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Post by singlemomky on Apr 4, 2011 8:29:29 GMT -5
MK - Thanks for the prayers. Yes she was alone.
Apparently another car ran a stop sign which caused her to hit that car. She spun around and hit the utility pole which cut her car in half. She was then flown to my city to the regional truama center with a spleen injury, cervical and thoracic fractures, small amount of blood on her brain and a cut on her forehead. She has already had a 2 hour surgery to the forehead laceration and a central line inserted. Since she is still in a drug-induced coma, there is not a lot of information on her neurological state nor on her mobility. It appears that she is at least partially paralyzed but there won't be much clarity until she is able to breathe on her own, come off the ventilator and somewhat communicate w/the physicians.
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Post by MittenKitten on Apr 4, 2011 8:33:36 GMT -5
I heart my Discover Card. It is the credit card I use most often. Someone got ahold of my CC number and made a fake card and charged something yesterday in PA, they put a fraud alert on my card and my card is now cancelled with only the one charge for them to take care of. Could have been a whole lot worse!
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Post by Honeylioness on Apr 4, 2011 8:49:55 GMT -5
Since I took the weekend off here are my less-than-timely responses: ;D startsmart - I hope you are feeling better and a bit more rested. If you would like any assistance with building walls or drawing lines you know you can always contact me. I would love to see you have some more balance in your life for your own peace of mind. And OMG on the number of e-mails you get. Are they all work related and do they all REALLY contain important information/action items or are they just piddly cr@p?? gin1984 - I can understand being frustrated with your mid-term grade - sorry it stressed you out so much. I think resigning sooner rather than later is the best thing for you to do in the long run. Your supervisor sounds as though she has poor people management skills if she is that ill staffed and has lost that many employees in a short time. One of my frustrations working in HR is seeing people get promoted to supervise others just because of how long they have been here. With no training, mentoring or even a seminar to give them some basics of how NOT to be either a despot or try to be their employee's best friend. It is a skill like any other and has to be taught. spruby - How are you enjoying your iTouch? We do need to remember that it is okay to be nice to ourselves once in a while as long as we don't put the mortgage payment at risk. reenee - Wow, so how did the weekend move-in go? I really wish I was closer as I have way too much kitchen "stuff" and would prefer to give it to someone I know rather than just donate it. I also started out with hand-me-downs, Goodwill finds and yard sale items. Most of which were NOT what I would have chosen if given a choice (i.e. style/color) - however they were affordable, could be cleaned and functional. As time went by I was able to gradually replace these with what I really wanted or that fit my "style". Kudos to you for being a wonderfully level headed, practical, frugal and mature young woman which many people twice your age never become. nuttinhoney - Sorry to hear about your Uncle. How are you holding up? mcreal - Welcome! Ask any questions you want because the only silly question is the one not voiced. shanendoah - Welcome Larry!! singlemomky - Your poor friend, of course we will keep her in our thoughts. mittenkitten - I empathize with dealing with double-standard parents, especially mothers. We had one like that when I was in 3rd-5th grade. It got so bad that one late afternoon the two husbands pulled into the cul-de-sac to find my mother and the other one going at it like they were auditioning for the WWF while the kids just stood there in shock. The dads jumped out of their cars as two other neighbors came running out of their houses to break up the cat fight. Let's hope it doesn't come to that at YOUR house. Good thing there was no such thing as YouTube back then! Birthday - Thank you all for your B-Day wishes here and on FB. It actually was a really good weekend. The girls got me pink carnations and yelled "Happy Birthday" when I came down in the morning. My brother sent me roses (Haven't received flowers from anyone in years). We went shopping at the local Asian market and Siying had a blast finding things for dinner. The girls basically did all the food themselves with very little supervisor or assistance from "mom" and dinner was really good. My best friends came up for dinner as well - and even though one layer of my cake fell apart, it still tasted yummy! I got some of my favorite chocolates from See's (which you cannot get on the East Coast) from my parents. The girls got me a new Italian cookbook, a pink freshwater pearl necklace AND an iPod Nano. And my best friend got me an iPod Touch, and an adapter kit so you can play it through your car radio, a case and loaned me her external hard drive with over 10,000 pieces of music on it for me to "borrow" whatever I liked! So guess what I spent most of my Sunday doing? I don't really consider myself a fan of technology but this thing IS pretty cool. And I can put it in my pocket and wear the headphones now when I am stuck in the file room for hours on end. I must say, this was the best birthday I have had in a long long time - even though I am NOT Happy about being this old!!!!!!!!
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Post by sheilaincali on Apr 4, 2011 8:52:23 GMT -5
Update: 2/25 NSD, 2/25 NEO nuttin: Sorry to read about your uncle. Hugs to you. For the sake of your family I hope that "3" thing is a wives tale that doesn't come to pass. Reenee: Congrats on the new place. Sorry you had a fight with your aunt. Let me know if there is anything you need. Super excited for you- you have been working toward this goal pretty much the entire time you have been here with us. mcreal: Welcome to our little family.
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Post by mcreal on Apr 4, 2011 10:14:19 GMT -5
Update - 1/12 CS, 3/18 NS
Feeling a bit guilty about spending today. One of the wild-cards in my life of spending is the house. I do not have the funds to set aside for maintenence and repairs, since my focus is to eliminate my CC debt. My house is suffering from years of neglect. I am happy to do most of the work myself, but I just hate it when I have to head to home depot. Yesterday, I was working in the yard and one of my large containers collapsed. It was very old. It held a stunning climbing white rose. I hunted around for a substitute and then gave up. Grabbed my home depot list and shopped as thrifty as possible. It was $179. I know maintenence is not cheap, and it is unrealistic to pretend things won't happen, but I still feel guilty when it does. (I know my relationship with money has alot to do with guilt - something I have to figure out to get ahead)
Today the car goes in for an oil change, let's hope they find nothing urgent in the inspection.
I appreciate the warm welcomes and look forward to learning from youall.
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Post by shanendoah on Apr 4, 2011 10:53:13 GMT -5
Update: 2 of 14 CSD, 0 of 12 NSD, 2 of 12 MOANWe spent every day this weekend (Fri-Sun) but since I planned to spend on those days (well, except for the almost $300 for Larry) those are controlled spends. We had to buy him a collar from the humane society, but other than that, it looks like our only "start up" costs are going to be a seatbelt harness (our two spares are for much bigger dogs), the license, and a tag with his name and our information. Oh, and the initial vet visit, though we do have a coupon for that from the Humane Society, but I'm still figuring we'll need to pay something. On Saturday morning, I got up and mowed the front lawn, so that's MOAN number 1. Then we spent most of yesterday working on clearing some really big stuff out of the basement to take to the . So that's MOAN number 2. I am sillily excited about the flood remediation work that will take place next Monday. No more water in the basement! Sadly, the weekend was not all exercise and new puppies (well, Larry's 3, so not a puppy, but still). On Friday, the MIL fell in her shower (again) and called 911 (again) to get her up. And guess what? You do that too many times in too short a time period and they file a report with the state. So now, there will be an investigation and the state will get to decide whether or not she can live on her own. Problem with that, of course, is that 1) Assisted Living is EXPENSIVE - more expensive than she can afford, and a lot of places around here won't take Medicare. 2) Most assisted living places are senior care and only licensed for those 65 or over. The MIL won't be 65 until May 2012. We're hoping that the report comes back that she simply needs homecare - someone in the house when she showers (as she only falls in the tub). Still, most places bill in 4 hour increments, no matter how much time they are there, and again, expensive and we don't know how much Medicare will cover, since this isn't something her MD is recommending, but something the state is requiring. For now, we've told her that she needs to start taking her showers in the evening, when we can come get her if she falls. She does have an appt with a knee surgeon next Monday, and we're hoping that if her knee gets fixed up, that will help tremendously and might make a difference in the state investigation. Honey: Stop your complaining. 35 is not old. (By they way, 35 is where I've decided to stop aging.) smokey: My thoughts are with you, your friend, and her family. nuttin: Hugs to you at this difficult time mcreal: I don't know the area you live in, but might I suggest you make a list of the things you think you might need over the summer, home repair wise, and start keeping an eye out for garage sales? My mom is the queen of garage sales and is always, always finding stuff she needs for so much less than retail. Just a thought for making the $$ stretch. renee: Send me a list of what you still need. I haven't been down to Portland to visit my cousin for a while, so I could easily pack a few things up in the car, head down and meet you somewhere.
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Post by azmom on Apr 4, 2011 10:53:34 GMT -5
Hello..I'm back out of extreme need. My pockets have holes in them and I am bleeding money HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY HONEY! Singlemom: Prayers sent and continued Rennee: Congrats on your new apt. Sorry about the circumstance for the quick move-in. I LOVE and admire your outlook. It is so refreshing in this "poor me world" Start: I hope you are feeling much better Nuttin: Sorry about your uncle..HUGS McReal: Welcome Shannen: Awe congrats on Larry MK: Phew-glad discover was on top of things...I thought for sure we had some fraudulent activity on our card but no they were all of our stupid purchases Sheila: Hoping your DH gets the job...What a blessing that would be. If I missed someone or something I am sorry. I will try and keep up as of now~try being the key word Well back to me. I feel like I need to go back to square one. Our life is dramatically different from when I first started but at least I have a foundation this time around. I'm looking at my April Calendar and I have THREE blank days. On most days there are several things going on. I'm having to figure out dinner and time management all over again. I need to get more skilled with the crock pot. I'm enjoying the busy but my pocket book is not. Since I'm starting over I am going to try and get as many NSD as possible but my real focus this month is writing down every single penny I spend and this board will be great place for accountability. This morning I need to go grocery shopping, take a book back to the library and pick up a preschool packet for the baby. Not to mention my house looks like a tornado touched down. Later today I will leave my house at 4:10 to drop off two of my kids with my MIL so I can take my daughter to Private Pitching Practice at 4:30-5:15p. I will go and pick up the two kids and head home arriving at about 5:45p and we have to leave our house at 6:25 to make it our Small Group at 6:30p. DH will meet me there straight from work and stay a few minutes before he has to take DS to Baseball Practice at 7p. We will all get home between 8:30 and 9:00p. This is just MONDAY folks! That leaves me with a 40 minute window to get dinner cooked and served to the kids-which seems like plenty of time but I somehow can't seem to get it down. We also end up making a separate dinner for DH and I since he doesn't even make it home for dinner and walks through our door for the first time at 9p at night! I need some balance like yesterday.... Oh and I am still trying to get my blog up and running. I have made some changed including the blog address...here is the link if you are at all interested anotherhousewife.wordpress.com/
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Post by dakota4600 on Apr 4, 2011 10:54:50 GMT -5
I'm in for April, though it doesn't look like it is going to be a great month. So far I have 1 CS. Saturday was supposed to be an NS. We were gong to the Topeka Zoo and it was listed as a free admission with our FOTZ's membership, but when we got there it was 50% off instead. So we spent $5.75 to get in. It is a great little zoo all the animals are easy to see. They had a baby hippo (Awwwwwwww) and a baby giraffe. Daddy giraffe was a little randy and tried to convince mom to let him try for number 2 while the baby was nursing. Mom and baby were not amused. There was a great park across the street where we ate lunch and let mini-D play on the playground. Friday I went to a consignment sale and only spent $17 on clothes for mini-D. Sunday DH & I went to lunch before tackling organizing our storage locker. (Most of the mess were the empty boxes DH was hoarding over there. We decided that we didn't need all them and just kept a few nice ones). So now there are a couple clear shelves and a lot of floor space. I brought back a few tubs that were full of misc stuff, so I could sort and decide what to keep and what to toss. We also found our Nativity set which was MIA last Christmas. mcreal- Welcome, I'm going to be heading to a garden center soon and am hoping to keep it to under $100 for plants for the pots on my porch and a few spots in the garden. Home maintenance is expensive there is no doubt about it. We budget about $100 a month for that. We don't spend it every month, but let it build up so when we need a new lawn mower or to pay for routine maintenance we have have it earmarked already. It takes the guilt out of the flower purchases too. Smky- Prayers for your friend. Honey- Happy belated birthday! Enjoy your i-PODs. If you like audio books you can download those as well. Mitten- I dislike obvious double standards with kids. We had lunch with friend of mine a few weeks ago. His first wife died when their daughter was 2. He re-married about 18 months later and his new wife treats the daughter really harshly, especially when you see her interact with their son. She pregnant with number 3 right now. I really worry about the girl, part of it is her mom was one of my best friends and I see her when I look at her. But my mommy bear instincts come out and I want to protect her. DH without my mentioning it noted it after our last visit with them. The mom took away the girl's pencil, because she waved it near her brother's face, but there were no consequences for him when he was stealing food off her plate. I know I'm seeing a brief snapshot of their lives, so I try to give the mom the benefit of the doubt.
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Post by Honeylioness on Apr 4, 2011 11:11:31 GMT -5
shanendoah - pffttttttttttttt .... 35 - I WISH !!!!!!!
Nope, I am seriously on the wrong side of 40 and rushing headlong towards the big scare 5-0.
God, when did I get to be this old with my life looking nothing like I had planned??
*le sigh*
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Post by sheilaincali on Apr 4, 2011 11:49:51 GMT -5
Home/Yard maintenance. I discovered this last year and thought I would share. I wanted pretty bright red flower pots but couldn't stomach the $$$$. So on a whim I decided to buy the plain light tan super cheap ones and a can of "plastic" spray paint. Worked like a charm. So now I have the bright red pots I want and if I want to add more I just need to spray paint the new ones and they will all coordinate DH doubted it would work and was pleasantly surprised that it did.
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Post by mcreal on Apr 4, 2011 11:51:11 GMT -5
Shanendoah -
My mom fell a number of times after my dad passed away in December. I need you to know, getting medicare involoved was the best thing to happen. First of all, she began to take it more seriously. Secondly, they seemed all about keeping her in her home. They came with physical therapy exercises and home modification recommendations. They supervised her for two months and she has done nothing but improve and thrive. The workers were optimistic and supportive. It was a great experience. I was certain she would be in assisted living, but now she is gardening and doing housework like the old days.
Hope this helps.
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Post by reeneejune on Apr 4, 2011 12:20:02 GMT -5
Honey - I am a firm believer that God/The Higher Power/Whatever does NOT have a plan B for our lives. We are each where we are in life because this is exactly where we are meant to be. All of our experiences, trials, tribulations, sorrows, joys, and learning experiences work toward the life we're meant to have and bring us into contact with people we will be a blessing to and who will be a blessing to us in return. We just have to chose to accept that this really is meant to be and chose to find joy where we're at. I'm glad you're here, because it's a blessing to know you and count you as a virtual friend. And I'm sure your exchange students are glad you're where you're at, because I know you're a wonderful substitute parent. Hugs! Shan - I'll message you with a list. About homecare, I happen to know quite a bit about this subject since much of my family is in the field. A 4 hour minimum sounds really high to me unless MIL lives far out of town or the agency would have to send someone far out of their way to see her, both of which I doubt from what you've said about her situation. If that really is the minimum for all of the agencies in the area, you may also be able to work something out with the worker assigned to your MIL. My aunt and my mom both frequently break up the time they spend with clients to best meet their needs. In OR, if your MIL has little in the way of assets, she can get homecare through the state senior and disability services, they base the number of allowed hours on what she needs assistance with. mcreal - a belated welcome to you! We all know about spending guilt around here. I once had to "confess" an impulse purchase of a summer dress for $12, not because the ladies were holding me accountable, but because I felt guilty about spending the money. I love that dress. smokey - Good thoughts in your friend's direction. I hope she astounds the doctors with a full and speedy recovery! MK - woohoo for the CC company being not evil! Honey 2.0 - 35?! Heck, I coulda swore you were 29 (when I plan to stop counting ) azmom - ah the dreaded days of full calendars. My only advice is take some time each year with each of the kids to make sure they're still really enjoying each of their activities and don't pressure them to continue if they're losing interest.
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Post by 3catslady on Apr 4, 2011 12:22:52 GMT -5
Honey; "Just rushing toward the big "5-0"? I wish I was there and could keep everything I know now. I'm slipping fast toward the bigger "7-0" and I am not sure that I like it at all. shanen; Love Larry. smoky; prayers and good juju to your friend. start; are you feeling better? I hope so. MK: I live with double standard parents next door. I am just waiting for the next one to be born so they can change the standards on the twins. The yelling was so terrible that I slammed the door and sat down out in my other room and cried. I am not sure it was because of the kid getting the screaming or because it brought back memories of my youth. "Whatever". nuttin: prayers and hugs coming your way. Gin; Do you have any way of improving your grades or is this a final? reenee; If we were closer I'd clean out some of my tubs that I haven't touched in 5 years and give you what you want. spruby; My DS wants me to get another laptop soon but neither of them are working. She quit to have the baby and his "boss" is in South Carolina. This week looks like rain all week so there won't be any work when he comes home. I hope the other job comes through. Mcreal; Welcome to the best group of ladies in the, in my, world. If you have a question and they don't have the answer, someone will find it and let you know. But most likely, someone on here will have the answer. And they don't care how old, or young, you are, they don't judge. At my age, "I should know better" but they never once told me that. And they did tell me to stop beating myself up. I am truly grateful to these ladies.
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Post by mizbear on Apr 4, 2011 12:28:54 GMT -5
nuttin and SMKY- prayers and HUGS
Shan- My grandmother, who is almost 78, has fallen a lot in the past 5-6 years, since an initial fall. THen more since my grandfather died almost 3 years ago. She has had to have several rehab stays, but because she can take care of her necessities, the focus is more on modifications and keeping her at home. For instance when they have the reno done, they are looking at a wheelchair ramp so I am not fighting getting her up the steps on foot- as we do not know if I will be able to once I am done losing weight- and a roll in handicap accessible shower.
I know what it's like to be raised with a double standard- hopefully someone will wake these parents up before they do serious damage.
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Post by MittenKitten on Apr 4, 2011 12:32:43 GMT -5
mcreal: Welcome
Honey: Happy Belated B-day. I hear ya on life being nothing like you planned. I will be 39 this year and while I can't say I have done poorly my life is NOT like I had mapped out in my early 20s. In many ways it is hard to reconcile.
Shanen: Congrats on the puppy. I don't do shelters, it just breaks my heart and I want to adopt them all. When I do charitable gifting it is to animal shelters/causes. I figure many humans can make thier own destiny and I never know if my dollars are going to people I feel could really use them. But with animals I KNOW it will go to a good cause.
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Post by startsmart on Apr 4, 2011 15:16:46 GMT -5
honey - age ain't nothin' but a number besides, your number comes with mucho experience and talent!
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Post by ses on Apr 4, 2011 19:19:38 GMT -5
Honey-- my father, a very wise man, said your birthday is the day your age changes one year. So one year he would be 29 and the next year he would be 28 and the next year he would go back to 29. I think he was 28(for the twentieth time) when he died. I am glad you had a good birthday.
I am still sorting through my mother's boxes of treasures. I wonder if I will ever finish. I am about 1/3 of the way done. Today I took a break and cleaned out the freezer, and found what will fill my menu plan for the rest of the month. I have to find and sterilize some jelly jars in order to get some frozen juice cooked up and out of the freezer (especially since the price of sugar keeps going up) so I can gain a little space in the freezer.
I also have been mentally inventorying the things that I buy on a regular basis that are heavy and will start to show inflated shipping charges. I am going to have a friend help me stock up on water softener salt and some buckets of kitty litter. I guess I got spooked when I heard the CEO of Walmart say we will be seeing inflated prices by June. I've already stocked up on extra flour, which has already gone up 12% in the past 5 weeks, and stashed some extra in the freezer.
All this is sort of difficult with the Spring weather we have been having lately. I am not motivated to get ANYTHING done.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 4, 2011 19:59:31 GMT -5
Honey; "Just rushing toward the big "5-0"? I wish I was there and could keep everything I know now. I'm slipping fast toward the bigger "7-0" and I am not sure that I like it at all. shanen; Love Larry. smoky; prayers and good juju to your friend. start; are you feeling better? I hope so. MK: I live with double standard parents next door. I am just waiting for the next one to be born so they can change the standards on the twins. The yelling was so terrible that I slammed the door and sat down out in my other room and cried. I am not sure it was because of the kid getting the screaming or because it brought back memories of my youth. "Whatever". nuttin: prayers and hugs coming your way. Gin; Do you have any way of improving your grades or is this a final? reenee; If we were closer I'd clean out some of my tubs that I haven't touched in 5 years and give you what you want. spruby; My DS wants me to get another laptop soon but neither of them are working. She quit to have the baby and his "boss" is in South Carolina. This week looks like rain all week so there won't be any work when he comes home. I hope the other job comes through. Mcreal; Welcome to the best group of ladies in the, in my, world. If you have a question and they don't have the answer, someone will find it and let you know. But most likely, someone on here will have the answer. And they don't care how old, or young, you are, they don't judge. At my age, "I should know better" but they never once told me that. And they did tell me to stop beating myself up. I am truly grateful to these ladies. 3cats, I need to ace my final (96%) and I will get a B but that will be hard work. Honey, she went to school for hospitality management, I don't know what her problem is honestly. She has favorites and they really are not good at what they do. The place is very screwed up in general.
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Post by spruby on Apr 4, 2011 20:31:06 GMT -5
honey - glad to hear you had a great b-day! are you loving the itouch - I'm having a blast with mine! I find that while I am not where I thought I would be - where I am is pretty cool - and certainly a far better place than the negative forces in my childhood predicted
renee - great philosophy on stuff and TV! congrats on the new place - have fun making it all yours!
3cats - does your DS want you to buy a new laptop for them or so they get your old one? I admire your patience in dealing with them, hugs
ses - prices are really headed up - good luck on the stocking up!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 4, 2011 21:06:35 GMT -5
What, I just caught what you read Spruby, 3cats, I swear one of these days I am going to visit you to slap some sense in to your son. And, Happy belated B-day honey.
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Post by 3catslady on Apr 4, 2011 22:34:59 GMT -5
spruby; He wants me to buy a new one for me so I can give mine to her because her laptop is about to die. gin; You will hurt yourself more than you would hurt him.
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Post by sheilaincali on Apr 5, 2011 8:50:00 GMT -5
Honey: Spend the 99 cents or whatever it is a download "Angry Birds". It is an amusing game to play if you are stuck in line somewhere or waiting for a movie to start. The Boys and I get a real kick out of it.
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Post by shanendoah on Apr 5, 2011 9:32:31 GMT -5
Update: 2 CS + 1 NS = 3 of 26, 2 of 12 MOAN Today will be a CS because I have a doctor's appt. Thursday will be a CS because of the vet appt for Larry (and June will get her nails clipped). Luckily, I don't think we have too many plans for this weekend, so hopefully I'll get caught up on my NSDs.
I found out yesterday that we'll be getting bonuses this year. Not a whole lot, but mine should come out to around $1,000. Most of it will go to savings, especially considering we're taking on $4,500 more in debt on Monday (flood remediation work in the basement, 1 yr same as cash financing). However, April and May are filled with extra activities, so it will make a nice cushion for that as well. Starting next week, we have Seattle Restaurant week (for 2 weeks, Sun-Thurs) where you can go to a fancy restaurant and get 3 courses for $28. We always try to take advantage of this to eat somewhere new. This year there may have to be a couple outings, as the Melting Pot is taking part, and its not new, but yummy. At the end of this month is our annual giant birthday bash for all of the April birthdays in our group. That will cost us minimum $50. Then May has the Cheese Festival, for which I designate a miniumum of $40 to be able to spend on amazing once a year cheeses. And at the end of May, a local theater will be putting on Jesus Christ, Superstar, which is an all time favorite for DH and I, so we'll definitely be going to that.
So lots of spending plans in the next two months, but as long as I can plan for them, we're good.
3cats: Gin won't hurt herself, because I'll be right there backing her up. I know you've gotten so much better at this, but your son/dil really need to be told "too bad, so sad" and to figure it out on their own. She's choosing not to work, he's not really looking for work. You help them with the necessities, but a necessity a laptop is NOT. (And this from a pretty darn computer addicted person.)
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Post by Deleted on Apr 5, 2011 9:38:42 GMT -5
Update: 2 CS + 1 NS = 3 of 26, 2 of 12 MOANToday will be a CS because I have a doctor's appt. Thursday will be a CS because of the vet appt for Larry (and June will get her nails clipped). Luckily, I don't think we have too many plans for this weekend, so hopefully I'll get caught up on my NSDs. I found out yesterday that we'll be getting bonuses this year. Not a whole lot, but mine should come out to around $1,000. Most of it will go to savings, especially considering we're taking on $4,500 more in debt on Monday (flood remediation work in the basement, 1 yr same as cash financing). However, April and May are filled with extra activities, so it will make a nice cushion for that as well. Starting next week, we have Seattle Restaurant week (for 2 weeks, Sun-Thurs) where you can go to a fancy restaurant and get 3 courses for $28. We always try to take advantage of this to eat somewhere new. This year there may have to be a couple outings, as the Melting Pot is taking part, and its not new, but yummy. At the end of this month is our annual giant birthday bash for all of the April birthdays in our group. That will cost us minimum $50. Then May has the Cheese Festival, for which I designate a miniumum of $40 to be able to spend on amazing once a year cheeses. And at the end of May, a local theater will be putting on Jesus Christ, Superstar, which is an all time favorite for DH and I, so we'll definitely be going to that. So lots of spending plans in the next two months, but as long as I can plan for them, we're good. 3cats: Gin won't hurt herself, because I'll be right there backing her up. I know you've gotten so much better at this, but your son/dil really need to be told "too bad, so sad" and to figure it out on their own. She's choosing not to work, he's not really looking for work. You help them with the necessities, but a necessity a laptop is NOT. (And this from a pretty darn computer addicted person.) And, 3cats, I grew up with boys, I hit well ;D. I admit I am not the best daughter but my mom and I have had issues (some I have noted on this board) but I do not take advantage of her like your son tries to do to you. I just get so mad at the situation sometimes.
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Post by startsmart on Apr 5, 2011 10:50:39 GMT -5
3cats- I'm sitting here trying to imagine how your son would react if the next time he made one of these ridiculous demands you simply folded your arms, raised an eyebrow and said, "son, I know you *think* I owe you the world and a bag of chips on a platter but a lot of intelligent, gifted, sometimes violently inclined women that I know suggest I throw your lazy ass out of *my* house. What do you think about that?" Please get pictures of his face I'm still sick, thanks to those who asked. The coughing is the worst at night, I often wake up unable to stop and it gets really bad to the point where I think I'm going to throw up. Not fun. Yesterday I went out and took some pictures sitting in the dirt. Love them to bits and pieces. check them out on my blog by googling "my friend kelly" and you'll find me
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Post by azmom on Apr 5, 2011 10:54:13 GMT -5
I am pretty happy with my controlled spends yesterday. I take my DD to a private pitching coach and pay $20 a week. I had already pulled the twenty out of the bank last week to pay for yesterday. (This is something I normally wouldn't spend money on but my DD is 9 yo and has NEVER played before. She has never thrown or played catch, let alone pitch and well, she is good! She loves pitching and the pressure doesn't even seem to phase her. I on the other hand am not doing so well with the pressure but I am enjoying watching her shine. Anyhow, I played softball competitively growing up but I never pitched and I have no idea how. DH and I want her to get the fundamentals down and correct training. This is not something they teach during her team practice-pitching is a whole other animal. We haven't decided how long we will keep her in private lessons but we do have it budgeted through the end of May. Her pitching coach is pretty astounded at her ability and still my DD seems clueless about how much potential she has, she is just having fun) I also spent $25.18 at the grocery store and that should get me through Friday. I need to get some ingredients for Saturday's meal and decide on next week's menu. We have everything we need here to eat at home so the only reason we would spend on food would be a pure want...like tortilla chips and salsa! Monday I spent $45.18 and it was all planned! Today, I have no reason to even leave my house. In fact, I decided not to go to my MOMs group today so that I could spend the ENTIRE day at home cleaning and organizing. We have NOTHING going on tonight and I plan to take full advantage of that. DOUBLE STANDARDS: Well, I will give my two cents since we are a blended family and it could have easily taken place but I was hell bent on making sure my DSS did not feel that way. When we are asked how many children we have, I say we have four children and if I go on to name them I mention that he is my step-son (respect for his mom), DSS is in every single one of our family pictures, We raised DSS to always respect his mom and he was definitely raised to respect us WE were his parents-he calls me by my first name and I have never expected anything else but the respect he gives me is the same if not more than children give their parents, when he was in sports our entire family was at every practice and every football game and every wrestling match (I missed a couple while pregnant), our kids are brother and sister-they just recently were told by someone else that he was really their HALF brother and we just simply said "he IS your brother" Our kids have always respected his mom as well. They say hello and goodbye to her and our expected to carry on a conversation if it was called for. I've screwed up plenty but growing up I was shifted around and left out so much I knew I was not going to let that happen to him. The pay off is now that he is in college-he comes back all on his on to watch DS and DD play sports or sing in choir AND he choses to come back home for all the holidays or just to hang out. It makes me cry every time he walks through our door because I know that is his choice. We do parent differently to our children but our values and expectations do not waiver. Their personalities are different and that requires us to adjust our method of operation and I don't consider that a double standard,although our kids may not always see it that way, I hope one day they will understand why.
Renee: Thanks for the advice. Our kids are only allowed to do one extra curricular activity (that does not include church) but when we have so many it fills our calendar. If they sign up for something they are required to see it through. So say DS wanted to quit baseball-it's not going to happen. He has to complete the season BUT he is NOT required to sign up next year. DSS wanted to quit pop warner football every year during conditioning and yet he decided to play for five years
Mrs Lynch/Others I plan on making your chocolate chip pie today. I bought a frozen deep dish pie crust. How do I let it thaw out in the fridge or on the counter and how long does it take?
Anyone have a good Question/Challenge for this week?
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Post by 3catslady on Apr 5, 2011 11:42:37 GMT -5
gin; "The Doctor" says she is not to be on her feet but she is not on bed rest. As for putting them out on the street, if it was just him and her, this house would not have been bought and if it was bought and still no kids, it would have been sold and I would have a comfortable place some place other than here and they would be in the street or where ever they want to be. I have not given them a baby gift other than a place to live. That will probably be all they get from me. The "Bank of Mom" is on a tight budget until they pay back all they owe, and I have a list, and at that time it will be closed. There is just one account that I have to get someone's name on, "just in case". I have my sister's name on my main checking and savings and I want to get my brother's name on, the one Social Security goes into, the other checking and savings.
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Post by ses on Apr 5, 2011 11:50:43 GMT -5
In cleaning out the freezer, to freeze some extra flour, I found jugs of frozen juice from last fall that I am going to use for jelly. Most years in the fall I go out into the forest and glean wild plums, chokecherries, apples and sometimes grapes for jelly. With the price of sugar rising I want to get them made up. It is also more comfortable to make it now, rather than when it is hot and muggy. I use them for Christmas gifts with a loaf of homemade bread. Makes a very personal and unique gift for not a lot of cost. I'm getting a hankering for some cinnamon apple jelly myself.
AZmom-- you are amazing! I love all that you do for and with your family. They are blessed to have you. How did your cooking and preparing extra meals for the freezer and future meals work out? Extra coaching for DD might be laying the foundation for future college scholarship skills.
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Post by sheilaincali on Apr 5, 2011 12:05:20 GMT -5
azmom: to jump on ses's bandwagon. My cousin is a freshman in college. She is on a full ride scholarship at the most expensive private school in MN for softball. She made all state her senior year too. Of course she is wicked smart and was the co-captain of her hs volleyball and basketball teams too. But for coming from a tiny town of less than 5,000 people it's pretty impressive where she ended up. Dozens of schools were courting her. I know your DD is still pretty young but if she has the raw talent and enjoys the sport encouraging her could really pay off in the long run.
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Post by reeneejune on Apr 5, 2011 14:45:14 GMT -5
Off Topic - Sewing Types - I need some help before I pull my hair out. I have two sewing machines: A Singer Model 348 (made in the mid-60's, she's robin's egg blue and my baby) that I've sewn on for 15 years without any problems and a Montgomery Ward (mid-80's I think??) that was recently given to me so that I would have button-hole and free-arm capabilities. I pulled out my Singer this morning to work on a long over-due project, and every time I try to sew a seam I get small loops on the bottom side of the seam. I tried adjusting the tension, but it acts like I haven't done anything at all. So I pulled out the MW and it's having problems too... it will sew fine for about an inch, then it gets loops on the top of the seam. Is there something I should be adjusting that I'm not? Why did both have to go down at the same time?! I have projects due! (P.S., my singer has traveled before without needing any adjustments on arrival, so I don't think moving them yesterday had anything to do with it.) Thoughts?
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