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Post by Deleted on Sept 14, 2012 14:58:24 GMT -5
At DD's previous daycare (we moved her to be closer to my new job) the daycare administration told the employees not to have the kids do Father's Day projects or to even mention the day to the kids. Wonder if that is what happened at my daycare. They set home a memo asking for pictures of the kids with dad for a father's day project. I turned in a picture and next thing I know I never hear anything about it again. guess the single dads are screwed! oh wait, they don't exist because only women can be nurturing. Nah, there actually were a couple dads there who had primary or sole custody...they just didn't go running in to the DC Manager's office "screaming and making a big deal about it. " (Quote from DC Manager who told me about it when I asked why there is never a Father's Day project.)
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Post by thyme4change on Sept 14, 2012 14:58:37 GMT -5
At my kids' preschool/daycare, they had a Mother's Day party - Tuesday at 10:30 am. They also had a father's day / grandfather's day party - Saturday. It really pissed me off.
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Post by movingforward on Sept 14, 2012 15:07:50 GMT -5
Your kids don't make equal levels of fuss over both mother's and father's day? That makes me sad for your husband... At DD's previous daycare (we moved her to be closer to my new job) the daycare administration told the employees not to have the kids do Father's Day projects or to even mention the day to the kids. Why? Because they had complaints from the single moms when their kids came home with Father's Day projects or asked about their dads. That's just ridiculous. These kids are going to eventually ask about their father. They see other dads picking up their kids and hear stories from other kids about their dads. Pretending no one else has a father doesn't make it true.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 14, 2012 15:08:47 GMT -5
I wish we could just get rid of all of the "Day's" . Do Mothers and Fathers really need a day where their kid draws them a crappy picture? can we please make Hallmark release the grip they have around our balls?
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Post by midjd on Sept 14, 2012 15:09:48 GMT -5
Shooby, still waiting to hear who has been saying that "men and women are exactly the same." I mean, we know how you feel about putting words in others' mouths...
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Post by Tennesseer on Sept 14, 2012 17:29:09 GMT -5
Your kids don't make equal levels of fuss over both mother's and father's day? That makes me sad for your husband... At DD's previous daycare (we moved her to be closer to my new job) the daycare administration told the employees not to have the kids do Father's Day projects or to even mention the day to the kids. Why? Because they had complaints from the single moms when their kids came home with Father's Day projects or asked about their dads. Maybe the daycare didn't want the kids to bring in pictures of their dad because all the mothers went to the same sperm donor clinic and selected the same man's picture to father their kids. Do all the kids look alike? It could confuse the kids.
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Post by weltschmerz on Sept 14, 2012 17:59:30 GMT -5
Maybe the daycare didn't want the kids to bring in pictures of their dad because all the mothers went to the same sperm donor clinic and selected the same man's picture to father their kids. ------------- Oh my! I hope the kids don't start dating each other in high school....
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Post by Firebird on Sept 14, 2012 19:26:52 GMT -5
Because female teen sex offenders are pretty rare. And, boys and girls are indeed different. And, girls/women are more natural at nuturing and being attuned to th needs of others. My young daughter would actually be BETTER at watching her teen brothers. FLAME ON! Whew. I was starting to think I was nuts and shooby was actually sane Now I have an example of one of her weird ideas to take to the other thread!!
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Post by Firebird on Sept 14, 2012 19:29:36 GMT -5
I hardly see how recognizing and celebrating masculinity and femininity is a bad thing. I don't understand the fear of saying "boys and girls are different in some ways" is a big deal. My daughter can grow up to be and do whatever she wants. Likewise my sons. I hardly think that carrying around this idea that men are more likely to be abusive than women is "celebrating masculinity and femininity." Generalizing the differences between the genders and turning them into stereotypes does neither one any honor.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 14, 2012 20:09:18 GMT -5
I don't think anyone is objecting to that - what we're objecting to is the idea that "men can't babysit little girls because most pedophiles are men, but it's fine for women to babysit little boys even though more than half of all physical abuse to children is by women." This is true, but the definition of a pedophile is not just someone who sexually abuses a child. There is more to that definition. However, even if ALL pedophiles were men, that does not mean all men are pedophiles. Also, not all abuse is sexual.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 14, 2012 20:16:00 GMT -5
I know if i would go that far. There are men who do like working with kids. Lots of men coach young kids and we don't find that weird. There are teachers and pediatricians and male obstetricians and we don't find that weird. I think a professionally trained person is a bit different than having some unsupervised teen boy in your home. Teen boys are stupid. That is just a fact. I just can't think of too many teen boys that i would think would even know how to properly react in an emergency. Sorry, but girls are smarter, we all know that. No, girls develop their frontal cortex sooner than boys. A male frontal cortex is fully developed at 25 years of age, whereas a female frontal cortex is fully developed at 21. This does not make teenage boys stupid. Both genders do stupid things because the part of the brain that says, "Don't do THAT", is not developed enough to do so.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 14, 2012 23:48:00 GMT -5
I wish we could just get rid of all of the "Day's" . Do Mothers and Fathers really need a day where their kid draws them a crappy picture? can we please make Hallmark release the grip they have around our balls? You aren't allowed to have balls anymore. That would be too manly and there is no such thing now!
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Post by Deleted on Sept 14, 2012 23:49:41 GMT -5
I know if i would go that far. There are men who do like working with kids. Lots of men coach young kids and we don't find that weird. There are teachers and pediatricians and male obstetricians and we don't find that weird. I think a professionally trained person is a bit different than having some unsupervised teen boy in your home. Teen boys are stupid. That is just a fact. I just can't think of too many teen boys that i would think would even know how to properly react in an emergency. Sorry, but girls are smarter, we all know that. No, girls develop their frontal cortex sooner than boys. A male frontal cortex is fully developed at 25 years of age, whereas a female frontal cortex is fully developed at 21. This does not make teenage boys stupid. Both genders do stupid things because the part of the brain that says, "Don't do THAT", is not developed enough to do so. So, in other words, they are indeed stupid for a longer period of time. And, since women outlive men, then these extra 4 yrs actually translate into a greater percentage based on longevity. So, thank you for confirming that.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 14, 2012 23:54:00 GMT -5
Because female teen sex offenders are pretty rare. And, boys and girls are indeed different. And, girls/women are more natural at nuturing and being attuned to th needs of others. My young daughter would actually be BETTER at watching her teen brothers. FLAME ON! Whew. I was starting to think I was nuts and shooby was actually sane Now I have an example of one of her weird ideas to take to the other thread!! Oh goody! Add it as your signature line! lol ;D
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Post by Deleted on Sept 14, 2012 23:54:52 GMT -5
I hardly see how recognizing and celebrating masculinity and femininity is a bad thing. I don't understand the fear of saying "boys and girls are different in some ways" is a big deal. My daughter can grow up to be and do whatever she wants. Likewise my sons. I hardly think that carrying around this idea that men are more likely to be abusive than women is "celebrating masculinity and femininity." Generalizing the differences between the genders and turning them into stereotypes does neither one any honor. You are silly.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 15, 2012 11:15:29 GMT -5
Well, if you want to send your young daughter out unsupervised, have at it. Your kid. Seriously Shooby. You think there are no predators for your son? You are being very naive.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 15, 2012 16:44:47 GMT -5
No, girls develop their frontal cortex sooner than boys. A male frontal cortex is fully developed at 25 years of age, whereas a female frontal cortex is fully developed at 21. This does not make teenage boys stupid. Both genders do stupid things because the part of the brain that says, "Don't do THAT", is not developed enough to do so. So, in other words, they are indeed stupid for a longer period of time. And, since women outlive men, then these extra 4 yrs actually translate into a greater percentage based on longevity. So, thank you for confirming that. Sigh, the frontal cortex has nothing to do with intelligence, as you are showing right now.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Sept 15, 2012 16:50:31 GMT -5
I knew I shouldn't have opened this thread.
Just this once I'm going to back out without responding though. I'm taking the high road. I'm not even going to post something snarky on my way out.
Have fun guys... err folks. Folks isn't sexist right?
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Post by Firebird on Sept 15, 2012 16:58:09 GMT -5
Seriously, Dark? SERIOUSLY?!?! You can't just "take the high road." You have a reputation to uphold, mister.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Sept 15, 2012 17:08:23 GMT -5
I can't become too predictable. Gotta keep people guessing.
Besides, I'm busy this weekend tackling my honey-do list since I'm a moron who's helping Jimmy buy a car.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 15, 2012 17:47:12 GMT -5
Well, if you want to send your young daughter out unsupervised, have at it. Your kid. Seriously Shooby. You think there are no predators for your son? You are being very naive. I take responsibility for all my children. And, that includes making sure they are only in safe situations either way. Sheesh.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 15, 2012 22:22:46 GMT -5
No difference between men and women here: Homicide trends: perpetrators: men vs. women? According to the FBI Supplementary homicide reports (1976-2005) these are the facts when it comes to murder in the U.S.: Male offenders for all homicides are 88.8%. Women: 11.2%. In instances where one intimate partner murders another, males commit 65.5% of these homicides, women: 29.2%. When children are the victims, it's men who murdered them 61.8% of the time, women: 38.2%. When elderly victims are killed, men commit 93.5% of these crimes- women: 6.5%. In cases of serial killing (multiple victims): men are the offenders 93.5% of the time, women: 6.5%. In instances where two or more offenders work together to commit a homicide men are the offenders 91.6% of the time, women: 8.4%. answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20070928022207AANkK2T
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Post by Deleted on Sept 15, 2012 22:35:40 GMT -5
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Post by midjd on Sept 15, 2012 22:45:53 GMT -5
Yeah, 60/40 is not a huge split.
And again, WHERE did anyone say men and women are exactly the same? You keep claiming we think that, but you're the only one who has said it.
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Post by thyme4change on Sept 15, 2012 22:47:25 GMT -5
So, now we aren't worried about our kids getting molested. We are just going to assume that a male babysitter will murder them?
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Post by midjd on Sept 15, 2012 22:52:24 GMT -5
AFTER he molests them.
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Post by Phoenix84 on Sept 15, 2012 23:00:59 GMT -5
Hmmm, it appears shooby has some sexist ideas. The 1950's called, they want to know how you're going doing
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Post by Phoenix84 on Sept 15, 2012 23:05:52 GMT -5
I was solicited to do some baby sitting a few times as a teen. It's not a big deal and the kids are still alive today to tell the tale.
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Post by Firebird on Sept 17, 2012 11:05:30 GMT -5
Seriously Shooby. You think there are no predators for your son? You are being very naive. I take responsibility for all my children. And, that includes making sure they are only in safe situations either way. Sheesh. Good luck with that one - seriously.
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Post by Taxman10 on Sept 17, 2012 11:08:22 GMT -5
AFTER he molests them. maybe he'll murder them first??
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