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Post by Deleted on Dec 31, 2010 10:54:37 GMT -5
Lots of people have been mentioning the idea of this being a chance for folks to start over on these boards, forgetting about anything that happened on the MSN boards. While there are some complainers I would like to see shut up already (you know who you are ) I don't think of it as a fresh start. I think people are who they are and why would I ignore what I have learned about them up until now. Some of that stuff I learned the hard way and I have no interest in giving them that chance again. Have you ever had a "fresh start" with the same people that turned out any different?
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Post by DebMD (banned) on Dec 31, 2010 10:57:27 GMT -5
Depends on the person. Some people evolve and try to better themselves.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 31, 2010 11:00:54 GMT -5
But only if they think their behaviour was a problem. On here everyone thinks it was the other guy. No one is looking at changing themselves.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 31, 2010 11:03:08 GMT -5
Do you do that Mud or are you suggesting everyone else do that?
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Post by DebMD (banned) on Dec 31, 2010 11:06:39 GMT -5
There's a saying:
Before you pull the speck out of another person's eye, pull the plank out of your own eye first.
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Post by DebMD (banned) on Dec 31, 2010 11:10:07 GMT -5
People evolve at different rates.
Another saying:
Iron sharpens Iron like People Sharpen People.
I like to be patient,kind and consistent for nice sharpening.
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Post by rick on Dec 31, 2010 11:17:27 GMT -5
Lots of people have been mentioning the idea of this being a chance for folks to start over on these boards, forgetting about anything that happened on the MSN boards. While there are some complainers I would like to see shut up already (you know who you are ) I don't think of it as a fresh start. I think people are who they are and why would I ignore what I have learned about them up until now. Some of that stuff I learned the hard way and I have no interest in giving them that chance again. Have you ever had a "fresh start" with the same people that turned out any different? Hi Later
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Post by rick on Dec 31, 2010 11:18:10 GMT -5
I don't think the other person has to change as much as yourself. You might need to turn your glasses around and view them a little different. Instead of looking at the negative in the other person, start looking at the positive. LOL what do you do if they dont have any positives ;D
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Post by rick on Dec 31, 2010 11:20:53 GMT -5
There is a little good in everyone. Thats true, but they have to be willing to show it. If its never seen you cant expect people to act as if there is
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Post by DebMD (banned) on Dec 31, 2010 11:24:25 GMT -5
There is good in everyone but it may take different modalities[time/skill,etc] so it can be revealed not just in part but in total for all to see.
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Post by reformeddaytrader on Dec 31, 2010 11:25:03 GMT -5
Sorry Laterbloomer it is too late for a fresh start with you and me again...even though they say the third times' the charm...that is BS....but Hey you Canadians are known for respecting us old, old and I mean really old guys...just saying of course
But I come from the Old School which says less moderating and less control is not such a bad thing...when we first started the P&M Message Board the members took care of Trolls who only wanted to engage in personal insults by hiding behind their PC's and getting off by posting tons of vile and hatred all over the board..
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Post by rick on Dec 31, 2010 11:26:23 GMT -5
There is good in everyone but it may take different modalities[time/skill,etc] so it can be revealed not just in part but in total for all to see. I may agree with you if I knew what you just said
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Post by DebMD (banned) on Dec 31, 2010 11:31:15 GMT -5
There is good in everybody. Some people 'mask' their goodness and it can take various maneuvers for their goodness to reveal itself with time.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 31, 2010 11:31:31 GMT -5
Do you do that Mud or are you suggesting everyone else do that? You might start by calling me MU or MuscleUp. Just for a start. Aren't you supposed to be changing yourself?
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Post by Deleted on Dec 31, 2010 11:32:49 GMT -5
MUD
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Post by rick on Dec 31, 2010 11:33:48 GMT -5
There is good in everybody. Some people 'mask' their goodness and it can take various maneuvers for their goodness to reveal itself with time. So you are saying if they act like an ass we should talk to them like they live in manbepanbe land?
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Post by DebMD (banned) on Dec 31, 2010 11:34:20 GMT -5
RDT loves Later. Despite his complaining.
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Post by The J on Dec 31, 2010 11:38:28 GMT -5
There is good in everybody. Some people 'mask' their goodness and it can take various maneuvers for their goodness to reveal itself with time. So you are saying if they act like an ass we should talk to them like they live in manbepanbe land?
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Post by suzwantstobefree on Dec 31, 2010 11:39:10 GMT -5
If you are constantly looking for the bad in a person, you will find it. If you are constantly looking for the good in a person you will find it. Some people just require you to look much much harder. ;D
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Post by rick on Dec 31, 2010 11:41:49 GMT -5
If you are constantly looking for the bad in a person, you will find it. If you are constantly looking for the good in a person you will find it. Some people just require you to look much much harder. ;D And if that person has not grown up enough to realize their behavior is unacceptable then I'm not wasting my time. I chose to surround my self with positive up lifting friends
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Post by rick on Dec 31, 2010 11:42:13 GMT -5
LOL thats it J
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Post by DebMD (banned) on Dec 31, 2010 11:42:18 GMT -5
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Post by rick on Dec 31, 2010 11:44:37 GMT -5
Sorry Deb, not worth my time
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Post by swamp on Dec 31, 2010 11:45:06 GMT -5
My Gramma always told me a leopard doesn't change their spots. She was a smart woman.
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Post by rick on Dec 31, 2010 11:45:42 GMT -5
My Gramma always told me a leopard doesn't change their spots. She was a smart woman. Wise old woman
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Post by DebMD (banned) on Dec 31, 2010 11:48:11 GMT -5
True Rick- Some are worth more time than others.
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Post by rick on Dec 31, 2010 11:49:37 GMT -5
True Rick- Some are worth more time than others. But they have to make it worth my time. If the refuse to show their good side then they will be very lonely people
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Post by DebMD (banned) on Dec 31, 2010 11:49:44 GMT -5
MU I agree on your point -People can change.
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Post by rick on Dec 31, 2010 11:50:16 GMT -5
My Gramma always told me a leopard doesn't change their spots. She was a smart woman. A leopards spots are permanent. A persons behavior isn't. If a person could not change their behavior we wouldn't have psychologists, therapists, counseling, other social programs, and the list goes on. Oh MU, we have seen your good side, you are all show lol ;D
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Post by Deleted on Dec 31, 2010 12:13:21 GMT -5
MU I agree on your point -People can change. I have changed the way I do some things. But based on my own evaluations. For example, over time I have actually gotten much less tolerant of Mud. To torment people continuously the way he does and consider it entertainment is not acceptable to me. Calling it a board persona doesn't cut it. He considers himself a master manipulator, but it really doesn't take any talent to insult people to make them mad.
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