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Post by soupandstew on Jun 11, 2024 16:24:19 GMT -5
Just sent an email I maybe shouldn't have, but my "give a damn" is lost out there somewhere at the moment. It's probably partying with my GAF.
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Post by giramomma on Jun 11, 2024 16:38:49 GMT -5
So today I got a small can of some Non-Alcoholic beverage from a company that Katy Perry co-founded. It's almost $1/fluid ounce. I feel bougie. And also. Apparently, now they put the shrooms in the non-alcoholic drink so you feel buzzed. De Soi - I'm at a work team meeting and someone was singing it's praises! Adaptogens in the mushrooms for stress relief, etc. - mushrooms are taking the product world by storm. Mushroom jerky, mushroom drinks, mushroom soups, etc. Can you tell I work for a company that deals with CPG products and emerging brands? 😂 FWIW, someone needs to get on the bandwagon and start marketing these things to hormone-driven cancer patients and survivors. The store I bought it from thinks the only people that buy non-alcoholic beverages are in AA. Which, I'm not. (I'm just happy to support a brand new local business). Katy Perry thinks she should appeal to mommy wine culture and how we want to be sober for our kids activities, yet still enjoy a beverage. No one still other than the WHO is talking about the risk alcohol plays with breast cancer. It's like the same as my mutation. Which, is pretty scary.
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Post by countrygirl2 on Jun 11, 2024 16:42:02 GMT -5
I'm tired and need to get busy. It was misting out but think its dry now so I need to go mow. My hip is not happy but Maybe I can work it out.
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Post by busymom on Jun 11, 2024 16:52:32 GMT -5
I believe it. In my former city, and house with a "downtown view" also has high crime. Too bad, as the work they did to remodel it looks nice.
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Post by busymom on Jun 11, 2024 16:55:13 GMT -5
Not bad. The paint needs a bit of touching up here & there. Personally, I've always liked having a window over the kitchen sink so I can see what's going on outside, but that's just me.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Jun 11, 2024 17:12:27 GMT -5
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Post by Cookies Galore on Jun 11, 2024 17:16:06 GMT -5
I like how the step stool in the kitchen disappears then reappears.
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Post by countrygirl2 on Jun 11, 2024 17:45:34 GMT -5
I had to come in. I really hadn't eaten anything today, just wasn't hungry. Had coffee and 2 oranges. It just hit me while mowing. I got in the house, opened a real Coke and sipped on it. Made me a ham on roll sandwich with lettuce and mustard. So I'm getting some sugar in the blood stream and already feeling better in about 15 minutes. I know better but just couldn't force myself to eat something this morning. Many times I scramble 2 eggs and that holds me for quite awhile, but I needed to get going. This has been going on for too many years for me to not do better. I am going to order some glucose pills, I threw the old staledated ones away. Likely need to get some before I get on the plane. I am getting wheelchairs for both of us. For some reason I feel guilty for me getting one. Hubs says I don't know why, you have so much trouble walking in airports, why feel bad? I feel like people think I look like I'm cheating because I look like I can walk. Well, until they actually see me walk. Last time I like to never kept up with the girl pushing DD.
I have found a swim center near here. DIL said she had been looking for one, but no wonder. It's called Discover Aquatics Swim School. If they didn't have it sat up so the search would return it I don't know how you would find it. It was an accident, I was pulling up on my phone the route to the hospital for my test and it popped up. So I started looking it up and its fantastic. I don't know about the cost, bet its high but they have swimming classes, hydrotherapy, the pools are heated to almost 90 degrees year round. Damn, I don't find it till we are ready to leave. DIL is excited to for little guy. He still has not learned to swim, but if he can go 7 days a week for awhile, I think he can. He is close but she doesn't want him to learn in the lake, I don't blame her. I'm hoping I can take DD too as it would do her so much good. She doesn't like to do it but I will be with her too. They also have open swims at times.
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Post by alabamagal on Jun 11, 2024 18:24:24 GMT -5
Kitchen remodel day 2 complete. We are having cabinets refinished and adding 5 bottoms plus 5 uppers to replace the movable 2 cabinet island. Then new countertops. Then paint and backsplash.
Just found out my previous next door neighbor’s husband drowned in their pool. Presume there was alcohol involved. The H had several incidents that required 911 while we were there. They are in early 70s. Sad.
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Post by empress of self-improvement on Jun 11, 2024 18:27:20 GMT -5
I like how the step stool in the kitchen disappears then reappears. I had to look. That was funny!
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jun 11, 2024 18:27:52 GMT -5
In my session today, she asked me how I feel about Mister’s obvious reluctance to do anything to address his daughters’ bad behavior and disrespect (those are my words, not hers). She said that his reluctance was why she tried to explain to him that consequences can help correct bad behavior, if there are no consequences, there is no reason for a person to stop negative behavior.
I told her that in my mind, what is most important to me now, is that their bad behavior no longer disrupts my household and my home with a bunch of drama and chaos. I said that that means that I will be more assertive about certain things, and address them directly as needed. If they start screaming and yelling, like they do with their Dad, will ask them to stop. If they can’t stop, and continue yelling and screaming, I will ask them to leave until they can get themselves under control. If they refuse to stop and refuse to leave, I will call the police to help them leave. Even if they do all of that and it is directed toward Mister and not me, I will ask them to stop and take a time out to get themselves together. If they ignore my requests on that, I will ask them to leave. If they ignore/refuse those requests, and Mister can’t get them to calm down, I will call the police.
I understand that that may sound harsh, but I MUST have peace in my home. I can deal with “normal” disagreements and even arguments that might get a little heated, but the stuff they have done is way beyond that, and I’m done.
When I first got online with my counselor and she asked the regular question “how are you doing today”, I told her my stomach was hurting a little, but not bad, and I didn’t know why, because I wasn’t stressing about anything. And besides that, I was okay and feeling pretty good mentally.
Later I told her that Mister had text me this morning and told me YD was coming by here. I told her that I knew my anxiety or whatever about the situation was real, because an hour or 2 before my appointment, I was outside and heard a car and thought it might’ve been YD, and my stomach immediately started flip flopping, It turned out to be one of the T’s and not YD. Our driveways aren’t right next to each other, but sometimes when a car enters one of our driveways, you can’t tell from the sound whether it’s their driveway or ours.
When I mentioned all of that, she went back to me saying my stomach had been hurting a little bit all day. She said that she wondered if maybe me knowing YD was coming by at some point today was why my stomach had been hurting a little bit all day…… because my brain had the information that something was going to happen today that makes me feel weird now, and my body/stomach might have been storing the information and reacting to it, even though it wasn’t something I was consciously thinking about.
I think she might have been on to something with her wondering.
All of it sucks MAJORLY, because I have never wanted to come between Mister and his children. I’ve gone out of my way to try to prevent that from happening. But I’m not really the cause of their issues, they are much bigger than me and my presence in his life and due instead, to serious dysfunction and learned behavior that needs to be “un”learned. I’m just a convenient excuse to blame and fight about, to avoid dealing with the real issues.
I can’t fix all of that shit for them and even though I do understand some of the roots of it, it’s not my job to try to play therapist in an attempt to try to help. Their shit is wayyyyyy above my pay grade. But what I CAN do is set my boundaries for me, my household, and my home, and enforce them. So that’s what I’m gonna do. They have to figure the rest of their shit out without me. I am willing to participate in trying to mend relationships if it ever gets to that point, but only at some point after Mister starts the process and some boundaries are set and respected.
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Post by toomuchreality on Jun 11, 2024 18:31:30 GMT -5
Kitchen remodel day 2 complete. We are having cabinets refinished and adding 5 bottoms plus 5 uppers to replace the movable 2 cabinet island. Then new countertops. Then paint and backsplash. Just found out my previous next door neighbor’s husband drowned in their pool. Presume there was alcohol involved. The H had several incidents that required 911 while we were there. They are in early 70s. Sad. Sad. I'm sorry.
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Post by empress of self-improvement on Jun 11, 2024 18:33:25 GMT -5
Well, just had a cat house put together in my yard. Apparently Home Depot does builds for nonprofits and we got on their radar this year. So I just got a free cat house put together. Now I need a bridge to connect it to the foster room window but I can deal. Now to decide which cat comes out to test it. Yay! I want to see pictures! I assume it has a door and windows? What's inside? Not exactly the kind of cat house I thought of, initially! 🤣 I sent a couple of pictures to chiver to post for me when she gets a chance. One has the first tester of the cat house. Bretta has NO idea what to do.
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Post by toomuchreality on Jun 11, 2024 18:37:59 GMT -5
In my session today, she asked me how I feel about Mister’s obvious reluctance to do anything to address his daughters’ bad behavior and disrespect (those are my words, not hers). She said that his reluctance was why she tried to explain to him that consequences can help correct bad behavior, if there are no consequences, there is no reason for a person to stop negative behavior. I told her that in my mind, what is most important to me now, is that their bad behavior no longer disrupts my household and my home with a bunch of drama and chaos. I said that that means that I will be more assertive about certain things, and address them directly as needed. If they start screaming and yelling, like they do with their Dad, will ask them to stop. If they can’t stop, and continue yelling and screaming, I will ask them to leave until they can get themselves under control. If they refuse to stop and refuse to leave, I will call the police to help them leave. Even if they do all of that and it is directed toward Mister and not me, I will ask them to stop and take a time out to get themselves together. If they ignore my requests on that, I will ask them to leave. If they ignore/refuse those requests, and Mister can’t get them to calm down, I will call the police. I understand that that may sound harsh, but I MUST have peace in my home. I can deal with “normal” disagreements and even arguments that might get a little heated, but the stuff they have done is way beyond that, and I’m done. When I first got online with my counselor and she asked the regular question “how are you doing today”, I told her my stomach was hurting a little, but not bad, and I didn’t know why, because I wasn’t stressing about anything. And besides that, I was okay and feeling pretty good mentally. Later I told her that Mister had text me this morning and told me YD was coming by here. I told her that I knew my anxiety or whatever about the situation was real, because an hour or 2 before my appointment, I was outside and heard a car and thought it might’ve been YD, and my stomach immediately started flip flopping, It turned out to be one of the T’s and not YD. Our driveways aren’t right next to each other, but sometimes when a car enters one of our driveways, you can’t tell from the sound whether it’s their driveway or ours. When I mentioned all of that, she went back to me saying my stomach had been hurting a little bit all day. She said that she wondered if maybe me knowing YD was coming by at some point today was why my stomach had been hurting a little bit all day…… because my brain had the information that something was going to happen today that makes me feel weird now, and my body/stomach might have been storing the information and reacting to it, even though it wasn’t something I was consciously thinking about. I think she might have been on to something with her wondering. All of it sucks MAJORLY, because I have never wanted to come between Mister and his children. I’ve gone out of my way to try to prevent that from happening. But I’m not really the cause of their issues, they are much bigger than me and my presence in his life and due instead, to serious dysfunction and learned behavior that needs to be “un”learned. I’m just a convenient excuse to blame and fight about, to avoid dealing with the real issues. I can’t fix all of that shit for them and even though I do understand some of the roots of it, it’s not my job to try to play therapist in an attempt to try to help. Their shit is wayyyyyy above my pay grade. But what I CAN do is set my boundaries for me, my household, and my home, and enforce them. So that’s what I’m gonna do. They have to figure the rest of their shit out without me. I am willing to participate in trying to mend relationships if it ever gets to that point, but only at some point after Mister starts the process and some boundaries are set and respected. Smart. I've always thought so. Take care of you.
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Post by toomuchreality on Jun 11, 2024 18:39:34 GMT -5
Yay! I want to see pictures! I assume it has a door and windows? What's inside? Not exactly the kind of cat house I thought of, initially! 🤣 I sent a couple of pictures to chiver to post for me when she gets a chance. One has the first tester of the cat house. Bretta has NO idea what to do. Thanks! I can't wait! Is it big enough for you to walk into it?
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Post by soupandstew on Jun 11, 2024 18:44:30 GMT -5
In my session today, she asked me how I feel about Mister’s obvious reluctance to do anything to address his daughters’ bad behavior and disrespect (those are my words, not hers). She said that his reluctance was why she tried to explain to him that consequences can help correct bad behavior, if there are no consequences, there is no reason for a person to stop negative behavior. I told her that in my mind, what is most important to me now, is that their bad behavior no longer disrupts my household and my home with a bunch of drama and chaos. I said that that means that I will be more assertive about certain things, and address them directly as needed. If they start screaming and yelling, like they do with their Dad, will ask them to stop. If they can’t stop, and continue yelling and screaming, I will ask them to leave until they can get themselves under control. If they refuse to stop and refuse to leave, I will call the police to help them leave. Even if they do all of that and it is directed toward Mister and not me, I will ask them to stop and take a time out to get themselves together. If they ignore my requests on that, I will ask them to leave. If they ignore/refuse those requests, and Mister can’t get them to calm down, I will call the police. I understand that that may sound harsh, but I MUST have peace in my home. I can deal with “normal” disagreements and even arguments that might get a little heated, but the stuff they have done is way beyond that, and I’m done. When I first got online with my counselor and she asked the regular question “how are you doing today”, I told her my stomach was hurting a little, but not bad, and I didn’t know why, because I wasn’t stressing about anything. And besides that, I was okay and feeling pretty good mentally. Later I told her that Mister had text me this morning and told me YD was coming by here. I told her that I knew my anxiety or whatever about the situation was real, because an hour or 2 before my appointment, I was outside and heard a car and thought it might’ve been YD, and my stomach immediately started flip flopping, It turned out to be one of the T’s and not YD. Our driveways aren’t right next to each other, but sometimes when a car enters one of our driveways, you can’t tell from the sound whether it’s their driveway or ours. When I mentioned all of that, she went back to me saying my stomach had been hurting a little bit all day. She said that she wondered if maybe me knowing YD was coming by at some point today was why my stomach had been hurting a little bit all day…… because my brain had the information that something was going to happen today that makes me feel weird now, and my body/stomach might have been storing the information and reacting to it, even though it wasn’t something I was consciously thinking about. I think she might have been on to something with her wondering. All of it sucks MAJORLY, because I have never wanted to come between Mister and his children. I’ve gone out of my way to try to prevent that from happening. But I’m not really the cause of their issues, they are much bigger than me and my presence in his life and due instead, to serious dysfunction and learned behavior that needs to be “un”learned. I’m just a convenient excuse to blame and fight about, to avoid dealing with the real issues.
I can’t fix all of that shit for them and even though I do understand some of the roots of it, it’s not my job to try to play therapist in an attempt to try to help. Their shit is wayyyyyy above my pay grade. But what I CAN do is set my boundaries for me, my household, and my home, and enforce them. So that’s what I’m gonna do. They have to figure the rest of their shit out without me. I am willing to participate in trying to mend relationships if it ever gets to that point, but only at some point after Mister starts the process and some boundaries are set and respected. I'm so sorry you had to come to this insight, yet glad you did. And grateful to you for sharing it with us as I feel it's a powerful message for us all
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jun 11, 2024 18:59:05 GMT -5
DD just called me, a code to verify something was sent to the IPhone I bought DGS in April, and a few minutes later a young woman called, asking for the code, saying that use to be her phone number and she needed the code. Fortunately the phone was next to my DD when the code came through and she answered the call instead of DGS. She told the young lady “no I’m not giving you any code” and when the caller got indignant and tried to argue, DD hung up.
I told DD to get off the phone with me and change DGS’s Apple ID password immediately. I don’t know if that was even reasonable, but it was the only thing I could think of in that moment to tell her to do.
WTF is WRONG with people?!
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Post by Opti on Jun 11, 2024 19:01:10 GMT -5
Sipping on bone broth and realizing that I have not eaten since breakfast Sunday. Today is the birthday that I share with my aunt who passed last year. I did not need that reminder right now. Took half day for my appt this afternoon. I am thinking it may turn into a full day. Sorry for your loss and the reminder of it. I hope you find a way to enjoy your birthday. Happy Birthday!
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Post by NastyWoman on Jun 11, 2024 19:10:17 GMT -5
In my session today, she asked me how I feel about Mister’s obvious reluctance to do anything to address his daughters’ bad behavior and disrespect (those are my words, not hers). She said that his reluctance was why she tried to explain to him that consequences can help correct bad behavior, if there are no consequences, there is no reason for a person to stop negative behavior. I told her that in my mind, what is most important to me now, is that their bad behavior no longer disrupts my household and my home with a bunch of drama and chaos. I said that that means that I will be more assertive about certain things, and address them directly as needed. If they start screaming and yelling, like they do with their Dad, will ask them to stop. If they can’t stop, and continue yelling and screaming, I will ask them to leave until they can get themselves under control. If they refuse to stop and refuse to leave, I will call the police to help them leave. Even if they do all of that and it is directed toward Mister and not me, I will ask them to stop and take a time out to get themselves together. If they ignore my requests on that , I will ask them to leave. If they ignore/refuse those requests, and Mister can’t get them to calm down, I will call the police. I understand that that may sound harsh, but I MUST have peace in my home. I can deal with “normal” disagreements and even arguments that might get a little heated, but the stuff they have done is way beyond that, and I’m done. NO! Absolutely, 100% NO, NO, NO! There is No harshness here!. When my kids were little and they got out of control I send them to their room until they could behave like civilized people again. A favorite family story is how then 6yo DS2 got send to his room and when he came out I asked him if he was ready to behave himself and the little turd said no. So I send him back. Rinse and repeat. By his fourth reappearance the answer changed to yes - and he was calmed down. Tell me how, if a 6yo can learn this, a young adult can't? Now I was pushover as a mom (according to my family, including my kids) but the few rules I had better be followed as this pushover was also very consistent and persistent. No budging. If they don't behave they can bloody well leave and stay gone until they will behave.
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Post by NastyWoman on Jun 11, 2024 19:11:40 GMT -5
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Post by soupandstew on Jun 11, 2024 19:23:02 GMT -5
Thank you but I'm not until November. I think Daisylu is today.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jun 11, 2024 19:24:13 GMT -5
In my session today, she asked me how I feel about Mister’s obvious reluctance to do anything to address his daughters’ bad behavior and disrespect (those are my words, not hers). She said that his reluctance was why she tried to explain to him that consequences can help correct bad behavior, if there are no consequences, there is no reason for a person to stop negative behavior. I told her that in my mind, what is most important to me now, is that their bad behavior no longer disrupts my household and my home with a bunch of drama and chaos. I said that that means that I will be more assertive about certain things, and address them directly as needed. If they start screaming and yelling, like they do with their Dad, will ask them to stop. If they can’t stop, and continue yelling and screaming, I will ask them to leave until they can get themselves under control. If they refuse to stop and refuse to leave, I will call the police to help them leave. Even if they do all of that and it is directed toward Mister and not me, I will ask them to stop and take a time out to get themselves together. If they ignore my requests on that, I will ask them to leave. If they ignore/refuse those requests, and Mister can’t get them to calm down, I will call the police. I understand that that may sound harsh, but I MUST have peace in my home. I can deal with “normal” disagreements and even arguments that might get a little heated, but the stuff they have done is way beyond that, and I’m done. When I first got online with my counselor and she asked the regular question “how are you doing today”, I told her my stomach was hurting a little, but not bad, and I didn’t know why, because I wasn’t stressing about anything. And besides that, I was okay and feeling pretty good mentally. Later I told her that Mister had text me this morning and told me YD was coming by here. I told her that I knew my anxiety or whatever about the situation was real, because an hour or 2 before my appointment, I was outside and heard a car and thought it might’ve been YD, and my stomach immediately started flip flopping, It turned out to be one of the T’s and not YD. Our driveways aren’t right next to each other, but sometimes when a car enters one of our driveways, you can’t tell from the sound whether it’s their driveway or ours. When I mentioned all of that, she went back to me saying my stomach had been hurting a little bit all day. She said that she wondered if maybe me knowing YD was coming by at some point today was why my stomach had been hurting a little bit all day…… because my brain had the information that something was going to happen today that makes me feel weird now, and my body/stomach might have been storing the information and reacting to it, even though it wasn’t something I was consciously thinking about. I think she might have been on to something with her wondering. All of it sucks MAJORLY, because I have never wanted to come between Mister and his children. I’ve gone out of my way to try to prevent that from happening. But I’m not really the cause of their issues, they are much bigger than me and my presence in his life and due instead, to serious dysfunction and learned behavior that needs to be “un”learned. I’m just a convenient excuse to blame and fight about, to avoid dealing with the real issues.
I can’t fix all of that shit for them and even though I do understand some of the roots of it, it’s not my job to try to play therapist in an attempt to try to help. Their shit is wayyyyyy above my pay grade. But what I CAN do is set my boundaries for me, my household, and my home, and enforce them. So that’s what I’m gonna do. They have to figure the rest of their shit out without me. I am willing to participate in trying to mend relationships if it ever gets to that point, but only at some point after Mister starts the process and some boundaries are set and respected. I'm so sorry you had to come to this insight, yet glad you did. And grateful to you for sharing it with us as I feel it's a powerful message for us all Listen, when I finally learned that stress was contributing to all of the horrible shit I was going through with my stomach, I took that information VERY seriously, because I do NOT want that to be my every day life, EVER again, if I can avoid it. For as long as I can remember, my stomach might hurt if something happened that really upset me, but what started happening in 2022 was a whole new level of stomach issues….. severe pain and other things that made me not be able to leave my house because I needed to be close to a bathroom when my stomach was acting up. And it all got so much worse before it started getting better. Which you all know, because I talked about it here while I was going through it. One thing for sure and 2 things for certain…. or however the saying goes….. I am determined to not let ANYBODY and their bullshit take me back to that place. Minor children are different, and random shit beyond their control happening to the adults I love, are exceptions as far as what I am willing to deal with these days. And I am being more honest about whether it’s true or not when an adult says something happened that they had no control over, because to me, the backstory often tells the real story. So I am unloading some of the boulders off my shoulders, and letting grown folks take responsibility be accountable for their behavior and actions. And it feels great already, even though I am new with it.
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Post by lurkyloo on Jun 11, 2024 19:25:15 GMT -5
DD just called me, a code to verify something was sent to the IPhone I bought DGS in April, and a few minutes later a young woman called, asking for the code, saying that use to be her phone number and she needed the code. Fortunately the phone was next to my DD when the code came through and she answered the call instead of DGS. She told the young lady “no I’m not giving you any code” and when the caller got indignant and tried to argue, DD hung up. I told DD to get off the phone with me and change DGS’s Apple ID password immediately. I don’t know if that was even reasonable, but it was the only thing I could think of in that moment to tell her to do. WTF is WRONG with people?! Good call. I understand this is usually either hacking a 2FA thing (less likely that your DGS has accounts to hack? except maybe itunes?) or setting up a google voice account for nefarious purposes. It’s a newish one to me and less immediately obviously scammy, but definitely a scam. I swear if people put as much efforts into their own endeavors as to trying to scam others… Glad your DD answered. Can she set the phone to ring through to voicemail if the caller isn’t in his contacts?
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Post by lurkyloo on Jun 11, 2024 19:26:21 GMT -5
Thank you but I'm not until November. I think Daisylu is today. Too bad, you are now doomed to have a happy birthday anyway busymom will bring the cake
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Post by Opti on Jun 11, 2024 19:26:46 GMT -5
In my session today, she asked me how I feel about Mister’s obvious reluctance to do anything to address his daughters’ bad behavior and disrespect (those are my words, not hers). She said that his reluctance was why she tried to explain to him that consequences can help correct bad behavior, if there are no consequences, there is no reason for a person to stop negative behavior. I told her that in my mind, what is most important to me now, is that their bad behavior no longer disrupts my household and my home with a bunch of drama and chaos. I said that that means that I will be more assertive about certain things, and address them directly as needed. If they start screaming and yelling, like they do with their Dad, will ask them to stop. If they can’t stop, and continue yelling and screaming, I will ask them to leave until they can get themselves under control. If they refuse to stop and refuse to leave, I will call the police to help them leave. Even if they do all of that and it is directed toward Mister and not me, I will ask them to stop and take a time out to get themselves together. If they ignore my requests on that, I will ask them to leave. If they ignore/refuse those requests, and Mister can’t get them to calm down, I will call the police. I understand that that may sound harsh, but I MUST have peace in my home. I can deal with “normal” disagreements and even arguments that might get a little heated, but the stuff they have done is way beyond that, and I’m done. When I first got online with my counselor and she asked the regular question “how are you doing today”, I told her my stomach was hurting a little, but not bad, and I didn’t know why, because I wasn’t stressing about anything. And besides that, I was okay and feeling pretty good mentally. Later I told her that Mister had text me this morning and told me YD was coming by here. I told her that I knew my anxiety or whatever about the situation was real, because an hour or 2 before my appointment, I was outside and heard a car and thought it might’ve been YD, and my stomach immediately started flip flopping, It turned out to be one of the T’s and not YD. Our driveways aren’t right next to each other, but sometimes when a car enters one of our driveways, you can’t tell from the sound whether it’s their driveway or ours. When I mentioned all of that, she went back to me saying my stomach had been hurting a little bit all day. She said that she wondered if maybe me knowing YD was coming by at some point today was why my stomach had been hurting a little bit all day…… because my brain had the information that something was going to happen today that makes me feel weird now, and my body/stomach might have been storing the information and reacting to it, even though it wasn’t something I was consciously thinking about. I think she might have been on to something with her wondering. All of it sucks MAJORLY, because I have never wanted to come between Mister and his children. I’ve gone out of my way to try to prevent that from happening. But I’m not really the cause of their issues, they are much bigger than me and my presence in his life and due instead, to serious dysfunction and learned behavior that needs to be “un”learned. I’m just a convenient excuse to blame and fight about, to avoid dealing with the real issues. I can’t fix all of that shit for them and even though I do understand some of the roots of it, it’s not my job to try to play therapist in an attempt to try to help. Their shit is wayyyyyy above my pay grade. But what I CAN do is set my boundaries for me, my household, and my home, and enforce them. So that’s what I’m gonna do. They have to figure the rest of their shit out without me. I am willing to participate in trying to mend relationships if it ever gets to that point, but only at some point after Mister starts the process and some boundaries are set and respected. It sucks Mister won't address the problem he helped create. And it is no surprise you'd be anxious with an upset stomach given all the drama YD created simply because she wanted to. You didn't come between Mister and his daughters. It's their crazy expectations and bad behavior to you and Mister that have done that.
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Post by NastyWoman on Jun 11, 2024 19:29:11 GMT -5
Thank you but I'm not until November. I think Daisylu is today. Damn Happy half (or so) birthday soupandstew and a very happy birthday to the real birthday girl daisylu
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Post by NoNamePerson on Jun 11, 2024 19:29:48 GMT -5
Thank you but I'm not until November. I think Daisylu is today. Whew , glad you posted. I’ve been all the place trying to see where you posted about your birthday.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jun 11, 2024 19:40:41 GMT -5
DD just called me, a code to verify something was sent to the IPhone I bought DGS in April, and a few minutes later a young woman called, asking for the code, saying that use to be her phone number and she needed the code. Fortunately the phone was next to my DD when the code came through and she answered the call instead of DGS. She told the young lady “no I’m not giving you any code” and when the caller got indignant and tried to argue, DD hung up. I told DD to get off the phone with me and change DGS’s Apple ID password immediately. I don’t know if that was even reasonable, but it was the only thing I could think of in that moment to tell her to do. WTF is WRONG with people?! Good call. I understand this is usually either hacking a 2FA thing (less likely that your DGS has accounts to hack? except maybe itunes?) or setting up a google voice account for nefarious purposes. It’s a newish one to me and less immediately obviously scammy, but definitely a scam. I swear if people put as much efforts into their own endeavors as to trying to scam others… Glad your DD answered. Can she set the phone to ring through to voicemail if the caller isn’t in his contacts? She blocked the caller, but has gotten at least 3 more messages with from Apple, with codes to verify whatever somebody is trying to do, since my first post about it. I’m not sure what needs to be done at this point.
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Post by chiver78 on Jun 11, 2024 20:01:29 GMT -5
big hugs, Pink. I love that you're committed to setting boundaries to make your home YOURS again. Empress, I'm going to mess with the photo sites I still have accounts with in the am. I haven't posted pics here in awhile. hopefully I can make it work. <crosses fingers> andi - thank you for taking over my kitchen this weekend. I just wandered inside a solid two hours after reheating pork chile for dinner and my kitchen still smells amazing. I'll just reiterate my request that you write down what you do the next time you make pozole, please and thank you.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Jun 11, 2024 20:05:49 GMT -5
We got a call from the vet tight before the doors closed on our LA flight. The pathology came back on Harriet’s mass snd it was benign. We all breathed a huge sigh of relief.
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