NoNamePerson
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Post by NoNamePerson on May 30, 2020 15:17:42 GMT -5
And you will never mend this relationship with your entitled attitude. Seriously - do you even want to know your daughter? Or only if she is what you want her to be? I suggest asking your daughter to go with you to family therapy and listen to her and what this 22 years of marriage felt like to the child in the house. What am I entitled about? I have an attitude that I work for what I have.
No, I don't know my daughter. I raised her for the entire 19yrs. She can be whatever she wants. But treating me like shit isn't going to be tolerated. How are you defending her when you don't even know me? That's funny to me. I did the counseling thing too. It didn't work.
Just send her a bill for all those years you supported her. She can pay you off and be done with it. Everything boils down to money in the end. Win win for everyone. No misunderstanding where everyone stands or coming from.
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WannabeWealthy
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Post by WannabeWealthy on May 31, 2020 11:33:45 GMT -5
What am I entitled about? I have an attitude that I work for what I have.
No, I don't know my daughter. I raised her for the entire 19yrs. She can be whatever she wants. But treating me like shit isn't going to be tolerated. How are you defending her when you don't even know me? That's funny to me. I did the counseling thing too. It didn't work.
Just send her a bill for all those years you supported her. She can pay you off and be done with it. Everything boils down to money in the end. Win win for everyone. No misunderstanding where everyone stands or coming from. Yup. You are right! It's all about money in the end. At least most people that's what it's all about.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 1, 2020 12:43:44 GMT -5
Meh. He could have chosen to work for the man and not get ass-raped. It's one of the reasons I work two jobs. The day job, to prevent the ass raping that can occur when one is self-emplyed, and the self-employed side job because it's what I love. And, the super nice thing about working for the man is I can then retire with a full pension that will cover my health insurance premiums (right now, almost 2K/month for retirees not on medicare), and move into the private sector and work and not have to worry about insurance. So, yes, while I might be a dumbass for marrying someone that doesn't make as much as me, I seem not to be a complete dumbass when it came to making sure I ALWAYS had access to good insurance, no? I'm also wondering if domestic partnership is a thing in your state. It is in mine. Boom. Insurance access. No Marriage necessary.
It is if your company opts to allow it. As of yet, we haven’t. I do see value to marriage but I see a lot of risk. It’s the risk that I don’t think people understand. As for public versus private, the trade off is that you get a pension. However, I know what I would have made in the public sector. The pension would not have been worth it. My salary has allowed me to build a rental portfolio. My net income from that is enough for me to live on now (well, not now that I’m starting to look for new houses in better area). It definitely worked out for me not having a pension. He makes a lot more money working for himself than someone else. It isn’t that he can’t afford his insurance. But since I can get it significantly cheaper, why shouldn’t I? So it’s not the reason we are getting married but definitely one of the reasons it makes sense. It will be a huge chunk of money in our pocket each year. Don't you mean it will be a huge chunk of money in HIS pocket each year?
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Post by qofcc on Jun 1, 2020 19:27:51 GMT -5
To the original question how do you divide assets? In my experience people who have a lot of stuff...tools, collectables, whatever... Tend to think their stuff is worth more than it really is because it has emotional value to them...and items they don't care about have less value. So if you start by asking them to tell you how much they think items are worth you only have to worry about the stuff they want that they undervalue and the stuff you want that they overvalue. So maybe there's a list of tools and you say here's the tools you paid $200k for... How much are they worth? He'll probably come up with a higher number than pawn shop value. It's psychology more than accounting.
Also she has leverage about the IRS audit stuff... without threatening she can make it known she'd rather get more cash and walk away than have to audit his business... Turn it into a win-win.
Not proud of it but I've been divorced twice. Both times managed to divide assets without a lawyer because I knew my ex well enough to know what had value to him and that he didn't care about the stuff that had value to me. The first time I consulted a lawyer and she gave me that great advice about making him think he's getting a great deal don't argue over stuff just $
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