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Post by tiana on Mar 9, 2021 17:18:34 GMT -5
I’ve been 24/7 with my BF of almost 3 years since March 2020. I had calculated that married couple spend about 25 hours per week together. 1 hour before work. 2 hours after work. 3x5 = 15 hours per week PLUS 10 hours on weekends give or take. And we spend 24 PER DAY!!!
So...we basically are together 365 weeks / 52 = 7 YEARS!!! And he only threw me out once. And I left twice. So minus 5 weeks. Still...7 years??? Holly SHIT!!!
Is this love or what??? We don’t even argue. He is watching Mean Girls with me and I am watching horror movies with him. He is a musician so I am basking in Led Zeppelin and he is eating my home made cooking... We shop together. Going to doctors appts together. Sometimes I am asking myself...(he is 2 years younger and ex was 12 years older) - is this SEX??? It’s got to be. Definitely not movies...(he said def NO to Notebook) 🤦♀️🤷♀️
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Post by tiana on Mar 9, 2021 17:20:09 GMT -5
I mean we are together for 3 years but been 24/7 for a year. Please do t dwell on math. It’s somewhat accurate but really doesn’t matter that much...💃🕺
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Post by bean29 on Mar 9, 2021 17:56:10 GMT -5
Lol, My DH was home for a few hours yesterday, and he hammered on my about finances, then one kid, and the purchase of a rental property and then the other kid. I finally told him I had PTSD and he had to just STFU already I could not take any more.
We are married 29 years this fall, and I was just wondering if so many marriages of older individuals fail either when the kids leave the nest or at retirement b/c of too much togetherness.
To answer your question, we have not been together more than usual. Neither of us is working from home, we have less socializing with friends and it is harder to go out to dinner or to a sporting event. I will be glad when things open up.
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Post by Gardening Grandma on Mar 9, 2021 18:07:16 GMT -5
Since we're retired, not much changed. We just didn't go anywhere other than grocery shopping or camping.
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Post by buystoys on Mar 9, 2021 18:40:33 GMT -5
We pretty much spend 24/7 together. The only time we've been apart in 14 years is when I had to travel for business or when one of us was in the hospital. Covid changed nothing for us except we haven't gone out as often. We don't fight. We've had three major fights in all the years together. We both are sensitive to the other's needs and are willing to compromise if it's something important to the other person. We both h ave very different priorities on a lot of things so it's easy enough to compromise. We have the same priorities when it comes to relationships. It's important to nurture them and work at them.
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Post by billisonboard on Mar 9, 2021 19:04:16 GMT -5
How many couples survived quarantine Married couples in the US? 61,543,082. You're welcome.
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Post by empress of self-improvement on Mar 9, 2021 19:20:44 GMT -5
We didn't survive. Fucker dropped dead.
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Post by mroped on Mar 9, 2021 19:28:35 GMT -5
You call this quarantine, I call it “normal”. don't get me wrong, I like mingling with people, I like people in general but I like them more when they keep a distance and don’t breath in my face We are just peachy and we turned 20 years of marriage and a few before, living together. I figure, I’m too old to argue with my wife and she knows all my quirks so why even bother disagreeing with her?
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Post by oped on Mar 9, 2021 19:32:53 GMT -5
What he said.
At least that part about just agreeing with his wife.
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Post by swamp on Mar 9, 2021 20:41:02 GMT -5
DH is working out of town. It’s glorious, lol.
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Post by wvugurl26 on Mar 9, 2021 21:59:13 GMT -5
DH said the other day he was surprised we haven't had more fights. We've been in this house for a year. While neither one of us cares to ever go back to the office, it would be nice to have other options for getting out besides the grocery store!
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Post by plugginaway22 on Mar 10, 2021 6:59:05 GMT -5
My DH and I never stopped working outside the home. We definitely had more togetherness in evenings and weekends since all activities practically vanished. He is still not playing basketball in his twice a week over 50 men's league and it has been a struggle for him. I will say that we bonded over some of the BS that happened with our employers during COVID and it has made us SO determined to be retired this coming year. We have been married 40 years.
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Post by thyme4change on Mar 10, 2021 11:25:42 GMT -5
Not sure how you count 24 hours per day, but my husband and I only count 3 hours per day. Are we counting sleeping hours or not? If we are, married couples jump up. Also, what do you mean by "spending time together"? Because if you are claiming to be actively engaged 24 (or even 16) hours per day, then you have something. But my husband and I spent more than 3 hours per day "together" before the pandemic. We watch TV, we do chores, we sit in the same room on different devices. Since the pandemic, we also work in the same room and are together 24 hours per day - but, you are using 'normal' circumstances, so I will stay in pre-pandemic for analysis purposes.
I am also not sure where you are getting 10 hours per weekend. Maybe my husband and I are weird, but we spend our weekends together - again - just sleeping takes up more than 10 hours per weekend.
Bad math.
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Post by thyme4change on Mar 10, 2021 11:27:17 GMT -5
I mean we are together for 3 years but been 24/7 for a year. Please do t dwell on math. It’s somewhat accurate but really doesn’t matter that much...💃🕺 Your math is not even close.
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Post by imawino on Mar 10, 2021 11:27:18 GMT -5
Well, the pandemic ain't over yet. Don't count your chickens.
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Post by tractor on Mar 10, 2021 13:44:09 GMT -5
For the most part my wife still works outside the home while I’m trapped here.
When she is home, we both take our own area of the house and do our own things. We haven’t fought in 28 years, one of the advantages of have plenty of places to hide...
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Post by Lizard Queen on Mar 10, 2021 13:59:15 GMT -5
We've had some snipping, and I do like the days my DH goes into the office, other than his alarm goes off way too early those days. His bitching about work gets to me at times, too.
We've survived, though. I do like the slower pace.
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Post by tiana on Mar 10, 2021 19:00:59 GMT -5
Lol, My DH was home for a few hours yesterday, and he hammered on my about finances, then one kid, and the purchase of a rental property and then the other kid. I finally told him I had PTSD and he had to just STFU already I could not take any more. We are married 29 years this fall, and I was just wondering if so many marriages of older individuals fail either when the kids leave the nest or at retirement b/c of too much togetherness. To answer your question, we have not been together more than usual. Neither of us is working from home, we have less socializing with friends and it is harder to go out to dinner or to a sporting event. I will be glad when things open up. I was talking about both people who used to work full time and spent regular working family hours together being all of a sudden thrown into ‘togetherness’ that normally isn’t happening ever! Like both don’t work from home and not able to do much except shopping once per week...that’s not your normal situation. Even when you work from home - you are BUSY! That’s different and not at all like staying together without having JOB to do...lol Unlike most of people who are saying nothing had changed for them - everything had change for us...and we are wondering if us being still together means we must stick together because we are compatible? 🤷♀️
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Post by tiana on Mar 10, 2021 19:07:38 GMT -5
Since we're retired, not much changed. We just didn't go anywhere other than grocery shopping or camping. So we basically getting taste of what is our retirement is going to be? Nice... Though his mom at 83 is extremely active and doesn’t stay put Covid or not.
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Post by tiana on Mar 10, 2021 21:04:58 GMT -5
How many couples survived quarantine Married couples in the US? 61,543,082. You're welcome. Married couples who was forced to spend 24/7 together without having jobs? I am not sure where did you get your number. Was it published after actual study was conducted? I know at least a few who admitted that quarantining together opened their eyes on needing divorce and few who had split. I would really like to k ow what that number is? Just off the wall or joke?
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Post by tiana on Mar 10, 2021 21:06:53 GMT -5
We didn't survive. Fucker dropped dead. I had to laugh...🤦♀️
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Post by tiana on Mar 10, 2021 21:09:37 GMT -5
You call this quarantine, I call it “normal”. don't get me wrong, I like mingling with people, I like people in general but I like them more when they keep a distance and don’t breath in my face We are just peachy and we turned 20 years of marriage and a few before, living together. I figure, I’m too old to argue with my wife and she knows all my quirks so why even bother disagreeing with her? Isn’t arguing adding spice to the everyday boredom? I can’t imagine being 24/7 in the same living space and be totally in tune. Like listening to cars driving by? ❤️
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Post by tiana on Mar 10, 2021 21:10:59 GMT -5
I mean we are together for 3 years but been 24/7 for a year. Please do t dwell on math. It’s somewhat accurate but really doesn’t matter that much...💃🕺 Your math is not even close. Someone HAD to say that. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
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Post by tiana on Mar 10, 2021 21:15:16 GMT -5
For the most part my wife still works outside the home while I’m trapped here. When she is home, we both take our own area of the house and do our own things. We haven’t fought in 28 years, one of the advantages of have plenty of places to hide... Do you have sex? 🤷♀️I mean with each other? You sound like people who are in sexless marriage and/or having sex on a side. 🤔
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Post by tiana on Mar 10, 2021 21:17:24 GMT -5
We've had some snipping, and I do like the days my DH goes into the office, other than his alarm goes off way too early those days. His bitching about work gets to me at times, too. We've survived, though. I do like the slower pace. I meant nobody goes into the office...🤔
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Post by tiana on Mar 10, 2021 21:21:23 GMT -5
Well, the pandemic ain't over yet. Don't count your chickens. I think tomorrow at Anniversary of pandemic togetherness we could say our chickens are safe to count! 💃🕺
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Post by Opti on Mar 10, 2021 21:44:16 GMT -5
Lol, My DH was home for a few hours yesterday, and he hammered on my about finances, then one kid, and the purchase of a rental property and then the other kid. I finally told him I had PTSD and he had to just STFU already I could not take any more. We are married 29 years this fall, and I was just wondering if so many marriages of older individuals fail either when the kids leave the nest or at retirement b/c of too much togetherness. To answer your question, we have not been together more than usual. Neither of us is working from home, we have less socializing with friends and it is harder to go out to dinner or to a sporting event. I will be glad when things open up. I was talking about both people who used to work full time and spent regular working family hours together being all of a sudden thrown into ‘togetherness’ that normally isn’t happening ever! Like both don’t work from home and not able to do much except shopping once per week...that’s not your normal situation. Even when you work from home - you are BUSY! That’s different and not at all like staying together without having JOB to do...lol Unlike most of people who are saying nothing had changed for them - everything had change for us...and we are wondering if us being still together means we must stick together because we are compatible? 🤷♀️You can choose to answer that question however you want to, but in the end you have only been through 3 physical years together. The pandemic might not have told you how well you as couple will deal with job loss, kids, money problems, health problems, work problems etc. Its a data point, and one basically based on spending all your time together. How many crises have you together weathered so far besides the pandemic?
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Post by billisonboard on Mar 10, 2021 22:08:27 GMT -5
How many couples survived quarantine Married couples in the US? 61,543,082. You're welcome. Married couples who was forced to spend 24/7 together without having jobs? I am not sure where did you get your number. Was it published after actual study was conducted? I know at least a few who admitted that quarantining together opened their eyes on needing divorce and few who had split. I would really like to k ow what that number is? Just off the wall or joke? I Googled "how many married couples in the US". Got an answer of 62,xxx,xxx. Figured at least about a million marriages wouldn't survive. Typed 61, then six more random numbers.
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Post by Lizard Queen on Mar 10, 2021 22:46:57 GMT -5
We've had some snipping, and I do like the days my DH goes into the office, other than his alarm goes off way too early those days. His bitching about work gets to me at times, too. We've survived, though. I do like the slower pace. I meant nobody goes into the office...🤔 We started out that way. He's going into the office a little bit now. A couple days a week at the most. Usually just one. He feels he needs to show his face, with his company culture.
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Post by thyme4change on Mar 11, 2021 7:00:18 GMT -5
Your math is not even close. Someone HAD to say that. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 You still don't explain why you have not slept one single minute, so you get to count 24 hours per day, but the rest of us do not.
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