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Post by MJ2.0 on Apr 19, 2017 11:21:08 GMT -5
What drives you to get out of bed every morning to a job you may not like or school/courses that are difficult?
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Green Eyed Lady
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Apr 19, 2017 11:22:59 GMT -5
I like to eat, I like to have a roof over my head and I like to get treatment if I'm sick. If it weren't for that, I'd stay in bed till noon. Of course, that applies to work and not school. I guess what would get me out of bed in that case is the dream of a life I want.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Apr 19, 2017 11:25:06 GMT -5
Work --health insurance.
School-- it's either finish it or risk having to take it over again at a later date. Immunology is kicking my ass but I have to have if it I want to switch careers so I keep slogging thru it even though I want to throw my textbook out the window.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Apr 19, 2017 11:28:59 GMT -5
but are those your first thoughts as you start the day? Do you wake up thinking about how you like to eat or have health insurance?
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Post by movingforward on Apr 19, 2017 11:31:03 GMT -5
Basic needs and my wants are the main driving factor, but I also like the people I work with. I feel like my opinion matters at my current place of employment, and I feel appreciated. I have worked for some bad bosses and my current one is terrific. I know how good I have it right now so that in and of itself makes me get out of bed in the morning.
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Post by Lizard Queen on Apr 19, 2017 11:34:31 GMT -5
Work (when I did) was habit/momentum. It was extremely hard many times, but I need stability, so wasn't about to up and quit without a damn good plan. School, I figured out I was smarter than I ever gave myself credit for before, so I was motivated to go back and kick the hard classes in the ass. And I did!
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Post by swasat on Apr 19, 2017 11:35:22 GMT -5
What drives you to get out of bed every morning to a job you may not like or school/courses that are difficult? The fact that its easier to search for a job while still employed? I am not in school, but I remember when I was, and I had some difficult courses that were utterly boring to boot. I counted my days. Literally, I had a calendar where I marked off each finished class. The biggest motivator was that I knew it would be over, and over soon. Work - I've had few jobs that I didn't like. I went to work everyday knowing that this is temporary. I was job searching constantly and knew for sure that it'll be easier for me to find a job while I still held one. Not that I haven't day dreamed of quitting without having one lined up. I got stuck in a horrible group due to reorg at my previous company last year. I started a thread here wondering if I should quit without having another job lined up. Luckily it never came to that because I found one with 2-3 weeks. but boy did I come close to quitting!
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Apr 19, 2017 11:37:30 GMT -5
but are those your first thoughts as you start the day? Do you wake up thinking about how you like to eat or have health insurance? When I worked at BT.. .yep. Actually my first thought of the day was hoping one of the kids would get sick so I could stay home. The second thought was I don't ever want to deal with DH's insurance at the time/medicaid again as long as I live so I better go in. I worked like hell behind the scenes to get out as fast as possible though.
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Post by wvugurl26 on Apr 19, 2017 11:38:59 GMT -5
When I really hated a job, I reminded myself that I liked eating, living indoors, etc. That's what I told myself as I forced myself out of bed every morning.
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Post by Tennesseer on Apr 19, 2017 11:41:01 GMT -5
I was lucky work-wise. I worked for a company for 30 years of which about six months was not so great. Working for that employer was like being paid for a hobby I enjoyed. Always something new to learn.
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Apr 19, 2017 11:45:00 GMT -5
but are those your first thoughts as you start the day? Do you wake up thinking about how you like to eat or have health insurance? Good question. I don't know that I even think about it anymore, you know? I just get up and go about stuff. The few days where I really really don't want to get out of bed because I have a headache or I just don't want to deal with people and need motivation to do so? Yes. That's what I think about. Maybe not first thing...but very soon after. I want this - I have to do that.
Now that you made me think about it, life isn't all that much fun!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 19, 2017 11:46:02 GMT -5
My morning begins before I fall asleep the night before (OK that doesn't make any sense) but it does!~
Before I go to sleep each night I take a look at my meeting schedule/tasks the following day and formulate an action plan, then I sleep on it. Upon waking up I reassess, there are times I change my mind how I am going to go about something simply by resetting my brain. Then on the way into work I plot the timing of my day handling everything I can that is unpleasant as soon as possible.
It works for me, may/may not work for others, I try to deal with bad things as soon as possible. To answer your question, self imposed structure drives me through difficult situations.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 19, 2017 11:47:25 GMT -5
Well, even if I wasn't going to work, I'd have to drag my ass out of bed to take the kids to school, feed the animals and fill the morning skunk holes...so...by the time I'm up for an hour getting all that stuff done it's a lot easier to just keep moving. By the time I get the kids dropped off I'm 13 of the 15 miles to work. At this point, turning around and going back home to bed doesn't seem anywhere near as reasonable as staying in bed at 5:30am seemed.
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Post by shanendoah on Apr 19, 2017 12:28:17 GMT -5
I like my current position, so that part isn't a struggle. But my previous position was 6 months of stress and every day wishing I kind of had an excuse to not go in. So the first thing I thought about on waking was "do I really have to go in today?" What did get me in? Internal motivation. I cared about my staff. I wanted to do my best. A lot of my self esteem (perhaps too much) comes from my ability to do my job and do it well. So not going to work actually made me feel a little worse than going to work, even if worked was stressful.
Also, I then spent 9 months unemployed. And I HATED it. I am a miserable person when I don't have a job to go to. Even when the job sucks, I am over all a happier person with a job, no matter how sucky a job, than I am without a job, at least on a long enough time frame.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Apr 19, 2017 12:34:37 GMT -5
being without a job (or rather, a full time job) is alright for me. Being without MONEY is a problem. And since job = money - well, you see my conundrum.
Maintaining motivation while being grossly underemployed is becoming very difficult. I wondered what other people had as motivators to see if maybe it could help me attach to one/some.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Apr 19, 2017 12:34:59 GMT -5
I'm shallow so my motivation was buying pretty things. I love nice furniture, nice vehicles (doesn't have to be over the top fancy nor the best - but nice), I loved buying new clothes, jewelry, (wearing new things motivated me to get up in the morning) and shoes. I'd plan what I was going to wear the prior night and if it was something I really liked or brand new that got me out of bed. Also making lunch plans with friends or DH or getting together after work excited me to get up. Eating and having a roof over my head was secondary to me. For you, Jen - I would think traveling and outings and doing stuff you enjoy would be yours. And awesome hair extensions. ETA: None of that stuff works for me now so I just stay in bed until I embarrass myself or one of my cats won't STF up because they want attention or more food.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Apr 19, 2017 12:38:13 GMT -5
I'm shallow so my motivation was buying pretty things. I love nice furniture, nice vehicles (doesn't have to be over the top fancy nor the best - but nice), I loved buying new clothes, jewelry, (wearing new things motivated me to get up in the morning) and shoes. I'd plan what I was going to wear the prior night and if it was something I really liked or it brand new that got me out of bed. Eating and having a roof over my head was secondary to me. For you, Jen - I would think traveling and outings and doing stuff you enjoy would be yours. And awesome hair extensions. LOL, once again we are very much alike! They do motivate me, but it's hard to sustain it over a long period of time with no return. Oh, and the extensions are done... possibly forever since I had to physically cut a chunk of my hair out because it was entangled in a giant gob of glue.
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Post by Pants on Apr 19, 2017 12:38:14 GMT -5
Well, even if I wasn't going to work, I'd have to drag my ass out of bed to take the kids to school, feed the animals and fill the morning skunk holes...so...by the time I'm up for an hour getting all that stuff done it's a lot easier to just keep moving. By the time I get the kids dropped off I'm 13 of the 15 miles to work. At this point, turning around and going back home to bed doesn't seem anywhere near as reasonable as staying in bed at 5:30am seemed. What the what what?
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Apr 19, 2017 12:38:42 GMT -5
My first professional job was like this. I HATED getting up in the morning to go to work. However, I hated the idea of not having the money to pay rent more, so I dragged my ass out of bed and went to work.
It was also incentive to find a position I didn't hate with all my passion.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Apr 19, 2017 12:39:19 GMT -5
giramomma - because she's one of the busiest people on here
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Post by Pants on Apr 19, 2017 12:40:27 GMT -5
being without a job (or rather, a full time job) is alright for me. Being without MONEY is a problem. And since job = money - well, you see my conundrum. Maintaining motivation while being grossly underemployed is becoming very difficult. I wondered what other people had as motivators to see if maybe it could help me attach to one/some. For me - I just do it. I have a plan and then I do it. At the very, very worst of being unmotivated, it comes down to feeding my children and keeping a roof over their heads.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Apr 19, 2017 12:40:41 GMT -5
My first professional job was like this. I HATED getting up in the morning to go to work. However, I hated the idea of not having the money to pay rent more, so I dragged my ass out of bed and went to work. It was also incentive to find a position I didn't hate with all my passion. BTDT. I remember crying a few times a week because I hated my job at the bank so much.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 19, 2017 12:43:03 GMT -5
Well, even if I wasn't going to work, I'd have to drag my ass out of bed to take the kids to school, feed the animals and fill the morning skunk holes...so...by the time I'm up for an hour getting all that stuff done it's a lot easier to just keep moving. By the time I get the kids dropped off I'm 13 of the 15 miles to work. At this point, turning around and going back home to bed doesn't seem anywhere near as reasonable as staying in bed at 5:30am seemed. What the what what? Sorry. Inside joke from another thread. I'm presently dealing with a skunk problem...
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Apr 19, 2017 12:45:22 GMT -5
Well, even if I wasn't going to work, I'd have to drag my ass out of bed to take the kids to school, feed the animals and fill the morning skunk holes...so...by the time I'm up for an hour getting all that stuff done it's a lot easier to just keep moving. By the time I get the kids dropped off I'm 13 of the 15 miles to work. At this point, turning around and going back home to bed doesn't seem anywhere near as reasonable as staying in bed at 5:30am seemed. What the what what? Not THAT hole! A real skunk dug hole. Jen - Sorry about the extensions. You really rocked them and that makes me sad. But think of the money you'll be saving!
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Post by movingforward on Apr 19, 2017 12:50:16 GMT -5
Working 4 day weeks also helps. I have Mondays off so before I can turn around it is already Thursday (or Friday Eve as I like to call it). Fridays are easy days in the office. Half the staff is off and I can get a ton of work done if needed. If it is a slow day then I can take long lunches with friends or go to yoga class in the middle of the day. Essentially, 4 day weeks fall into that "I have it good" category that motivates me.
Also, I admit that I like the money. I have gotten some pretty nice bonuses and raises. I am well beyond basic needs at this point. Now there are motivating factors like nice vacations, nice clothes, funding retirement, saving for a house, etc.
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Post by Rukh O'Rorke on Apr 19, 2017 12:53:11 GMT -5
There was a time when the nemesis made work so horrible I kept chocolate bars in my desk and wasn't allowed coffee at home. So I woke up and started working towards coffee and chocolate for when I'd get to work.
But the day was downhill after that!
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Post by MJ2.0 on Apr 19, 2017 12:54:22 GMT -5
There was a time when the nemesis made work so horrible I kept chocolate bars in my desk and wasn't allowed coffee at home. So I woke up and started working towards coffee and chocolate for when I'd get to work. But the day was downhill after that! you are another pretty busy one - mostly by choice. What keeps you going?
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Apr 19, 2017 12:56:03 GMT -5
being without a job (or rather, a full time job) is alright for me. Being without MONEY is a problem. And since job = money - well, you see my conundrum. Maintaining motivation while being grossly underemployed is becoming very difficult. I wondered what other people had as motivators to see if maybe it could help me attach to one/some. For me - I just do it. I have a plan and then I do it. At the very, very worst of being unmotivated, it comes down to feeding my children and keeping a roof over their heads. I can't /won't let my kids down. I get up, think about staying in bed but I need to shower before getting the kids up so I get up and start. I'm bored to tears by my job. Most days I don't hate it but I'm extremely unmotivated to learn new stuff right now.
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Post by souldoubt on Apr 19, 2017 13:13:44 GMT -5
My motivation is making a better life for myself and some day providing a better life for my kids than I had. I was raised by a single parent and we rented with roommates growing up. I have zero complaints about my upbringing but some of my best memories are when we rented a house for so many years and growing up in a house is something I want my kids to experience. I've had jobs and classes that I didn't like or flat out hated but they were means to an end and ultimately the point was to get out and move on. Everyone's situation is different but the majority of people who complain about their situation that I come across don't seem to have an exit plan or any drive to get out it. For some people it's easier to complain about something and get sympathy out of people than it is to make a change.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 19, 2017 13:23:38 GMT -5
Honestly, I'm constantly harping on older son about sucking it up and doing things he doesn't want to and working toward goals and a better life that even if I didn't have animals waiting in the barn and I could just put the kids on a bus to school I can't see how I could just not get out of bed and go to work. They're learning more from watching me than from me bitching at them.
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