ISO may have cancer

[janee]

Glad it's sounding better.  To help with the smoking, maybe a nicotine patch to help?

Good luck and hope the news continues to get better for you both.

[cronewitch]

It is cancer, still coughing up blood, released today with oxygen, I am going to his house tomorrow for as long as he seems to need me. I hired a yard guy my nephew uses, nephew will come take out trash Monday and handle yard guy, unlock gate, pay him until I come back so will empty frig, turn off heat and leave for as long as I want. Four of us use the same yard guy now and my house has combination lock so family can all come in so family can watch my house. 

I don't think he needs me but he likes having company and it might cheer him up. I am not the soft cuddly cry on my shoulder type so am trying to talk him into trying hard to live. I explained he can't die while we have virus since cremations are busy and we can't have funerals so he needs to do chemo and go ahead and outlive the chickens. He can still watch tv, listen to music and have a fire in the firepit and pet cats and fish from banks even if he can't still take boats out. 

[Lizard Queen]

I'm so sorry Crone.

[Rukh O'Rorke]

Best wishes to you both Crone! I hope he can muster it up and fight this with your help.

[jerseygirl]

So sad and you had hoped all was well

[CCL]

I'm so sorry. Hope he's feeling better or at least more comfortable being back home.

[countrygirl2]

I feel sorry for him, I don't have cancer or anything. But I know how he feels, I want to take one of the boats out and can't alone. Hubs made me wait till I was to old to get and use them. I want to take the motorhome and travel but like him afraid I will get sick or something will happen and I can't get home.  I truly understand the I want to do this, but then think tomorrow I will feel better and can.  It's a terrible feeling to get old, the mind wants to continue to do all the things you could even a few short years ago but the poor old body won't let you.


My heart goes out to him and you. I like that you are going to try and help him and cheer him up.  Both of you take care and let us know how he is doing.


Love from Indiana!

[Artemis Windsong]

One day at a  time and keep praying.

[countrygirl2]

Right now I think its that way for everyone, just one day at a time.

[toomuchreality]

Apr 10, 2020 17:54:59 GMT -5 cronewitch said:

It is cancer, still coughing up blood, released today with oxygen, I am going to his house tomorrow for as long as he seems to need me. I hired a yard guy my nephew uses, nephew will come take out trash Monday and handle yard guy, unlock gate, pay him until I come back so will empty frig, turn off heat and leave for as long as I want. Four of us use the same yard guy now and my house has combination lock so family can all come in so family can watch my house. 

I don't think he needs me but he likes having company and it might cheer him up. I am not the soft cuddly cry on my shoulder type so am trying to talk him into trying hard to live. I explained he can't die while we have virus since cremations are busy and we can't have funerals so he needs to do chemo and go ahead and outlive the chickens. He can still watch tv, listen to music and have a fire in the firepit and pet cats and fish from banks even if he can't still take boats out. 

So very sorry to hear this.  Not the kind of thing anyone needs right now (or ever).
I'm glad you are able to be there with him, if/when you want to be. And that your family can help take care of your place.
Although he may not be able to do EVERYTHING he wants to, the number of things he can still do, outweigh the the number of things he can't. 
Besides that, he still has you. And that's the most important thing of all!
And you need someone to hang out with, through the pandemic. Everyone else has to stay 6 feet away.   Right?

BIG hugs   

[cronewitch]

Apr 11, 2020 0:17:46 GMT -5 toomuchreality said:

Apr 10, 2020 17:54:59 GMT -5 cronewitch said:

It is cancer, still coughing up blood, released today with oxygen, I am going to his house tomorrow for as long as he seems to need me. I hired a yard guy my nephew uses, nephew will come take out trash Monday and handle yard guy, unlock gate, pay him until I come back so will empty frig, turn off heat and leave for as long as I want. Four of us use the same yard guy now and my house has combination lock so family can all come in so family can watch my house. 

I don't think he needs me but he likes having company and it might cheer him up. I am not the soft cuddly cry on my shoulder type so am trying to talk him into trying hard to live. I explained he can't die while we have virus since cremations are busy and we can't have funerals so he needs to do chemo and go ahead and outlive the chickens. He can still watch tv, listen to music and have a fire in the firepit and pet cats and fish from banks even if he can't still take boats out. 

So very sorry to hear this.  Not the kind of thing anyone needs right now (or ever).
I'm glad you are able to be there with him, if/when you want to be. And that your family can help take care of your place.
Although he may not be able to do EVERYTHING he wants to, the number of things he can still do, outweigh the the number of things he can't. 
Besides that, he still has you. And that's the most important thing of all!
And you need someone to hang out with, through the pandemic. Everyone else has to stay 6 feet away.   Right?

BIG hugs   

Turns out he does need me. He put the 5th wheel in the shop so needs to get it Monday. Now he ripped a bedsheet and wants help making the bed with the new sheets. His neighbor feed the cats and raccoons for him and mowed the entire farm and won't take money for it. The cats missed him and yelling at him to hurry and pet them, one wants him to go to bed, she likes petted in bed, the other held constantly. He gets tired easy so changing sheets might be too hard for him, he never figures out which way they go.

[buystoys]

I'm so sorry to hear this news, Crone.  My sympathy to you both.  Praying for you to have strength during this difficult time.

[taz157]

I’m sorry cronewitch . ((((Hugs))))

[Deleted]

I'm sorry but still embracing hope of a good outcome with chemo

[Happy prose]

Sorry Crone. Are they able to do surgery?

[GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl]

I’m sorry, Crone. That sucks. Hopefully he’ll take advantage of the very generous help he is getting from you and his neighbors and choose to fight.

[TheOtherMe]

Hugs, Crone

[dannylion]

Sorry to hear the news was not what you were hoping for.  Cancer treatment has come a long way, so it is not unreasonable to hold on to optimism.  I hope his treatments allow him to have an acceptable quality of life for as long as possible.  Your ISO is lucky to have someone like you he can count on.  Remember to take care of yourself as well.  

[Bonny]

Apr 11, 2020 10:31:48 GMT -5 dannylion said:

Your ISO is lucky to have someone like you he can count on.  Remember to take care of yourself as well.  

+1



cronewitch

[sesfw]

crone ......... hugs to both of you.   

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

I’m sorry to hear the diagnosis.  (((Hugs))). 

[haapai]

I don't know what to say.  I want to swear. 

Take care of yourself.  There's lots of care-giving experience on this board.  I'm not one of them, but I'm fairly certain that they will be willing to step up.  Don't be afraid to PM.  There's a lot that care-givers, if you decide to step into that role, go through that should not be public. 

[laterbloomer]

Well that just sucks. Good luck with it all Crone.

[cronewitch]

At his house and he is very not good. three oxygen things, one for the living room with 25 and 50 ft tubes, a back up for power outages and a portable. When I got here he apologized for not helping carry in stuff. He removed oxygen to shower and needed to get some before doing anything, still didn't shower. Later after shower he looked like he was dizzy and sat a to rest a long time. After going to bed he saw a porch light was left on and said he needed to get up and turn it off and seemed grateful when I offered. Seems like everything will be hard for him. He is still saying I don't need to wait on him but then he likes when I do. I might stay for months. He was referred to radiologist so I will go with and see what they want to do.

[Knee Deep in Water Chloe]

[lurkyloo]

I’m so sorry to hear it, crone.  I hope it was caught relatively early.  Thinking of you both.

[toomuchreality]

Apr 12, 2020 10:28:00 GMT -5 cronewitch said:

At his house and he is very not good. three oxygen things, one for the living room with 25 and 50 ft tubes, a back up for power outages and a portable. When I got here he apologized for not helping carry in stuff. He removed oxygen to shower and needed to get some before doing anything, still didn't shower. Later after shower he looked like he was dizzy and sat a to rest a long time. After going to bed he saw a porch light was left on and said he needed to get up and turn it off and seemed grateful when I offered. Seems like everything will be hard for him. He is still saying I don't need to wait on him but then he likes when I do. I might stay for months. He was referred to radiologist so I will go with and see what they want to do.

Consider getting someone to help you, and/or to stay, while you take care of your needs (even if that's doing nothing).
What you are doing is exhausting, both mentally and physically.

Just having someone there to call 911, if needed, is a help.

Take care of you. ♡

[cronewitch]

Apr 13, 2020 1:11:51 GMT -5 toomuchreality said:

Apr 12, 2020 10:28:00 GMT -5 cronewitch said:

At his house and he is very not good. three oxygen things, one for the living room with 25 and 50 ft tubes, a back up for power outages and a portable. When I got here he apologized for not helping carry in stuff. He removed oxygen to shower and needed to get some before doing anything, still didn't shower. Later after shower he looked like he was dizzy and sat a to rest a long time. After going to bed he saw a porch light was left on and said he needed to get up and turn it off and seemed grateful when I offered. Seems like everything will be hard for him. He is still saying I don't need to wait on him but then he likes when I do. I might stay for months. He was referred to radiologist so I will go with and see what they want to do.

Consider getting someone to help you, and/or to stay, while you take care of your needs (even if that's doing nothing).
What you are doing is exhausting, both mentally and physically.

Just having someone there to call 911, if needed, is a help.

Take care of you. ♡

I will be good I have plenty of time with nothing to do. He has a man next door who works by the hour and worked two hours today removing tree limbs to the fire pit. Tomorrow he is weed eating the chicken coop. So I am only doing little things like feeding the raccoons and making breakfast. I get up early and stay up late so private time and then nap half the afternoon. He says I am not to take care of him just be company, but letting me go to doctor appointments with him. We are retired so sitting around doing nothing. We get the 5th wheel out of the shop tomorrow then next day a doctor appointment but still not really busy.

[toomuchreality]

Apr 13, 2020 2:56:12 GMT -5 cronewitch said:

Apr 13, 2020 1:11:51 GMT -5 toomuchreality said:

Consider getting someone to help you, and/or to stay, while you take care of your needs (even if that's doing nothing).
What you are doing is exhausting, both mentally and physically.

Just having someone there to call 911, if needed, is a help.

Take care of you. ♡

I will be good I have plenty of time with nothing to do. He has a man next door who works by the hour and worked two hours today removing tree limbs to the fire pit. Tomorrow he is weed eating the chicken coop. So I am only doing little things like feeding the raccoons and making breakfast. I get up early and stay up late so private time and then nap half the afternoon. He says I am not to take care of him just be company, but letting me go to doctor appointments with him. We are retired so sitting around doing nothing. We get the 5th wheel out of the shop tomorrow then next day a doctor appointment but still not really busy.

Okay. Just trust your gut. And don't be afraid to ask, if you need something.

[bean29]

Sorry to hear about your iso. Sending prayers.