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Post by swamp on May 8, 2019 8:34:58 GMT -5
Mother's Day is Sunday.
Do you do anything special with your family?
Frankly, it just seems like another pain in the ass for me. My kids are in dance, there is a 3 day recital and one of the days is always on Mother's Day. It has to be that way because of auditorium availability, proms, SAT's, large school sports events, etc.
DS's birthday is also May 10, so it's always on or around Mother's Day, so that's another thing to do.
I don't want to do anything "extra," I just want to be left alone.
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Post by Deleted on May 8, 2019 8:38:37 GMT -5
Every year for the past decade or so I drive two hours to the cities to deliver flowers to stepmom and sisters then come back home the Wisconsin side and stop at my Mom's. If it's a nice day, I enjoy the drive, but my entire day is usually shot.
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Post by steph08 on May 8, 2019 8:39:52 GMT -5
We won't do anything. My youngest daughter's birthday is May 13, so always right around Mother's Day. On Saturday, we have a t-ball game at 11 am for our oldest daughter, then a birthday party at 1 pm for our youngest. On Sunday, I want to get up early and run on the trail in peace and quiet. Then I want to eat leftover birthday cake and nap.
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Post by swamp on May 8, 2019 8:40:17 GMT -5
Oh yeah, I also deliver flowers to my mom, who has dementia. After I leave them there, she has no idea where they came from and will tell me that she bought them when I come by the next day.
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Post by chiver78 on May 8, 2019 8:46:02 GMT -5
I'm packing the pups in the car and driving up to see my parents this weekend, not sure which day yet. they haven't gotten back to me on that. I've got gift baskets of random things for both parents (one big thing for dad is something that will make work easier for him, so I'm not waiting til Father's Day), and the pups love seeing them. other than that, not much.
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Post by chapeau on May 8, 2019 8:48:13 GMT -5
All of the girls in my family are going to the ballet this year—sleeping beauty. DD is already disappointed because she was expecting the Disney version. 🙄 As far as I’m concerned, the real day I get to myself is Father’s Day, when I can tell DH to take DD to spend the day with His father. Even a couple of hours alone would be great. No physical gift necessary. (Although our foreman-type grill needs to be replaced, so that might be my “gift.” Getting DH to quit using a scouring pad on it would be a real present!)
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Post by Tennesseer on May 8, 2019 8:50:36 GMT -5
Oh yeah, I also deliver flowers to my mom, who has dementia. After I leave them there, she has no idea where they came from and will tell me that she bought them when I come by the next day. My mom had Alzheimers. My sister 'Ruth' was visiting mom one time and mom did not recognize her when Ruth entered the room. Mom asked Ruth what was her name. Ruth replied "It's me. Ruth." Mom replied it must be a coincidence because she had a daughter named Ruth too. Ruth just smiled and went with the flow.
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Post by Miss Tequila on May 8, 2019 8:52:13 GMT -5
Second year in a row where our cruise leaves on mother’s day. I like the idea of forced togetherness!lol. My oldest is 20 so getting time with her is precious to me now. I remember complaining about all of the competetitikns and driving when she was in competition cheer. I miss the time with her though.
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Post by jelloshots4all on May 8, 2019 9:12:02 GMT -5
I'm taking my kids to brunch. Took flowers to my mom and sister last weekend. The rest of the day I'm laying on the couch.
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Post by Deleted on May 8, 2019 9:21:40 GMT -5
Was talking to my buddy yesterday who is taking his 5 year old out of school Friday in the afternoon so she doesn't have to be around when all the other kids are making cards for their moms, her mom died when she was 2.
This is an incredibly hard day to get through for a lot of people that have lost their mom or couldn't have kids of their own.
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Post by Malarky on May 8, 2019 9:34:06 GMT -5
DD will be in Germany on vacation with her boyfriend and DS is likely to forget. It's all good. I have pretty great kids all year long and I don't need or want anything. The fact that they acknowledge that my being a hardass when they were growing up was good for them is priceless. DH will probably want to take me out to dinner which I'll refuse because I loathe restaurants on holidays. Give me a random Wednesday night dinner any time, the staff isn't usually stressed. I'll most likely be in my recliner bing watching movies.
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Post by Cookies Galore on May 8, 2019 9:36:59 GMT -5
If hubs is dumb enough to make a brunch reservation for his mom I will not go. If his sister is hosting something then I will attend. I refuse to buy into the restaurant madness that is Mother's day. It is the worst day of the year for servers and I'm still traumatized from my days as a waitress.
My mom is a couple of hours away so I won't drive up there since I end up just clock watching when I visit on a Sunday. I will take her out to dinner the next time she comes down to visit my grandmom. I'm going on vacation with mom next month and sister and I are paying her share of the vacation house, so that's kind of a gift.
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Post by bean29 on May 8, 2019 9:49:10 GMT -5
If hubs is dumb enough to make a brunch reservation for his mom I will not go. If his sister is hosting something then I will attend. I refuse to buy into the restaurant madness that is Mother's day. It is the worst day of the year for servers and I'm still traumatized from my days as a waitress. My mom is a couple of hours away so I won't drive up there since I end up just clock watching when I visit on a Sunday. I will take her out to dinner the next time she comes down to visit my grandmom. I'm going on vacation with mom next month and sister and I are paying her share of the vacation house, so that's kind of a gift. For years my SIL refused to go to my Mom's for Mother's day, at first we understood because it was "her" day, but in later years, it seems part of her objection was that Mom had to cook on what SIL thought should be Mom's day off.
We have a First Communion on Saturday in Chicago for our Friend's sons. Mom said she hurt her back, I offered to take Friday off and clean my house so I could host, Mom decided she would hope her back gets better by Friday/Saturday. I think she is going to get fried chicken from the Deli at the Grocery Store - otherwise she talked about Pizza. I took a half day so I can help her clean. She said she does not think she needs much more than that.
My niece's (also Goddaughter) birthday is Saturday. Sis is having Mom over for dinner. My DH's birthday is Monday the 13th also. Hopefully we can go out on Friday. DD is working 4:30 am -9:30 am Sun-Thurs and she is still in school until 5/17? so I don't want to maker he go out with her Dad Monday evening.
I have always said as long as Mom and MIL are with us, I really don't mind it not being all about me. I want to honor them too.
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Post by sheilaincali on May 8, 2019 10:03:47 GMT -5
My son goes to school 12 hours away. I told the Hubs the other day "low key remind the kid that mother's day is Sunday". I'll get a text from the Boy, maybe a phone call. It's all good. Hubs will give me a card from the dogs and probably something wonder woman themed or a pair of chucks.
My mom gang goes to a local winery for Mother's Day. A bunch of the kids are friends (elementary school aged) and the winery does a mimosa thing. We take over a group of tables on the back lawn. Kids run around and explore the grounds and we drink wine and eat snacks. It's a whole family thing. I think this will be the third or fourth year of doing it. Always a fun, relaxing time.
I'll stop by and drop off a plant or something to my mom. DH is estranged from his mom so I'm off the hook with regards to the MIL.
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Post by giramomma on May 8, 2019 10:10:06 GMT -5
We'll visit DH's parents for a while. I'm not sure what else. I could be meeting a potential client in the evening.
We have other "must do" projects..and since we actually don't have to be 334534 different places, we need to take advantage. May is the month for getting Miss M out of our room, which means cleaning up two separate spaces, etc. I need to spend time in my flowerbeds. The weather has been bad for that all this week..and looks to clear up this weekend. I need to get going reading and doing research so that I can get my project proposal (8-12 pages) drafted and possibly approved by the end of the month. I can't do anything else. I can't do hobbies with 16 month old getting into everything. She's figuring out how to climb furniture, and yesterday learned she could flush a toilet. I can't binge watch GoT with the 7 year old around.
We also have 5 family birthdays in late April-May. So, we're getting together to visit quite a bit already.
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Post by Anne_in_VA on May 8, 2019 10:32:32 GMT -5
Probably nothing and I’m fine with that. DH usually gets me something, and DD has the kids make me a card, but that’s it.
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Post by wvugurl26 on May 8, 2019 10:33:47 GMT -5
I have no idea what is going on. I'm going home to visit my family next weekend when I have my 3 day weekend.
We have a graduation dinner Saturday night with DH's family.
DH says someone usually has a cook out. It's Wednesday and I haven't heard anything. I don't mind hosting his parents. Our main level is in good shape.
I actually have a gift for his mom this year. We had them up for dinner recently and his mom said she hates to cook anymore so I'm fine with hosting them.
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Post by NoNamePerson on May 8, 2019 10:34:50 GMT -5
My son and I always do Mother's Day. Do it on Saturday. This year, as always, he asked what I wanted to do. He's driving me to New Orleans to see a Chihuly glass exhibit. He just does whatever I want to do Trips down the delta on airboat, trips down 5 rivers on boat, duck boat tour, adventures of all kinds. He has treated me "special." But there is no other family to consider. I cherish my time alone with kiddo and we talk about everything under the sun when alone.
And then he will tell everyone within earshot that I've dragged him on another one of my culture trips. He's been calling them that since he was around 12.
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Post by TheOtherMe on May 8, 2019 11:42:04 GMT -5
Mom is deceased so I'm going to see David Crosby and will be recovering on Sunday.
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Post by NastyWoman on May 8, 2019 11:50:39 GMT -5
Mom is deceased so I'm going to see David Crosby and will be recovering on Sunday. Well that asks for a more complex response, so here goes: , ,and
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Post by andi9899 on May 8, 2019 11:56:06 GMT -5
Every year we go to my grandma's and my grandpa will grill. We also go there on father's day and grandma cooks.
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Post by weltschmerz on May 8, 2019 12:38:45 GMT -5
DS usually buys me hanging baskets of flowers. This year, everything has to come inside at night, due to freezing weather.
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Post by weltschmerz on May 8, 2019 12:41:12 GMT -5
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Post by stillmovingforward on May 8, 2019 12:55:02 GMT -5
I'm going to run off to the mountains where no one can find me and there aren't any crowds. Just me and the big dog. The kids can text later but I don't expect them or care if they do. I tell them EVERYDAY is mother's day!
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Post by dannylion on May 8, 2019 13:00:29 GMT -5
My mother died 10 years ago. I have no children. I will probably knit and maybe take a nap.
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Post by Pants on May 8, 2019 13:04:50 GMT -5
Dd1's bday is this weekend. Then Mother's Day. Then our anniversary. Then DD2's bday.
Aka I get no Mother's Day. Or anniversary really.
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Post by Regis on May 8, 2019 13:25:00 GMT -5
This year I'll get to watch my mother meet her great granddaughter for the first time.
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Post by hoops902 on May 8, 2019 13:29:00 GMT -5
Probably take my kids out to see my mom and play with her, since that's about the only thing they or her really like to do.
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Post by Deleted on May 8, 2019 13:39:48 GMT -5
Mother's Day is always a dilemma for my daughter. There's her husband's mother, her grandmother (ex's mom) and her stepmother. Plus, me. Guess who never sees her daughter on Mother's Day. I've gotten used to it and actually told her to quit stressing. I'll see her when my sister gets here in early June. My son always takes me to McDonald's with a couple of his kids. It is a remnant of his childhood when McDonald's ran a promotion where mothers ate free. So he and his sister took me and my MIL every year. They stopped that years ago, but it is still what we do. They do come to the one closest to me, which I appreciate. They live 45 minutes away, and I hate to have to get up early in order to celebrate myself.
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Post by ohmomto2boys on May 8, 2019 13:51:05 GMT -5
As far as my mom is concerned, she passed away a little over a year ago. I will put flowers at her grave. As far as my MIL is concerned, I have no idea what DH is planning to do. Probably nothing. He is a complete bear. As far as I am concerned. My kids will probably make me a card. DH told me a couple months ago that he will be doing nothing for me because I am not HIS mother. Again, he is a bear and is having issues. To me, mothers day is just another day. The only thing I don't do on mothers day is cook. If that requires me to call or order food on-line I will do that and we will eat off paper plates. DS#2 has a soccer game on Sunday which I really enjoy watching him play. I'm hoping for nice weather, but I won't hold my breath.
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