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Post by jerseygirl on Nov 6, 2019 9:51:34 GMT -5
Always wanted to be a scientist and travel
Accomplished, have a PhD and worked for pharma company and traveled in Europe and Asia
Never thought about marriage or kids until I got married and then had 3 kids, so that would be surprising for the me up to 21
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Post by Pants on Nov 6, 2019 9:52:48 GMT -5
Shes old, fat, and boring. And what’s with the kids and husband? Cute dog, though. Same.
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Post by countrygirl2 on Nov 6, 2019 9:56:21 GMT -5
Would think, man, she has really gotten lazy in her old age. And why am I not working at some job instead of sitting around here? Sad that my career got cut short with family obligations, but it turned out ok anyway.
And that stupid foot finally gave out that I worried about and had hurt all my life, pretty much what I expected to happen.
Surprised hubs got a job assignment that set us up for retirement better then we thought it would.
And life turned out to be pretty durn good.
So overall pretty positive things.
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Post by OldCoyote on Nov 6, 2019 10:14:54 GMT -5
A better question for me would be,
What would you Mother and Father think of you today? I think they would be quite pleased on how I turned out.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Nov 6, 2019 10:40:56 GMT -5
My younger self would be utterly amazed I wound up a disabled housewife. I spent so much of my life working to improve myself into a certain position and was thisclose to getting there.
I never expected to marry, had planned my life around being by myself. However, life throws you curves and you just gotta go with it.
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mollyc
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Post by mollyc on Nov 6, 2019 10:58:59 GMT -5
Surprised I ended up with a DH, a DD and dogs. I always assumed it would be me and maybe a couple of cats in an apartment or a rowhouse. I figured I'd own way more books then I do. Life with DH and DD meant I had less time to read and less money and space for books.
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Post by Tennesseer on Nov 6, 2019 11:01:33 GMT -5
“Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans.”
John Lennon
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Post by Anne_in_VA on Nov 6, 2019 11:08:53 GMT -5
I always wanted to be a teacher, but no way to go to college out of high school. From the wrong side of the tracks and girls didn’t go. Got married too young, had DS, got divorced, met 2nd H, got married and only worked part time while DS was in school. Got divorced again and after dating for a few years decided I didn’t want that and decided I would be alone doing what I wanted.
I think my younger self would be surprised that I ended up with a job I loved, making a great salary that has given me the means to retire comfortably, I met 3rd H by a fluke and we’re really happy together. We have 3 kids together and 9 grandchildren. I never expected that!
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Post by giramomma on Nov 6, 2019 12:03:00 GMT -5
A better question for me would be,
What would you Mother and Father think of you today? I think they would be quite pleased on how I turned out.
That depends on your mother and father. I'm well educated (working on my second masters), I have four healthy children that are really quite wonderful, a pretty good marriage, done well enough financially, nearly *always* made good decisions, and generally I'm a pretty decent person. My parents still think I'm sub par. I know they are not pleased at how I turned out. (Mom is sure to tell me.)
I try not to take it personally, because I don't think they are pleased with much of anything.
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giramomma
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Post by giramomma on Nov 6, 2019 12:08:37 GMT -5
My younger self would look at me now and alternate between , , and . My younger self would also be surprised I don't do more of this .
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NoNamePerson
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Post by NoNamePerson on Nov 6, 2019 12:09:15 GMT -5
gs11rmb , it's nice to almost have a neighbor. See? I'm an almoster! DS lives in VaHi. I used to go down to visit often, but the drive from here to there and back again anymore is intimidating and nerve-wracking. It's either I75 or 285 to I20. Enough to strike terror into the heart of Mario Andretti. Nah, just do what I used to do when driving to Atlanta. Grip the wheel, close my eyes and hope for the best! Now I just fly to Atlanta area to visit friends. eta I’ve taken the MARTA once long ago. Interesting ride
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gs11rmb
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Post by gs11rmb on Nov 6, 2019 13:24:46 GMT -5
A better question for me would be,
What would you Mother and Father think of you today? I think they would be quite pleased on how I turned out.
That depends on your mother and father. I'm well educated (working on my second masters), I have four healthy children that are really quite wonderful, a pretty good marriage, done well enough financially, nearly *always* made good decisions, and generally I'm a pretty decent person. My parents still think I'm sub par. I know they are not pleased at how I turned out. (Mom is sure to tell me.)
I try not to take it personally, because I don't think they are pleased with much of anything.
That's just so sad. I'm very glad that you're not continuing the cycle with your own children. Are your parents disappointed in their grandchildren as well? I know I've said this before but I'm happy to repeat myself... the older I get the more grateful I am for my rather boring but emotionally stable childhood.
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Post by giramomma on Nov 6, 2019 14:47:02 GMT -5
Are your parents disappointed in their grandchildren as well? Dunno. My kids don't have a relationship with my parents. My folks don't ask about my kids, either, really.
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Post by souldoubt on Nov 6, 2019 15:05:07 GMT -5
I never really had expectations for myself other than graduate college, have a career and be able to stand on my own two feet. Next year will be my 20th reunion and if you would have asked 18 year old me if I thought I'd have kids by then the answer would be yes. I never had a set age I thought that would happen at rather 18 year old me would think at 20 years out it would happen especially given my parents were in their early 20's when I was born. I've traveled more than I ever thought I would, have a great job/career, everyone is happy and relatively healthy and I married my best friend. 18 year old me would probably think I'm boring but 18 year old me had a lot to learn and some of what definitely done the hard way.
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Post by Tiny on Nov 6, 2019 15:05:48 GMT -5
I'm pretty sure my parents would still be disappointed in current me (they've been dead 25 years plus). I like to think that I wasn't the kid they were hoping for and they were too old/tired to make a go of it with what they got. I can forgive them for that - it's hard to be your best self when you are tired and there's no end in sight. . I think my younger self would be hopeful for my future since I've managed to get to where I am today. I think my younger self might be a little disappointed that I'm still kind of the same person I was back then. My younger self underestimated the amount of time and effort things take. I thought maybe I would have found "the right kind of weird" person to marry or cohabitate with by now. It's ok that it didn't happen yet.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 6, 2019 15:28:35 GMT -5
My younger self would be impressed with the personal experiences/travel I’ve had but would be absolutely shocked I don’t have a family.
Career wise I’m spot on to the job I mapped out at the beginning of college.
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Post by Lizard Queen on Nov 6, 2019 16:15:04 GMT -5
A better question for me would be,
What would you Mother and Father think of you today? I think they would be quite pleased on how I turned out.
That depends on your mother and father. I'm well educated (working on my second masters), I have four healthy children that are really quite wonderful, a pretty good marriage, done well enough financially, nearly *always* made good decisions, and generally I'm a pretty decent person. My parents still think I'm sub par. I know they are not pleased at how I turned out. (Mom is sure to tell me.)
I try not to take it personally, because I don't think they are pleased with much of anything.
Well, I think you're pretty great! My parents weren't thrilled with me, either. For my mom, I should have been more help domestically as a consolation for not being a boy. She wanted to leave me at the hospital after I was born. My goal in going to college was to find a husband. She was never satisfied, either. My dad also wanted to be more the old time domestic housewife type, but at least he knew I was his only child vhe could actually rely on. But I know how he digged it when my siblings would go to him for help *ahem money. My dad felt important by coming to the rescue! I was a little too independent for him, though that was because he rarely just offered to help. You had to come to him, if you catch my drift. I couldn't imagine treating my own kids that way.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 6, 2019 17:53:35 GMT -5
I'm pretty sure my parents would still be disappointed in current me (they've been dead 25 years plus). I like to think that I wasn't the kid they were hoping for and they were too old/tired to make a go of it with what they got. I can forgive them for that - it's hard to be your best self when you are tired and there's no end in sight. In the book "Women who Run with the Wolves", the author, a Jungian analyst, tells about her Misplaced Zygote Theory. If you feel out of place in your family it's because the Zygote Fairy was flying over your town with her basket of excited little zygotes and she hit an air pocket. Your zygote flew out and landed in the wrong house. She explains that that's why you do cartwheels down the hall and your family's idea of excitement is folding towels. They're always wondering what you're going to do to disgrace them. I laughed out loud at that. It still makes me smile. I think many of us are misplaced zygotes. One additional thought I had: My younger self would have laughed hysterically at my Church Lady Self studying for a Lay Preaching License. I stayed out of organized religion for 20 years and then found one that kept the traditions of the one where I was raised but considers birth control a matter of individual conscience and believes that neither sex or sexual orientation should enter into the decision of whether or not someone is a candidate for ordination. I've been a member for over 25 years.
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Post by tractor on Nov 6, 2019 18:18:21 GMT -5
My younger self would be amazed that I not only have kids, but love them more than I ever thought was possible. He would also wonder why I live in a cabin in the woods instead of that high rise condo we always dreamed about, then there would be questions about all those tractors and what’s going on with those rusty things out in the yard...
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Post by thyme4change on Nov 6, 2019 18:49:08 GMT -5
I believe my younger self would wonder why I live in such a small, plain house and drive such basic cars given that I have so much money in the bank. And not just wonder - but offer a large amount of criticism on my sad, pathetic choices.
I was a materialistic asshole.
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Post by gs11rmb on Nov 7, 2019 8:08:51 GMT -5
I believe my younger self would wonder why I live in such a small, plain house and drive such basic cars given that I have so much money in the bank. And not just wonder - but offer a large amount of criticism and my sad, pathetic choices. I was a materialistic asshole. This makes me smile because I overheard my 11 year old daughter on the phone to a friend who was coming to our house for the first time. She was warning the friend that we live in a "one storey house" . My husband and I joke that we're going to leave the girls a million dollar teardown!
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Post by Miss Tequila on Nov 7, 2019 9:12:02 GMT -5
I believe my younger self would wonder why I live in such a small, plain house and drive such basic cars given that I have so much money in the bank. And not just wonder - but offer a large amount of criticism and my sad, pathetic choices. I was a materialistic asshole. hahaha! to be fair, I was never materialistic. I literally know what it is like to wake up and have no heat because your mom didn't have money to buy oil. I have substantial assets to draw up if the need ever arises, but I forever live in a world of "worst case scenario". My poor daughter thinks we are poor and has no idea what I'm actually worth. We live in a blue collar town, I drive a "new" 4 year old car (I drove my sold my other car when it was 14 years old!), etc. So I think my younger self would be surprised that I still carry baggage like that with me. My younger self would probably tell me to live a little. But my older self has a goal of very early retirement and I could totally kick my younger ass!lol
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Post by hoops902 on Nov 7, 2019 9:28:39 GMT -5
I believe my younger self would wonder why I live in such a small, plain house and drive such basic cars given that I have so much money in the bank. And not just wonder - but offer a large amount of criticism and my sad, pathetic choices. I was a materialistic asshole. This makes me smile because I overheard my 11 year old daughter on the phone to a friend who was coming to our house for the first time. She was warning the friend that we live in a "one storey house" . My husband and I joke that we're going to leave the girls a million dollar teardown! I always grew up thinking we were poor. I'd see those "big" 2-3 story houses in town and think "wow, rich people must live there". We lived in a house out in the country that was 2500 square foot basement, but only 1000 square foot first floor (walkout basement with all the bedrooms, first floor had the living space, built that way for minimal taxes and ease of DIY). As a kid, I was always thinking only rich people could live in town, we must be poor to be living on 10 acres in the country. Once I realized my dad made a good amount of money I remember thinking "why do we live in this when we could be living in a house with multiple stories like rich people"...and now that I'm older and making good money I'm thinking "I hope I make enough money to live in a house like that instead of living in town and there's no way I want a 3-story house". It's funny how so many of the things I thought defined rich and poor as a kid are 180 degrees different now.
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Post by Lizard Queen on Nov 7, 2019 10:13:46 GMT -5
I grew up in a tiny 3 bedroom ranch, and always dreamed of having an upstairs. I've had 2 townhomes apartments in my 20's, and grew to hate the stairs when I had 2 flights between the washer/dryer and my bedroom! I suppose it is built in exercise, though.
(And now my kids wish we had an upstairs. Maybe someday, but the laundry room would have to be on the same floor as the bedrooms.)
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Post by Deleted on Nov 7, 2019 10:22:56 GMT -5
I believe my younger self would wonder why I live in such a small, plain house and drive such basic cars given that I have so much money in the bank. And not just wonder - but offer a large amount of criticism and my sad, pathetic choices. I was a materialistic asshole. Add me to this one, my younger self thought I would be driving a Corvette and living in a home like in a rap video with the money in the bank at this point, he would scoff at the 4 year old Accord and Townhome.
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Post by NastyWoman on Nov 7, 2019 11:00:01 GMT -5
My younger self would probably go "Uuummm, didn't see that one coming". I probably would get a passing grade from her though, but definitely not a WOW!
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Post by swamp on Nov 7, 2019 11:15:07 GMT -5
My younger self would also tell me to get rid of the 5 year old dented minivan and get a BMW SUV.
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Post by thyme4change on Nov 7, 2019 11:27:23 GMT -5
My younger self would also tell me to get rid of the 5 year old dented minivan and get a BMW SUV. I agree with your younger self on that one. 😝
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Post by Cookies Galore on Nov 7, 2019 12:09:28 GMT -5
I think my younger self will be pleased to learn I married a hottie and turned out nothing like my mom when it comes to money and finances. Younger self would think it's crazy how much I look like her now. Younger self probably think I'm a sellout for living in the burbs and not being a journalist living in a city somewhere, but at least I'm an editor working in Philly, so there's that. Younger self was a political geek and would be happy to see current self is still a political geek and involved.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Nov 7, 2019 12:55:14 GMT -5
My younger self would wonder why it took me so long to get my nose pierced. I've wanted to do it since I was 14.
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