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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jul 2, 2020 8:44:11 GMT -5
Thanks. It was pretty quiet. My sister was all "why isn't dh taking you out?!" and I was like "where?" Which she didn't have an answer too. Besides, I wanted my pizza. And dh had acupuncture last night anyway. C slept until 8am! He needed the sleep. And I got 2 hours of work in already.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 2, 2020 14:09:39 GMT -5
Aaaaand, another yelling match with the teen. This time over him always calling in sick to work and lying about them telling him there is lack of work on other days. He has not worked a full scheduled week (which is only 24 hours) since he started there...last October, and I really need him to be doing SOMETHING productive during the day. It escalated into me being the one forcing him to take this job (pretty sure he left McDonalds for this place on his own accord against my advice). Anyhow I had it he was screaming so much, so I called his Dad and asked if he was taking him Friday morning anyhow if he could just go there now. He said, he wanted him to come today and help get ready but DS told him he couldn't because he had to work. I said, "Perfect! Apparently he "misread" the text about 4th of July and he really has Thursday off too!" (the text he wouldn't let me see because privacy and some rambling about the NSA. DS gave me the, "FINE! ANYTHING TO GET OUT OF THIS HOUSE I HATE IT HERE SO MUCH!!!" But it was still 2 hours before he left. He spent that time emptying the fridge of half the food including the last of the ice cream and playing with the cats while watching Netflix. At that point Carrot is like "Are you leaving soon?" Anyhow. He won't be back until Sunday night. Stress level has dropped significantly already. I'm so worried about this Fall. I'm so afraid he's going to intentionally fail all his classes just to spite me.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 2, 2020 14:38:03 GMT -5
This time over him always calling in sick to work and lying about them telling him there is lack of work on other days.
Has your son been taking lessons from my brother?
Now my brother's latest scheme is that since my dad gave him a small raise that means he doesn't need to work as many hours. Have fun trying to deduce that math in your head for the next several hours.
Then yesterday he decided despite my parents being out of town and him left in charge he didn't feel like going in until 5:30-6:00. DH and I were looking out the curtain taking bets, he left at 6:00 which means he did not get there till 6:30. Hope his ex girlfriend kicked his ass when he got there.
My dad already knows all about it because he called me asking if I wanted pie from You Need Pie (umm. .. duh!) and casually asked me what Brother was doing at home right now. Hell if I know and I don't want to know.
Trying to figure out how to convince them to drop the pie at my house. Not sure I want to go over there in the next few days. My dad doesn't want to do it but he may have to fire my brother. DH and I agreed it was a big mistake to rehire bro back after the fist fight. He should have called his bluff and told him you want to quit then you're blacklisted. I get why he didn't but now we have this mess on our hands again.
Also going to suggest my dad train DH on the ovens and leave us in charge next time. Ex-girlfriend has our numbers so if they had needed us I know she would have called us in, but still we can't have my brother being all Colin Ferrell out there when my parents are out of town. My dad is the hardest working person I have ever met, he deserves a couple days off. My brother needs to have another fist upside his head.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 2, 2020 14:41:12 GMT -5
I will say one advantage of my brother is DH is made painfully aware that is EXACTLY how he has sounded to everyone around him for the past 20+ years.
He said it's been a good motivator for him to keep his shit together.
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Post by finnime on Jul 2, 2020 17:41:49 GMT -5
Happy birthday and here's to a much better year to follow, Wisconsin Beth.
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Post by bean29 on Jul 3, 2020 3:38:40 GMT -5
Happy Birthday WIBeth!
MPL and Drama-DD has about one semester of college left. She could work for her Dad, but is totally unmotivated to show up.
The job at the airline looks to be at least on hold for a year or two, so, she got a call out of the blue from a Starbucks Manager desperately needing staff that knows their stuff. DD was a shift manager when she left (I think). The woman said she can not promise to hire her back at same level...DD just sent me a text that SBUX was laying off staff last week. I told her to try to maintain her seniority/years of service, so if they do layoffs she can survive. I just don’t want her spending a year doing nothing.
This store is not at all close to our house. She was trying to get in a store with people she used to work with because she said the ones closest to our house were all “Sh!t Shows, but it sounds like that is what this one is too.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2020 10:12:48 GMT -5
I think I just have to accept the fact that he is very unmotivated and pretty lazy and me nagging him isn't going to change anything. It's hard to believe considering he's a straight A student, but he's never had to really WORK for those grades. College is going to be so different... Anyhow, on to worrying about the younger one! It's not looking like this Covid thing is just going to go away in April like Trump said and I can't handle the idea of Fall being more of the same as Spring was, especially since I won't be home during the day like I was before. I've been inquiring into moving him to the private school. The plan was always for him to go there starting in 9th grade...maybe 7th...unless he expressed a strong preference for the public high school. Those were two natural breaks. All the kids at charter schools need to find a high school for 9th grade and the international students come in 9th grade, so there are plenty of newbies that year. 7th grade used to be the beginning year of Jr. High there and the grade school kids moving up where all getting a new school. Well, this Fall they are bumping the 5th and 6th grade to the campus as well. They are remodeling the upstairs of another building separate from the Jr. and Sr High for the 5th and 6th grade. They did a really good job with the online schooling this spring. Regular Zoom classes, not just packets of busy work with no meaningful teacher interaction. Other people are jumping ship for this school for the same reason, and the admission director said they only had a few 5th grade spots left. It's such a hard decision, especially since we can't even go there and see the new classes or talk to the teachers right now. I mean, I know the school well from the high school standpoint, but this is all new. They don't even have all the details worked out on things like how they're going to handle meals, before and after school care, etc.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jul 3, 2020 13:42:47 GMT -5
I had PT this morning. Now my shoulder hurts. Bah humbug. I stopped at the butcher's on the way home, I saw their sign and decided I wanted steak for dinner. Also got 1/2 a blueberry pie for C, plus a couple of other things.
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Post by NastyWoman on Jul 4, 2020 23:25:47 GMT -5
Aaaaand, another yelling match with the teen. This time over him always calling in sick to work and lying about them telling him there is lack of work on other days. He has not worked a full scheduled week (which is only 24 hours) since he started there...last October, and I really need him to be doing SOMETHING productive during the day. It escalated into me being the one forcing him to take this job (pretty sure he left McDonalds for this place on his own accord against my advice). Anyhow I had it he was screaming so much, so I called his Dad and asked if he was taking him Friday morning anyhow if he could just go there now. He said, he wanted him to come today and help get ready but DS told him he couldn't because he had to work. I said, "Perfect! Apparently he "misread" the text about 4th of July and he really has Thursday off too!" (the text he wouldn't let me see because privacy and some rambling about the NSA. DS gave me the, "FINE! ANYTHING TO GET OUT OF THIS HOUSE I HATE IT HERE SO MUCH!!!" But it was still 2 hours before he left. He spent that time emptying the fridge of half the food including the last of the ice cream and playing with the cats while watching Netflix. At that point Carrot is like "Are you leaving soon?" Anyhow. He won't be back until Sunday night. Stress level has dropped significantly already. I'm so worried about this Fall. I'm so afraid he's going to intentionally fail all his classes just to spite me. When DS1 leaves tell him: I know you are going to have a wonderful time at college. I love you very much. But keep in mind that due to money limitations you will HAVE to move back home the moment you fail your classes. ETA: something like this worked for my DS1. When we moved here from S'pore he left for Gonzaga. Spokane had a really, really cold winter that year and we came straight from the tropics. So DS1 wanted to transfer to a sister university (Santa Clara un.) I told him sure I would help him with that. He just had to realize that we were not going to pay for his on campus stay as the school w as less than 5 miles from our home and he had a car. The transfer hasn't been mentioned again to this day, 20 years after he graduated. That said, he has moved back to the tropics/S'pore and is happy as a clam there
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Post by steph08 on Jul 6, 2020 13:28:23 GMT -5
Got a letter today that Chloe will not be going to preK in the fall.
So, I had to call the principal to find out why - because nothing is explained in the letter.
They had a lot of applicants this year, and COVID happened, too. I'm not sure how many they accepted (their grant requires 24 students and there were 40+ applicants).
There is an income threshold, and while it didn't matter when Harper was in preK because they needed butts in seats, this year our income was deemed too high and the lower-income kids were accepted instead.
I'm very sad because Harper loved preK, and I know Chloe would have, too. The teacher is so wonderful. She also needs the socialization and stimulation that school provides. It is also a nice intro to school - riding the bus, doing lunch, etc. but only half a day.
Also, I need that damn break. But instead, I get to basically homeschool her while working for the entire next year. I thought I only had to make it until August 26, 2020, but now I have to make it to August of 2021.
Unless I enroll her at preschool somewhere else. I have to figure that out.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 6, 2020 13:45:05 GMT -5
Sorry to hear that steph08. This Fall is going to be a cluster for so many families.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 6, 2020 13:48:15 GMT -5
When DS1 leaves tell him: I know you are going to have a wonderful time at college. I love you very much. But keep in mind that due to money limitations you will HAVE to move back home the moment you fail your classes. If he loses his scholarships and grants by failing classes, that won't even be me bluffing. He's 100% paying his own way this year, but would not be able to do that without his FA.
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Post by steph08 on Jul 6, 2020 13:49:34 GMT -5
The thing that really sucks is they gave absolutely no indication that this was a possibility.
We did registration and the teacher evaluation/ meet the teacher and everything in June. Chloe was so excited, and now I have to break her little heart and she won't understand why she doesn't get to go to school next month when I kept promising it to her.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 6, 2020 13:57:01 GMT -5
Ugh. I'd look around for another preschool.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jul 8, 2020 8:19:17 GMT -5
Last night I ran into K's music teacher when dropping the kids off at the ninja gym. He had questions for K and me; we had questions for him. So it worked out. I still need to email him. K's never had lessons on an instrument, unless we're counting the recorder... So we got a bunch of stuff settled. He lives fairly close by, so we're setting up an outdoor violin fitting for K. He was hoping for cello as he's got 2 cello players and a crapton of violinists. He thinks she may be big enough for an adult violin but said he'd bring an adult and a 3/4 from school so she can try both. The school's bought him some software that should help the kids learn, even if they're at home. He's also got a site that teaches the reading of music, as that's where K needs to start. I'm sure she's not alone in that.
He did said that the school shutting down in March prevented the existing music classes from making an expected/planned leap in experience so the gap won't be as bad for the coming school year. He's also working to get another music instructor so they don't have to combine 1st and 2nd year music students into 1 class. I hadn't realized it was a budget cut. He also said he's got about 60-65 kids taking music classes for the first time this fall. I blame part of that on the electives - they have a total of 6 electives to choose from. In 6th grade, they pick 2. In 7th grade, they pick 3. In 8th grade I think they pick 1. The 6 electives are computers; Japenses, art, and 3 music classes - band, orchestra, and choir maybe? Can't remember the 3rd. Anyway, he and I chatted for 15+ minutes and it was productive, in my opinion.
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Post by azucena on Jul 9, 2020 21:48:57 GMT -5
We broke our strict quarantine to spend time with my nieces. They've been quarantining too since 9 yo niece has special needs and were esp careful for the last two weeks as we planned this. Sister and 3 nieces stayed over thurs and fri, 9 yo stayed sat and sun to give sister the first respite she has had since christmas. Then switched for 11 and 3 yo mon and tues. Was glorious for dd11 and dd7 to have playmates. We all got a kick out of 3 yo antics!
Sister just texted that 3 yo has pinworms. They had them well over a month ago and thought they were clear so sister is very sorry. I did 3 yo butt wiping duty and washed but she was in all of our beds between napping, snuggling, and having trouble sleeping on her rare nights away from mama. I also put globs of diaper cream on her both nights as her bottom hurt - yeah she should have said itchy! Plus dd7 and niece9 enjoyed a 2 leisurely hour Jacuzzi bath with bubbles in swimsuits.
FML LOL. Will be a fun conversation to have with the kids tomorrow so that they can wash and keep me apprised of itchy butt symptoms. You know that tiny tyke we all loved on, well...
DH is appalled because he is her favorite uncle so got lots of attn. All we can do now is laugh and speculate if we will see pinworms in his ostomy pouch. Potty humor at its finest.
Going to wash all bedding and clothes tomorrow, change bath towels every day for two weeks, and pick up OTC treatment sister suggested. She said it's a "lovely" banana flavor.
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Post by finnime on Jul 9, 2020 22:55:37 GMT -5
It's a shame about the pinworms but wonderful that you/your DD's were able to see your nieces and sister, too, azucena. It's so ... normal!
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 10, 2020 7:22:40 GMT -5
My brother had pinworms around that age. It sucks. Fortunately they did not spread to any of the rest of us.
Had to talk to Gwen yesterday about triggering. She still wants another pet so last night she was bombarding me with posts. I freaked and told her to put the computer away mommy is not ready to look I don't even trust sites I normally use right now like Etsy. You need to back off and give mommy time before we discuss the idea of another pet again.
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Post by dippyegg on Jul 10, 2020 19:17:48 GMT -5
Has anyone's teen daughter just suddenly TURNED on them! OMG. Trying to find some common ground!
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Post by lurkyloo on Jul 11, 2020 7:47:26 GMT -5
I signed DS up for zoom summer classes, math and music. It’s gonna be a shitshow probably but he has so little peer interaction right now I’m willing to give it a go...but planning to totally ignore their attendance-required policy. This spring there was basically no teacher mediated math instruction via zoom; they just assigned a commercial series of videos to watch and did one or two problems per half hour zoom session 3 times a week. Summer school is an hour a day every day for three weeks.
School in the fall will almost certainly be a choice between all remote and two days a week in school. I haven’t decided yet which model we’ll go with. But I’m thinking the summer school experiment will give me a better handle on how that’ll go, since fall is supposed to be quite a bit more rigorous than fall was...spring wasn’t a lot of school work but trying to keep on top of doing things exactly their way was surprisingly exhausting.
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Post by geenamercile on Jul 11, 2020 12:32:58 GMT -5
My thoughts on this is I will do the virtual option for the girls. I full expect after about a month of the hybrid schools are going to start shutting down due to cases in the schools. While the number hasn't been announced, the committee I am on for figuring out a pacing guide has been told we need to do 2. One for the start when we are in hybrid mode, and the other for when schools will need to quarantine due to either numbers going up over all and the state dropping our level, or a certain amount of teachers and students needing to quarantine. My personal thought is it will be better for the girls to have an established this is how we are doing it all year vs flip flopping back and forth between a hybrid and remote learning all year.
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Post by lurkyloo on Jul 11, 2020 20:34:30 GMT -5
They announced today that even the kids going back will go back in phases. DS is in phase 2 so it sounds like the absolute earliest he’d go back is Sept 21. We have until Aug 7 to say whether we want to do hybrid or all remote.
MD has been pretty proactive, and our county has been even more conservative so our numbers are currently mostly looking better than other states/areas with similar density. I’ll continue to monitor, but would really prefer DS go back part time if the numbers look reasonable.
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Post by wvugurl26 on Jul 11, 2020 21:46:00 GMT -5
lurkyloo I have several coworkers with kids in Howard County. Rumor has it they are going 100% virtual in the fall. Reopening has been pushed back to after Labor Day and spring break taken away basically. My neighbor teaches in that district but she's away visiting her parents. I know Baltimore city's been prepping for the possibility of virtual again this year. They bought a bunch of Chromebooks.
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Post by taz157 on Jul 12, 2020 12:04:18 GMT -5
lurkyloo and wvugurl26 - They haven’t announced what our county is doing yet but they did send a questionnaire to parents asking their thoughts about the spring and what we want for the fall. If it was up to my DD, she would be in school full day all days as she likes it better. I don’t think that’s going happen. Our county doesn’t have as many cases as your counties but I think she’s eventually going to do distance learning again 5 days a week once more schools open and there’s cases there in other states. As of right now, she still starts August 31st. We’ll see.
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Post by lurkyloo on Jul 12, 2020 13:42:04 GMT -5
I...was really hoping that things could start getting back to normal by spring break 2021 Honestly I think two days a week would be perfect temperament-wise for DS. He had an extended outdoor/pool playdate yesterday and today with the neighbors grandson, and he is sooo happy now. That’s the only peer contact he’s had since March, unless you count zoom classes(and now we’ll probably avoid all nonessential contact again for two weeks). But it’s impossible to know what’s safe or at least low risk now much less two months from now. I guess I’ll just keep watching the numbers and see how things look in another month. And be thankful that we have options.
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Post by NastyWoman on Jul 12, 2020 14:33:56 GMT -5
Just some fun Sunday fare that I found hilarious - ok, I admit that I am somewhat weird but this tickled my funny bone. I just had my weekly Zoom visit with DS2 and his family. We stayed on a little longer than normal and I was there for bath time as well. So the kids had decided that mom needed to read a story to them while they were in the tub and DGS1 had selected the first book of Why". DDIL reads a few parts and gets to belly buttons. Logically she asks the kids whether their belly button is an innie or an outie. Kids answer 2innies there) and then DGS2 gets up and proceeds to tell me that he has a penis and his penis is an outie. What can I say -> he sure got the concept right .
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Post by alabamagal on Jul 12, 2020 16:02:13 GMT -5
DS and DDIL just put their crib together. DDIL needs to get a step stool so she can get baby in and out. Guess that is the bad part about not having drop sides.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jul 13, 2020 7:56:19 GMT -5
DS and DDIL just put their crib together. DDIL needs to get a step stool so she can get baby in and out. Guess that is the bad part about not having drop sides. Yep. I loved my drop side crib.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jul 13, 2020 7:58:00 GMT -5
My tween hasn't turned on me yet but she still insists on bedtime hugs and kisses, as does C. They're 10 and 12. I find this odd but am going with the "well, at some they won't want anything to do with me, so keep on tucking them in and doing hugs and kisses"
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Post by Deleted on Jul 13, 2020 8:48:38 GMT -5
Carrot is 10 and still insists on being tucked in with hugs and kisses too, but he's my touchy feely kid. He always wants to hold hands when we're walking and snuggles up with me on the couch. It's actually too much for me because I'm not that way at all...especially in the summer when it's hot. Older son never was into bedtime hugs and kisses at all, not even when he was really little.
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