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Post by NastyWoman on Jan 29, 2012 0:01:22 GMT -5
Last year you helped me with deciding what to gift for a Bar Mitzvah. So, not being American, I have run into unknown territory again...
I received a wedding announcement from one of DS2 very good friends in HS. Since we have moved ~20 times many of them internationally this friend id one of the few that have lasted into adulthood. Last time I met him was in March at DS2 wedding, where I also met his bride.
My question is: what is the appropriate thing to do here. I am quite willing to give them a gift certificate -- they did not register for any gifts when they got married. However, I am afraid that this would be (incorrectly) seen as if I thought they were soliciting gifts and as a result offend them.
Please help I don't want to mess this up. I really like these "kids" and want to do it right.
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Post by Apple on Jan 29, 2012 13:43:43 GMT -5
If you WANT to give them a gift I would do it. I'd include a card or a note that said how much you enjoyed the "kid" and maybe include a fun memory or two, and of course, congratulate them. Who knows if there was a gift grab or not, but if they say anything like "you didn't need to do that" just tell them it was your pleasure and you wanted to do something nice for them.
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Post by ❤ mollymouser ❤ on Jan 29, 2012 17:24:33 GMT -5
I would probably send a nice card, and enclose a gift certificate or gift card in it, asking them to "enjoy themselves!"  |
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Post by Deleted on Jan 29, 2012 19:58:14 GMT -5
It's not a gift grab. Unless his invite you DS2's wedding was a gift grab on your part. It looks like you are legitimately close enough for this. Do what you want to do.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 29, 2012 20:00:38 GMT -5
But I would send cash rather than a gift card. It gives the bride and groom more flexibility.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 29, 2012 20:55:22 GMT -5
Everyone loves getting cash.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jan 29, 2012 21:54:54 GMT -5
I agree about the cash. Gift cards to have limits.
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Post by NastyWoman on Jan 30, 2012 1:52:41 GMT -5
Thank you all. I will go with he money. Your advice was exactly what I hoped it would be, I just did not want to offend |
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Post by Artemis Windsong on Jan 31, 2012 17:14:46 GMT -5
Everyone loves getting cash. The downside of this is they forget who gave them the cash and what they spent it on. |
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Post by CCL on Feb 3, 2012 20:36:15 GMT -5
I wouldn't actually give cash. I'd write a check. Anything can happen to cash on its way to the recipient.
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Post by TD2K on Feb 12, 2012 15:54:04 GMT -5
Everyone loves getting cash.  |
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