I always get this look

[naughtybear]

When I say I rent a room. I have lived in two apartments since I left the ex. I didn't like it all, I didn't like having to be committed to a lease, I didn't like a lot of things about it after owning a home for 24 years. So when my last lease was I up my good friend offered me a room.


I am saving huge amounts of money every month which is going to my house buying fund but many people get this pity look for me when I say I rent a room.  I am a loser ? LOL

[bean29]

I think it is a great solution, especially b/c you are renting from a friend.

I had a relative that had friends renting a "room" from him back in the 80's. It went a long way to putting him in a financially secure position as a young adult.

[Deleted]

Well, at least you'll scare off guys who are after your money 'cause they'll think you're poor! Sounds like a great situation for you; I probably wouldn't do it because I like more space and I'm a bit of an introvert.

[Deleted]

I probably could never rent a room, but I have rented rooms out to people in the past and that worked out well for everyone.  I was still in college and the roomates paid me enough to completely cover the mortgage. 

[imawino]

Because that's a weird way to say it.     I'm not sure how that comes up with random people. Are they just coming up to you asking if you own your own home, and if not to describe your living situation?

If someone asks where you live, wouldn't you just say "in x neighborhood".   If they ask if you live alone "I live with a friend".  Randomly spurting out "I rent a room" sounds as though you live in a flophouse.

[Green Eyed Lady]

Maybe I should rent out a room. I have four extras. I should advertise:

Hot male who doesn't mind doing the things I hate doing.

[Deleted]

A lot of people look down on renters period. I have been a renter since November and have definitely gotten some looks/comments from friends that just can't believe someone above 30 would rent.

[NastyWoman]

May 11, 2017 10:38:30 GMT -5 Green Eyed Lady said:

Maybe I should rent out a room. I have four extras. I should advertise:

Hot male who doesn't mind doing the things I hate doing.

... and is totally into the things I like doing

Had to complete your ad, just in case you go ahead and post it.

[Tennesseer]

If it works for you, naughtybear, more power to you.

[Green Eyed Lady]

May 11, 2017 11:14:50 GMT -5 NastyWoman said:

May 11, 2017 10:38:30 GMT -5 Green Eyed Lady said:

Maybe I should rent out a room. I have four extras. I should advertise:

Hot male who doesn't mind doing the things I hate doing.

... and is totally into the things I like doing

Had to complete your add, just in case you go ahead and post it.

LOL! Thanks. I forgot that. I got hung up on the "hot" part and stopped thinking.

[naughtybear]

Deleted-wrong thread.

[sesfw]

One tine I had to rent a room while working in another town for a while.

I checked on one that had a small studio apt in her lower level that looked nice.  She told me her last renter used to come up and watch TV with her.  This lady was in her mid 30s and I was in my mid 40s.  My gut feeling was she was going to play 'mommy' to me and make sure I was home at the right time.

I declined and found another one with a lady about my age and we let each other live.

[NastyWoman]

May 11, 2017 11:16:11 GMT -5 Green Eyed Lady said:

May 11, 2017 11:14:50 GMT -5 NastyWoman said:

... and is totally into the things I like doing

Had to complete your ad, just in case you go ahead and post it.

LOL! Thanks. I forgot that. I got hung up on the "hot" part and stopped thinking.

Well what is the reason for the "hot" part without putting it to optimal use

[Deleted]

May 11, 2017 10:38:30 GMT -5 Green Eyed Lady said:

Maybe I should rent out a room. I have four extras. I should advertise:

Hot male who doesn't mind doing the things I hate doing.

Wait.  What?  This is legal?  I'm totally advertising for a renter if it is. 

[Green Eyed Lady]

May 11, 2017 12:50:10 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

May 11, 2017 10:38:30 GMT -5 Green Eyed Lady said:

Maybe I should rent out a room. I have four extras. I should advertise:

Hot male who doesn't mind doing the things I hate doing.

Wait.  What?  This is legal?  I'm totally advertising for a renter if it is. 

I don't know. I didn't consider that part!

[Deleted]

May 11, 2017 12:57:28 GMT -5 Green Eyed Lady said:

May 11, 2017 12:50:10 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Wait.  What?  This is legal?  I'm totally advertising for a renter if it is. 

I don't know. I didn't consider that part!

I think anything goes on Craigslist.  You just might have to put it in a different category than "housing". 

[shanendoah]

I think it's the way you phrase it. We own our house but have two friends living with us. I refer to them as our roommates, which does throw people off. One is totally short term - he's living with us between jobs, as he has a couple times before. He'll move out when he gets a new job. (He works in the game industry and makes considerable money, but his jobs have taken him all over the world. In the last 13 years, he's lived in Seattle, Vancouver,BC, Austin,TX, somewhere in Germany, Seattle again, LA, and NYC, and is currently interviewing for a job in Madrid, as well as some in Seattle). The other is long term. She's getting her gender reassignment surgery as we speak. We are long term friends and a safe place for her to live during this transition. When we make future housing plans, we simply assume she will still be with us.
I have no idea if she says she "rents a room" or if she says she "lives with friends". In her shoes, and your's naughtybear , I'd probably go with the "I live with a friend". Maybe I'd say "I rent a room from a friend", but less likely.
I guess in my head, you're getting this question kind of in regards to the divorce/major life changes, along the lines of "Where are you living now a days?" and getting it from friends/long term acquaintances. And then, if they knew the person I was renting a room from, I'd say something like "I'm living at Jane's for now."

[Green Eyed Lady]

May 11, 2017 13:02:44 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

May 11, 2017 12:57:28 GMT -5 Green Eyed Lady said:

I don't know. I didn't consider that part!

I think anything goes on Craigslist.  You just might have to put it in a different category than "housing". 

Well...to be truthful...I'd get more of a thrill out of someone helping to mow and carry the heavy bag of dog food!  If he looks good doing it, that's a plus!  Don't think I'd want a live in playmate quite yet.

[dannylion]

Why do you care what people think? You don't owe anyone an explanation, and you don't need anyone's approval. Do what works for you and let people think what they want.  Judgmental people are going to judge regardless of what you do, so don't waste your energy thinking about it.

[NoNamePerson]

Are you renting room by the hour?      Maybe that is where the confusion comes in.  

But seriously why do you give a flyin' F what someone thinks. 

[naughtybear]

I find it funny, the looks. Hence the LOL at the end of the post. They aren't random people, because, you know that would be a very strange thing to do. It's people I know that maybe I haven't seen in a while.

[obelisk]

May 11, 2017 16:42:29 GMT -5 naughtybear said:

I find it funny, the looks. Hence the LOL at the end of the post. They aren't random people, because, you know that would be a very strange thing to do. It's people I know that maybe I haven't seen in a while.

So the post is about people you know giving you funny looks regarding your living condition.  Is it based on renting a room in a platonic relashionship  Or something else as a FWB or something in between

Why are your so called friends giving you so called funny looks based on your living arrangement.

Based on your past posts, you are leaving a lot of info out!!!!!!!!  It must be based and into your so called "private insular intermingling let's share private club, or fight club"

JMUOP

[cronewitch]

I rented out half a room for 27 years to ISO. Worked out pretty good, his rent paid most of my house payments. Rooms around here rent for about 600 a month. I could rent a room in a home but I don't like looking presentable, I mostly wear nightwear all day, retired.

[weltschmerz]

May 11, 2017 17:58:23 GMT -5 cronewitch said:

I rented out half a room for 27 years to ISO. Worked out pretty good, his rent paid most of my house payments. Rooms around here rent for about 600 a month. I could rent a room in a home but I don't like looking presentable, I mostly wear nightwear all day, retired.

$600?  For a ROOM?

I'm renting a house for $640.

Owning a house is a pain in the ass. Aside from the mortgage, the expenses never stop.
If you don't need a new roof, you have to replace the electrical system and rewire. If you don't have to do that, it's a new water heater or property taxes or new windows or new septic system, etc, etc, etc.

[dannylion]

According to Zillow, I could get $3000/mo for renting my house.

Hmmm.

Nah, I don't need the money, and I'd miss my dog friends.

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

May 11, 2017 18:13:32 GMT -5 weltschmerz said:

May 11, 2017 17:58:23 GMT -5 cronewitch said:

I rented out half a room for 27 years to ISO. Worked out pretty good, his rent paid most of my house payments. Rooms around here rent for about 600 a month. I could rent a room in a home but I don't like looking presentable, I mostly wear nightwear all day, retired.

$600?  For a ROOM?

I'm renting a house for $640.

Owning a house is a pain in the ass. Aside from the mortgage, the expenses never stop.
If you don't need a new roof, you have to replace the electrical system and rewire. If you don't have to do that, it's a new water heater or property taxes or new windows or new septic system, etc, etc, etc.

Yep, that would be about what a room would go for in this town.  If we made the walkout basement into a 1 BR apartment, we could likely get around $2000 for rent.  Studios go for $1000!

Real estate is ridiculous here.  This house is currently worth 3x what it was purchased for 20 years ago.  We aren't even in Seattle.

[NastyWoman]

May 11, 2017 18:13:32 GMT -5 weltschmerz said:

May 11, 2017 17:58:23 GMT -5 cronewitch said:

I rented out half a room for 27 years to ISO. Worked out pretty good, his rent paid most of my house payments. Rooms around here rent for about 600 a month. I could rent a room in a home but I don't like looking presentable, I mostly wear nightwear all day, retired.

$600?  For a ROOM?

I'm renting a house for $640.

Owning a house is a pain in the ass. Aside from the mortgage, the expenses never stop.
If you don't need a new roof, you have to replace the electrical system and rewire. If you don't have to do that, it's a new water heater or property taxes or new windows or new septic system, etc, etc, etc.

I know you'd pay more for a nice room around here. My 2/2 condo that I described in another thhread would bring $3k in rent and that is from owners I know that rent their place out → actual numbers no Zillow estimate involved

[ZaireinHD]

believe me I know the feeling or I can understand getting 'the looks"

suggestion:

put a spin on it. instead of telling people - yea I rent a room in a house from a friend to save money

go for something like:

> I rent a room fit for a Queen

> I rent a Queen size room

> I rent a queen size room in a mansion

> I rent a room in a bed and breakfast

[Shooby]

   You can just enjoy the look.  Or, could simply say 'my apt" or my house depending on whatever you are living in.  You don't have an obligation to explain your living situation to anyone.

[Shooby]

However, in all fairness, saying you rent a room sounds very transient.  Or sounds like you are on hard times.  Doesn't mean you are, but that is something that tends to come to mind, right or wrong.