every summer to different places to sing, do skits, work in soup kitchens, etc... After about 8-9 years of this, she had gotten a big group and all of the parents were over the moon for her. She decided to take the group out of the country one summer. We could not afford the $2000 for our 2. She had jacked all of these kids up telling them the church would pay some, there would be fundraisers they could participate in, etc... Nope not true. So all of the parents didn't want to disappoint their kids and spent the $1000 for their kids to go. DH and I had to sit our 2 sons down and tell them we couldn't afford it and even if we could, we probably wouldn't spend that on a vacation for them while we sat home. The other adults in the church got upset with us for not letting our kids go. WTH??
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Post by formerroomate99 on Dec 17, 2012 14:15:43 GMT -5
There's a reason most gymnists careers are over at 25. The activity is very hard on their bodies. There is no way in heck I would let my daughter do any activity, especially gymnasitcs, that many hours a week. You're just asking for expensive injuries later on. Do you really want your kid spending the last 50 years of her life walking with a limp?
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Post by grits on Dec 17, 2012 14:57:49 GMT -5
Help her to get her grades up first. Then, check into another activity.
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