|
Post by minnesotapaintlady on Sept 17, 2021 14:00:20 GMT -5
I'd lose my mind trying to deal with that. I hope you can get some forward progress. Same.
Ex 2.0 is a PIA, but at least I hold most of the cards. I don't have to ask his permission for anything. I have to PAY for everything, but worth it.
|
|
azucena
Junior Associate
Joined: Jan 17, 2011 13:23:14 GMT -5
Posts: 5,195
|
Post by azucena on Sept 17, 2021 14:17:40 GMT -5
Can you afford to put him in an activity on your own? Can you find one where the coach/team won't get upset if he misses on his dad's time? Not ideal, but there are two girls (different families) on DD9's softball team that could only come on mom's time. The dads couldn't be bothered. The coach figured at least they'd get some sport time. He just wanted to be aware of the schedule ahead of time. Since it was a mandated schedule, that part was easy. Should work until he hits hs sports.
|
|
MJ2.0
Senior Associate
Joined: Jul 24, 2014 10:27:09 GMT -5
Posts: 10,972
|
Post by MJ2.0 on Sept 17, 2021 14:30:55 GMT -5
Can you afford to put him in an activity on your own? Can you find one where the coach/team won't get upset if he misses on his dad's time? Not ideal, but there are two girls (different families) on DD9's softball team that could only come on mom's time. The dads couldn't be bothered. The coach figured at least they'd get some sport time. He just wanted to be aware of the schedule ahead of time. Since it was a mandated schedule, that part was easy. Should work until he hits hs sports. This is partly why I’m looking at the rock wall gym/club. If it’s only 1 day per week and it’s a day I have him, no issue. Although I don’t know what would happen if DS went to X telling him about the great time he’s having at Climbing Club….
|
|
raeoflyte
Senior Associate
Joined: Feb 3, 2011 15:43:53 GMT -5
Posts: 14,716
|
Post by raeoflyte on Sept 17, 2021 14:38:04 GMT -5
I don't know anything about how mediation works, but I feel like if you have him signed up for activities and x fought it, the court would tell him to pound sand and get lost. That they're not going to get involved in that. But that leaves the cost on you, and probably drama with x.
But maybe lean into the fact that he's lazy. He can't even come up with reasons to say no, he isn't going to take action to stop you.
Still a sucky situation.
|
|
MJ2.0
Senior Associate
Joined: Jul 24, 2014 10:27:09 GMT -5
Posts: 10,972
|
Post by MJ2.0 on Sept 17, 2021 14:55:58 GMT -5
Well, it’s not just about the sports/activity levels. Hence the need to gear up for mediation….
|
|
NastyWoman
Senior Associate
Joined: Dec 24, 2010 20:50:37 GMT -5
Posts: 14,334
|
Post by NastyWoman on Sept 18, 2021 16:20:39 GMT -5
I can see why you used the word "arduous" in describing your interactions MJ. I do feel that it is actually an understatement of how difficult he is to deal with though. Good luck in getting a solution that is workable for you
|
|
stillmovingforward
Senior Member
Hanging on by a thread
Joined: Jan 1, 2014 21:52:58 GMT -5
Posts: 3,066
Today's Mood: Don't Mess with Me!
Location: Not Sure Yet
|
Post by stillmovingforward on Sept 18, 2021 19:00:26 GMT -5
We did foster care for a long time. I wish a 'punishment' for kids could be putting them in sports. Not because sports are a punishment but because I think a lot of misbehavior we'd see came from excessive energy. ALL my kids had to do a sport. Like a puppy, a good kid is a tired kid (relatively speaking, we had some doozies!).
|
|
formerroomate99
Junior Associate
Joined: Sept 12, 2011 13:33:12 GMT -5
Posts: 7,381
|
Post by formerroomate99 on Sept 23, 2021 16:47:33 GMT -5
You really have no idea how you sound, do you? I have a really good memory and she was the one that told me back in the MSN days, that I should be grateful for slavery since it was the reason I was born in the US. So she doesn’t give a fuck how offensive her posts are. You’re a liar.
|
|
Deleted
Joined: Apr 24, 2024 2:48:10 GMT -5
Posts: 0
|
Post by Deleted on Sept 23, 2021 17:27:48 GMT -5
I have a really good memory and she was the one that told me back in the MSN days, that I should be grateful for slavery since it was the reason I was born in the US. So she doesn’t give a fuck how offensive her posts are. You’re a liar. If that’s what you wanna go with and what helps you sleep better at night, okay. I have many faults, but being a liar is not one of them. If anything, when it comes to faults and lying, I’m honest even when a lie would serve me better. So, tell us what you DID say, if you feel I twisted your words here. That’s, IF you even remember after all the other bullshit you’ve said over the years. There are THREE poster’s names that I specifically remember from making blatantly racist or offensive racially motivated posts/comments on the old boards. One, I called out on the boards here, a few years ago. He made a racially offensive remark on the MSN boards, concerning former President Obama’s first inauguration, referring to it as the “in_____ation”. One of the moderators (I remember which moderator that was, too) deleted the comment and personally apologized to me about it, even though it wasn’t his offense to own. The third poster did not follow us to the new home here. So, the only way I could not be telling the truth about what I said in this thread, is if you have the exact same screen name as another poster had on the old MSN boards….. “formerroomate”. If you just adopted that name after we moved to ProBoards, and had nothing to do with the person who had that screen name on the old MSN boards and what they said, I sincerely apologize to you. But if you’re the same person, using the same name, you can kiss my Black ass and kick rocks in flip flops. I said what I said. And I own it, because I’ve told no lies. ETA: I typed what was said about President Obama’s first inauguration without the space bar. Apparently the boards these days are determined to be politically correct.
|
|
MJ2.0
Senior Associate
Joined: Jul 24, 2014 10:27:09 GMT -5
Posts: 10,972
|
Post by MJ2.0 on Sept 23, 2021 18:31:36 GMT -5
And I oop!🤭
|
|
Deleted
Joined: Apr 24, 2024 2:48:10 GMT -5
Posts: 0
|
Post by Deleted on Sept 23, 2021 19:08:52 GMT -5
|
|
nidena
Senior Member
Joined: Dec 28, 2010 20:32:26 GMT -5
Posts: 3,580
|
Post by nidena on Sept 23, 2021 19:42:05 GMT -5
But you didn't specify these particular white skinned people valued families, law and order and education. <snip> If you want your kids to get a good education, money and melanin levels aren’t anywhere near as important as having parents who value education and Are willing to do what it takes to make sure their kids show up to school ready to learn. There is so much ignorance in this statement that I just can't... There are many parents who are busting their asses just to keep a roof over their kid's head that they have to work multiple jobs and many of those parents are Black or brown because redlining is a thing as is gerrymandering which ensures redlining stays a thing. Those parents can't always "...do what it takes..." for their kids school career because they're doing all they can just to fucking survive.
|
|
pulmonarymd
Junior Associate
Joined: Feb 12, 2020 17:40:54 GMT -5
Posts: 7,365
|
Post by pulmonarymd on Sept 23, 2021 21:18:50 GMT -5
Well, when live live in a place where there are no black or brown people, what can you expect. It’s not like she wants to make an effort to understand them. It is easier to live in you our bubble and remain ignorant
|
|