zibazinski
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Post by zibazinski on Oct 9, 2011 12:30:06 GMT -5
They're little kids and it is cute. I wouldn't do it but it's a lot different than having school aged and adolescent kids there. You also don't know if they were staying thru the reception or just long enough to be cute for pictures.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 9, 2011 12:36:46 GMT -5
But it brings the insinuation that the three autistic nieces are not cute, which is legitimately hurtful to their parents.
You are debating inviting the children of your DF's sibling. I'm sure that if he had other siblings with children, you would invite either all or none.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Oct 9, 2011 13:25:23 GMT -5
I have no objection to a kid-free wedding. If that had been the circumstances of the original article, I would have no beef. But the bride is having a kid-free wedding *except* for the niece and nephew she thinks would look the cutest in her pictures. I think when you pick and choose among equivalent family relationships, there is going to be tension and hurt feelings. But that's pretty normal. Friends got married last year and only his nephew was there. BF's cousin got married and it was kid-free, except for their 10-year-old cousin who was the flower girl. I think it's a pretty accepted practice to be kid-free except for those in the wedding party. I see nothing wrong with that. I think the author just thinks that she is special because her daughters are.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Oct 9, 2011 14:09:27 GMT -5
They're little kids and it is cute. I wouldn't do it but it's a lot different than having school aged and adolescent kids there. You also don't know if they were staying thru the reception or just long enough to be cute for pictures.
It was good enough for Prince William and Catherine.
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Post by zibazinski on Oct 9, 2011 14:21:21 GMT -5
Little kids ARE cute, sorry if that offends anyone. I don't want kids at an adult only venue and to me, anything that doesn't have kid friendly food and has alcohol is not kid friendly but that's just me. Look at William and Catherine's. That one kid ruined picture after picture and she was NOT having a good time. That's awful.
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Post by zibazinski on Oct 9, 2011 14:25:00 GMT -5
DF's half sibling is 15 years younger than he is plus got married late. His older sister has adult children and no grandchildren. DF's step grandchildren are not invited and they are elem school age except for the baby but the elem kids are not well-behaved and therefore would not be welcome anywhere, let alone our wedding. They are not allowed to our house or their Grandmother's due to their behavior.
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Post by Apple on Oct 9, 2011 15:27:35 GMT -5
Different weddings, different deals, but I think the wishes of the bride and groom should be respected. I don't see how she picked the "cutest" kids when it says in the comments the kids were the ones she was closest to and she has other nieces and nephews not in the wedding or invited to the wedding.
My son was in my (now) ex-SIL's wedding as the ring bearer around age 3. They were up on a stage and he sat with me until it was time to take the ring to them. I was at the side of the stage and he ran to them, handed them the pillow with the rings, turned around and yelled "come on, mom!" It got a chuckle, but the wedding was a little more laid back than some. They can add fun memories or horrible ones, some brides just don't want to take that chance, and some that do would rather hand select the children they want, not be told who they had to involve. I don't think it was a "you have autism" slight, but a "we only want these children" slight, if a slight at all.
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Post by zibazinski on Oct 9, 2011 15:42:55 GMT -5
I do as well but when you tie your entire identity into " my kid's autism" and all the perceived slights because of that, well, you get cases like this. I'll bet it's more like she is a super PITA and no one wants her, let alone her kids, there. She's obviously a liar already. To be publicly called out on it was something she never expected, I bet. Now the whole world knows she's a liar and even she can't delete the truth that fast!!!
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