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Post by tiana on Mar 11, 2021 8:32:47 GMT -5
Married couples who was forced to spend 24/7 together without having jobs? I am not sure where did you get your number. Was it published after actual study was conducted? I know at least a few who admitted that quarantining together opened their eyes on needing divorce and few who had split. I would really like to k ow what that number is? Just off the wall or joke? I Googled "how many married couples in the US". Got an answer of 62,xxx,xxx. Figured at least about a million marriages wouldn't survive. Typed 61, then six more random numbers. But have you asked before 3/2020 and now? Also some people weren’t legally married but having children and living together. Some had lived in partners and split as pandemic hit because of one lost job or both...that bunker IS off the wall. Also divorces sometimes take long time so it wouldn’t be included in that number so that number IS off the wall.
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Post by tiana on Mar 11, 2021 8:52:19 GMT -5
I was talking about both people who used to work full time and spent regular working family hours together being all of a sudden thrown into ‘togetherness’ that normally isn’t happening ever! Like both don’t work from home and not able to do much except shopping once per week...that’s not your normal situation. Even when you work from home - you are BUSY! That’s different and not at all like staying together without having JOB to do...lol Unlike most of people who are saying nothing had changed for them - everything had change for us...and we are wondering if us being still together means we must stick together because we are compatible? 🤷♀️You can choose to answer that question however you want to, but in the end you have only been through 3 physical years together. The pandemic might not have told you how well you as couple will deal with job loss, kids, money problems, health problems, work problems etc. Its a data point, and one basically based on spending all your time together. How many crises have you together weathered so far besides the pandemic? Oh...we had met when he was fighting his child custody battle and won! I’ve been there for a whole year until happy end. My divorce that he insisted on because he wouldn’t be with married woman having full custody of his teenager son. Publishing his first book. Losing his rock gigs due to pandemic...and when I lost job because my business closed - in March 11th - we had moved together. And I am saying 24/7 because our life isn’t like ‘normal’ people have. We sleep at the different times and often he practice music at night and I wake up make coffee and listen to his music. Then he will collapse and I made food and wake him up and we eat and sleep for an hour or 2 and go shopping. It’s so much fun because it’s so sporadic and I CAN say it’s 24/7 because the only full night sleep we have was last night because we were buying a car and it was exhausting. So this morning at 5am we woke up staring at each other like...let’s eat! And mind you - before we both were married - I am for 26 and he is for 13 years! And we are an adults. He is 52 and I am 54... And if I wasn’t sure we CAN do it - now I am thinking that we can!
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Post by mary2029 on Mar 11, 2021 8:54:59 GMT -5
I Googled "how many married couples in the US". Got an answer of 62,xxx,xxx. Figured at least about a million marriages wouldn't survive. Typed 61, then six more random numbers. But have you asked before 3/2020 and now? Also some people weren’t legally married but having children and living together. Some had lived in partners and split as pandemic hit because of one lost job or both...that bunker IS off the wall. Also divorces sometimes take long time so it wouldn’t be included in that number so that number IS off the wall. So now you care about math?
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Post by buystoys on Mar 11, 2021 8:56:08 GMT -5
Honeymoon phase. And, no, fighting doesn't add spice to a relationship.
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Post by tiana on Mar 11, 2021 8:57:02 GMT -5
Someone HAD to say that. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 You still don't explain why you have not slept one single minute, so you get to count 24 hours per day, but the rest of us do not. I didn’t say we had not slept one single minute. I said we SPENT together 24/7 and THAT is including sleeping. You don’t tell people ‘we’ve been married for 10 years minus sleeping time’ do you? Unless you slept with other people...maybe THEN you want to subtract that time from your marriage...😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
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Post by billisonboard on Mar 11, 2021 9:59:34 GMT -5
I Googled "how many married couples in the US". Got an answer of 62,xxx,xxx. Figured at least about a million marriages wouldn't survive. Typed 61, then six more random numbers. But have you asked before 3/2020 and now? Also some people weren’t legally married but having children and living together. Some had lived in partners and split as pandemic hit because of one lost job or both...that bunker IS off the wall. Also divorces sometimes take long time so it wouldn’t be included in that number so that number IS off the wall. Yes, tiana, the number is off the wall. It is a sarcastic response to the thread title. I am interested in the art of asking questions that will lead to the gaining of the specifically desired information. I have worked with people in regards to it. I am the only person in this thread who has offered an answer to the question asked. Of course, the actual number is unknowable without an impossible amount of research. And, yes, I am just fucking with you. I am bored and am attempting to not drive my wife crazy so we survive quarantine.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Mar 11, 2021 11:03:49 GMT -5
I got divorced 39 years ago in anticipation of pending pandemic!
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Post by thyme4change on Mar 11, 2021 11:07:05 GMT -5
You still don't explain why you have not slept one single minute, so you get to count 24 hours per day, but the rest of us do not. I didn’t say we had not slept one single minute. I said we SPENT together 24/7 and THAT is including sleeping. You don’t tell people ‘we’ve been married for 10 years minus sleeping time’ do you? Unless you slept with other people...maybe THEN you want to subtract that time from your marriage...😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 But you said that married people only spend 3 hours per day together. If we sleep in the same bed, why does that 8 hours count for you and not for me? I'm not sure what your point is. Do you want to be reassured that you are living the greatest love story of all time and your relationship is a model for all couples everywhere? If you need that gold sticker - then congrats - you win relationships because you have crammed 172 years of marriage into 3 years, while the rest of us are toiling away counting each day, just trying to achieve your level of greatness.
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Post by thyme4change on Mar 11, 2021 11:37:58 GMT -5
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Post by imawino on Mar 11, 2021 12:12:19 GMT -5
I’ve been 24/7 with my BF of almost 3 years since March 2020. I had calculated that married couple spend about 25 hours per week together. 1 hour before work. 2 hours after work. 3x5 = 15 hours per week PLUS 10 hours on weekends give or take. And we spend 24 PER DAY!!! So...we basically are together 365 weeks / 52 = 7 YEARS!!! And he only threw me out once. And I left twice. So minus 5 weeks. Still...7 years Holly SHIT!!! Is this love or what We don’t even argue. He is watching Mean Girls with me and I am watching horror movies with him. He is a musician so I am basking in Led Zeppelin and he is eating my home made cooking... We shop together. Going to doctors appts together. Sometimes I am asking myself...(he is 2 years younger and ex was 12 years older) - is this SEX It’s got to be. Definitely not movies...(he said def NO to Notebook) 🤦♀️🤷♀️ If you have to ask, someone isn't doing it right.
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Post by thyme4change on Mar 11, 2021 12:37:56 GMT -5
I’ve been 24/7 with my BF of almost 3 years since March 2020. I had calculated that married couple spend about 25 hours per week together. 1 hour before work. 2 hours after work. 3x5 = 15 hours per week PLUS 10 hours on weekends give or take. And we spend 24 PER DAY!!! So...we basically are together 365 weeks / 52 = 7 YEARS!!! And he only threw me out once. And I left twice. So minus 5 weeks. Still...7 years Holly SHIT!!! Is this love or what We don’t even argue. He is watching Mean Girls with me and I am watching horror movies with him. He is a musician so I am basking in Led Zeppelin and he is eating my home made cooking... We shop together. Going to doctors appts together. Sometimes I am asking myself...(he is 2 years younger and ex was 12 years older) - is this SEX It’s got to be. Definitely not movies...(he said def NO to Notebook) 🤦♀️🤷♀️ If you have to ask, someone isn't doing it right. They also don't argue - but have essentially split up 3 times this year. But hey - he watched a movie he didn't want to - so clearly, an amazing accomplishment.
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Post by imawino on Mar 11, 2021 13:06:53 GMT -5
If you have to ask, someone isn't doing it right. They also don't argue - but have essentially split up 3 times this year. But hey - he watched a movie he didn't want to - so clearly, an amazing accomplishment. To be fair, I've broken up with my sweetie at least 3 times this year. But it was only in my head. He doesn't know, so keep it to yourself. Obviously, it's ME that wins relationships!
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Post by tiana on Mar 11, 2021 13:09:17 GMT -5
But have you asked before 3/2020 and now? Also some people weren’t legally married but having children and living together. Some had lived in partners and split as pandemic hit because of one lost job or both...that bunker IS off the wall. Also divorces sometimes take long time so it wouldn’t be included in that number so that number IS off the wall. Yes, tiana, the number is off the wall. It is a sarcastic response to the thread title. I am interested in the art of asking questions that will lead to the gaining of the specifically desired information. I have worked with people in regards to it. I am the only person in this thread who has offered an answer to the question asked. Of course, the actual number is unknowable without an impossible amount of research. And, yes, I am just fucking with you. I am bored and am attempting to not drive my wife crazy so we survive quarantine. I strongly suggest in order to survive quarantine - you better FUCK WITH YOUR WIFE! Unless of course she rather you NOT to FUCK her which I understand because IF your fucking same quality as your sense of humor - she is probably fucking somebody else or she would be out...by now. 🤷♀️
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Post by imawino on Mar 11, 2021 13:12:52 GMT -5
Yes, tiana, the number is off the wall. It is a sarcastic response to the thread title. I am interested in the art of asking questions that will lead to the gaining of the specifically desired information. I have worked with people in regards to it. I am the only person in this thread who has offered an answer to the question asked. Of course, the actual number is unknowable without an impossible amount of research. And, yes, I am just fucking with you. I am bored and am attempting to not drive my wife crazy so we survive quarantine. I strongly suggest in order to survive quarantine - you better FUCK WITH YOUR WIFE! Unless of course she rather you NOT to FUCK her which I understand because IF your fucking same quality as your sense of humor - she is probably fucking somebody else or she would be out...by now. 🤷♀️ Settle down, TLoony.
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Post by tiana on Mar 11, 2021 13:15:04 GMT -5
I didn’t mean to piss you off. But apparently implying that I want to have best love story ever - and trying to laugh at me and ridicule my attempt - you actually doing enough useless work to show me that you ARE triggered BY MY ALL CONSUMING love story and won’t rest until you prove me NOT HAVING ANUTHING SPECIAL while being red in a face with envy😂😂😂
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Post by tiana on Mar 11, 2021 13:18:19 GMT -5
I’ve been 24/7 with my BF of almost 3 years since March 2020. I had calculated that married couple spend about 25 hours per week together. 1 hour before work. 2 hours after work. 3x5 = 15 hours per week PLUS 10 hours on weekends give or take. And we spend 24 PER DAY!!! So...we basically are together 365 weeks / 52 = 7 YEARS!!! And he only threw me out once. And I left twice. So minus 5 weeks. Still...7 years Holly SHIT!!! Is this love or what We don’t even argue. He is watching Mean Girls with me and I am watching horror movies with him. He is a musician so I am basking in Led Zeppelin and he is eating my home made cooking... We shop together. Going to doctors appts together. Sometimes I am asking myself...(he is 2 years younger and ex was 12 years older) - is this SEX It’s got to be. Definitely not movies...(he said def NO to Notebook) 🤦♀️🤷♀️ If you have to ask, someone isn't doing it right. I am not asking. I am telling...while engaging you into conversation...without even trying...lmao
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Post by tiana on Mar 11, 2021 13:20:08 GMT -5
I strongly suggest in order to survive quarantine - you better FUCK WITH YOUR WIFE! Unless of course she rather you NOT to FUCK her which I understand because IF your fucking same quality as your sense of humor - she is probably fucking somebody else or she would be out...by now. 🤷♀️ Settle down, TLoony. I am. Are you? I mean after all YOU are fucking with me and not your wife. And I AM fucking with my man... So WHO is in need to settle down? 🤷♀️
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Post by tiana on Mar 11, 2021 13:23:22 GMT -5
They also don't argue - but have essentially split up 3 times this year. But hey - he watched a movie he didn't want to - so clearly, an amazing accomplishment. To be fair, I've broken up with my sweetie at least 3 times this year. But it was only in my head. He doesn't know, so keep it to yourself. Obviously, it's ME that wins relationships! I am normally go back home and by the time I reach home I get text from him...which makes me regret I left but I need to see my mom so...it’s all working out perfectly. 😍 🙏🏻
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Post by imawino on Mar 11, 2021 13:25:09 GMT -5
And so it goes....the way of all TLoony threads. Fuzzy math leads to belligerence leads to apoplectic meltdown.
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Post by tiana on Mar 11, 2021 13:27:54 GMT -5
If you have to ask, someone isn't doing it right. They also don't argue - but have essentially split up 3 times this year. But hey - he watched a movie he didn't want to - so clearly, an amazing accomplishment. We don’t ‘split’ and I don’t remember using this word. I do have temper and not to argue - I am leaving to see my mom and he usually gets me back in a few days. And I didn’t say he didn’t want to watch Mean Girls. He did. He loved the crazy mom. He didn’t want to watch Notebook and I do t force him... You get all my facts messed up. If you can’t remember but want to shit over me - WRITE IT DOWN! Or you’ll look like a fool. Well...too late NOW...😂😂
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Post by tiana on Mar 11, 2021 13:32:09 GMT -5
And so it goes....the way of all TLoony threads. Fuzzy math leads to belligerence leads to apoplectic meltdown. At least I am providing you with SOME Entertainment... Otherwise you would not engage yourself into my belligerence and apoplectic meltdowns...you must know better...how come you don’t act on it? I am too irresistible am I not? That’s what HE says...while slapping my ass walking by...
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Post by NoNamePerson on Mar 11, 2021 13:51:30 GMT -5
And so it goes....the way of all TLoony threads. Fuzzy math leads to belligerence leads to apoplectic meltdown. And organic chickens!
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Post by tiana on Mar 11, 2021 14:17:20 GMT -5
And so it goes....the way of all TLoony threads. Fuzzy math leads to belligerence leads to apoplectic meltdown. And organic chickens! And your participation...GUARANTEE! 🏃🏃🏻♀️
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Post by crazycat on Mar 11, 2021 15:43:22 GMT -5
I strongly suggest in order to survive quarantine - you better FUCK WITH YOUR WIFE! Unless of course she rather you NOT to FUCK her which I understand because IF your fucking same quality as your sense of humor - she is probably fucking somebody else or she would be out...by now. 🤷♀️ Settle down, TLoony. I was so thinking it sounded like her . Is it really her ??
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Post by buystoys on Mar 11, 2021 17:12:49 GMT -5
I was so thinking it sounded like her . Is it really her ?? I thought so much earlier, but the last few remarks nailed it for me.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Mar 11, 2021 17:18:11 GMT -5
So has Latisha from Wal-mart been invited over for a three way yet?
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Post by thyme4change on Mar 11, 2021 18:07:29 GMT -5
They also don't argue - but have essentially split up 3 times this year. But hey - he watched a movie he didn't want to - so clearly, an amazing accomplishment. We don’t ‘split’ and I don’t remember using this word. I do have temper and not to argue - I am leaving to see my mom and he usually gets me back in a few days. And I didn’t say he didn’t want to watch Mean Girls. He did. He loved the crazy mom. He didn’t want to watch Notebook and I do t force him... You get all my facts messed up. If you can’t remember but want to shit over me - WRITE IT DOWN! Or you’ll look like a fool. Well...too late NOW...😂😂 Yes. Everyone reading this thread is shaking their head and thinking that Thyme looks like a fool.
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Post by tiana on Mar 11, 2021 20:18:18 GMT -5
We don’t ‘split’ and I don’t remember using this word. I do have temper and not to argue - I am leaving to see my mom and he usually gets me back in a few days. And I didn’t say he didn’t want to watch Mean Girls. He did. He loved the crazy mom. He didn’t want to watch Notebook and I do t force him... You get all my facts messed up. If you can’t remember but want to shit over me - WRITE IT DOWN! Or you’ll look like a fool. Well...too late NOW...😂😂 Yes. Everyone reading this thread is shaking their head and thinking that Thyme looks like a fool. I don’t know what THEY thinking but you giving me a lot of your time. You must be lonely?
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Post by mroped on Mar 11, 2021 20:30:01 GMT -5
You call this quarantine, I call it “normal”. don't get me wrong, I like mingling with people, I like people in general but I like them more when they keep a distance and don’t breath in my face We are just peachy and we turned 20 years of marriage and a few before, living together. I figure, I’m too old to argue with my wife and she knows all my quirks so why even bother disagreeing with her? Isn’t arguing adding spice to the everyday boredom? I can’t imagine being 24/7 in the same living space and be totally in tune. Like listening to cars driving by? ❤️ First, we didn’t get “locked in” and spent the last 12 months in the house. I probably worked more than in the years before. Second, while arguments might add spice to everyday boredom, keeping life interesting is a better way of avoiding arguments. In other words, there is no need for yelling if you can figure out how to be funny/weird/different every day.
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Post by imawino on Mar 11, 2021 21:34:25 GMT -5
Isn’t arguing adding spice to the everyday boredom? I can’t imagine being 24/7 in the same living space and be totally in tune. Like listening to cars driving by? ❤️ First, we didn’t get “locked in” and spent the last 12 months in the house. I probably worked more than in the years before. Second, while arguments might add spice to everyday boredom, keeping life interesting is a better way of avoiding arguments. In other words, there is no need for yelling if you can figure out how to be funny/weird/different every day. please don't encourage her to be "more weird".
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