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Post by countrygirl2 on Jul 28, 2019 12:06:33 GMT -5
I wanted a horse from the time I was a kid. My family was poor, we had the acreage 25 acres but it was planted. I would dream and dream about having one. Did as an adult, hubs said cost to much and we never lived on enough acreage to have it. Now I couldn't ride one if I had it. We could keep it on 2 acres, but its pointless, can't take care of it and sure couldn't ride it now. But never got over that wanting one.
The other is I've always wanted a pool, nothing grandios, 4 foot deep only. Most of the docs I've had said it would be fantastic for my osteoarthritis and my joints. but no, hubs, cost to much, to much work.
If I'm ever alone and even if I'm 90 I'm going to have a pool, I will hire it cared for. Doesn't matter if its just an above ground pool I still want it.
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Post by pooks on Jul 28, 2019 13:59:14 GMT -5
I've always wanted to build a custom home. We looked at land every time we moved, considered tear-downs, and it never penciled out. We would always move in with negative equity, because lots are expensive in places we want to live. I doubt it will ever happen, which is fine, but I do get a little envious of those who can make it work.
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Post by weltschmerz on Jul 28, 2019 14:04:31 GMT -5
I will never live in a Passivhaus, but I always wanted to.
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Post by andi9899 on Jul 28, 2019 14:35:04 GMT -5
Obedient children
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Post by NoNamePerson on Jul 28, 2019 14:41:15 GMT -5
I've always wanted to build a custom home. We looked at land every time we moved, considered tear-downs, and it never penciled out. We would always move in with negative equity, because lots are expensive in places we want to live. I doubt it will ever happen, which is fine, but I do get a little envious of those who can make it work. I took up your slack. Built 3 while married and one after divorce. You still have time. I loved every aspect of it from finding lot to designing where every wall outlet was to be. Always subbed out the building. Ok, I’m a frustrated construction/home builder. Go for it.
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Post by Anne_in_VA on Jul 28, 2019 15:27:07 GMT -5
I’ve always wanted a large home, but always settled for what I could afford. If I ever win the lottery, I’m buying my large house and get someone to clean it.
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Post by sesfw on Jul 28, 2019 15:58:48 GMT -5
1957 Chevy Bel-Aire hard top, without a continental kit
This was the 'in' car when I was in high school and the envy of everyone. Closest we got was in 1967 we bought a 57 station wagon that was a lemon from the get-go. 283 V8 and it went through 5 heads in 18 months. We never did find the hot spots.
There is a beautifully restored one here in town that I look at but know it's not in my future.
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Post by Tennesseer on Jul 28, 2019 16:10:09 GMT -5
I wanted a horse from the time I was a kid. My family was poor, we had the acreage 25 acres but it was planted. I would dream and dream about having one. Did as an adult, hubs said cost to much and we never lived on enough acreage to have it. Now I couldn't ride one if I had it. We could keep it on 2 acres, but its pointless, can't take care of it and sure couldn't ride it now. But never got over that wanting one. The other is I've always wanted a pool, nothing grandios, 4 foot deep only. Most of the docs I've had said it would be fantastic for my osteoarthritis and my joints. but no, hubs, cost to much, to much work. If I'm ever alone and even if I'm 90 I'm going to have a pool, I will hire it cared for. Doesn't matter if its just an above ground pool I still want it. The first half of the movie The Black Stallion is probably many a young child's dream relationship (other than how the horse and the boy ended up on the uninhabited island).
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Post by Tennesseer on Jul 28, 2019 16:11:11 GMT -5
World peace and to be the natural born son of Queen Elizabeth II.
Neither are EVER going to happen.
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Post by mroped on Jul 28, 2019 16:35:35 GMT -5
I've always wanted to build a custom home. We looked at land every time we moved, considered tear-downs, and it never penciled out. We would always move in with negative equity, because lots are expensive in places we want to live. I doubt it will ever happen, which is fine, but I do get a little envious of those who can make it work. The thing that many people go for when considering building a house is going to a builder. And I’m saying that as someone that works in the trades! Keep in mind that a builder will always make at least a 25-30% on top of the actual cost of the house that meaning that for a house that you can build for $400k you will in fact pay at least $500k. And for what? Planing and coordinating people and ask them to do their job? Granted, it takes time to line up with everyone, find the right people for the project etc but for $100k anybody with a bit of common sense can do it. and patience of Course!😂
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Post by countrygirl2 on Jul 28, 2019 16:59:19 GMT -5
My husband and I built one ourselves. We got the kit from Lowe's and did it all. I learned to finish drywall in that house. We worked over a year and got it done' Ended up leaving and moving, was hard but it paid off for us in the long run. We had about $35k in it and sold it for $55k.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Jul 28, 2019 17:32:41 GMT -5
I've always wanted to build a custom home. We looked at land every time we moved, considered tear-downs, and it never penciled out. We would always move in with negative equity, because lots are expensive in places we want to live. I doubt it will ever happen, which is fine, but I do get a little envious of those who can make it work. The thing that many people go for when considering building a house is going to a builder. And I’m saying that as someone that works in the trades! Keep in mind that a builder will always make at least a 25-30% on top of the actual cost of the house that meaning that for a house that you can build for $400k you will in fact pay at least $500k. And for what? Planing and coordinating people and ask them to do their job? Granted, it takes time to line up with everyone, find the right people for the project etc but for $100k anybody with a bit of common sense can do it. and patience of Course!😂 That's why we always subbed out our houses. But EX worked for building supply place here (only one in town at the time) and owned by his uncle and another dude so we knew all the best trades pEEps. I also sold real estate for part of the time married and knew the ins and outs from the ground up. I loved building the houses. We also did some of the "grunt" work ourselves but then again I loved it. Also know it isn't for everyone!
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Post by dannylion on Jul 28, 2019 19:57:41 GMT -5
I wanted a horse from the time I was a kid. My family was poor, we had the acreage 25 acres but it was planted. I would dream and dream about having one. Did as an adult, hubs said cost to much and we never lived on enough acreage to have it. Now I couldn't ride one if I had it. We could keep it on 2 acres, but its pointless, can't take care of it and sure couldn't ride it now. But never got over that wanting one. The other is I've always wanted a pool, nothing grandios, 4 foot deep only. Most of the docs I've had said it would be fantastic for my osteoarthritis and my joints. but no, hubs, cost to much, to much work. If I'm ever alone and even if I'm 90 I'm going to have a pool, I will hire it cared for. Doesn't matter if its just an above ground pool I still want it. I always wanted a horse, too, Pat. Now that I have several friends who have horses and can see how much work and expense it is to take proper care of them and how expensive it is to participate in horse-related hobbies (like dressage and jumping and the like), I am content to enjoy interacting with their horses when I have the opportunity and no longer want one of my own. I will freely admit that the main reason is that I am probably too lazy to do all the work necessary to be a good horse caretaker. I do still love them, though. I have some friends who have trail horses and just recently adopted a rescued mustang and a rescued wild burro. Their kids are very responsible and have grown up caring for animals, so they are very involved in all the work, but the adults still have to spend many hours in horse-related duties. I'm having fun watching the progress they are making in training the mustang and the burro, but when it's really hot outside or raining or snowing, I'm glad I don't have outdoor animals who require my attention.
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Post by countrygirl2 on Jul 28, 2019 20:22:43 GMT -5
Hubs had a horse growing up and told me what it cost and the work involved. He and his brother had them when they were older and sold them when they were wanting cars.
I know I can't now but its one of those things that you just have that want for back in your mind and can't quite get rid of it.
Hubs friends have a pool and he keeps telling me its just to much work. I told him I will quit a garden if you get me one. I think he just ignored me. But I know it would feel oh so good on my body. We have a huge tub in here but not a whirlpool, we had one he put in our last house and I loved it. Like I said would be happy with one of those 30 ft 4 deep ones or something like that. DD would like it too I'm sure.
Wonder if I could get one of those portal spa things for my big tub. It's oval though and thick walls so not sure if it would work.
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Post by cktc on Jul 28, 2019 20:31:57 GMT -5
An art career. Hopefully someday I can pursue it more as a hobby.
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Post by resolution on Jul 28, 2019 20:36:24 GMT -5
I would really love to hire a housekeeper to come clean the house every week or two weeks. Before I got married, finances were tight enough so it would have been irresponsible, so I never did it. Now that I am married and we have two incomes, we could easily afford it, but DH and his family would consider it to be lazy and immoral to pay someone to do work that we can do ourselves. So I have gone from having financial pressure not to do it, to having peer pressure not to do it.
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Post by billisonboard on Jul 28, 2019 20:45:47 GMT -5
I would really love to hire a housekeeper to come clean the house every week or two weeks. Before I got married, finances were tight enough so it would have been irresponsible, so I never did it. Now that I am married and we have two incomes, we could easily afford it, but DH and his family would consider it to be lazy and immoral to pay someone to do work that we can do ourselves. So I have gone from having financial pressure not to do it, to having peer pressure not to do it. we have someone in our family who seriously needs a little financial assistance. We provide that and she shows her appreciation by stopping by very other week and does some cleaning for us.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 28, 2019 21:09:00 GMT -5
I've always wanted to run away and study the orangutans.
That would mean giving up my entire life though.
I did manage to spend three weeks in Borneo and see them in the wild when in college. It was worth the extra $5k in loan debt.
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Post by kadee79 on Jul 28, 2019 21:49:16 GMT -5
I always wanted a piano & lessons. I never learned how to read music properly...but I know that the notes going up/down determine if the sound is high pitched or low...so I taught myself how to play a few songs, but only the notes...no chords. This was back when I was still in grade school...my church let me use their piano.
Countrygirl….think about volunteering at a stable or riding arena one or two days a week. Maybe that would satisfy your wanting a horse. We had them, I don't ever want them again. Your DH is correct about both expenses and work!
CK, don't ever give up...ya just never know.
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Post by taz157 on Jul 28, 2019 21:55:14 GMT -5
Thanks to you, it lead me to the Lego website rabbit hole. I even had the Disney Castle in my cart, but cooler heads prevailed and I removed it from my shopping cart. FWIW, my DD will be turning 8 in about a week and she LOVES Disney!
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Post by Tiny on Jul 28, 2019 22:05:18 GMT -5
Hmmm. 1.) A 1972 Meadow Green Chevy Malibu 402 in excellent drive-able condition and a silver Alpha Romeo Spyder (S3) and then an all around beater mobile for routine driving (quite possibly a pickup with a hitch). 2.) A house with a dedicated "game room" -with a big table and lots of storage for the games. It would need a "wet bar" to hold all the soda/non-alcoholic beverages and snacks. 3.) The house would also have a 'pet room' for the cats (glass/screen divider doors, easy to keep clean floor/lower walls, windows, a counter and some cabinets, place for cat boxes, cat beds, and cat trees,maybe some "ledges" on the walls for climbing- for when they need to be sequestered, or I'm on vacation or just their 'safe room'. 4.) There would be a catio, too. 5.) The house also would have a three car garage. 6.) I'd love to own a horse - but I'm too old. That means I want my house (with the 3 car garage and pet room) on some horse friendly land in a horse friendly place- so I can have/run a barn and pastures and offer boarding to other horse owners. I'd probably have a couple of school horse and have a 'teacher' who could offer lessons. I'd have chickens, goats, whatever else... I'd spend all my time running my barn, playing games with family/friends, maybe fostering cats (or running a limited "cat bed" cat retirement home (the Sunny Spot Cat Retirement home), and driving my cool cars on nice days. (Ok, there would probably be a restored Airstream trailer that stayed out back -- for use on road trips when I need to get away. )
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Post by countrygirl2 on Jul 28, 2019 22:56:31 GMT -5
I'm to old to work with horses so that's out. But it was something I just really wanted. You start to realize your to old to do somethings anymore.
I haven't given up on the pool, I know its a lot of work too.
I have already told hubs that in time I'm getting help to clean, that is going to happen eventually. Not ready yet.
Yes, I was one too when I worked would have been made fun of by family if I got someone to clean. I did for awhile when I had surgery for a couple of months then stopped, that was years ago. But I will again one day.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Jul 29, 2019 6:37:58 GMT -5
Not something I have wanted all my life but I dreamed of replacing Lars as the drummer for Metallica back in the 80's. Thinking about it I always wanted to learn to play the drums but settled for piano as a kid. Had a choice of piano or dance and I couldn't see me in a tutu.
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Post by thyme4change on Jul 29, 2019 7:25:18 GMT -5
Kari - tell you husband's family to suck it, and get one. Providing a job for someone carries no shame, in fact, it is kinda immoral to not give someone a job. Plus, besides your husband, how would his family even know?
Drama - your kids will grow up and move out, and maybe you will get an opportunity you havent considered yet. Especially if you look for it and make it happen.
Country - why couldn't you ride? I know lots of seniors who ride. They often use horses that aren't known for their spunk. But, there are a lot of older, quiet horses out there who need a lot of love.
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Post by tractor on Jul 29, 2019 9:25:42 GMT -5
Great Question. I have many wants, and hope to have them before I pass away, so at this point I’m not willing to make a list. 🙂
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jul 29, 2019 9:53:05 GMT -5
Hubs had a horse growing up and told me what it cost and the work involved. He and his brother had them when they were older and sold them when they were wanting cars. I know I can't now but its one of those things that you just have that want for back in your mind and can't quite get rid of it. Hubs friends have a pool and he keeps telling me its just to much work. I told him I will quit a garden if you get me one. I think he just ignored me. But I know it would feel oh so good on my body. We have a huge tub in here but not a whirlpool, we had one he put in our last house and I loved it. Like I said would be happy with one of those 30 ft 4 deep ones or something like that. DD would like it too I'm sure. Wonder if I could get one of those portal spa things for my big tub. It's oval though and thick walls so not sure if it would work. What about one of those hot tubs with a lid? In the backyard? Would that be less work than a pool?
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jul 29, 2019 9:58:29 GMT -5
In no particular order: 1. go into space. 2. be an archaeologist.
3. buy a house. I've never bought a house. I went from my parent's house to apartments to DH's house. He bought it about 2 years before we met. The closest I've come is buying land and looking at vacation homes.
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Post by Ryan on Jul 29, 2019 10:11:03 GMT -5
I've always wanted to build a custom home. We looked at land every time we moved, considered tear-downs, and it never penciled out. We would always move in with negative equity, because lots are expensive in places we want to live. I doubt it will ever happen, which is fine, but I do get a little envious of those who can make it work. The thing that many people go for when considering building a house is going to a builder. And I’m saying that as someone that works in the trades! Keep in mind that a builder will always make at least a 25-30% on top of the actual cost of the house that meaning that for a house that you can build for $400k you will in fact pay at least $500k. And for what? Planing and coordinating people and ask them to do their job? Granted, it takes time to line up with everyone, find the right people for the project etc but for $100k anybody with a bit of common sense can do it. and patience of Course!😂 Our GC was so great and did so much on the project, I couldn't imagine doing it myself. If I worked from home, then maybe I'd consider it because scheduling would be a bit easier.
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