Days after a funeral...virus BOMB

[kadee79]

There was a repast table crammed with casseroles, Brunswick stew, fried chicken and key lime cake. Andrew Jerome Mitchell, a retired janitor, was one of 10 siblings. They told stories, debated for the umpteenth time how he got the nickname Doorface. 
People wiped tears away, and embraced, and blew their noses, and belted out hymns. They laughed, remembering. It was a big gathering, with upward of 200 mourners overflowing the memorial chapel, so people had to stand outside.

Dorothy Johnson has gone over the scene in her mind over the last month, asking herself who it was who brought the virus to her brother’s funeral.

“We don’t know who the person was,” she said. “It would help me to know.” 
During the weeks that followed, illnesses linked to the coronavirus have torn through her hometown, Albany, Ga., with about two dozen relatives falling ill, including six of her siblings. Ms. Johnson herself was released from an isolation ward to the news that her daughter, Tonya, was in grave condition, her heart rate dropping.

www.msn.com/en-us/news/us/days-after-a-funeral-in-a-georgia-town-coronavirus-hit-like-a-bomb/ar-BB11VJoW?li=BBnb7Kz

This is one of the counties that borders my county...just 50 mi. away.

[Deleted]

One of my coworkers went to a funeral last Saturday. Sunday at work, she told me that the funeral was actually kind of crowded. I asked if they tried to adhere to the 6 foot distance rule. She said no, but a few people had masks and/or gloves on.

I told her “welp, let me get away from you. Talk to you in a couple of weeks” and turned around and walked away. She didn’t seem offended, she was laughing as I walked off.

I know it has to feel like shit piled on top of shit when someone loses a loved one and can’t have the type of funeral or memorial service we’re all use to having. Idk what should happen, because I get how it probably is for grieving families.

But for ME, if I know someone has been to any type  of gathering, including a funeral, I prefer not to be in close proximity to them. If that makes me a horrible person, so be it.

[Tennesseer]

Mar 30, 2020 19:58:23 GMT -5 @pinkcshmere said:

One of my coworkers went to a funeral last Saturday. Sunday at work, she told me that the funeral was actually kind of crowded. I asked if they tried to adhere to the 6 foot distance rule. She said no, but a few people had masks and/or gloves on.

I told her “welp, let me get away from you. Talk to you in a couple of weeks” and turned around and walked away. She didn’t seem offended, she was laughing as I walked off.

I know it has to feel like shit piled on top of shit when someone loses a loved one and can’t have the type of funeral or memorial service we’re all use to having. Idk what should happen, because I get how it probably is for grieving families.

But for ME, if I know someone has been to any type  of gathering, including a funeral, I prefer not to be in close proximity to them. If that makes me a horrible person, so be it.

Worst case scenario would be mass graves. No funerals at all. Memorial service 12 or more months away, if any.

[deminmaine]

Ugh.  I have a BIL whose "retirement job" is actually as an attendant at a funeral home in MA.  No full funerals allowed at all now in MA.  Only graveside services with immediate family allowed, with distancing and limits on size.   

[thyme4change]

Funerals still allowed in AZ. We have a stay at home order, but pretty much all businesses are exempt. Bars and restaurants were already take-out only. There is an exemption for religious services, too. So, I'm not really sure why we have the order at all.

#redstate

[deminmaine]

Every church I know of is having either remote services or none at all.  Definitely no congregating at the Congregational Church ! 

[swamp]

Mar 31, 2020 9:39:50 GMT -5 deminmaine said:

Every church I know of is having either remote services or none at all.  Definitely no congregating at the Congregational Church ! 

Even the Pope is doing services by webcam 

[swamp]

Mar 30, 2020 19:42:51 GMT -5 kadee79 said:

There was a repast table crammed with casseroles, Brunswick stew, fried chicken and key lime cake. Andrew Jerome Mitchell, a retired janitor, was one of 10 siblings. They told stories, debated for the umpteenth time how he got the nickname Doorface. 
People wiped tears away, and embraced, and blew their noses, and belted out hymns. They laughed, remembering. It was a big gathering, with upward of 200 mourners overflowing the memorial chapel, so people had to stand outside.

Dorothy Johnson has gone over the scene in her mind over the last month, asking herself who it was who brought the virus to her brother’s funeral.

“We don’t know who the person was,” she said. “It would help me to know.” 
During the weeks that followed, illnesses linked to the coronavirus have torn through her hometown, Albany, Ga., with about two dozen relatives falling ill, including six of her siblings. Ms. Johnson herself was released from an isolation ward to the news that her daughter, Tonya, was in grave condition, her heart rate dropping.

www.msn.com/en-us/news/us/days-after-a-funeral-in-a-georgia-town-coronavirus-hit-like-a-bomb/ar-BB11VJoW?li=BBnb7Kz

This is one of the counties that borders my county...just 50 mi. away.

I don't understand this. 

Why would it help to know?  if nobody was obviously sick, it wasn't done intentionally.    

[Gardening Grandma]

60 people went to a choir practice Mar 10.  45 got COVID, 3 are in the hospital and 2 are dead. No one had symptoms, hand sanitizer was freely available and they avoided the usual hugging.

Choir practice turns fatal. Coronavirus is to blame
www.latimes.com/world-nation/story/2020-03-29/coronavirus-choir-outbreak

[Gardening Grandma]

Mar 31, 2020 9:49:21 GMT -5 swamp said:

Mar 30, 2020 19:42:51 GMT -5 kadee79 said:

www.msn.com/en-us/news/us/days-after-a-funeral-in-a-georgia-town-coronavirus-hit-like-a-bomb/ar-BB11VJoW?li=BBnb7Kz

This is one of the counties that borders my county...just 50 mi. away.

I don't understand this. 

Why would it help to know?  if nobody was obviously sick, it wasn't done intentionally.    

I can understand.  It would help me to know who to be angry at.  We've all been told that it can be spread asymptomatically, so any time we are around other people we could be spreading or catching it.  Going to any gathering endangers others.

A study in China showed that 86% of the COVID cases were spread by asymptomatic people.

[bean29]

My Mom's friend lost her Husband about 2 weeks ago. The Funeral was on March 19th, and they already had a limit of 10 people at the funeral. Her Son lives in Europe and has 3 kids (Switzerland I think), One daughter is deceased, but her husband and their 2 kids remained close, and then she has another daughter locally.  So, if all those people attended, they would be pretty much at 10 already. 

I agree that it is not helpful to look for person 0.  I read a headline to day that the Corona virus could infect people from 26 feet away, so our 6 ft social distancing is not doing us a whole lot of good.

[swamp]

Mar 31, 2020 9:55:08 GMT -5 Gardening Grandma said:

Mar 31, 2020 9:49:21 GMT -5 swamp said:

I don't understand this. 

Why would it help to know?  if nobody was obviously sick, it wasn't done intentionally.    

I can understand.  It would help me to know who to be angry at.  We've all been told that it can be spread asymptomatically, so any time we are around other people we could be spreading or catching it.  Going to any gathering endangers others.

A study in China showed that 86% of the COVID cases were spread by asymptomatic people.

then nobody should have been there.   

[Gardening Grandma]

Mar 31, 2020 10:02:26 GMT -5 swamp said:

Mar 31, 2020 9:55:08 GMT -5 Gardening Grandma said:

I can understand.  It would help me to know who to be angry at.  We've all been told that it can be spread asymptomatically, so any time we are around other people we could be spreading or catching it.  Going to any gathering endangers others.

A study in China showed that 86% of the COVID cases were spread by asymptomatic people.

then nobody should have been there.   

Agreed.  My cousin's husband died a week ago.  There is no funeral.  A memorial is scheduled tentatively for July.  I feel bad for her because she is having to deal with her loss alone.  But it's the right thing to do

[mmhmm]

Mar 31, 2020 9:55:08 GMT -5 Gardening Grandma said:

Mar 31, 2020 9:49:21 GMT -5 swamp said:

I don't understand this. 

Why would it help to know?  if nobody was obviously sick, it wasn't done intentionally.    

I can understand.  It would help me to know who to be angry at.  We've all been told that it can be spread asymptomatically, so any time we are around other people we could be spreading or catching it.  Going to any gathering endangers others.

A study in China showed that 86% of the COVID cases were spread by asymptomatic people.

Actually, it wouldn't help. Years ago, in the ICU, a patient took a turn for the worse and the doctor was called. He came in and proceeded to pitch a hissy, pointing the finger at nurses and assessing blame. I'd had enough and pointed out to him that while he was figuring out who to blame his patient was turning blue so perhaps we should deal with the patient's needs first and worry about assigning blame later. He wasn't happy at the time but, today, he's one of my dearest friends. Getting angry at whoever you believe to be at fault doesn't ever solve the problem at hand. Blame, if there is any, can most certainly wait.