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Post by swamp on Apr 8, 2020 13:05:22 GMT -5
Rather annoyed at Gwen's teacher right now. With me having to come into work and DH adjusting to working from home (which only started last week) we have not been focusing on school work. From what the packets said and what I've been reading from our Governor Iowa is not making home school mandatory at this time, which likely has to do with large parts of the state being rural enough they don't have the bandwith capable to handle it. It's up to individual teachers/school systems. I have recieved NOTHING official from our school system about it at this time, I check every day. I did get an email from Abby's teacher. I sent it to DH to handle which he did not so I got a phone call today. Let DH have it and told him to please tell her I can't do this because I have to report to work. HE needs to be in charge of it. Have heard nothing from Gwen's teacher. .. till today. Apparently she has been handing out assignments and meetings on GWEN'S email. How the hell am I supposed to know that?! Yes Gwen is responsible for her own work but at the same time she is NINE and this is a whole new uncharted territory for all of us. I am rather pissed she did not send anything to my email. I have to give them umpteen means of communication with me for crying out loud. So I called DH again and told him to find Gwen's Chromebook and from now on she is going to have to spend time during the day online checking her email and doing work because apparently now at least for her teacher it's "required". It's April WHY can't they just end school? They are in kindergarten and fourth grade the world is not going to end and their college futures are not going to be impacted if they lose a couple months of learning. I am so tired and out of shits to give. so far, DS's middle school has been great, but the elementary school, oy. I keep getting emails about all these activities they want me to do with my child. Some of us are still working...........
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Post by Deleted on Apr 8, 2020 13:38:29 GMT -5
I am just so sick of him attaching all these hidden meanings to everything. I knew the second that phone rang after Carrot texted back that he had to do homework that he was pissed off. Would it have been so hard to just reply to his text "Ok, can you give me a call when you're done so we can talk a few minutes" instead of immediately calling anyhow to give me the whole parental alienation speech?
Maybe not answer? Try to force him into text or voice mail? Or does that just make everything harder for you? He called Carrot's phone, not mine. I'm good about ignoring mine.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 8, 2020 14:21:58 GMT -5
Rather annoyed at Gwen's teacher right now. With me having to come into work and DH adjusting to working from home (which only started last week) we have not been focusing on school work. From what the packets said and what I've been reading from our Governor Iowa is not making home school mandatory at this time, which likely has to do with large parts of the state being rural enough they don't have the bandwith capable to handle it. It's up to individual teachers/school systems. I have recieved NOTHING official from our school system about it at this time, I check every day. I did get an email from Abby's teacher. I sent it to DH to handle which he did not so I got a phone call today. Let DH have it and told him to please tell her I can't do this because I have to report to work. HE needs to be in charge of it. Have heard nothing from Gwen's teacher. .. till today. Apparently she has been handing out assignments and meetings on GWEN'S email. How the hell am I supposed to know that?! Yes Gwen is responsible for her own work but at the same time she is NINE and this is a whole new uncharted territory for all of us. I am rather pissed she did not send anything to my email. I have to give them umpteen means of communication with me for crying out loud. So I called DH again and told him to find Gwen's Chromebook and from now on she is going to have to spend time during the day online checking her email and doing work because apparently now at least for her teacher it's "required". It's April WHY can't they just end school? They are in kindergarten and fourth grade the world is not going to end and their college futures are not going to be impacted if they lose a couple months of learning. I am so tired and out of shits to give. so far, DS's middle school has been great, but the elementary school, oy. I keep getting emails about all these activities they want me to do with my child. Some of us are still working........... Our grade school stuff is a lot of busy work which I kind of find annoying. Carrot is a ridiculously slow writer because he still doesn't hold a pencil right and refuses to change. This week he had to basically copy a US map. Writing the states, abbreviations and capital city in the blank map. It took HOURS. He was so cranky about it and I did not see what he really learned from that at all.
The high school is doing a lot better, but I really wish we could just drop some of these classes. It's his last quarter and while he's carrying 8 classes, half of what he's taking are electives that he doesn't need for graduation or that his college would care about. He took concert band and jazz band because he likes to play in a band, not write music theory papers. Actually jazz band he only took because they were short on trombones and he agreed to help them out. He should be able to just walk away from these classes at this point.
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Post by alabamagal on Apr 8, 2020 16:11:28 GMT -5
Rather annoyed at Gwen's teacher right now. With me having to come into work and DH adjusting to working from home (which only started last week) we have not been focusing on school work. From what the packets said and what I've been reading from our Governor Iowa is not making home school mandatory at this time, which likely has to do with large parts of the state being rural enough they don't have the bandwith capable to handle it. It's up to individual teachers/school systems. I have recieved NOTHING official from our school system about it at this time, I check every day. I did get an email from Abby's teacher. I sent it to DH to handle which he did not so I got a phone call today. Let DH have it and told him to please tell her I can't do this because I have to report to work. HE needs to be in charge of it. Have heard nothing from Gwen's teacher. .. till today. Apparently she has been handing out assignments and meetings on GWEN'S email. How the hell am I supposed to know that?! Yes Gwen is responsible for her own work but at the same time she is NINE and this is a whole new uncharted territory for all of us. I am rather pissed she did not send anything to my email. I have to give them umpteen means of communication with me for crying out loud. So I called DH again and told him to find Gwen's Chromebook and from now on she is going to have to spend time during the day online checking her email and doing work because apparently now at least for her teacher it's "required". It's April WHY can't they just end school? They are in kindergarten and fourth grade the world is not going to end and their college futures are not going to be impacted if they lose a couple months of learning. I am so tired and out of shits to give. You sound like an unschooled! Jk I totally agree. I think school is important but missing a bunch of time in elementary school shouldn’t be a big problem. If teacher wants to send busy work it shouldn’t be mandatory.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 8, 2020 19:35:50 GMT -5
Ex 2.0 has now decided he's done with the quarantining and told Carrot over video chat that starting next week they were going to go back to their regular schedule together. I was working in the kitchen and just overheard the conversation. Carrot was like "Um dad....I don't think we're supposed to". To which the idiot replied. "It's ok, I'll call the police and the FBI and whoever else is in charge and get it approved". Carrot says. "But, it's not illegal. I just don't think we're supposed to". Dad says, "We;'re going back to our regular schedule unless something crazy happens in the next week. I'll let your mom know". Carrot says, "Well, she's here, maybe you should talk to her". But I told Carrot I was busy and couldn't talk right then. It would have not gone well. I was too in the WTF mood at that time. I know this is all about the stupid ass phone call yesterday. Before that he was all on board and angry that his brother was not doing the same with his kids.
I guess I should be grateful I got a month out of the deal. I didn't expect he would comply that long.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 8, 2020 21:57:09 GMT -5
Carrot didn't know I overheard the conversation with his dad earlier, so at bedtime he told me that his dad wanted to start back with their regular schedule again. When I expressed surprise at his change of opinion on this matter seemingly overnight, Carrot agreed it was very confusing and he didn't understand what had changed. Then he just sighed and said, "my vote on this doesn't really matter, I'm just a kid, so it's up to you and dad to decide".
I swear sometimes that kid is so much more mature than his dad.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Apr 9, 2020 7:29:09 GMT -5
Carrot is wise beyond his years. Will Ex 2.0 listen to Carrot's vote?
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Apr 10, 2020 14:04:08 GMT -5
Abby's kindergarten teacher wants us to have a phone meeting with her TWICE a week. DH asked what the hell is he supposed to say? Abby is 5. "Umm. .. as of our last conversation she still remembers the alphabet?" I am assuming these are requirements from our school board since both teachers are requiring all this stuff so I am not mad at them. I am annoyed with the school system. This is stupid and she's required to do it for all 30 kids in Abby's class?
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Post by alabamagal on Apr 10, 2020 15:31:06 GMT -5
Abby's kindergarten teacher wants us to have a phone meeting with her TWICE a week. DH asked what the hell is he supposed to say? Abby is 5. "Umm. .. as of our last conversation she still remembers the alphabet?" I am assuming these are requirements from our school board since both teachers are requiring all this stuff so I am not mad at them. I am annoyed with the school system. This is stupid and she's required to do it for all 30 kids in Abby's class? Sounds like they want to make sure that the teachers are earning their pay by putting in “work hours”. What happens if you don’t do it?
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Apr 10, 2020 15:36:04 GMT -5
Well I got a rather rude lecture from Gwen's teacher. I emailed both of them back and told them I still have to go in to work, I won't be answering my phone for 10-20 minute conferences multiple times a day at this time. So go ahead and fill up my voicemail.
School has not been made mandatory in Iowa in general and I have not seen anything from the superintendent stating our school system has decided attending home school is mandatory. It has also already been stated that kids will go onto to the next grade regardless of what happens for the rest of the year.
So I have no idea what will happen if we ignore it. Likely nothing except our inboxes get lit up.
DH said he will do his best to cooperate he isn't going to break his back making sure he attends two a week either. He's also not going to hover over Gwen to make sure she attends her "mandatory" 9 am meeting on Thursdays.
School system needs to pull it's head out of it's ass. I'm just annoyed because it's like we don', tthe teachers included, have other things to be worrying about right now? Just end the school year like Nebraska did. We only had 2.5 months left anyhow, big whoop.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Apr 10, 2020 16:26:16 GMT -5
I thought it was up to the individual districts about school.
My nephew's district is voluntary, as are all the districts around here. They are not set up technology wise to make it mandatory. I think he said if they don't do the voluntary school, the days have to be made up and that is what the school districts want to avoid.
When I talked to nephew yesterday, he has to check in with his students at least once a week. However, he said they were told that if the parent told them they didn't want to do that, not to push it. That is also what it says on the district's website.
Nephew teaches middle school math and has set up some lessons with one of the free online school resource sites. He said some of the students actually requested it. He also said they probably requested it because they are bored.
The work is not graded and nothing they do counts toward a grade.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Apr 10, 2020 17:39:45 GMT -5
I believe it is but I have not received anything stating that our district has made it mandatory. We also have an internet problem here. Cox and CenturyLink are offering "reduced price" internet but you still have to have all the equiptment installed to access internet if you don't have it and that is NOT free. Lots of people around here are low income and rely on either the school or library for internet. .. which are both closed.
Still cheesed off about it. Other states have managed to end school for the year without the world crashing why can't Iowa?
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Post by TheOtherMe on Apr 10, 2020 19:04:12 GMT -5
Talk to the "lovely" Kim about that
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Apr 13, 2020 10:34:21 GMT -5
C's got a Zoom classroom meeting thing every Tues. and Thurs. at 10am. It's an hour but the kids get to "see" each other. I'm not home for it so I'm not sure what all is happening, except that it IS in German. We're just trying to roll with it, still.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 13, 2020 11:00:47 GMT -5
So, last night Ex 2.0 called Carrot and basically was trying to tell him they should start resuming their time together and Carrot argued with him that he didn't think it was a good idea and since he was working with someone that was exposed he could give it to him and then he might bring it home and infect his mom. I was pretty impressed with how the kid was explaining to him how much he really missed him, (which I know he does a lot) but thinks they should hold off.
I'm sure Ex 2.0 thinks I fed him all this, but I didn't at all. Honestly, I don't think it really matters if he goes to see his dad. His brother and I are still working and out there so the increase in risk isn't that great, but I'm kind of liking him not going there for 100 other reasons, so I'll just go with it until he makes a stink which he hasn't to me yet. He's still only talking to Carrot about it.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Apr 13, 2020 17:17:44 GMT -5
Carrot sees the big picture and I predict he may someday decide he is old enough to make the decision he doesn't want to see his father.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 13, 2020 19:21:11 GMT -5
I haven't figured him out yet. He's so different from his brother. He's anxious and stubborn and we butt heads All. The. Time. But there's so much deep thought going on in that head. The other night he couldn't fall asleep because he was worried about there being nothing after death. I mean he was in tears over the thought of just ceasing to exist and my "well, if that happens, it won't really matter to you anymore" logic was not cutting it. Finally, I had to toss aside my agnostic leaning atheist beliefs and reassure him that nobody really knew what happened to us after we died and we may very well be all back together in some kind of afterlife. I have never had to have a single conversation of this sort with his brother. He is such a "give me the facts" guy from the time he could ask a question.
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Post by finnime on Apr 14, 2020 4:54:50 GMT -5
When my DS was afraid about what happened after death, I flashed back to Sunday school and told him that no matter what, we live on in who and what we leave behind. Every person who remembers us, every thing that we've touched and changed, contains us. That seemed to help him and is something I also believe, so it worked.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Apr 14, 2020 7:22:43 GMT -5
When I was a kid I thought your body died but "you" lived trapped in your head forever. I'm 36 years old and that thought never really went away.
I don't really believe in the concept of God, heaven or especially hell. However if matter cannot be created or destroyed then what makes me "me" goes SOMEWHERE after I die. That energy must return to the cosmos in some form or another. The idea of returning to cosmic dust doesn't bother me so much.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Apr 14, 2020 7:58:52 GMT -5
I haven't figured him out yet. He's so different from his brother. He's anxious and stubborn and we butt heads All. The. Time. But there's so much deep thought going on in that head. The other night he couldn't fall asleep because he was worried about there being nothing after death. I mean he was in tears over the thought of just ceasing to exist and my "well, if that happens, it won't really matter to you anymore" logic was not cutting it. Finally, I had to toss aside my agnostic leaning atheist beliefs and reassure him that nobody really knew what happened to us after we died and we may very well be all back together in some kind of afterlife. I have never had to have a single conversation of this sort with his brother. He is such a "give me the facts" guy from the time he could ask a question. Mine are more concerned about what happens to the pets after they die. Although that might be because we're raising them Catholic with the idea of Heaven...
I tell them the pets will be there too. And DH is mostly backing me on this. I don't think he believes the pets do go to Heaven but after me bitching him out about this and handling crying kids on the topic; I think/feel he's decided that this is an ok topic to fudge his answers to the kids.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Apr 14, 2020 8:46:23 GMT -5
Hey NomoreDramaQ1015, was it you that mentioned the latest Aru Shah book last week? if so, have you read it? K finished it last night.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 14, 2020 8:48:07 GMT -5
I haven't figured him out yet. He's so different from his brother. He's anxious and stubborn and we butt heads All. The. Time. But there's so much deep thought going on in that head. The other night he couldn't fall asleep because he was worried about there being nothing after death. I mean he was in tears over the thought of just ceasing to exist and my "well, if that happens, it won't really matter to you anymore" logic was not cutting it. Finally, I had to toss aside my agnostic leaning atheist beliefs and reassure him that nobody really knew what happened to us after we died and we may very well be all back together in some kind of afterlife. I have never had to have a single conversation of this sort with his brother. He is such a "give me the facts" guy from the time he could ask a question. Mine are more concerned about what happens to the pets after they die. Although that might be because we're raising them Catholic with the idea of Heaven...
I tell them the pets will be there too. And DH is mostly backing me on this. I don't think he believes the pets do go to Heaven but after me bitching him out about this and handling crying kids on the topic; I think/feel he's decided that this is an ok topic to fudge his answers to the kids.
And again, it's not like he really KNOWS.
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Post by justme on Apr 14, 2020 8:58:19 GMT -5
The Good Place is interesting in that it deals with Heaven and Hell without any religious tied to it. It's a great series if anyone hasn't watched it and is looking for something to watch. It's mostly funny and while it has some deep moments it's not stuck in heavy stuff.
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Post by Lizard Queen on Apr 14, 2020 9:35:26 GMT -5
I love the Good Place, and also Lucifer, though I'd never have the kids watch that.
We're raising the kids Catholic, though DH is not Catholic, and I don't actually believe in Heaven and Hell. I decided a year or 2 older than my ODS that reincarnation makes a whole lot more sense, and I've stuck with that ever since. My DH actually believes more in Heaven and Hell, and literal things in the Bible that I simply write off as a different time/culture and things lost in translation. Then sometimes he questions everything. The Catholic education for my kids is meant to be a starting point for them.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 14, 2020 13:16:57 GMT -5
Carrot and I both lost it. I'm getting stressed out not being able to get my work done while at home...especially now that we got told NO OT...which just means I'll be working for free evenings and weekends trying to stay caught up, and Carrot is struggling to keep all his stuff organized and turned in on time. We were doing ok, but the Friday/Monday days off totally threw us because they still had assigned work, but said to save it until Tuesday. Now myself I would have done it on those days anyhow, but my kid took the save it until Tuesday as gospel and now he's drowning. It really isn't that much work, but he writes at about a 1/10 of the speed of a normal 4th grader.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Apr 14, 2020 13:20:46 GMT -5
Hey NomoreDramaQ1015 , was it you that mentioned the latest Aru Shah book last week? if so, have you read it? K finished it last night. It was and no I haven't I just ordered it. No spoilers! For anyone counting down the 5th and final Trials of Apollo book is coming out in September.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Apr 14, 2020 13:23:13 GMT -5
Hey NomoreDramaQ1015 , was it you that mentioned the latest Aru Shah book last week? if so, have you read it? K finished it last night. It was and no I haven't I just ordered it. No spoilers! For anyone counting down the 5th and final Trials of Apollo book is coming out in September. Nope, no spoilers from me.
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Post by raeoflyte on Apr 14, 2020 13:37:38 GMT -5
Carrot and I both lost it. I'm getting stressed out not being able to get my work done while at home...especially now that we got told NO OT...which just means I'll be working for free evenings and weekends trying to stay caught up, and Carrot is struggling to keep all his stuff organized and turned in on time. We were doing ok, but the Friday/Monday days off totally threw us because they still had assigned work, but said to save it until Tuesday. Now myself I would have done it on those days anyhow, but my kid took the save it until Tuesday as gospel and now he's drowning. It really isn't that much work, but he writes at about a 1/10 of the speed of a normal 4th grader. This is where we're at. My C broke down in tears Sunday night worried that he's missing assignments and nothing he's doing is good enough, but also that the work is too easy. E spent most of her class time yesterday sharpening pencils. My job hasn't even changed that much since I've worked from home for years, but it's completely different and I'm exhausted. All the good things I was doing when this started has fallen away. Now I just eat. It's really bad.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 14, 2020 13:47:02 GMT -5
This is where we're at. My C broke down in tears Sunday night worried that he's missing assignments and nothing he's doing is good enough, but also that the work is too easy. E spent most of her class time yesterday sharpening pencils. My job hasn't even changed that much since I've worked from home for years, but it's completely different and I'm exhausted. All the good things I was doing when this started has fallen away. Now I just eat. It's really bad. We were BOTH crying this afternoon. We went from raging at each other to bawling our eyes out in the span of about 20 minutes. I told my coworker that I need to take some vacation days and she thought I was joking because it's not like we can go anywhere or do anything. She doesn't have young kids at home though.
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