raeoflyte
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Post by raeoflyte on May 10, 2023 21:09:32 GMT -5
Being a middle child felt like the below. I realized babysitting my infant nibling when ds was 6 and dc was 2 that dc would absolutely become the typical middle child if we had a 3rd. Ds had a low, baby was crying, and dc just wanted to be read to before bed - which would have to wait while everyone else's needs were met. I don't know if I really stopped wanting a 3rd baby, but it was a moot point.
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Post by toomuchreality on May 10, 2023 22:41:49 GMT -5
Interesting thread.🙂
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Post by teen persuasion on May 11, 2023 8:56:40 GMT -5
I'm oldest of 4, g b b g, with 2 or 3 years between each of us and 8 years between my sister and me. The younger of my brothers is the odd man out among us, he was always different personality-wise. He's the only one of us living out of state, actually out of country now that he's building a home in Mexico! Our other brother lives in our parents' neighborhood, and sister lives in the same town. I'm about an hour away from our parents. We've been gradually drifting apart as we see less of one another - mostly we catch up at family gatherings at our parents' house. Those used to be at least monthly when all the grandkids were little, but school extracurriculars and college and jobs make getting everyone together more challenging so it's less frequent. And my kids are mostly older than the other grandkids (DS5 is in the middle cluster of younger cousins age 18 (3), there's also 2 20yo and 2 16yo) so my kids in their mid-late twenties and early thirties are living their lives elsewhere. I used to feel closest to my sister, once we were both adults and the age difference went away. But political differences have cropped up in the last, oh, 6-7 years, that weren't on my radar before. It's getting increasingly difficult to talk around such basic morality issues.
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Post by Tennesseer on May 11, 2023 10:06:38 GMT -5
At the time of my older brother's passing in January, he lived in Florida. My younger brother lives in South Carolina and my sister lives in New Mexico. I live in Tennessee.
The last time we four were all together was in 2017 when we met up to say goodbye to a long time family friend who was dying. Prior to that we were together in 2009 for a family gathering.
Though we did not meet up in person as a group often, we did have group video calls every two weeks or so. It worked for us. And we still get along well with each other.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on May 11, 2023 10:13:00 GMT -5
I am the oldest of two. My brother is 6 years younger than me. We did not have a lot in common as kids and fought a lot. My mom said it was like raising two only children rather than siblings.
My brother very much has a victim mentality and that clashes with my overly self sufficient personality. We stopped speaking to each other for almost 2 years because he yet again got on me about being born first and I told him I was sorry I couldn't crawl back up into mom's uterus and make so I was born second. That was when he lived in Colorado.
The time apart did us good. We went back to being civil with each other. I drew a lot of boundaries to keep from getting sucked into his drama.
We are not super close but we talk a lot more now than we used to since mom died.
At the end of the day I'm his sister and he's my brother. Even if he is driving me banana pants insane I would still line up to see if I was a kidney donor should he need one.
DH is the youngest of 3. He is 6 years apart from his brother who is the middle child and I think 9 years apart from his sister. He was a very late in life baby. As such he was pretty spoiled and that translated later in life to being a man child and ending up addicted to substances which did a lot of damage to his relationship with his siblings. He barely talks to his brother. Him and his sister are civil with each other but not as close as they were growing up.
They are going the opposite direction of me and my brother since DH's mom died. His family is drifting apart as the older generations pass. Bob and I have realized just how tiny our family is. I still gotta maintain boundaries but eventually Bob and I will be it. It serves neither one of us to create rifts with each other.
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Post by Tennesseer on May 11, 2023 13:26:29 GMT -5
At the time of my older brother's passing in January, he lived in Florida. My younger brother lives in South Carolina and my sister lives in New Mexico. I live in Tennessee. The last time we four were all together was in 2017 when we met up to say goodbye to a long time family friend who was dying. Prior to that we were together in 2009 for a family gathering. Though we did not meet up in person as a group often, we did have group video calls every two weeks or so. It worked for us. And we still get along well with each other. I should point out we were all pretty close in age. Oldest brother born in 1949, me in 1951, sister in 1953 and the younger brother in 1954. The parents wanted to get this birthing thing over and done with asap.
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Post by Artemis Windsong on May 11, 2023 16:29:25 GMT -5
Sad you asked. I was bullied by not only my 2 brothers, 8 yrs older, 4 yrs older but my parents and my Dad's parents. Life long the brothers were favored by my parents, cars, clothes, curfews, bailed out of jail and paid medical bills from a severe accident. Through adult life also. They kept my inheritance from me for 21 years. I had to sue to get my share out of the house that was supposed to have been sold when my Dad passed. Older brother blocked me from selling the land my late middle brother left me after he died so I was down 50% there. The mediator gave older brother any oil leases which I had inherited and had played out years ago. No income or negligible income from them. All I wanted to do was spend some time with my Dad's parents when brothers bragged about what fun they had. My experience. I offered to go grocery shopping with them or spend a Saturday afternoon here and there. They ditched me at the grocery store. Later they basically told me they didn't want to see me. I tried to visit in short bursts. When I had my daughter, those grandparents told me it was nothing special and a lot more nasty comments that I have repressed. My uncle and his son were thieves stealing my Dad's inheritance, land and mementos from their parents' estate. How the uncle did it was my Dad paid for my grandmother's nursing home care faithfully for 3 years. Uncle would check to make sure it was paid. He was the visible payer not my Dad the check writer. My Dad expected to get his share of the house when it was sold. Nope. Uncle said the house proceeds went to pay the nursing home. My Dad got a jar of pennies. When I go back to my home state, this is where I was defrauded multiple times. I have also been defrauded by a former fiance. He actually trained more criminals in how to defraud. I am owed a lot of abundance. Scriptures tells us that we'll be recompensed when defrauded. Usually I type my story then delete it. Maybe I'll delete later.
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Post by plugginaway22 on May 11, 2023 16:35:01 GMT -5
I'm sorry Artemis. Some families just suck!
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Post by plugginaway22 on May 11, 2023 16:36:55 GMT -5
I am the oldest with one younger brother and one younger sister. We love each other and get along great but only get together a couple times per year. Thankful for that.
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Post by toomuchreality on May 11, 2023 20:31:52 GMT -5
I am #5 of 7. 2 boys, 5 girls. The last two were twins. One boy, one girl. My older sisters probably say we are close. I would not. Especially since my parents died. My oldest sister died of breast cancer, in 2006. She was 58. My older brother, who I was closest to, died at my place of a heart attack, in 2011. He was 56. My sister who is currently alive and oldest, has always been the "perfect" child. My younger brother was always the "golden child", but far from perfect, although he thinks he is. My younger sister, married my exH1's brother and he doesn't allow her to see, or talk to me, after a disagreement he and I had, about 30 yrs ago. I rarely talk, or see any of them, since my parents passed, even though we live within 1/2 hr of each other (except younger brother, who moved to Vegas). Religion and politics have played a big part in this. As well as spouses. We are polite to each other, or we just don't talk. I wouldn't call that close. Whatever.
I have 2 grown daughters. Today, I don't like anyone, in my real life. Except my granddaughters. (2yrs, 3 next month and her sister who turned 5 last week).
I'm ready to be done with this.
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Post by Tennesseer on May 11, 2023 20:43:12 GMT -5
I am #5 of 7. 2 boys, 5 girls. The last two were twins. One boy, one girl. My older sisters probably say we are close. I would not. Especially since my parents died. My oldest sister died of breast cancer, in 2006. She was 58. My older brother, who I was closest to, died at my place of a heart attack, in 2011. He was 56. My sister who is currently alive and oldest, has always been the "perfect" child. My younger brother was always the "golden child", but far from perfect, although he thinks he is. My younger sister, married my exH1's brother and he doesn't allow her to see, or talk to me, after a disagreement he and I had, about 30 yrs ago. I rarely talk, or see any of them, since my parents passed, even though we live within 1/2 hr of each other (except younger brother, who moved to Vegas). Religion and politics have played a big part in this. As well as spouses. We are polite to each other, or we just don't talk. I wouldn't call that close. Whatever. I have 2 grown daughters. Today, I don't like anyone, in my real life. Except my granddaughters. (2yrs, 3 next month and her sister who turned 5 last week). I'm ready to be done with this. Well you got us which may or may not be too much reality for you.
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Post by toomuchreality on May 11, 2023 20:49:43 GMT -5
I am #5 of 7. 2 boys, 5 girls. The last two were twins. One boy, one girl. My older sisters probably say we are close. I would not. Especially since my parents died. My oldest sister died of breast cancer, in 2006. She was 58. My older brother, who I was closest to, died at my place of a heart attack, in 2011. He was 56. My sister who is currently alive and oldest, has always been the "perfect" child. My younger brother was always the "golden child", but far from perfect, although he thinks he is. My younger sister, married my exH1's brother and he doesn't allow her to see, or talk to me, after a disagreement he and I had, about 30 yrs ago. I rarely talk, or see any of them, since my parents passed, even though we live within 1/2 hr of each other (except younger brother, who moved to Vegas). Religion and politics have played a big part in this. As well as spouses. We are polite to each other, or we just don't talk. I wouldn't call that close. Whatever. I have 2 grown daughters. Today, I don't like anyone, in my real life. Except my granddaughters. (2yrs, 3 next month and her sister who turned 5 last week). I'm ready to be done with this. We you got us which may or may not be too much reality for you. Thanks. I'm glad to hear it. Because on the meme thread, I said I was coming to your house, this weekend! Haha 😉 Thanks, Tennesseer. I appreciate it.
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Post by tractor on May 12, 2023 17:34:44 GMT -5
I was the third boy in a family of four. I can't say anything was bad, by the time my parents got to me they had given up so I could do whatever I wanted.
Fast forward 50+ years, my brother and sister and I all think/act the same way, have similar situations in life and get along great. It might help that we almost never see each other, but we text quite often now that our parents are in their 80's and constantly need supervision.
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Post by Tiny on May 12, 2023 19:08:19 GMT -5
I'm the youngest of 4: Brother then 5 years, Brother then 12 months, Brother then 7 years Little Sister. I have very little in common with my older siblings. They had the typical childhood that everyone one remembers - playing with school friends, family vacations, visits with cousins, lots of school and summer activities. I think the last vacation/outing with the family happened when I was 2 or 3. I don't remember it all (I have a tiny scar and a traumatized sibling so it was an eventful outing. ok, it was the typical "head" cut that my sibling said bleed very dramatically (and I screamed a lot - I was like 2 maybe 3). He thought he was responsible for killing his little sister. hee hee hee. No such luck. ). I literally have no memories of this or any family 'trips/outings/vacations. They get confused when I draw a blank remembering that time a family friend did X or the 2 weeklong family camping trip or hanging out with our cousins - because it happened in the years before I was born. I like and get along with my older siblings. I wouldn't say we are close but we definitely get along OK when we are together. We just don't have much in common.
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Post by ajmom on May 14, 2023 16:33:36 GMT -5
Blue — I would say your older sister DID choose sides when she said you were too sensitive
There is nothing I can do about it now, of course, but I am youngest of 6 and can honestly say I was bullied by all of them, some more than others, my whole life. When I was little I was declared “too sensitive” when really I should have said they were “too INsenstive”…
I speak my mind now and some don’t like that I know how to defend myself… others are fine with it.
I don’t think you were too sensitive!!!
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Post by ners on May 14, 2023 16:40:06 GMT -5
Oldest of 6. G, G, B, G, G, B. 6 years between the first 5. Youngest brother is 11 years younger than me. He is the only one who moved away from home. My youngest sister died about 14 years ago. We do not get together often. We are there for each other when needed.
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