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Post by zibazinski on Jun 11, 2012 9:49:03 GMT -5
Both of my aunts and uncles share their emails. It creeps me out because I know my uncles are snooping so I email nothing to either of them. I can't even call without them either being on the other line or speaker phone.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Jun 11, 2012 11:00:49 GMT -5
This is interesting. I had never thought about this before. My husband and I share an email account for personal use. He doesn't check his personal email very often, so it's just easier for us to have one. I also feel like if I just monitored his personal email for him, that would be much more deceptive to people who thought it was him responding than if we just openly have one account for the two of us.
We do not share FB because he is against FB as a whole, so he just doesn't have an account.
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Post by 973beachbum on Jun 11, 2012 11:04:45 GMT -5
This is interesting. I had never thought about this before. My husband and I share an email account for personal use. He doesn't check his personal email very often, so it's just easier for us to have one. I also feel like if I just monitored his personal email for him, that would be much more deceptive to people who thought it was him responding than if we just openly have one account for the two of us. We do not share FB because he is against FB as a whole, so he just doesn't have an account. I am not trying to be snarky but do you, or anyone, seriously think that you can tell something to a person and their spouse isn't going to be told? I have always felt that with very rare exceptions what I tell one half of a couple is going to be told to the other half. ETA Chloe I probably shouldn't have quoted your post. My question wasn't actually questioning your post. Sorry
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Post by milee on Jun 11, 2012 11:08:34 GMT -5
Can't speak for everybody else, but it's not that I expect my friends not to tell their spouse interesting or important things.
It is, however, a very different feeling to know that a spouse is (or potentially it) reviewing in detail all correspondance. Don't know how to describe it, maybe it's the difference between thinking that normally we tell spouses things in summary and the emails/messages are in detail? Anyway, for me, it feels like a personal invasion to think someone else is reading the things I'm sending, even if they're not important or exciting.
It just feels creepy.
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Post by thyme4change on Jun 11, 2012 11:11:16 GMT -5
I call that "We-mail." I'm not a fan.
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Post by 973beachbum on Jun 11, 2012 11:12:40 GMT -5
I think I just have really boring email. We have a shared account and all it has are bank statements, school crap from both kids schools and districts, birthday party invites and spam. No one ever sends me any gossip worthy emails.
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Jun 11, 2012 11:13:58 GMT -5
We don't share email, but then again, between us we probably have 10 different accounts all for different uses. I could look at his any time I wanted to, but I never have. Same for him - he can open up my laptop and get into my email if he really wants.
Shared FB accounts really annoy me for some reason. Same as email - we have each other's login info, but we don't get on each other's accounts to snoop. His has to be very specific for business use too, so he hardly posts anything since its all reviewed by the compliance officer.
Then again, we don't even share computers. We each have our own work & personal laptops. Same for phones - we each have our personal smartphones.
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Post by milee on Jun 11, 2012 11:14:11 GMT -5
"No one ever sends me any gossip worthy emails. " You need better friends. Either that, or the fact that you share an email account is preventing your good friends from cutting loose.
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Post by zibazinski on Jun 11, 2012 12:17:46 GMT -5
I don't email people who I know have shared accounts. It gives me the creeps.
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Post by 973beachbum on Jun 11, 2012 12:26:49 GMT -5
I don't email people who I know have shared accounts. It gives me the creeps. Do you share a regular mail box? Cause everyone I know has only one mail box for everyone at the address and no one finds it creepy.
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Post by thyme4change on Jun 11, 2012 12:35:43 GMT -5
Yes, but the letters come with a name on the envelope. Sure, my husband could bust into my mail, but he would at least know that it was intended for me.
However, if "we" get an email from another couple's email address, we have no way of knowing if the man is emailing an invitation for my husband to play on his basketball team, or the woman is pouring her heart out to me over her latest torrid affair. I know that my BIL will read any emails that I send to my sister - so I can't tell her about my irregular pap-smear, or anything else. I guess I could put "FOR SUSIE ONLY" in the subject. But really, email accounts are free.
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Post by zibazinski on Jun 11, 2012 12:35:45 GMT -5
Mail addressed to me goes to me to be read by me. DF doesn't open or read my mail and I have the same consideration for his privacy.
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Post by 973beachbum on Jun 11, 2012 12:41:05 GMT -5
I don't find it that hard to figure out that an email from the school is about our kids and is for either of us. An email from a friend of his is for him and vice versa. The only thing stopping us from reading the other's emails is the same things that would stop us from reading the other's regular mail.
I am not saying I haven't clicked on the wrong message and opened it by accident, but I have done that with snail mail also.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 11, 2012 14:13:06 GMT -5
I don't send a lot of personal emails anymore, so maybe it is becoming a non-issue. But I like to reserve the right to throw you a surprise birthday party if I want to.
I expect my friends to share our conversations with their spouses, but there is the potential for editing and context when they do that the old fashioned way. It is also weird to send a "Girl's night out" email or FB message to a shared account. The recipient can probably puzzle it out, but any casual acquaintances on the list might not get it.
Actually, now that I think about it, casual acquaintances are where this is the weirdest. I am friends with the spouses of my closest friends, but not of people I only know casually. And I don't want some dude I've never met before - even if he has been vetted through by whichever of my girlfriends married him - to be able to view everything about my personal life on FB.
Beyond that, I find it sad when people adopt the identity of "Billandsue Jones" - you got married, you weren't surgically attached. Own the space bar. Be Sue Jones, dammit.
(and for what it's worth, I'm similarly annoyed by people who start calling themselves "Hi, I'm Timmy's Mom" instead of "Hi, I'm Sue, Timmy's Mom")
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Jun 11, 2012 15:29:45 GMT -5
Another thing I thought of as to why we have one email account: this way we only have to update one calendar and set of contacts. We access our calendar and contacts from our phones, and having the same set of information is much easier.
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Post by thyme4change on Jun 11, 2012 15:45:18 GMT -5
My personal experience, others don't seem to have this skill, or the desire to exercise it. I'm glad you have it figured out - but it isn't universally true.
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Post by muttleynfelix on Jun 11, 2012 15:49:21 GMT -5
This is interesting. I had never thought about this before. My husband and I share an email account for personal use. He doesn't check his personal email very often, so it's just easier for us to have one. I also feel like if I just monitored his personal email for him, that would be much more deceptive to people who thought it was him responding than if we just openly have one account for the two of us. We do not share FB because he is against FB as a whole, so he just doesn't have an account. I think Underwater Chloe and I are married to the same guy. If you want to send me something and don't want my DH to see it, then send it to me on facebook or send me a text message. If you want to send something direction to my DH, text him. Technically he does have an account, but he rarely checks it. So all family correspondence comes to my email addres, all of our church stuff comes there as well (even stuff I'm not suppose to know about, but he tells me anyway). Our friends and family don't seem to mind. Of course pretty much every every couple in our family uses a family email address. If you don't want to email me or be my friend because of a freakin email address, that is your right. I think it makes it easier to plan family events only have joint email addresses. I haven't done a "girls" night in years since all of my girlfriends that are my age live out of town and all my friends in town are retired and do things mainly as a couple. DH hangs out with his brothers, but they do planning over the phone or they just show up. No need to email for that.
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