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Post by thyme4change on Jan 7, 2019 22:44:47 GMT -5
I was from a family of 5 in a 3 bedroom 1 bath. I think there are a lot of families of 3 or 4 in 3/1 houses. There must be because there are a ton of 3/1's in this town. Yes. my family of 6 was in a 3 bed/1 bath until I was 5 years old and I was the youngest. Then my parents de-converted the upstairs apartment - by putting in stairs (used one of the barely 10*10 bedrooms). So, my 3 older sibs had 2 bedrooms upstairs with a bath and I and my parents got the 2 remaining bedrooms on the first floor. There was never a shower in the upstairs bath - just tub, toilet, sink. And I agree with you that there are alot of families in 3 bed/1 bath houses (and apartments). There's a lot of old housing stock out there in suburbia. I don't think many 3 bed/1 bath houses or apartments or condos were built after the 1970s, though. So, I'd venture to say that houses built post 1980 will almost always be a minimum of 3/2 or 2/2 houses. When my age group was buying starter homes in the mid-90's, I was shocked at how small they could make a bedroom. Some of those houses had a couple of 8x8 bedrooms, and then a bigger master - but by golly they were 3 bd/2 bath!!
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Post by msventoux on Jan 7, 2019 22:59:40 GMT -5
I suspect I might have trouble selling my house as it’s a 2 bed 1 bath ranch. I did consider that when I bought it, but the other houses that were 3 bed 2 bath in my price range had essentially the same square footage, resulting in ridiculously tiny rooms and weird layouts. I figured at the time I’d rather live with larger, more functional rooms instead of more teeny tiny ones. Of course, now I’d like to upgrade to 3+ bed/2+ baths, but I would want a house with more square footage even though it’s just me and my menagerie of pets.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jan 8, 2019 10:00:00 GMT -5
I would not want to give up the second bathroom. I grew up with one bathroom and there were times you'd end up dancing at the door when someone was taking a long time! It would be a treat to have an en suite but it's not a must have/ Right now I only have to share a bathroom with ISO so it's almost an ensuite. If I'm living with more than one other person, there needs to be at least 2 bathrooms. DS only stays with me for half the week but I have lost count of how many times one of us has done the "gotta pee" dance because the other one was using it. I cannot fathom sharing ONE bathroom with more than one other person. Do you time your pees/poos, or does everyone have a bucket in the bedroom?
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Post by Deleted on Jan 8, 2019 10:04:06 GMT -5
I would not want to give up the second bathroom. I grew up with one bathroom and there were times you'd end up dancing at the door when someone was taking a long time! It would be a treat to have an en suite but it's not a must have/ Right now I only have to share a bathroom with ISO so it's almost an ensuite. If I'm living with more than one other person, there needs to be at least 2 bathrooms. DS only stays with me for half the week but I have lost count of how many times one of us has done the "gotta pee" dance because the other one was using it. I cannot fathom sharing ONE bathroom with more than one other person. Do you time your pees/poos, or does everyone have a bucket in the bedroom? I had brothers and we lived in the country, so I'm guessing if they had to go they just went outside. I don't know, it never seemed to be a real issue, but we were all on different schedules the years I lived with them.
These days I'm totally spoiled as everyone in my house has their own bathroom. It's part of the reason I'm having such a hard time finding the "perfect" house in town. All were built pre-master bedroom time. I really, really don't want to give up having a master bath that nobody else uses but me.
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Post by thyme4change on Jan 8, 2019 10:08:48 GMT -5
I would not want to give up the second bathroom. I grew up with one bathroom and there were times you'd end up dancing at the door when someone was taking a long time! It would be a treat to have an en suite but it's not a must have/ Right now I only have to share a bathroom with ISO so it's almost an ensuite. If I'm living with more than one other person, there needs to be at least 2 bathrooms. DS only stays with me for half the week but I have lost count of how many times one of us has done the "gotta pee" dance because the other one was using it. I cannot fathom sharing ONE bathroom with more than one other person. Do you time your pees/poos, or does everyone have a bucket in the bedroom? In polite society, we call that a chamber pot. I😉
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Post by azucena on Jan 8, 2019 13:57:19 GMT -5
I will be 40 tomorrow and I grew up in a one bathroom house with my parents and 4 siblings (7 total). Pretty sure the boys went outside to pee, but getting ready in the mornings was tough. The kicker was that we only had a bathtub and no shower, and we were on well water so we were only permitted to bath every other day. This is a huge reason why last year I was getting so mad making DD9 shower every other day. Like flat out forcing her to shower because she stank. Now, this year, she's taking an hour bath every day (her quiet, solo, reading time).
I do remember when I was 11 and my mom was staying overnight in the hospital after delivering my last brother. The aunt who was staying with us had us take a bath in two inches of water, absolutely not a drop more, and it went youngest to oldest in the same water. BLECH. So then I realized it could be worse than our current family rules.
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Post by dannylion on Jan 8, 2019 15:23:19 GMT -5
The first house I remember as a child had 2 bedrooms/1 bathroom for 3 people (I was an only child). This was in the early 1950s. When I was 7, we moved to a 4-bedroom, 3-bath house, at which point I learned to appreciate the sheer luxury of having more than 1 bathroom.
After moving out on my own, there was a series of studio and 1-bedroom apartments with 1 bath, Air Force barracks with plenty of bathroom facilities, then more 1-bedroom, 1-bath apartments, then a 2-bedroom, 2-bath apartment, then a 4-bedroom, 4-bath townhouse (where I might still be living if the family from hell hadn't moved in next door--I loved that house), and now a 4-bedroom, 4-bath SFH (where even if the family from hell moves in next door, at least we're on half-acre lots, not attached at a wall). Now that I am an old person, I appreciate having a bathroom handy no matter where I am in the house.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jan 8, 2019 16:33:38 GMT -5
I will be 40 tomorrow and I grew up in a one bathroom house with my parents and 4 siblings (7 total). Pretty sure the boys went outside to pee, but getting ready in the mornings was tough. The kicker was that we only had a bathtub and no shower, and we were on well water so we were only permitted to bath every other day. This is a huge reason why last year I was getting so mad making DD9 shower every other day. Like flat out forcing her to shower because she stank. Now, this year, she's taking an hour bath every day (her quiet, solo, reading time). I do remember when I was 11 and my mom was staying overnight in the hospital after delivering my last brother. The aunt who was staying with us had us take a bath in two inches of water, absolutely not a drop more, and it went youngest to oldest in the same water. BLECH. So then I realized it could be worse than our current family rules.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jan 8, 2019 16:45:04 GMT -5
Mom grew up during the depression. 13 children and 3 half children plus parents in the house with no indoor plumbing.
They had a metal tub that was filled with heated water (heated on a wood burning stove) on Saturday night. Everybody took a bath before the water was tossed for the week.
She and her sisters wore clothes made out of flour sacks.
We have no idea of the luxuries we had.
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Post by dannylion on Jan 8, 2019 16:49:13 GMT -5
Is it wrong of me to be curious about the half children?
I feel like it might be wrong.
But I still wonder about the other half.
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Post by NastyWoman on Jan 8, 2019 17:01:27 GMT -5
Is it wrong of me to be curious about the half children? I feel like it might be wrong. But I still wonder about the other half. Fauns?
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jan 8, 2019 19:54:35 GMT -5
Is it wrong of me to be curious about the half children? I feel like it might be wrong. But I still wonder about the other half. They always referred to them as the half sisters. Grandma had a daughter when she married Grandpa. Grandpa was a widow with two young daughters. Mom and dad taught us to refer to my dad's daughter from his first marriage as our half sister.
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Post by laterbloomer on Jan 8, 2019 19:58:51 GMT -5
Is it wrong of me to be curious about the half children? I feel like it might be wrong. But I still wonder about the other half. They always referred to them as the half sisters. Grandma had a daughter when she married Grandpa. Grandpa was a widow with two young daughters. Mom and dad taught us to refer to my dad's daughter from his first marriage as our half sister. zoom
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Post by dannylion on Jan 8, 2019 20:02:55 GMT -5
Is it wrong of me to be curious about the half children? I feel like it might be wrong. But I still wonder about the other half. They always referred to them as the half sisters. Grandma had a daughter when she married Grandpa. Grandpa was a widow with two young daughters. Mom and dad taught us to refer to my dad's daughter from his first marriage as our half sister. Oh. I see. They were half siblings, not actual half children. I get it now.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jan 8, 2019 20:05:57 GMT -5
Yes, half siblings. The language I was taught was not clear. I never heard of step-brothers and sisters until I was an adult.
My dad was the only divorced family member on his side until one of his brother's divorced after he had 20 years in the Navy. It just didn't happen.
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Post by dannylion on Jan 8, 2019 20:29:33 GMT -5
Yes, half siblings. The language I was taught was not clear. I never heard of step-brothers and sisters until I was an adult. My dad was the only divorced family member on his side until one of his brother's divorced after he had 20 years in the Navy. It just didn't happen. No problem. I should have recognized it as a language issue. All clear now. It's interesting how family relationships, which are some of the most fundamental elements of any culture and might be expected to be universally understood, often turn out to be a source of confusion because they are treated and described very differently from one language to another.
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Post by laterbloomer on Jan 8, 2019 20:33:55 GMT -5
Yes, half siblings. The language I was taught was not clear. I never heard of step-brothers and sisters until I was an adult. My dad was the only divorced family member on his side until one of his brother's divorced after he had 20 years in the Navy. It just didn't happen. We knew what you meant but the way you said it made them sound like mythical creatures. Like this
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Post by stillmovingforward on Jan 8, 2019 20:45:48 GMT -5
I have a 3/1 house. No rumpus room either. For 6 of us. Everyone adjusts. But they thought dorm living was amazing when they went to college. 🤣
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Post by Cookies Galore on Jan 9, 2019 6:50:16 GMT -5
I would not want to give up the second bathroom. I grew up with one bathroom and there were times you'd end up dancing at the door when someone was taking a long time! It would be a treat to have an en suite but it's not a must have/ Right now I only have to share a bathroom with ISO so it's almost an ensuite. If I'm living with more than one other person, there needs to be at least 2 bathrooms. DS only stays with me for half the week but I have lost count of how many times one of us has done the "gotta pee" dance because the other one was using it. I cannot fathom sharing ONE bathroom with more than one other person. Do you time your pees/poos, or does everyone have a bucket in the bedroom? At least a one-and-a-half bath was high up on the list of needs when we we house hunting, but then we saw our house and threw that list out the window. And that's the story of how we ended up with a 3/1. Hubs and I have lived in one bed/one bath apartments for nearly nine years before buying so it wasn't that huge a deal for us. We do have parties at least once a year (I counted 50 at hubs' 40th birthday party last year - eeep), but so far so good with the toilet! Our plan is to eventually add a bathroom but that shit costs money. As anxious and high-strung as I am, I do adjust to circumstances easily.
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Post by gs11rmb on Jan 9, 2019 8:47:57 GMT -5
I have a 3/1 house. No rumpus room either. For 6 of us. Everyone adjusts. But they thought dorm living was amazing when they went to college. 🤣 Ha! I watched an episode of "Tidying Up" and the owners talked about a rumpus room. I'd never heard that term in my life and then a few days later there it is again!
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Post by nidena on Jan 9, 2019 9:06:43 GMT -5
Language is a funny thing: I call my step mom my Second Mom 'cause she's awesome. She has three kids but I rarely talk about them except when she mentions them by name. I mean, we're all grown and far-flung so nobody is rightthere to be talked about.
Related to the thread: my family had a pool put in around the time I turned 8. Standard, concrete, kidney-shaped thing poured into the earth. Only poor people had "doughboys". It wasn't until I got to the East Coast that I saw that "above-ground" pools were quite common and they weren't a poor person thing. Some people have in-ground pools. I still wonder what the deciding REGIONAL factor is because if it was frozen ground then nobody would have an in-ground pool. Oh...and fences. In California, they're just called fences. From the Midwest to the East coast, they're called privacy fences. I guess because, in California, they're ALL for privacy. Almost nobody has those short, waist-high, chain-link fences; except in their front yards.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jan 9, 2019 11:22:27 GMT -5
Yes, half siblings. The language I was taught was not clear. I never heard of step-brothers and sisters until I was an adult. My dad was the only divorced family member on his side until one of his brother's divorced after he had 20 years in the Navy. It just didn't happen. We knew what you meant but the way you said it made them sound like mythical creatures. Like this Well, the two sisters from Grandpa's marriage were mythical creatures to me. They weren't around us when I was growing up and I don't know if I ever met one of them.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Jan 9, 2019 15:18:49 GMT -5
Language is a funny thing: I call my step mom my Second Mom 'cause she's awesome. She has three kids but I rarely talk about them except when she mentions them by name. I mean, we're all grown and far-flung so nobody is rightthere to be talked about. Related to the thread: my family had a pool put in around the time I turned 8. Standard, concrete, kidney-shaped thing poured into the earth. Only poor people had "doughboys". It wasn't until I got to the East Coast that I saw that "above-ground" pools were quite common and they weren't a poor person thing. Some people have in-ground pools. I still wonder what the deciding REGIONAL factor is because if it was frozen ground then nobody would have an in-ground pool. Oh...and fences. In California, they're just called fences. From the Midwest to the East coast, they're called privacy fences. I guess because, in California, they're ALL for privacy. Almost nobody has those short, waist-high, chain-link fences; except in their front yards. Well, where I am I hear both. I assume "privacy fence" means one you can't see through or over, and the other is any old thing, chain link or short or whatever.
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Post by zibazinski on Jan 9, 2019 21:19:23 GMT -5
Five women and one man using one bathroom. I bet my grandpa peed in the backyard a lot! I do remember him putting a sink and a mirror in the garage. There were actually three bedrooms one bath with two car attached garages. My aunt lived in one and a toilet was put in the garage. I’ll bet that saved a lot of dancing
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Post by NastyWoman on Jan 9, 2019 21:30:01 GMT -5
Five women and one man using one bathroom. I bet my grandpa peed in the backyard a lot! I do remember him putting a sink and a mirror in the garage. There were actually three bedrooms one bath with two car attached garages. My aunt lived in one and a toilet was put in the garage. I’ll bet that saved a lot of dancing Well, European houses used to have one bathroom total, but the shower/bathtub were in a separate room from the toilet. Still, that said my parents had 2 sons and 5 daughters and we had no backyard, so no outdoor peeing either. We all just went in there really fast and did our business → no dawdling allowed. Note that xH grew up with a similar setup and they had 2 more kids...
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Post by zibazinski on Jan 9, 2019 21:33:06 GMT -5
When I looked for my first home I wouldn’t look at any house that didn’t at least have a bath and a half. It curtailed a lot of houses but I never regretted it. Best thing ever was moving to Florida where masters had en suites. Woo! Hoo!
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Post by laterbloomer on Jan 9, 2019 21:34:36 GMT -5
Five women and one man using one bathroom. I bet my grandpa peed in the backyard a lot! I do remember him putting a sink and a mirror in the garage. There were actually three bedrooms one bath with two car attached garages. My aunt lived in one and a toilet was put in the garage. I’ll bet that saved a lot of dancing Well, European houses used to have one bathroom total, but the shower/bathtub were in a separate room from the toilet. Still, that said my parents had 2 sons and 5 daughters and we had no backyard, so no outdoor peeing either. We all just went in there really fast and did our business → no dawdling allowed. Note that xH grew up with a similar setup and they had 2 more kids... My friend's house in Belgium was like that. Made sense to me except there was no sink in the toilet room so I had to go right to the bath room anyway.
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Post by zibazinski on Jan 9, 2019 21:36:01 GMT -5
Or wash hands at kitchen sink
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Post by teen persuasion on Jan 11, 2019 12:41:16 GMT -5
Language is a funny thing: I call my step mom my Second Mom 'cause she's awesome. She has three kids but I rarely talk about them except when she mentions them by name. I mean, we're all grown and far-flung so nobody is rightthere to be talked about. Related to the thread: my family had a pool put in around the time I turned 8. Standard, concrete, kidney-shaped thing poured into the earth. Only poor people had "doughboys". It wasn't until I got to the East Coast that I saw that "above-ground" pools were quite common and they weren't a poor person thing. Some people have in-ground pools. I still wonder what the deciding REGIONAL factor is because if it was frozen ground then nobody would have an in-ground pool. Oh...and fences. In California, they're just called fences. From the Midwest to the East coast, they're called privacy fences. I guess because, in California, they're ALL for privacy. Almost nobody has those short, waist-high, chain-link fences; except in their front yards. Definitely regional differences - growing up, chain link fences were the most common fence I saw. But they were only ever for the backyard, nobody fences their front yard! Mostly they were to keep pets or possibly small children from wandering. In my parent's neighborhood, they are to prevent outsiders from cutting thru their backyard to reach the park behind the houses. My parents never wanted to fence the yard in, but in later years they did run a small fence + gate between neighbors' fences and their house to close the gap and prevent cutters from wearing a path between the houses. Now, with swimming pool laws, most people fence because of the pool, I think. Maybe privacy fences are more common because some communities require higher fences with pools, or in the thought process that not being able to see the pool reduces the "attractive nuisance" aspect of pools. Never heard the term doughboy for an above ground pool!
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jan 11, 2019 16:57:44 GMT -5
In a town of 2000 in rural Iowa, I don't see privacy fences. There are not even chain link fences in my neighborhood.
I see some with dog runs and some with above ground swimming pools with fences around only the pool.
Some put a privacy fence around the patio or enclose the deck.
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