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Post by countrygirl2 on Jun 12, 2024 16:40:58 GMT -5
Actually this is what it states. The 2 occupancy rule may be extended upon managements written approval for immediate family members only.
And of course my Husband just loves this one. He thinks its what we would like, but a lot of landscaping to take care of. I'm pretty sure on this one the water, sewer, and trash pickup is extra.
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Post by countrygirl2 on Jun 12, 2024 16:45:50 GMT -5
No I did not know the PNW was 85% white.I just assumed it was like everyplace else. I did know there are a lot of native Americans here, but only because I looked at the maps and see Indian names and their casinos all over.
I know there is a possibility of these places being sold. But probably moreso where we live now being a lake front property. I could see this being developed and getting millions out of it. We have a pier, boat tie ups, I think its to deep here for a beach and such, but suppose they could do something like that with approval.
That one does back up to a green space as the one I am looking at does, its in the back.
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Post by snapdragon on Jun 12, 2024 16:54:14 GMT -5
Getting a little stressed by my lawn mower situation...as my lawn just kind of keeps growing while I'm trying to find a solution. Ideally I'd get the one I have repaired, but the small engine repair guy is booked up until mid-July. Have emails out to several dealerships trying to find a replacement deck, but it's not going well. If I wasn't desperate, they'd be all over Facebook Marketplace. Could you borrow one from a family member or neighbor? once or twice?
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Post by soupandstew on Jun 12, 2024 16:56:46 GMT -5
I'm going to play devil's advocate here for a minute. DH and I have looked at buying/leasing in a number of 55+ communities over the last few years. The ones we crossed off our list have loose guidelines; the ones at the top of our list have tight regulations. If I am buying a home $300-$500K or leasing an apartment for $3,000+/month, I want to be sure that the environment meets our wants and needs. Is it wrong for me to want to use a pool without a child cannonballing into me? Shouldn't DH be able to take his daily walk without being flattened by a teen on an electric scooter? I also feel occupancy limits help prevent stray friends and relatives from moving in. Do we not all know someone with a stray black sheep in the family, recently out of jail or rehab or between jobs again, that would like to stay for a month or five? A friend was actually evicted from a very nice senior apartment complex because she kept moving her boy toys in and the incidence of burglaries and thefts rose proportionally.
Our top pick has great racial diversity but so does Houston. How can we expect diversity in white majority communities?
I just don't see how a desire for peace and security is essentially discriminatory but that's just me maybe.
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Post by snapdragon on Jun 12, 2024 17:07:18 GMT -5
I finally got my new recliners today. They are really nice and fit my body. Being able to swivel, rock or recline is great.
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Post by NastyWoman on Jun 12, 2024 17:21:42 GMT -5
I'm going to play devil's advocate here for a minute. DH and I have looked at buying/leasing in a number of 55+ communities over the last few years. The ones we crossed off our list have loose guidelines; the ones at the top of our list have tight regulations. If I am buying a home $300-$500K or leasing an apartment for $3,000+/month, I want to be sure that the environment meets our wants and needs. Is it wrong for me to want to use a pool without a child cannonballing into me? Shouldn't DH be able to take his daily walk without being flattened by a teen on an electric scooter? I also feel occupancy limits help prevent stray friends and relatives from moving in. Do we not all know someone with a stray black sheep in the family, recently out of jail or rehab or between jobs again, that would like to stay for a month or five? A friend was actually evicted from a very nice senior apartment complex because she kept moving her boy toys in and the incidence of burglaries and thefts rose proportionally. Our top pick has great racial diversity but so does Houston. How can we expect diversity in white majority communities? I just don't see how a desire for peace and security is essentially discriminatory but that's just me maybe.
Not just you. While I don't want to live in a place where no kids are allowed, the rule that CG mentioned where they had a rule that you needed to move out one year after you give birth actually can point to the fact that it does not allow anyone under 21yo to live there. Giving new parents one year to find alternative housing seems reasonable. Again, this is not my jam but it is for those who move into those areas. It is summer time so the pool, which is just off my condo, is used all the time. In the summer that means very loud kids anytime after 11am (not sure why they are not in there earlier) and that is fine with me. I like the sound of playing kids but if I didn't like that I should be able to live in a place where I don't have to deal with it. Or as soupandstew says, without having to worry about teens running into me when strolling on site.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Jun 12, 2024 17:26:09 GMT -5
I'm going to play devil's advocate here for a minute. DH and I have looked at buying/leasing in a number of 55+ communities over the last few years. The ones we crossed off our list have loose guidelines; the ones at the top of our list have tight regulations. If I am buying a home $300-$500K or leasing an apartment for $3,000+/month, I want to be sure that the environment meets our wants and needs. Is it wrong for me to want to use a pool without a child cannonballing into me? Shouldn't DH be able to take his daily walk without being flattened by a teen on an electric scooter? I also feel occupancy limits help prevent stray friends and relatives from moving in. Do we not all know someone with a stray black sheep in the family, recently out of jail or rehab or between jobs again, that would like to stay for a month or five? A friend was actually evicted from a very nice senior apartment complex because she kept moving her boy toys in and the incidence of burglaries and thefts rose proportionally. Our top pick has great racial diversity but so does Houston. How can we expect diversity in white majority communities? I just don't see how a desire for peace and security is essentially discriminatory but that's just me maybe. Oh, I have no issue with a 55+ community. If I implied that, I didn’t mean to. As someone who has owned a manufactured home in a park and paid space rent and dealt with OO rules and monthly space rent increases, I strongly caution against such a plan for any age to purchase the manufactured home.
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Post by Opti on Jun 12, 2024 17:29:50 GMT -5
Nice shirt, nice cause. Are you going to get it?
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Post by Opti on Jun 12, 2024 17:41:12 GMT -5
I saw in there if someone gets pregnant they have to leave in a year.Guess what else, so far the ones I have seen are all lily white. How do they get by with that? WTF? I can't imagine that's legal, at all. I wonder if Tina Tequila is on the management board. wow....
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jun 12, 2024 18:21:12 GMT -5
I'm going to play devil's advocate here for a minute. DH and I have looked at buying/leasing in a number of 55+ communities over the last few years. The ones we crossed off our list have loose guidelines; the ones at the top of our list have tight regulations. If I am buying a home $300-$500K or leasing an apartment for $3,000+/month, I want to be sure that the environment meets our wants and needs. Is it wrong for me to want to use a pool without a child cannonballing into me? Shouldn't DH be able to take his daily walk without being flattened by a teen on an electric scooter? I also feel occupancy limits help prevent stray friends and relatives from moving in. Do we not all know someone with a stray black sheep in the family, recently out of jail or rehab or between jobs again, that would like to stay for a month or five? A friend was actually evicted from a very nice senior apartment complex because she kept moving her boy toys in and the incidence of burglaries and thefts rose proportionally. Our top pick has great racial diversity but so does Houston. How can we expect diversity in white majority communities? I just don't see how a desire for peace and security is essentially discriminatory but that's just me maybe. This is the way I feel about a 55+ community. I want those rules in place. I don't want to deal with too many people or kids that don't understand they need to slow down around older people. The place where mom and dad lived had strict rules on people staying who were not actually living there. It was totally white because that is who lives here. It was probably 95% Catholic because that is who owned it and who lives there. Mom and dad got a neighbor in an electric scooter. He could go very fast in his scooter. He about destroyed his door so the complex had to put steel enforcements on them. He also was not careful about other people and slowing down for them. He ran over the feet of more than one other tenant with his scooter. My uncle and his wife lived in low income senior housing. Their daughter owned a house just a couple of blocks away. She didn't like to stay alone so she stayed with her parents so much that the office notified them that she could not stay overnight. When mom was at the end of her life, the office told us we could stay there as much as we wanted. That was a special circumstance and we only stayed a few nights. I know they did the same thing for other familes who had people at the end of their lives
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jun 12, 2024 19:01:34 GMT -5
I want to share a conversation I had last week with my coworker I’ve mentioned that I enjoy talking to about life and personal growth. This conversation took place last week, the day I got irritated with my new coworker. He asked “if I hand you a glass full of water, and told you to walk *this route* (imagine walking about a block or so, but not in a straight line, up and down inclines and stairs, and around other people, moving vehicles, with other obstacles and the equivalent of potholes in your path), and told you not waste any of the water in the glass, could you do it?” I said possibly. He said “right, it is possible. But what would you have to do to make sure you don’t waste any water”? I said, pay attention to where I’m walking and what I’m doing. He said “Yes! You have to be constantly aware of the glass of water, so you don’t spill it, regardless of who or what pops up in front of you, and what obstacles are in your path”. He said the glass of water is your joy and your peace. We should do what it takes to fill our glass before we go to bed and when we wake up in the morning, so we can start our day with our glass full, right? Right. So when we leave home to go to work, or wherever we are going that day, how is it fair to take our best selves, with our glass full, out into the world, and let all our water spill out over the course of the day, so that by the time we get back home that evening to our loved ones, we are stressed, grumpy, and don’t really want anyone in the house to even talk to us for a couple of hours? He said that we should be mindful of our glass of water all day, because if we aren’t, water is constantly sloshing out when we let random people irritate or upset us, when we have road rage, when we get stressed over things we have no control over etc. Then we come back home to the people we actually love, with an empty glass and not much or nothing at all to give them, because we let our water spill out of our glass all day. How is that fair? I have been thinking about that ever since he shared it with me. I knew he shared it at that moment, because I was irritated with my coworker, and didn’t have to be. But the message was so much bigger than just that incident. At least it was to me. So, I wanted to share that with you all.
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Post by soupandstew on Jun 12, 2024 19:07:17 GMT -5
I want to share a conversation I had last week with my coworker I’ve mentioned that I enjoy talking to about life and personal growth. This conversation took place last week, the day I got irritated with my new coworker. He asked “if I hand you a glass full of water, and told you to walk *this route* (imagine walking about a block or so, but not in a straight line, up and down inclines and stairs, and around other people, moving vehicles, with other obstacles and the equivalent of potholes in your path), and told you not waste any of the water in the glass, could you do it?” I said possibly. He said “right, it is possible. But what would you have to do to make sure you don’t waste any water”? I said, pay attention to where I’m walking and what I’m doing. He said “Yes! You have to be constantly aware of the glass of water, so you don’t spill it, regardless of who or what pops up in front of you, and what obstacles are in your path”. He said the glass of water is your joy and your peace. We should do what it takes to fill our glass before we go to bed and when we wake up in the morning, so we can start our day with our glass full, right? Right. So when we leave home to go to work, or wherever we are going that day, how is it fair to take our best selves, with our glass full, out into the world, and let all our water spill out over the course of the day, so that by the time we get back home that evening to our loved ones, we are stressed, grumpy, and don’t really want anyone in the house to even talk to us for a couple of hours? He said that we should be mindful of our glass of water all day, because if we aren’t, water is constantly sloshing out when we let random people irritate or upset us, when we have road rage, when we get stressed over things we have no control over etc. Then we come back home to the people we actually love, with an empty glass and not much or nothing at all to give them, because we let our water spill out of our glass all day. How is that fair? I have been thinking about that ever since he shared it with me. I knew he shared it at that moment, because I was irritated with my coworker, and didn’t have to be. But the message was so much bigger than just that incident. At least it was to me. So, I wanted to share that with you all. This is one of the wisest things I've ever read. Thank you so much for sharing it with us
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jun 12, 2024 19:23:34 GMT -5
I want to share a conversation I had last week with my coworker I’ve mentioned that I enjoy talking to about life and personal growth. This conversation took place last week, the day I got irritated with my new coworker. He asked “if I hand you a glass full of water, and told you to walk *this route* (imagine walking about a block or so, but not in a straight line, up and down inclines and stairs, and around other people, moving vehicles, with other obstacles and the equivalent of potholes in your path), and told you not waste any of the water in the glass, could you do it?” I said possibly. He said “right, it is possible. But what would you have to do to make sure you don’t waste any water”? I said, pay attention to where I’m walking and what I’m doing. He said “Yes! You have to be constantly aware of the glass of water, so you don’t spill it, regardless of who or what pops up in front of you, and what obstacles are in your path”. He said the glass of water is your joy and your peace. We should do what it takes to fill our glass before we go to bed and when we wake up in the morning, so we can start our day with our glass full, right? Right. So when we leave home to go to work, or wherever we are going that day, how is it fair to take our best selves, with our glass full, out into the world, and let all our water spill out over the course of the day, so that by the time we get back home that evening to our loved ones, we are stressed, grumpy, and don’t really want anyone in the house to even talk to us for a couple of hours? He said that we should be mindful of our glass of water all day, because if we aren’t, water is constantly sloshing out when we let random people irritate or upset us, when we have road rage, when we get stressed over things we have no control over etc. Then we come back home to the people we actually love, with an empty glass and not much or nothing at all to give them, because we let our water spill out of our glass all day. How is that fair? I have been thinking about that ever since he shared it with me. I knew he shared it at that moment, because I was irritated with my coworker, and didn’t have to be. But the message was so much bigger than just that incident. At least it was to me. So, I wanted to share that with you all. This is one of the wisest things I've ever read. Thank you so much for sharing it with us You are welcome! I hoped maybe someone here would get something out of it, and I am glad that you think it was a piece of wisdom. I have gotten a lot of food for thought from him over the years that I’ve known him. He’s also funny with how he phrases and says things even when he is talking about serious stuff sometimes, so I do enjoy talking to him.
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Post by countrygirl2 on Jun 12, 2024 19:31:53 GMT -5
There is no pool at this place but it is very pretty. All the homes are pretty big and have garages. It's on a rather hilly area so that adds to it. It's a beautiful community but the homes are a lot closer together than the pictures look and I'm wondering if that garage is tiny. I stopped and asked a lady where the manager lived and she showed me. She was a person of color and was funny. She said she accidentally put her paycheck into the outgoing mail slot and was waiting for the mail man to see if she can get it back. Sounds like something I would do. But I could not see where I could park to get to her house. I called again and left a second message, very frustrating. So I sent the realtor a note and just told him to go ahead and set up a viewing and maybe the owners can get an answer.
There were lots of people out and about working on their lawns, I have never seen so much landscaping, it is beautiful. Of course I saw a couple of houses without well kept lawns. I also saw 2 bunnies playing behind a house. I also said we have proof of funds if needed.
So I should get an answer one way or another, tomorrow I would think.
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Post by NastyWoman on Jun 12, 2024 19:57:45 GMT -5
I found a place I LOVE. Even has a big garage it says. I think it would work for both of us. Will go see it tomorrow, if i can. Have to check if they will allow DD and 2 pets. Yep its leased land but the modular is new enough if we had to move it we could, but would sure cost. 4228 Illahee Lane SW, Tumwater, Wa 98512 That one is really nice, CG! but what I don't understand is the value change in just the last few months. It does not conform at all with the change over time. I know things have gotten more expensive but this looks weird
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Post by Cheesy FL-Vol on Jun 12, 2024 20:00:36 GMT -5
It's the sorting that is time consuming. I can't imagine just having someone come and take everything and starting all over. I mean, empty kitchen cupboards and closets would be nice, but I do need/use some of that stuff too, and while I'm not overly sentimental, I don't want things like the kid's yearbooks hauled off. Also, my kids have a completely different idea of what is valuable. Case in point the drawer full of rocks in Carrot's closet. Right? The cleaner I hired also tidies, which basically entails putting everything in a pile or shoving it in a drawer…but there was an order to the mess and now I have to re-sort it out to find things. I specifically asked her not to throw things away, bc she probably wouldn’t recognize what’s meaningful or not to us. It doesn’t take much bandwidth to just throw stuff away but that’s so wasteful. Disposing of things mindfully takes a lot of sorting, decisions, and action. I have a bunch of bags waiting for me to arrange someone to pick up, but I also want to write the inventory on the side of each a. to make it easier on whatever charity and b. so I have a record if/when I want to deduct on taxes. S ide note: I have two ten+ year old breast pumps with accoutrements and you can’t find a place to take them and I don’t want to clog up the landfills with functional and sterilizable stuff like that So they sit as clutter in the closet. Can you donate to a women’s shelter?
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Post by giramomma on Jun 12, 2024 20:02:53 GMT -5
The sangria mocktail is so much better.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jun 12, 2024 20:15:43 GMT -5
The rehab people are not returning Mister’s calls. He called Monday and asked to speak to someone in their billing department. The person that answered the phone said she was off work that day would be back Tuesday, and asked if he’d like to leave a message. So he gave his name and said he was calling about a bill he received for *Aunt’s name* and said he wanted to know why HE got a bill, because HE didn’t use them. I was sitting beside him, and it was funny to me when he said that.
He called back twice yesterday, and once today, and left voicemails each time. She is apparently back at work, since yesterday and today, they transferred his calls to her line, instead of saying she was not at work, like they did Monday.
Keep in mind that the bill he got Saturday, said payment was due in full Monday. Mister is a stickler for paying his bills on time, but since this isn’t HIS bill to pay, it’s pissing him off even more that they aren’t returning his calls, because he is concerned that it might eventually affect his credit if it doesn’t get straightened out asap.
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Post by tallguy on Jun 12, 2024 20:44:54 GMT -5
I want to share a conversation I had last week with my coworker I’ve mentioned that I enjoy talking to about life and personal growth. This conversation took place last week, the day I got irritated with my new coworker. He asked “if I hand you a glass full of water, and told you to walk *this route* (imagine walking about a block or so, but not in a straight line, up and down inclines and stairs, and around other people, moving vehicles, with other obstacles and the equivalent of potholes in your path), and told you not waste any of the water in the glass, could you do it?” I said possibly. He said “right, it is possible. But what would you have to do to make sure you don’t waste any water”? I said, pay attention to where I’m walking and what I’m doing.He said “Yes! You have to be constantly aware of the glass of water, so you don’t spill it, regardless of who or what pops up in front of you, and what obstacles are in your path”. He said the glass of water is your joy and your peace. We should do what it takes to fill our glass before we go to bed and when we wake up in the morning, so we can start our day with our glass full, right? Right. So when we leave home to go to work, or wherever we are going that day, how is it fair to take our best selves, with our glass full, out into the world, and let all our water spill out over the course of the day, so that by the time we get back home that evening to our loved ones, we are stressed, grumpy, and don’t really want anyone in the house to even talk to us for a couple of hours? He said that we should be mindful of our glass of water all day, because if we aren’t, water is constantly sloshing out when we let random people irritate or upset us, when we have road rage, when we get stressed over things we have no control over etc. Then we come back home to the people we actually love, with an empty glass and not much or nothing at all to give them, because we let our water spill out of our glass all day. How is that fair? I have been thinking about that ever since he shared it with me. I knew he shared it at that moment, because I was irritated with my coworker, and didn’t have to be. But the message was so much bigger than just that incident. At least it was to me. So, I wanted to share that with you all. Not the answer I would have given. "Drink the water first before you go." If you make the water part of you, it can't slosh out no matter what anyone around you does. I don't give ANYBODY the power to ruin my day. I KNOW who and what I am, and nobody can take that away. If somebody were to inconvenience or irritate me because they were being an idiot, I don't feel worse about myself. I don't have less to give to others I choose. I just think, "Damn, you're an idiot!" I've dealt with idiots before and I'll do it again, because there are an awful lot of them out there and I'm better than that. Just move on, and be glad you know where one more idiot is.
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Post by busymom on Jun 12, 2024 20:55:29 GMT -5
Right? The cleaner I hired also tidies, which basically entails putting everything in a pile or shoving it in a drawer…but there was an order to the mess and now I have to re-sort it out to find things. I specifically asked her not to throw things away, bc she probably wouldn’t recognize what’s meaningful or not to us. It doesn’t take much bandwidth to just throw stuff away but that’s so wasteful. Disposing of things mindfully takes a lot of sorting, decisions, and action. I have a bunch of bags waiting for me to arrange someone to pick up, but I also want to write the inventory on the side of each a. to make it easier on whatever charity and b. so I have a record if/when I want to deduct on taxes. S ide note: I have two ten+ year old breast pumps with accoutrements and you can’t find a place to take them and I don’t want to clog up the landfills with functional and sterilizable stuff like that So they sit as clutter in the closet. Can you donate to a women’s shelter? I tried to donate a full, unopened package of nursing pads to a battered women's shelter here, and they didn't want them. I mean, they were brand new, and still wrapped in plastic. WTE? I figure because this particular shelter is run by a man (I still haven't figured that one out), he was probably clueless about what a woman with kids might be needing.
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Post by cooper88 on Jun 12, 2024 20:58:53 GMT -5
The rehab people are not returning Mister’s calls. He called Monday and asked to speak to someone in their billing department. The person that answered the phone said she was off work that day would be back Tuesday, and asked if he’d like to leave a message. So he gave his name and said he was calling about a bill he received for *Aunt’s name* and said he wanted to know why HE got a bill, because HE didn’t use them. I was sitting beside him, and it was funny to me when he said that. He called back twice yesterday, and once today, and left voicemails each time. She is apparently back at work, since yesterday and today, they transferred his calls to her line, instead of saying she was not at work, like they did Monday. Keep in mind that the bill he got Saturday, said payment was due in full Monday. Mister is a stickler for paying his bills on time, but since this isn’t HIS bill to pay, it’s pissing him off even more that they aren’t returning his calls, because he is concerned that it might eventually affect his credit if it doesn’t get straightened out asap. Tell him to call the administrator. That's too many unreturned calls already. And it's also bullshit.
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Post by steph08 on Jun 12, 2024 21:03:53 GMT -5
I want to share a conversation I had last week with my coworker I’ve mentioned that I enjoy talking to about life and personal growth. This conversation took place last week, the day I got irritated with my new coworker. He asked “if I hand you a glass full of water, and told you to walk *this route* (imagine walking about a block or so, but not in a straight line, up and down inclines and stairs, and around other people, moving vehicles, with other obstacles and the equivalent of potholes in your path), and told you not waste any of the water in the glass, could you do it?” I said possibly. He said “right, it is possible. But what would you have to do to make sure you don’t waste any water”? I said, pay attention to where I’m walking and what I’m doing.He said “Yes! You have to be constantly aware of the glass of water, so you don’t spill it, regardless of who or what pops up in front of you, and what obstacles are in your path”. He said the glass of water is your joy and your peace. We should do what it takes to fill our glass before we go to bed and when we wake up in the morning, so we can start our day with our glass full, right? Right. So when we leave home to go to work, or wherever we are going that day, how is it fair to take our best selves, with our glass full, out into the world, and let all our water spill out over the course of the day, so that by the time we get back home that evening to our loved ones, we are stressed, grumpy, and don’t really want anyone in the house to even talk to us for a couple of hours? He said that we should be mindful of our glass of water all day, because if we aren’t, water is constantly sloshing out when we let random people irritate or upset us, when we have road rage, when we get stressed over things we have no control over etc. Then we come back home to the people we actually love, with an empty glass and not much or nothing at all to give them, because we let our water spill out of our glass all day. How is that fair? I have been thinking about that ever since he shared it with me. I knew he shared it at that moment, because I was irritated with my coworker, and didn’t have to be. But the message was so much bigger than just that incident. At least it was to me. So, I wanted to share that with you all. Not the answer I would have given. "Drink the water first before you go." If you make the water part of you, it can't slosh out no matter what anyone around you does. I don't give ANYBODY the power to ruin my day. I KNOW who and what I am, and nobody can take that away. If somebody were to inconvenience or irritate me because they were being an idiot, I don't feel worse about myself. I don't have less to give to others I choose. I just think, "Damn, you're an idiot!" I've dealt with idiots before and I'll do it again, because there are an awful lot of them out there and I'm better than that. Just move on, and be glad you know where one more idiot is. My brain also immediately said "drink the water" because I love riddles 😂 You just said not to waste it, not that it had to stay in the glass.
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Post by tallguy on Jun 12, 2024 21:08:39 GMT -5
Not the answer I would have given. "Drink the water first before you go." If you make the water part of you, it can't slosh out no matter what anyone around you does. I don't give ANYBODY the power to ruin my day. I KNOW who and what I am, and nobody can take that away. If somebody were to inconvenience or irritate me because they were being an idiot, I don't feel worse about myself. I don't have less to give to others I choose. I just think, "Damn, you're an idiot!" I've dealt with idiots before and I'll do it again, because there are an awful lot of them out there and I'm better than that. Just move on, and be glad you know where one more idiot is. My brain also immediately said "drink the water" because I love riddles 😂 You just said not to waste it, not that it had to stay in the glass. Yes, there is that, but I was also trying to be a bit more profound. Just decided to put the two together.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jun 12, 2024 21:10:44 GMT -5
I want to share a conversation I had last week with my coworker I’ve mentioned that I enjoy talking to about life and personal growth. This conversation took place last week, the day I got irritated with my new coworker. He asked “if I hand you a glass full of water, and told you to walk *this route* (imagine walking about a block or so, but not in a straight line, up and down inclines and stairs, and around other people, moving vehicles, with other obstacles and the equivalent of potholes in your path), and told you not waste any of the water in the glass, could you do it?” I said possibly. He said “right, it is possible. But what would you have to do to make sure you don’t waste any water”? I said, pay attention to where I’m walking and what I’m doing.He said “Yes! You have to be constantly aware of the glass of water, so you don’t spill it, regardless of who or what pops up in front of you, and what obstacles are in your path”. He said the glass of water is your joy and your peace. We should do what it takes to fill our glass before we go to bed and when we wake up in the morning, so we can start our day with our glass full, right? Right. So when we leave home to go to work, or wherever we are going that day, how is it fair to take our best selves, with our glass full, out into the world, and let all our water spill out over the course of the day, so that by the time we get back home that evening to our loved ones, we are stressed, grumpy, and don’t really want anyone in the house to even talk to us for a couple of hours? He said that we should be mindful of our glass of water all day, because if we aren’t, water is constantly sloshing out when we let random people irritate or upset us, when we have road rage, when we get stressed over things we have no control over etc. Then we come back home to the people we actually love, with an empty glass and not much or nothing at all to give them, because we let our water spill out of our glass all day. How is that fair? I have been thinking about that ever since he shared it with me. I knew he shared it at that moment, because I was irritated with my coworker, and didn’t have to be. But the message was so much bigger than just that incident. At least it was to me. So, I wanted to share that with you all. Not the answer I would have given. "Drink the water first before you go." If you make the water part of you, it can't slosh out no matter what anyone around you does. I don't give ANYBODY the power to ruin my day. I KNOW who and what I am, and nobody can take that away. If somebody were to inconvenience or irritate me because they were being an idiot, I don't feel worse about myself. I don't have less to give to others I choose. I just think, "Damn, you're an idiot!" I've dealt with idiots before and I'll do it again, because there are an awful lot of them out there and I'm better than that. Just move on, and be glad you know where one more idiot is. I get what you are saying, but I also kinda think you missed the point. And maybe that is because many of us are not as evolved as you are. Well, I’m not. It’s not at all about letting somebody make you feel worse about yourself, although I suppose that could be a consequence of not being intentional about refusing to allow other people and things you have no control over, to affect you, because you react in an emotional way. I can only speak for me, and what I got out of the whole thing was confirmation that I do react sometimes to certain things, in a way that is fueled by emotion, when it doesn’t always have to be that way. And understanding that every time I do that, it takes some of my positive energy from me and potentially leaves me with less positive energy to devote to the people and things that really do matter to me. Everything doesn’t apply to everybody. What I shared might not have applied to you, and that is okay. I still appreciate you sharing your perspective. But somebody else may have gotten something from it, and got some food for thought because of where they are in their own lives, which is why I shared it.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jun 12, 2024 21:15:00 GMT -5
The rehab people are not returning Mister’s calls. He called Monday and asked to speak to someone in their billing department. The person that answered the phone said she was off work that day would be back Tuesday, and asked if he’d like to leave a message. So he gave his name and said he was calling about a bill he received for *Aunt’s name* and said he wanted to know why HE got a bill, because HE didn’t use them. I was sitting beside him, and it was funny to me when he said that. He called back twice yesterday, and once today, and left voicemails each time. She is apparently back at work, since yesterday and today, they transferred his calls to her line, instead of saying she was not at work, like they did Monday. Keep in mind that the bill he got Saturday, said payment was due in full Monday. Mister is a stickler for paying his bills on time, but since this isn’t HIS bill to pay, it’s pissing him off even more that they aren’t returning his calls, because he is concerned that it might eventually affect his credit if it doesn’t get straightened out asap. Tell him to call the administrator. That's too many unreturned calls already. And it's also bullshit. I will tell him. I’m very busy just trying to mind my own business and staying out of shit that doesn’t concern me, but I will give him that advice. Thank you.
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Post by tallguy on Jun 12, 2024 21:58:38 GMT -5
Not the answer I would have given. "Drink the water first before you go." If you make the water part of you, it can't slosh out no matter what anyone around you does. I don't give ANYBODY the power to ruin my day. I KNOW who and what I am, and nobody can take that away. If somebody were to inconvenience or irritate me because they were being an idiot, I don't feel worse about myself. I don't have less to give to others I choose. I just think, "Damn, you're an idiot!" I've dealt with idiots before and I'll do it again, because there are an awful lot of them out there and I'm better than that. Just move on, and be glad you know where one more idiot is. I get what you are saying, but I also kinda think you missed the point. And maybe that is because many of us are not as evolved as you are. Well, I’m not. It’s not at all about letting somebody make you feel worse about yourself, although I suppose that could be a consequence of not being intentional about refusing to allow other people and things you have no control over, to affect you, because you react in an emotional way. I can only speak for me, and what I got out of the whole thing was confirmation that I do react sometimes to certain things, in a way that is fueled by emotion, when it doesn’t always have to be that way. And understanding that every time I do that, it takes some of my positive energy from me and potentially leaves me with less positive energy to devote to the people and things that really do matter to me. Everything doesn’t apply to everybody. What I shared might not have applied to you, and that is okay. I still appreciate you sharing your perspective. But somebody else may have gotten something from it, and got some food for thought because of where they are in their own lives, which is why I shared it. And my only point is that it's a choice. You choose how to react to the people and things around you, as we all do. If those choices don't work out well, then choose a different way to go. I think women in particular are socialized to believe that they need to worry about or take care of everyone around them. It's not true, and it is sometimes incredibly burdensome. You don't have to let them affect you. If you can help somebody, great. If you can't, that's okay too. Sometimes you need to put yourself first. As they say, "Put on your own mask first before trying to assist others." You can't help someone else if you are flailing around yourself. Protect who you are, because at the end of the day, that's who you have to live with. If that means ignoring others sometimes, or cutting them off when necessary, then so be it. As an aside, I am introverted and am fairly described as asocial. I do not have a particular need or desire to be around people in general, and choose relatively few to involve myself with. I am also ruled by logic rather than emotion, and have as one credo, "Never let emotion get in the way of making a good decision." So yes, that makes it much easier for me to dissociate myself from others when necessary. Still, it is a choice how to respond to the world. For every one of us.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jun 12, 2024 22:00:48 GMT -5
I am still trying to figure out what time to go to bed, after my work hours changed last summer. For 10 years I’d been going to bed early enough to try to get up no later than 4:30 am, to get to work by 6am. A year after the change in my work schedule, I am still having trouble fighting the urge to go to bed so early, even though I don’t have to get up that early anymore. So because of my insomnia issues (and the fact that now Mister gets up much earlier than I do ), I am wasting even more hours of my day just trying to go back to sleep before I have to get up to get ready to go to work. The sensible solution is to just go ahead and get up, and maybe do some stuff before I go to work, that I already know I am not going to want to do when I come home from work and am tired of being on my feet all day and just want to sit my ass down somewhere. But it’s hard, because a big part of me wants to make use of the fact that I don’t have to get out of bed before the crack of dawn anymore. But I’m usually mostly awake anyway, so I might as well just get up, and I feel like I’m being ridiculous when I don’t and lay in bed for a few more hours, hoping and wishing I could just go back to sleep, which rarely happens. When I worked evenings all those years, I during the school years I got up early in the morning to get my children ready for school and get the, there, and when they got older, I got up just in time to take them to school. Then I went back home and took a nap most days, but got back up a few hours before I had to be at work and took care of things like grocery shopping, household tasks and running errands, before I went to work. My current work schedule doesn’t allow that much time to do all of that before I go to work, but I still have more time to get some things done before I go to work, than when I had to be at work at 6am. And handling business doesn’t work anymore, because business hours don’t allow it, businesses (not stores) don’t open early enough for me to do what I need to do and be sure I can get to work on time, and they are closed by the time I get off work now. Just rambling and venting.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jun 12, 2024 22:24:47 GMT -5
I get what you are saying, but I also kinda think you missed the point. And maybe that is because many of us are not as evolved as you are. Well, I’m not. It’s not at all about letting somebody make you feel worse about yourself, although I suppose that could be a consequence of not being intentional about refusing to allow other people and things you have no control over, to affect you, because you react in an emotional way. I can only speak for me, and what I got out of the whole thing was confirmation that I do react sometimes to certain things, in a way that is fueled by emotion, when it doesn’t always have to be that way. And understanding that every time I do that, it takes some of my positive energy from me and potentially leaves me with less positive energy to devote to the people and things that really do matter to me. Everything doesn’t apply to everybody. What I shared might not have applied to you, and that is okay. I still appreciate you sharing your perspective. But somebody else may have gotten something from it, and got some food for thought because of where they are in their own lives, which is why I shared it. And my only point is that it's a choice. You choose how to react to the people and things around you, as we all do. If those choices don't work out well, then choose a different way to go. I think women in particular are socialized to believe that they need to worry about or take care of everyone around them. It's not true, and it is sometimes incredibly burdensome. You don't have to let them affect you. If you can help somebody, great. If you can't, that's okay too. Sometimes you need to put yourself first. As they say, "Put on your own mask first before trying to assist others." You can't help someone else if you are flailing around yourself. Protect who you are, because at the end of the day, that's who you have to live with. If that means ignoring others sometimes, or cutting them off when necessary, then so be it. As an aside, I am introverted and am fairly described as asocial. I do not have a particular need or desire to be around people in general, and choose relatively few to involve myself with. I am also ruled by logic rather than emotion, and have as one credo, "Never let emotion get in the way of making a good decision." So yes, that makes it much easier for me to dissociate myself from others when necessary. Still, it is a choice how to respond to the world. For every one of us. I am not trying to argue with you, because I actually agree with you. I think something that’s very important in your post, is the part I bolded. I am a woman, and the coworker that I had the conversation with, is a man, and you are a man. So, even though I’d rather not get into sexist type stuff and gender roles, I do believe that a lot of that does have to do with those things. I am just saying that I appreciate that you mentioned and acknowledged that some of what I am talking about is maybe due to how women are socialized to move in this world. But I also thought a lot about Mister and how he is letting his job take over his life. I believe that there is more to that than what it appears to be on the surface but that is a whole ‘nother subject. But thinking about that, made me think about how there are probably a lot of men also that do come home with empty glasses because of the pressure they feel to be the provider for their family, and what they deal with and go through on a daily basis, to make sure they fulfill that role. So I don’t really think it’s gender specific, even though generally speaking it can work (negatively) in different ways for men vs women. I’m not sure I’m making sense, so I will hush now lol.
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Post by finnime on Jun 13, 2024 3:08:01 GMT -5
Good morning, thoughtful and analytical invisipeeps, evaluating interactions with others and criteria for assessing property. Welcome to Thursday. I hope this day, like the song, causes you no regret that you're Thursday's child at least today. Mammo and ultrasound yesterday resulted in discerning that the possible trouble was merely a lymph node on one side. So that's a good thing. DD has a second interview this time with the director of nursing, scheduled for Wednesday. She was asked to bring in her Covid immunization record and a few other things to do with her licensure. Also a good thing. They must have been happy with her references. My doctor upped my dosage of one of my meds. I believe that is good, too. We'll see. But it has worked in the past. I'll go back down after a month or three. Today will be another bright sunny day. I've got to affix my sunglasses to my face after 9 a.m. and see if that helps my mood. Yesterday's dawning was beautiful all the way through. Beginning, middle and end, as I walked the beach beside the bay, the reflections were amazing. Beginning: Middle: End:
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Post by countrygirl2 on Jun 13, 2024 3:55:29 GMT -5
Nasty woman, I looked up the value too. I went to the property tax rolls. And it appears that the guy is 86 and a couple years ago he got an exemption for disability.
I saw where on one form elsewhere, they were taxing the land?? Then on another it showed the property. After going to the property tax site, I saw where he was getting increasing deductions for the last few years. And it stated he was a senior with a disability was why.
But I read the value is more like $275k, but the way prices are zooming up there, I doubt they would sell it for that. I likely wouldn't either.
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