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Post by The Captain on Aug 28, 2015 14:07:39 GMT -5
You have fewer family members than I do, but consider that the counter-depth fridges are REALLY shallow and don't hold nearly as much food -- or large items such as pans or turkeys, etc. -- as the deeper fridges do. One of our rentals had a counter-depth fridge and it was a total PITA to fit my regular weekly grocery shopping into. But, I am feeding teenage boys with hollow legs, so my regular weekly grocery shopping would wipe local grocery stores out of food as if a hurricane was coming. Since you're basically gutting the room, can you find a way to "enclose" the fridge in deeper cabinets so that you can get a deeper fridge? We may have one or two in-law situations in a few years and I'm trying to make everything as easily accessible as possible. I've noticed how Dad is getting a little unsteady on his feet and I really want to reduce the bumping hazards. Even if our folks never move in, I'll still get fewer bruises given how clumsy I am. That's why we're not going with any bump outs in the kitchen. Rounded corners and molding on the countertops with as little overhang as possible. No transitions in the floors and wide openings in all the rooms. Once we get one more wall opened up the whole main floor will be wheelchair accessible if need be. I only have one teenaged girl eating machine. Some counter depth fridges actually hold a decent amount. www.abt.com/product/68287/GE-PWE23KSDSS.html This isn't bad, right? I actually have no idea how big our current fridge is.
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Post by The Captain on Aug 28, 2015 13:57:53 GMT -5
*Sigh*
It was a company car that I had permission to use at the site I was visiting. Soooo sweet.
I guess what they say about not tasting the champagne if you can't afford it is true.
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Post by The Captain on Aug 28, 2015 13:37:23 GMT -5
Doesn't matter how BMWs drive. You're NOT buying one. This thing cornered like it was on rails, it purred like a kitten while ramping up the RPM's. First and only car I ever drove that felt like I was the one holding it back. Sigh....go ahead. Keep talking me out of it.
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Post by The Captain on Aug 28, 2015 12:55:28 GMT -5
NancysSummerSip- We actually want a gas cooktop and a double wall oven. The current dishwasher is on it's last legs so I don't feel bad about scrapping that. The oven (electric - blech!) is electric cooktop and oven. We might put that in storage and swap out when a rental needs a new one. Same for the fridge. It's nice, works, but is a side by side and we HATE that. I prefer French doors and we want to go cabinet depth (the current one sticks out and I worry about people bumping into it). This is the kinda expensive "ouch" that we're swapping out and really don't need to.
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Post by The Captain on Aug 28, 2015 12:21:55 GMT -5
Why do you think I choose that brand? I'm more than happy to have someone else do my homework for me (Thanks BTW!!!) If you want the model number...... Yes please!
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Post by The Captain on Aug 28, 2015 11:55:29 GMT -5
Hmm......I didn't see that the Fed has announced that they're raising rates this Fall...seen a lot of speculation (as usual) but can't find an announcement....? You are absolutely correct! I saw this right before I called my mortgage guy and it didn't click when he said they were raising rates! I'll go back and edit my other post. www.reuters.com/article/2015/08/13/us-economy-poll-usa-idUSKCN0QI1K020150813
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Post by The Captain on Aug 28, 2015 11:04:55 GMT -5
Ok, you have to post a warning on these NancysSummerSip. *NSFW* Not because of content, but because the coworkers came to see why I'm wiping coffee off my screen!!!!
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Post by The Captain on Aug 28, 2015 10:39:45 GMT -5
I hate that you have to reach for the controls over the burners, though. That's my dealbreaker on a new range. Dials have to be in front of the burners. Ohhh, good point and one I didn't consider. I have to start writing this stuff down.! Thanks!!! Other suggestions anyone?
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Post by The Captain on Aug 28, 2015 10:39:03 GMT -5
Appliances? I'm thinking a bosch dishwasher and cooktop. Have to go with a different mfg for the range hood because bosch doesn't make a 42" hood for their 36" cooktop. Then for fridge and microwave.LOVE the Bosch dishwasher we just put in. We went midrange, about $800 from Lowe's. There were 2, one was about $100 less but I wanted the dishwasher that had the recessed handle. I told TD that I'd be running my hip regularly into the handle if it stuck out. Why do you think I choose that brand? I'm more than happy to have someone else do my homework for me (Thanks BTW!!!)
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Post by The Captain on Aug 28, 2015 10:31:51 GMT -5
No, but the daily mocking of a whole group over the actions of a minority gets old. Especially when those same people doing the mocking are the first to say you shouldn't judge any group by the actions of a few members. Fair enough. The same can be said for the purpose and intent of this thread. Agreed. The fact is that when people are angry and filled with hate, they will find any "reason" to justify their actions. Gun control is not the answer. Pointing fingers at demographics is not the answer. We need to figure out why we have so many angry people who think murder or violence is the solution.
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Post by The Captain on Aug 28, 2015 9:11:51 GMT -5
Generally, you don't want to use the LI to pay off the house (or other lump sums). The survivor should retain the money, draw a monthly 'income', and try to live as before - ie, making the house payments, the car payments, sending the kids to college, etc. Do you know I have actually had to sit down with DH and talk him through this? The man must think I'm super morbid at times but I swear I will haunt him if he messes this up!!! Me: So what do you do with the life insurance if I pass? DH: Umm - pay off the house and car if we owe anything? Me: No - try again - remember it's about managing cash flow... DH: Hire a less expensive financial planner? Me: *Sigh*
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Post by The Captain on Aug 28, 2015 8:58:37 GMT -5
FWIW I recently looked into a HELOC for the kitchen project. Was told in my part of the country it's a 6-8 week process because the appraisers and processors are so backed up.
There is speculation the Fed will raise rates in the fall and people are scrambling to lock in while they can.
Any chance Loops' folks can help out with a short term loan?
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Post by The Captain on Aug 28, 2015 8:52:34 GMT -5
huh? since when? seriously, i have NEVER HEARD THIS BEFORE TODAY. the poor oppressed Christians. It must be awful having to undergo the persecutions inflicted on them daily. No, but the daily mocking of a whole group over the actions of a minority gets old. Especially when those same people doing the mocking are the first to say you shouldn't judge any group by the actions of a few members.
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Post by The Captain on Aug 28, 2015 8:36:35 GMT -5
Ok, another quote in and another in progress. The latest quote was still jaw dropping but doable. This place comes highly recommended by a friend. Then we had another place come out last night. I previously mentioned our drama to one of my train friends and she told me her bff just redid her kitchen and was thrilled with it. I asked her if she would get the name of the company from the bff and she agreed. Well, not only was the bff willing to share the name of the company, but she was so pleased with the work she invited me (a total stranger) into her house to show off her new kitchen. It was nice! We had a glass of wine and chatted for over two hours while she showed me every detail and talked me through their process. I was so impressed with the quality of the work and I (unfortunately) tend to see the flaws right away. Construction is such a bitch I figure anyone that can still be happy at the end of it had to have a pretty good contractor, right? So that's the place that came last night. To be honest, most put-together of them all so far. It will take us two weeks to get a detailed (line item - yea!) quote from them. Then DH and I will decide on appliances and pick out the cabinets. EEEK! EEEK! EEEK! Appliances? I'm thinking a bosch dishwasher and cooktop. Have to go with a different mfg for the range hood because bosch doesn't make a 42" hood for their 36" cooktop. Then for fridge and microwave. Maybe this for the fridge: www.abt.com/product/68287/GE-PWE23KSDSS.htmlThis for the micro?: www.abt.com/product/71824/GE-PVM9195SFSS.htmlThis for the oven?: www.abt.com/product/70446/GE-JT3500SFSS.html
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Post by The Captain on Aug 27, 2015 15:48:01 GMT -5
midjd - I'm glad you jumped in cause I don't feel right moderating a thread I've started or am participating in heavily. DJ - As with a lot of things it's subjective. Proboards has a PG-13 rule. What I consider PG-13 may be very different (snort!) from what another mod considers PG-13. Personally, I'm a bit naïve (yes I admit it) but I like to think PG-13 would be conversations vague enough to go over the heads of some 13 year olds without them catching on to the whole point of the discussion. Probably not realistic in this day and age, but it's like porn, can't describe but you know it when you see it. Any other mod - feel free to jump in with your opinions!
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Post by The Captain on Aug 27, 2015 15:39:06 GMT -5
Do you honestly think your husband is aroused only by you, and is thinking only of you, when you're having sex? You're in for a rude awakening, my friend. Perhaps. I would be very disappointed in him and our relationship if he used me as a means to get over his sexual frustrations caused by someone else. That is not what intimacy in a loving, committed, relationship is about to us. I've said before, the act isn't happening for me unless there is an emotional connection. I can't imagine an emotional connection with your partner, when you're thinking about banging someone else. I have no doubt he gets aroused by others, I just should not be a means to finish that end. Your personal views may vary, those are mine. Just like there are some people who think monogamy is impossible, is it not possible that there may be others who think the same way I do? Why am I the one whose thinking is delusional in your opinion?
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Post by The Captain on Aug 27, 2015 14:40:05 GMT -5
Honestly? Because I don't consider intimacy an act of frustration. It would be like an act of cheating to me for DH to get aroused by someone else then take his "frustrations" out on me. I want him to want me for myself, not because he can't have someone else. Does that make any sense? Maybe 'frustration' was the wrong word to use, but I don't see it as cheating. That's just my opinion. I understand. You stated you couldn't understand something and I gave you a viewpoint. Just my opinion as well. It's all good, as long as both partners understand where the other is coming from.
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Post by The Captain on Aug 27, 2015 14:33:34 GMT -5
I never understood that. DH is a boob man. I even know the type of rack he likes. When I'm watching a movie that has nice visual shots of what I know he likes, and he is off in the man cave watching whatever sports thing is on at the time, I will pause the movie, back it up, and go fetch him so he can enjoy it. He does the same for me, if he's watching a movie that shows certain naked male body parts (he knows what I like to see). Frankly it would make me sad if DH stopped wanting to look at beautiful women. I would mean he was getting old to the point sex no longer mattered to him. And he can look all he wants - it just primes the pump for me when he gets home. This is the part I never understood about why people get mad about their SO going to the strip club. Why wouldn't you want them to go out and get excited and then come home and take the frustration out on you? I don't get it. Honestly? Because I don't consider intimacy an act of frustration. It would be like an act of cheating to me for DH to get aroused by someone else then take his "frustrations" out on me. I want him to want me for myself, not because he can't have someone else. Does that make any sense?
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Post by The Captain on Aug 27, 2015 14:28:33 GMT -5
Then add in what brats & bullies some of the junior high kids can be. Those were my least favorite years in school, & my own kids didn't enjoy those grades much, either.
Be sure you tell her when she gets home that high school is MUCH better. (Crossing fingers) for me HS was brutal in terms of bullying. DD seems more self confident that I was at her age and she's got a pretty solid little crew who seem to have each other's backs. But yea, I was more self assured in HS so did better with the bitches then, as opposed to Jr High. Gah! I thought potty training was hard!
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Post by The Captain on Aug 27, 2015 14:24:55 GMT -5
Yea, right? She's on the gold team. They have a green and silver team as well. Then we have the "A", "B" and "C" schedules. The kids rotate schedules through the year (basically different electives and class times get switched so no one has math all year at 8am). She's on "C" schedule now and DOES have math as her first class (advanced math at that). The school is teaching to common core, no exemptions. The number of standardized tests the kids have to take each year is just nucking futs! Her Jr. High has more kids than my HS. At the rate the district is growing the HS will only have 300-400 fewer kids than the university I attended.
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Post by The Captain on Aug 27, 2015 13:58:02 GMT -5
Yea, I told her she'll be fine. It's kinda cute. The friend has a brother who is a 6th grader. DD and her friend feel like they have to watch out for him because they're the older kids now. DD being an only child, has no idea how that poor boy feels. To be fair I guess he lacks a filter and is small for his age. I'm kinda glad the school is so big. It's hard NOT to find a clique you can fall into. At DD's old school she was the only one into Sci-Fi and Anime /Magna. At her new school she's in with a great group of nerds and is coming into her own. As far as the schedule, it's a little heavier this year as she's in a few advanced classes, but I think she'll do fine.
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Post by The Captain on Aug 27, 2015 13:37:17 GMT -5
*TheCaptain*: So how was your first day of school?
*DD*: Uuuggghh
*TC*: Really?
*DD*:Wrong room twice, got lost, friends brother worried us because we couldn't fine him, homework, bff is on the other team
*TC*: Oh, ok. Everyone has a day like tha..
*DD*: THEN the lunchlady called me a boy and I took the wrong books to class and went down the wrong hall, again! Volleyball, band, reading club
*TC*: Oh, sweetie, sounds like a pretty normal first day, right?
*DD*: Uuuggghh
DD's school is up to almost 1000 kids now (jr high) 100 more than last year (10%+ growth). Logistics are getting to be a nightmare. Her lunch starts at 10:45. They get out of school at 3:30. From the sounds of it getting from one class to another is going to be a rush. I've sent her with some snacky bits for the afternoon. Her Jr. High sounds a lot like my college when it comes to running around.
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Post by The Captain on Aug 27, 2015 13:14:10 GMT -5
Whoops, that may be for a whole nuther thread. BUT - I can't imagine being in a relationship where you're not comfortable letting your SO know what you want.
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Post by The Captain on Aug 27, 2015 13:07:09 GMT -5
I could care less how many girlie mags DH looks at. I don't even care if he goes to a club with the boys as long as he keeps his hands (and other body parts) to himself. A wise woman once told me that she didn't care how hubby got hungry, as long as he ate at home .
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Post by The Captain on Aug 27, 2015 12:43:42 GMT -5
...and let's remember PG-13 peeps!!! (says the one who started the tread )
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Post by The Captain on Aug 27, 2015 12:42:34 GMT -5
Huh. I guess I put lying and cheating in two different (but still undesirable) categories.
I wouldn't consider DH lying about going out for drinks with buddies as cheating. Now lying about going out for drinks with a chick that's more than a friend? Yea - that's cheating.
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Post by The Captain on Aug 27, 2015 12:21:35 GMT -5
Slow cooking steel cut oatmeal. Have you thought about putting your heat on yet? (It got down to 58 here last night. DD tried talking us into putting the heat on )
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Post by The Captain on Aug 27, 2015 12:14:42 GMT -5
I guess I'm still in shock over the magnitude, and one sided nature (in terms of gender). Doesn't speak well for many of the male gender. (Note - haven't gone through the rest of this thread - will do so during lunch) Tom cats in human form. I guess I've been blessed to have more men of character in my life, than characters. Seriously, I know quite a few where I wouldn't blame them a whole lot if they cheated but (at least as far as I know) they've stayed faithful.
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Post by The Captain on Aug 27, 2015 12:13:04 GMT -5
djAdvocateYannow - I'm not the defining authority on this but I can't see any issues with stating what some philosophies say... just saying . Course you can always pop over to the cheating thread I started. Since I'm the OP (note - not as a mod!) on that thread if it get's locked I'm ok with that.
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