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Post by NastyWoman on Jun 13, 2024 16:55:36 GMT -5
Question for all: If your spouse spent $1,000 on a hobby toy in September 2023 and now is giving it away to your landscaper tomorrow, how pissed would you be on a scale from 1 to 10? Reason, "I don't like it, I made a mistake." We don't need the effing $$ but that's just bad bs there. I've had buyers regret too, but usually on a $20 blouse. I'm picking my battles, but I am at defcon 5 here 111.5
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Post by NastyWoman on Jun 13, 2024 17:08:24 GMT -5
I got a notification that someone was approaching our front door. It was a man, no vehicle in sight. When he rang the doorbell, I used the doorbell camera to ask how could I help him. He said he lives around the corner, and he’s noticed Mister’s old Lincoln in the driveway when he goes for a walk and walks past our cove, and he wondered if we were interested in selling it. I told him it’s not my car, but if he wanted to give me his name and phone number, I would ask the owner and get back to him. He gave me his info and told me he likes old cars, and he use to work as a mechanic, and started rambling about 2 old cars he use to have. I called Mister and told him the man had rang the doorbell asking about buying his Lincoln, and what he said. At first he sounded kind of excited, saying that might be a *sign*, because he’d just talked to a Ford dealer this morning about finding the Mustang he wants. Then he mentioned something about his Dad, and did not sound so excited anymore. I told him he can think about it, just because someone is interested in buying it doesn’t mean he has to make a decision right now. I already know it will be difficult for him to let the car go, he has been sentimental about it from the time I met him, just because his Dad gave it to him years ago, when he needed a car. Even though he wasn’t driving it anymore when I met him, it still meant a lot to him that his Dad gave him the car, and at some point in his life, his Dad had become partial to Lincoln’s and that was all he drove. It is even more complicated now, the sentimental stuff about the car, since his Dad passed last September. I will not try to influence him one way or the other, because I want nothing to do with it if he regrets whatever choice he makes. The car rides like a dream, it feels like you are floating over the streets riding in it. It’s also a “good girl”, and has been a champ, even though it’s been neglected for many years. Even with the neglect, she does her best when he asks her too, which is how I know how it rides, because I’ve rode in it with him several times over the years. But the longer it sits up not being driven, the more issues it is developing, which is on Mister, and nothing to do with the fact that she’s a good girl. Just a totally, and probably weird, thought popped into my mind reading the above. Could Mister not sell the car to this guy but try find out if the man is looking for a project where he would be willing to work on/restore it for Mister?
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Post by soupandstew on Jun 13, 2024 17:18:31 GMT -5
Today I scrubbed off the stovetop after a couple days of splattery cooking, and mopped the kitchen floor. Got all ambitious and conditioned my hair too . After eating the pizza that DH is cooking, I'm going to sit on the deck and bake in the sun for a bit which brings me great joy.
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Post by finnime on Jun 13, 2024 17:23:01 GMT -5
Question for all: If your spouse spent $1,000 on a hobby toy in September 2023 and now is giving it away to your landscaper tomorrow, how pissed would you be on a scale from 1 to 10? Reason, "I don't like it, I made a mistake." We don't need the effing $$ but that's just bad bs there. I've had buyers regret too, but usually on a $20 blouse. I'm picking my battles, but I am at defcon 5 here On a scale of 1 to 10 I'd be at 20. That is not, will not ever be, money to sneeze at for me.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jun 13, 2024 17:25:11 GMT -5
I got a notification that someone was approaching our front door. It was a man, no vehicle in sight. When he rang the doorbell, I used the doorbell camera to ask how could I help him. He said he lives around the corner, and he’s noticed Mister’s old Lincoln in the driveway when he goes for a walk and walks past our cove, and he wondered if we were interested in selling it. I told him it’s not my car, but if he wanted to give me his name and phone number, I would ask the owner and get back to him. He gave me his info and told me he likes old cars, and he use to work as a mechanic, and started rambling about 2 old cars he use to have. I called Mister and told him the man had rang the doorbell asking about buying his Lincoln, and what he said. At first he sounded kind of excited, saying that might be a *sign*, because he’d just talked to a Ford dealer this morning about finding the Mustang he wants. Then he mentioned something about his Dad, and did not sound so excited anymore. I told him he can think about it, just because someone is interested in buying it doesn’t mean he has to make a decision right now. I already know it will be difficult for him to let the car go, he has been sentimental about it from the time I met him, just because his Dad gave it to him years ago, when he needed a car. Even though he wasn’t driving it anymore when I met him, it still meant a lot to him that his Dad gave him the car, and at some point in his life, his Dad had become partial to Lincoln’s and that was all he drove. It is even more complicated now, the sentimental stuff about the car, since his Dad passed last September. I will not try to influence him one way or the other, because I want nothing to do with it if he regrets whatever choice he makes. The car rides like a dream, it feels like you are floating over the streets riding in it. It’s also a “good girl”, and has been a champ, even though it’s been neglected for many years. Even with the neglect, she does her best when he asks her too, which is how I know how it rides, because I’ve rode in it with him several times over the years. But the longer it sits up not being driven, the more issues it is developing, which is on Mister, and nothing to do with the fact that she’s a good girl. Just a totally, and probably weird, thought popped into my mind reading the above. Could Mister not sell the car to this guy but try find out if the man is looking for a project where he would be willing to work on/restore it for Mister? Not weird at all, I had the same thought. ETA: even though it won’t be inexpensive, I really do think it would be better emotionally for Mister to just fix the car. Even if he ended up selling it anyway, soon after. I’ve always thought that, but even more after what he said when he mentioned his Dad today when I told him the guy was interested in buying it. But it’s still his decision to make, and I will support him, whatever he decides to do…. Other than continuing to let it sit up and fall apart.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Jun 13, 2024 17:41:45 GMT -5
Question for all: If your spouse spent $1,000 on a hobby toy in September 2023 and now is giving it away to your landscaper tomorrow, how pissed would you be on a scale from 1 to 10? Reason, "I don't like it, I made a mistake." We don't need the effing $$ but that's just bad bs there. I've had buyers regret too, but usually on a $20 blouse. I'm picking my battles, but I am at defcon 5 here You are justified, whatever you do. I would be livid. I'm still stewing today about finding out on Tuesday that my husband sold his very nice, very much in regular use three-piece suit to his sister back in April and never told me. He lent his nephew two suits (one he doesn't wear much and the one I loved on husband) for him to try on for his junior prom and apparently SIL told husband that the suit needed alterations and could she buy it. Instead of just buying a suit of his own. After two months of reminding him to get his suits back from his sister, he came home from a family dinner on Tuesday with one suit (I had council and didn't go). I blew my gasket. We have a fancy wedding in August and needs a new suit now, and I'm sure he already spent the money he got for his existing suit. His fuck up, his problem. On the plus side, I'm looking forward to dress shopping for myself! I want something jeweled tones, dress attire is formal or Indian formal. My existing cocktail dresses and fluffy skirts won't do . Can't wait!
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Post by giramomma on Jun 13, 2024 17:57:05 GMT -5
Right now, if DH spent 1K on something and then gave it away 9 months later, I would be super pissed. No ands, ifs, or butts. In 5 years, it would sort of depend. In 5 years, we should be in a better financial position: no grand kids and two kids out of the house. We'd be down to private school tuition for one kid. As long as he's still contributing to the household, what do I care what he does with his spending money? Now, if in 5 years, he's spending all of his income and not contributing anything to the household, AND gives things away, well...that would be a different discussion. Or, say, if it turns out I can retire and just teach in 7 years..I'd probably be like "eh" I won't tell you how much I've spent on my stash. It is more than 1K across the years. Most yarn-y things that I make, I give away. I've started going through my tubs (yes, tubs) of cross stitch kits (just the kits) to donate stuff. So, It evens out. I probably spent 100-150 a month on hobby stuff when I had 0-2 kids. This year, I've spent $75, total, frivolously. When you account for supplies for projects already started, it's more like $100 for the year.
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Post by busymom on Jun 13, 2024 17:58:56 GMT -5
I got a notification that someone was approaching our front door. It was a man, no vehicle in sight. When he rang the doorbell, I used the doorbell camera to ask how could I help him. He said he lives around the corner, and he’s noticed Mister’s old Lincoln in the driveway when he goes for a walk and walks past our cove, and he wondered if we were interested in selling it. I told him it’s not my car, but if he wanted to give me his name and phone number, I would ask the owner and get back to him. He gave me his info and told me he likes old cars, and he use to work as a mechanic, and started rambling about 2 old cars he use to have. I called Mister and told him the man had rang the doorbell asking about buying his Lincoln, and what he said. At first he sounded kind of excited, saying that might be a *sign*, because he’d just talked to a Ford dealer this morning about finding the Mustang he wants. Then he mentioned something about his Dad, and did not sound so excited anymore. I told him he can think about it, just because someone is interested in buying it doesn’t mean he has to make a decision right now. I already know it will be difficult for him to let the car go, he has been sentimental about it from the time I met him, just because his Dad gave it to him years ago, when he needed a car. Even though he wasn’t driving it anymore when I met him, it still meant a lot to him that his Dad gave him the car, and at some point in his life, his Dad had become partial to Lincoln’s and that was all he drove. It is even more complicated now, the sentimental stuff about the car, since his Dad passed last September. I will not try to influence him one way or the other, because I want nothing to do with it if he regrets whatever choice he makes. The car rides like a dream, it feels like you are floating over the streets riding in it. It’s also a “good girl”, and has been a champ, even though it’s been neglected for many years. Even with the neglect, she does her best when he asks her too, which is how I know how it rides, because I’ve rode in it with him several times over the years. But the longer it sits up not being driven, the more issues it is developing, which is on Mister, and nothing to do with the fact that she’s a good girl. It is not as old as the old cars I’m drawn to, which are old muscle cars, vs what was luxury vehicles at the time of production, but I do feel like it would be nice to take her out for a cruise ever so often if he got her all fixed up, so I wouldn’t mind him keeping it, IF he got everything fixed and took care of it. But he is overwhelmed now with where to even start, and trying to find someone he can trust to do the work that needs to be done. But there is also the fact that we already have 5 vehicles, and he is getting ready to buy another one. That is kind of ridiculous. If the end of our driveway was not wide enough to accommodate 3 vehicles side by side, parking would’ve been an issue when we got the Tahoe. OD and my son always park in front of the Lincoln (it’s backed into the driveway), and that is the only spot left in the driveway where we can still get the other vehicles in and out of the driveway and garage without shuffling things around. Idk where he’s going to park a darn Mustang. He might be willing to move his Honda out of the garage, to the driveway, but even if the Mustang isn’t too long to fit in the garage, it will definitely be too wide for it and MY Honda to both fit in our garage. And I’m not moving my car to the driveway. She’s always lived in a garage, for almost 21 years now. Idc that she’s old, she’s been very good to me and she’s my baby and I am sentimental about her too lol. Anyway, I went off on a tangent, but I also wanted to say that it was weird having a whole conversation with someone through my doorbell camera. I think when you go house shopping together you need to buy a hobby farm with a barn. Use the barn for his car collection. It's a common use here, when you have no animals.
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Post by toomuchreality on Jun 13, 2024 18:04:26 GMT -5
Just got back from my appointment with my sadistic hygienist and I'm booked for another crown this Summer. Also, I forgot my phone today and it's driving me bonkers. I keep worrying that one of the kids or the contractor are trying to reach me. I'm also 100% positive I'm going to miss a lawn mower deal popping up on Facebook Marketplace today. I think all major decisions have been made in regards to the stuff going on at my house, so hopefully I'm ok there. I forgot my phone yesterday. I left it home, while I went to a dr appt. It made me a nervous wreck. I was so afraid my car was going to break down and I wouldn't be able to call anyone for help. Luckily I made it.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jun 13, 2024 18:07:49 GMT -5
I got a notification that someone was approaching our front door. It was a man, no vehicle in sight. When he rang the doorbell, I used the doorbell camera to ask how could I help him. He said he lives around the corner, and he’s noticed Mister’s old Lincoln in the driveway when he goes for a walk and walks past our cove, and he wondered if we were interested in selling it. I told him it’s not my car, but if he wanted to give me his name and phone number, I would ask the owner and get back to him. He gave me his info and told me he likes old cars, and he use to work as a mechanic, and started rambling about 2 old cars he use to have. I called Mister and told him the man had rang the doorbell asking about buying his Lincoln, and what he said. At first he sounded kind of excited, saying that might be a *sign*, because he’d just talked to a Ford dealer this morning about finding the Mustang he wants. Then he mentioned something about his Dad, and did not sound so excited anymore. I told him he can think about it, just because someone is interested in buying it doesn’t mean he has to make a decision right now. I already know it will be difficult for him to let the car go, he has been sentimental about it from the time I met him, just because his Dad gave it to him years ago, when he needed a car. Even though he wasn’t driving it anymore when I met him, it still meant a lot to him that his Dad gave him the car, and at some point in his life, his Dad had become partial to Lincoln’s and that was all he drove. It is even more complicated now, the sentimental stuff about the car, since his Dad passed last September. I will not try to influence him one way or the other, because I want nothing to do with it if he regrets whatever choice he makes. The car rides like a dream, it feels like you are floating over the streets riding in it. It’s also a “good girl”, and has been a champ, even though it’s been neglected for many years. Even with the neglect, she does her best when he asks her too, which is how I know how it rides, because I’ve rode in it with him several times over the years. But the longer it sits up not being driven, the more issues it is developing, which is on Mister, and nothing to do with the fact that she’s a good girl. It is not as old as the old cars I’m drawn to, which are old muscle cars, vs what was luxury vehicles at the time of production, but I do feel like it would be nice to take her out for a cruise ever so often if he got her all fixed up, so I wouldn’t mind him keeping it, IF he got everything fixed and took care of it. But he is overwhelmed now with where to even start, and trying to find someone he can trust to do the work that needs to be done. But there is also the fact that we already have 5 vehicles, and he is getting ready to buy another one. That is kind of ridiculous. If the end of our driveway was not wide enough to accommodate 3 vehicles side by side, parking would’ve been an issue when we got the Tahoe. OD and my son always park in front of the Lincoln (it’s backed into the driveway), and that is the only spot left in the driveway where we can still get the other vehicles in and out of the driveway and garage without shuffling things around. Idk where he’s going to park a darn Mustang. He might be willing to move his Honda out of the garage, to the driveway, but even if the Mustang isn’t too long to fit in the garage, it will definitely be too wide for it and MY Honda to both fit in our garage. And I’m not moving my car to the driveway. She’s always lived in a garage, for almost 21 years now. Idc that she’s old, she’s been very good to me and she’s my baby and I am sentimental about her too lol. Anyway, I went off on a tangent, but I also wanted to say that it was weird having a whole conversation with someone through my doorbell camera. I think when you go house shopping together you need to buy a hobby farm with a barn. Use the barn for his car collection. It's a common use here, when you have no animals. Nooooo, he is a hoarder and will just junk up whatever space he has to do so. Well, I guess that might be okay as long as the barn is farrrr from the house, solely his, and I have no reason whatsoever to go in it. Ever. And if it’s not so bad that it doesn’t become a safe place for bugs and critters to live in and breed, until they and their offspring feel like venturing outside. *shudder*
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Post by countrygirl2 on Jun 13, 2024 18:47:45 GMT -5
I am very excited. Hubs and I talked about the house. He thinks its beautiful also and told me to go ahead and look it over. So DIL and I did today and son met us there to look at things hubs wanted him to. We put in an offer, we will see what happens with it. We will get an inspection since hubs is not here. It's only for major structural issues if they find any. If minor things we will buy 'as is' all cash offer. If there are major structural issues, we will just not buy it. Not asking for repairs. They had another couple that was going to offer but when they found one going in, they decided to look elsewhere. The house will sell and I think quickly for full price. I told the agent we will not do a bidding war, if someone else offers more, its their. It will upset me, but something better will come along up here. It's just we don't want to pay more if we don't have to. We can then help son and DIL to fix things they want at their house. The only thing we don't like is the small driveway, but as hubs said we will deal with it.
Honestly I saw nothing that needs repaired or fixed. I did notice the doors under the kitchen cabinets looked like they could need some refinish work and the lighting in the kitchen is too dark. Hubs will change out the light fixtures and put under cabinet lights. I'm going to talk with them about buying some of the artwork on the walls, it really compliments the home. Also there is a gorgeous mirror I would like to have in there, either for me or DIL.
She already has dibs on half my "hobby room", LOL! I don't care, she is more than welcome to come there and paint if she wants. DD will get a big bedroom like she wants, same size as ours and she and I both will use the whirlpool tub. Hubs will have to use the hallway bathroom as it has a shower and the other doesn't, he said fine with him. The small little office will be grandsons when he comes over. We already saw some kids playing at a neighbors, so maybe he will have some kids to play with. I bet a lot of grandparents have kids visiting.
I think the garage is big enough he can put shelving up to put things he wants to save in it. Most of the ceilings are tall and well I just love it. It has everything I want and hubs will get some. But he can go to sons and work if he wants too. They need lots done and he doesn't mind. I hope we can help fix their kitchen up, it is pretty bad. The rest of the house inside is ok, but she wants to make changes and I understand why. The only thing I want different is quartz countertops in the kitchen.
So now down to earth and see if the seller accepts our offer.
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Post by busymom on Jun 13, 2024 18:48:51 GMT -5
Well, there IS one problem with storing vehicles in barns, Pink Cashmere. Mice. Whether you have animals, or store cars, those little suckers are everywhere. In fact, a friend of mine stored her car in a relative's barn when she went away to college, and the little suckers ate their way inside, and built a nest.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jun 13, 2024 18:54:35 GMT -5
I am very excited. Hubs and I talked about the house. He thinks its beautiful also and told me to go ahead and look it over. So DIL and I did today and son met us there to look at things hubs wanted him to. We put in an offer, we will see what happens with it. We will get an inspection since hubs is not here. It's only for major structural issues if they find any. If minor things we will buy 'as is' all cash offer. If there are major structural issues, we will just not buy it. Not asking for repairs. They had another couple that was going to offer but when they found one going in, they decided to look elsewhere. The house will sell and I think quickly for full price. I told the agent we will not do a bidding war, if someone else offers more, its their. It will upset me, but something better will come along up here. It's just we don't want to pay more if we don't have to. We can then help son and DIL to fix things they want at their house. The only thing we don't like is the small driveway, but as hubs said we will deal with it. Honestly I saw nothing that needs repaired or fixed. I did notice the doors under the kitchen cabinets looked like they could need some refinish work and the lighting in the kitchen is too dark. Hubs will change out the light fixtures and put under cabinet lights. I'm going to talk with them about buying some of the artwork on the walls, it really compliments the home. Also there is a gorgeous mirror I would like to have in there, either for me or DIL. She already has dibs on half my "hobby room", LOL! I don't care, she is more than welcome to come there and paint if she wants. DD will get a big bedroom like she wants, same size as ours and she and I both will use the whirlpool tub. Hubs will have to use the hallway bathroom as it has a shower and the other doesn't, he said fine with him. The small little office will be grandsons when he comes over. We already saw some kids playing at a neighbors, so maybe he will have some kids to play with. I bet a lot of grandparents have kids visiting. I think the garage is big enough he can put shelving up to put things he wants to save in it. Most of the ceilings are tall and well I just love it. It has everything I want and hubs will get some. But he can go to sons and work if he wants too. They need lots done and he doesn't mind. I hope we can help fix their kitchen up, it is pretty bad. The rest of the house inside is ok, but she wants to make changes and I understand why. The only thing I want different is quartz countertops in the kitchen. So now down to earth and see if the seller accepts our offer. I’ve not been good about keeping up with the thread lately, so is this the same house where you expressed some concerns about the rules IRT your DD living with you?
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Jun 13, 2024 19:03:30 GMT -5
Question for all: If your spouse spent $1,000 on a hobby toy in September 2023 and now is giving it away to your landscaper tomorrow, how pissed would you be on a scale from 1 to 10? Reason, "I don't like it, I made a mistake." We don't need the effing $$ but that's just bad bs there. I've had buyers regret too, but usually on a $20 blouse. I'm picking my battles, but I am at defcon 5 here We have a 17 year old car sitting in the driveway that TD spent at least $50k to get it back onto the road. He could have bought the car new for the number of engines he has put into it. I don’t go there, or I’d have stroked out by now. And that’s a lot of money, but to me that’s not the problem. The problem is he just gave the $1000 thingamajigga to someone. My husband just paid $5000 to have a perfectly good chain link fence removed and a wooden one out up because he cannot stand looking at the neighbors’ trashy yard. I’m not happy about spending money on that, but I conceded because we discussed it and had a plan. If he just gave away $1000 worth of extra wood, that would piss me off.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jun 13, 2024 19:03:47 GMT -5
Well, there IS one problem with storing vehicles in barns, Pink Cashmere . Mice. Whether you have animals, or store cars, those little suckers are everywhere. In fact, a friend of mine stored her car in a relative's barn when she went away to college, and the little suckers ate their way inside, and built a nest. That is a big, fat NO for me. Because where mice hang out, those creatures that shall not be named, are likely to hang out too, because mice are a food supply. Which I learned the hard way last summer or the year before when a big one snuck up behind me on our deck. I am willing to compromise, which is why I said what I said in my earlier post. But I am already fighting about things that harbor bugs and critters, and encourage them hanging around our current house……. so a barn being in the mix….. I am right back to thinking NO, absolutely NOT.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Jun 13, 2024 19:05:33 GMT -5
Question for all: If your spouse spent $1,000 on a hobby toy in September 2023 and now is giving it away to your landscaper tomorrow, how pissed would you be on a scale from 1 to 10? Reason, "I don't like it, I made a mistake." We don't need the effing $$ but that's just bad bs there. I've had buyers regret too, but usually on a $20 blouse. I'm picking my battles, but I am at defcon 5 here You are justified, whatever you do. I would be livid. I'm still stewing today about finding out on Tuesday that my husband sold his very nice, very much in regular use three-piece suit to his sister back in April and never told me. He lent his nephew two suits (one he doesn't wear much and the one I loved on husband) for him to try on for his junior prom and apparently SIL told husband that the suit needed alterations and could she buy it. Instead of just buying a suit of his own. After two months of reminding him to get his suits back from his sister, he came home from a family dinner on Tuesday with one suit (I had council and didn't go). I blew my gasket. We have a fancy wedding in August and needs a new suit now, and I'm sure he already spent the money he got his existing suit. His fuck up, his problem. On the plus side, I'm looking forward to dress shopping for myself! I want something jeweled tones, dress attire is formal or Indian formal. My existing cocktail dresses and fluffy shirts won't do . Can't wait! I’ve never spent more than $800 on a suit for DH. I’d be ticked about just giving it away.
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Post by busymom on Jun 13, 2024 19:21:30 GMT -5
We just spent a large amount of money on a suit so DH would look nice at DD's wedding. If he gave that away, or sold it, I wouldn't be happy either. I prefer the old days when men bought suits, and the tailoring was free, but nowadays WOW, those alterations are expensive!
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Post by countrygirl2 on Jun 13, 2024 19:23:35 GMT -5
Yes, the last one we just looked at. Address is 4228 Illahee Ln Sw, Tumwater. It was even nicer in person than in the pictures. I really like it, but not going to get my heart set on it in case we don't get it. Wow, after going through that, makes this place look like a hovel. LOL! But if this doesn't work, we will find something else.
I like its a gated community too. They lock the gates around 7 or so but we will have access to get in. Will have to see if son and DIL has access too, I'm sure they will.
And yes, I'm excited, looks like hubs meant it when he said we could get something nicer. Son said he would stay here with the bigger lawn. Most of the people there are old, many older than us. Son said looks like it's full of "jarheads", retired marines But hubs doesn't want to put money in this 50 year old place and I don't blame him. This one is just tied down too and the other has a regular foundation like a house, and it was new in 2006, so way newer. As son said could easily resell that place too, if we find something we like better. But I doubt it. I think we will both like it there and I know DD will.
We can easily sell 2 places, but our house may take awhile in Indiana. I hope not too long.
So now we wait to see what the seller will do.
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Post by Peace77 on Jun 13, 2024 19:30:01 GMT -5
Buy nothing on FB. Around here someone will claim any breast pump within the hour* of posting! * I follow how long things take to be claimed so I know how to group very popular items with those less wanted (I always gift "must take all") and while I have no baby items anymore it is just a habit I have a hard time breaking I’d have to have FB Maybe I can get a friend to post them for me or something. We do have a local freecycle I might join…but again, takes almost as much bandwidth as complaining about having to get rid of them on YMAM Another option is the free section of Craigslist. You don’t have to sign up for a Facebook group.Just find the chapter closest to you at Craigslist.org
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Post by resolution on Jun 13, 2024 19:46:49 GMT -5
Question for all: If your spouse spent $1,000 on a hobby toy in September 2023 and now is giving it away to your landscaper tomorrow, how pissed would you be on a scale from 1 to 10? Reason, "I don't like it, I made a mistake." We don't need the effing $$ but that's just bad bs there. I've had buyers regret too, but usually on a $20 blouse. I'm picking my battles, but I am at defcon 5 here It wouldn't bother me. In fact, I would be a bit relieved that he had loosened up the purse strings a little bit. Right now the balance between us is that he is a bit of a tightwad and complains that the gifts I buy for our families are too expensive; however he has had to learn to live with it because he isn't the one who spends time and energy buying all the gifts for everyone on both sides of the family. And the fact is that I keep raising the gift amounts because of inflation. So I would be glad if he spent $1000 on something and then went ahead and gave it away if he didn't like it. (this is based on your statement that you don't need the money)
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Post by andi9899 on Jun 13, 2024 21:13:19 GMT -5
I might need to move my workstation inside. today's all about printing/signing/scanning. I'm jealous you can take your setup outside. I have 3 screens going crazy all freaking day long. I only moved it to move to current home and will move it one more time to go to the next house and it will stay there until the laptop dies.
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Post by CCL on Jun 13, 2024 21:35:09 GMT -5
Yes, the last one we just looked at. Address is 4228 Illahee Ln Sw, Tumwater. It was even nicer in person than in the pictures. I really like it, but not going to get my heart set on it in case we don't get it. Wow, after going through that, makes this place look like a hovel. LOL! But if this doesn't work, we will find something else. I like its a gated community too. They lock the gates around 7 or so but we will have access to get in. Will have to see if son and DIL has access too, I'm sure they will. And yes, I'm excited, looks like hubs meant it when he said we could get something nicer. Son said he would stay here with the bigger lawn. Most of the people there are old, many older than us. Son said looks like it's full of "jarheads", retired marines But hubs doesn't want to put money in this 50 year old place and I don't blame him. This one is just tied down too and the other has a regular foundation like a house, and it was new in 2006, so way newer. As son said could easily resell that place too, if we find something we like better. But I doubt it. I think we will both like it there and I know DD will. We can easily sell 2 places, but our house may take awhile in Indiana. I hope not too long. So now we wait to see what the seller will do. I like it. Love all the landscaping and greenery, especially the view from the deck. Plenty of windows, too.
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Post by giramomma on Jun 13, 2024 21:45:19 GMT -5
I'm going to hell for taking the lords name in vain many times today.
Many, many times.
Many.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Jun 13, 2024 23:24:14 GMT -5
I'm going to take a trip to the John Deere dealership after work. Pray for me. I've only gone there once. It cost me $2500. And I already owned the zero-turn mower. I spent $4200...for an old mower with a cracked hood. Every fiber of my being wanted to buy brand new and I was sooo close. Last year's model, 1.9% financing...so tempting. But, apparently I haven't lost my mind entirely this year. It's getting pretty close though.
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Post by toomuchreality on Jun 13, 2024 23:52:19 GMT -5
I've only gone there once. It cost me $2500. And I already owned the zero-turn mower. I spent $4200...for an old mower with a cracked hood. Every fiber of my being wanted to buy brand new and I was sooo close. Last year's model, 1.9% financing...so tempting. But, apparently I haven't lost my mind entirely this year. It's getting pretty close though. Happy new mower, to you!
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Post by snapdragon on Jun 13, 2024 23:53:14 GMT -5
I've only gone there once. It cost me $2500. And I already owned the zero-turn mower. I spent $4200...for an old mower with a cracked hood. Every fiber of my being wanted to buy brand new and I was sooo close. Last year's model, 1.9% financing...so tempting. But, apparently I haven't lost my mind entirely this year. It's getting pretty close though. Are you buying it to replace the mower deck on your regular mower? If so good for you. Fingers crossed.
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Post by countrygirl2 on Jun 14, 2024 0:36:39 GMT -5
DIL and I had a great time today. She loved the house so we enjoyed that. Then we decided to go to Starbucks and have coffee, I bought DD her hot cocoa she likes so much and brought it home. That thrilled her. I wanted her to go with us and just mess around today, I didn't want to work in the house, I did get my car washed.
So we looked around in Home Goods but didn't buy anything. Then we went to Olive Garden for lunch, it was really good and I got DD one of the $6 to go meals. Brought her home some bread sticks and salad too. So she was a happy camper, she just didn't want to go anywhere. We both tried to get her to go with us.
I worked with the realtor for an hour or more crafting our contract, its very simple and clean. We asked for nothing, offered all cash, want an inspection to only see if there were any major defects, not asking to fix anything, if there were, just release us from the contract. Anything minor or cosmetic, we would take as is. They put the closing on July 11th. Closing costs would only be about $1500 this way, you save a fortune in closing costs. I offered $290k, asking was $300 and only because it does not have central air and we would have a heat pump put in. The other person that was going to write a contract said they will looks elsewhere, I would probably do the same as I'm not getting in a bidding war. Like the realtor said, it would be a good move for them to take it. Quick closing, no extra costs, when people finance, they pay a sh**load of extra costs. But I suppose someone could come along with the same deal and pay full price and get it, I would hate to lose it, but will, there will be other houses and possibly out there. The one thing I would hate to lose is the nice big hobby room, it is really nice. And the perfect little extra bedroom that little guy can use when he comes over.
The lady is an artist and had paintings everywhere. The realtor said they are not wanting to move everything so if we get it I may offer on some of the paintings and one lovely mirror. But she has gallery art so I doubt I could afford them. But they help make the house. And a lot are pastels, so never hurts to ask.
Then we came home and she went home. I put away my gardening tools and mower. Later she and little guy came over after he came home from school, he ate dinner and DD was in there eating. I'm laughing and tell them the poor things don't get fed at home. For some reason they would rather eat here, I don't care.
I told son grandson can stay Friday and Saturday but not Sunday. I want to get the fridge cleaned out and not cook that day, all the laundry done and be ready to leave on Monday and not be stressed. They will probably come over for a bit. His last day of school is Friday.
I have bean soup, veggie soup, and roast in the freezer for hubs. And I will be freezing cheese and luncheon meat we have left for him. The will give him a few days of good food to eat.
Well about bath time for me. It was a good day and I think we both enjoyed it. DIL does really good most days and when she gets in one of her moods I just ignore it. So overall we get along pretty good.
Hubs is so worried about little guy going over there, he is leaving Friday after I get home and coming up to see him before he leaves. We are both really worried about him going.
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Post by finnime on Jun 14, 2024 2:40:14 GMT -5
Good morning, invested invisipeeps of Y Ma'am, making large purchases after research and monitoring disparate tendencies of partners to buy $big. Quite a day yesterday for many of you. Welcome to Friday, as in "Friday, I'm in love." I hope this day finds you satisfied with your recent purchases or offers and in good health. I hope your work goes well. Congratulations on the mower, minnesotapaintlady, and the offer, countrygirl2. Yesterday was a struggle for me. Today could well be the turning point, though, since it will be 3 days since I started the new dose of meds. It's taken about the long in the past. We'll see. I did weed the smaller garden bed yesterday so that's something. The dawn yesterday was not particularly interesting. No clouds to speak of. I took this at sunset a couple of days ago. I like how the sun is doing its thing behind the blue cloud with the harbor below.
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Post by chiver78 on Jun 14, 2024 6:25:27 GMT -5
I might need to move my workstation inside. today's all about printing/signing/scanning. I'm jealous you can take your setup outside. I have 3 screens going crazy all freaking day long. I only moved it to move to current home and will move it one more time to go to the next house and it will stay there until the laptop dies. I think it's probably only that easy bc I was already used to just using the screen on the laptop itself in the office. if I was used to having multiple screens, I wouldn't be able to do that. 🤷♀️
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Jun 14, 2024 7:17:49 GMT -5
I couldn't work on just a laptop either. I have two 23" monitors and often doing things like building a presentation on one with spreadsheets from the other.
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