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Post by yogiii on Dec 29, 2016 14:41:51 GMT -5
When does your 3yo turn four? Something happened at 4, and even 4.5. Like a light switch flipped. Last summer was the first summer I really could enjoy my kids in a long time. I really did not think there would be much hope, but now there is. Not soon enough... she has only been 3 for 5 weeks. Glad to hear there's a light at the end of the tunnel! I keep telling myself that all the things that make her so challenging to raise should serve her well in her adult life... I just hope I'm not institutionalized by then. I'm waiting for the big switch to happen this spring at 4, but I'm kind of thinking this isn't a 3 thing, it's me on steroids .
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Post by Miss Tequila on Dec 29, 2016 14:49:33 GMT -5
Not soon enough... she has only been 3 for 5 weeks. Glad to hear there's a light at the end of the tunnel! I keep telling myself that all the things that make her so challenging to raise should serve her well in her adult life... I just hope I'm not institutionalized by then. I'm waiting for the big switch to happen this spring at 4, but I'm kind of thinking this isn't a 3 thing, it's me on steroids . My oldest is 17...trust me, hang on to the 3 year old antics. 17 year old antics suck
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Post by yogiii on Dec 29, 2016 14:52:37 GMT -5
I'm waiting for the big switch to happen this spring at 4, but I'm kind of thinking this isn't a 3 thing, it's me on steroids . My oldest is 17...trust me, hang on to the 3 year old antics. 17 year old antics suck I have my first gray hair now ... GRAY!
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Post by imawino on Dec 29, 2016 14:55:05 GMT -5
Hmmmm, I feel like 2016 mostly sucked ass. There are a few things that happened that made me really sad, like the loss of two absolutely beloved pets. My perfect, lovable, wonderful best friend of a dog who died the 2nd day into our vacation in Turks & Caicos - so aside from normal grief it also put quite a damper on a much-needed vacation. And my snuggle boy cat. I had inherited him from my mom 5 years ago, and she absolutely adored him, so it was like losing a little piece of her that I had left.
But some of it is a little more difficult to put my finger on why I've been unhappy. And I'm generally a pretty happy sort of person. It's just that everything has been annoying. My stepsons are teenagers, so....eeeeuuwww. My mother in law has been staying with us an awful lot this year. Like a LOT a lot. An unreasonable lot. And everyone is just basically on my fucking nerves. Is this my midlife crisis?? Being annoyed? Because I'd rather have the quit my job, get a sports car kind of mid life crisis.
So anyway, sayonara 2016. I hope 2017 kicks your ass.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Dec 29, 2016 14:55:23 GMT -5
My oldest is 17...trust me, hang on to the 3 year old antics. 17 year old antics suck I have my first gray hair now ... GRAY! hahaha...luckily I don't get gray hair...I get natural highlights
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Post by imawino on Dec 29, 2016 14:58:40 GMT -5
I'm waiting for the big switch to happen this spring at 4, but I'm kind of thinking this isn't a 3 thing, it's me on steroids . My oldest is 17...trust me, hang on to the 3 year old antics. 17 year old antics suck Yup. The seventeen year old has failed to get any sort of job this year, and is trying to convince us that him going to Mexico for senior week is a great idea. The fifteen year old thinks it is totally normal to ask if he and his girlfriend can hang out in his room all evening to "watch Netflix" - so that his father and I can "have the downstairs to ourselves", because suddenly he is considerate? And we have a separate living room and family room, each complete with a TV. I don't think so, buddy. F'ing teenagers.
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Post by imawino on Dec 29, 2016 14:59:05 GMT -5
I have my first gray hair now ... GRAY! hahaha...luckily I don't get gray hair...I get natural highlights I get the occasional platinum blonde hair.
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Post by yogiii on Dec 29, 2016 15:00:55 GMT -5
hahaha...luckily I don't get gray hair...I get natural highlights I get the occasional platinum blonde hair. You're right, it is blonde
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Post by Miss Tequila on Dec 29, 2016 15:01:45 GMT -5
My oldest is 17...trust me, hang on to the 3 year old antics. 17 year old antics suck Yup. The seventeen year old has failed to get any sort of job this year, and is trying to convince us that him going to Mexico for senior week is a great idea. The fifteen year old thinks it is totally normal to ask if he and his girlfriend can hang out in his room all evening to "watch Netflix" - so that his father and I can "have the downstairs to ourselves", because suddenly he is considerate? And we have a separate living room and family room, each complete with a TV. I don't think so, buddy. F'ing teenagers. Hahahaha....I can't imagine having the balls that teenagers today have
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Post by naughtybear on Dec 29, 2016 15:06:21 GMT -5
Still way too early for me to have a serious relationship.
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Post by imawino on Dec 29, 2016 15:10:21 GMT -5
Still way too early for me to have a serious relationship. ummmmmmm, okay.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Dec 29, 2016 15:12:45 GMT -5
Still way too early for me to have a serious relationship. There is no right time as we are all different. I look at widowers. Some people grieve for years and some people marry within the year. It is all what is right for us. And trust me when I say I was not looking for a relationship. It honestly just happened. Who knows what will happen in the future but no matter what, the last two years have taught me that I will thrive no matter what my relationship status is
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Post by spartyparty on Dec 29, 2016 15:13:59 GMT -5
Another year closer to death...
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Post by imawino on Dec 29, 2016 15:14:16 GMT -5
I honestly hated building a house. First time I can ever say I think I was actually depressed. I gained like 30 pounds. I still feel floating, disconnected, unsure. And that's just the inner core of the year, not the external environment. I'm ready for something else. And I don't generally allow myself to verbalized things like that... is the house all finished? Did you move in?
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Post by naughtybear on Dec 29, 2016 15:14:35 GMT -5
That was for Miss T, I hit send apparently before I was done. Thanks for responding, appreciate the love my wonderful online friend.
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Post by imawino on Dec 29, 2016 15:25:59 GMT -5
Complaints aside, there were some good parts of 2016. I got to visit a few places I had never been and re-visit a couple places I wanted to go back to. I made it to Spain, Banff, Palm Springs, the Oregon Coast, and San Diego this year. In addition to a few other spots (such as the aforementioned Turks & Caicos, which ended up being no fun). I got to unexpectedly visit a faraway friend twice, which was nice. I did not have a super-specific savings goal this year, but feel really good about what I put away. Had a couple nice visits with my dad this year, which was good as we are not geographically close. Got a new puppy. Have thus far refrained from stabbing any of the multitudes of people who have insisted on annoying me. Yay!
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Dec 29, 2016 15:43:48 GMT -5
Still way too early for me to have a serious relationship. There is no right time as we are all different. I look at widowers. Some people grieve for years and some people marry within the year. It is all what is right for us. And trust me when I say I was not looking for a relationship. It honestly just happened. Who knows what will happen in the future but no matter what, the last two years have taught me that I will thrive no matter what my relationship status is You touched on something very important and one of the reasons 2016 was great for me. I can thrive on my own. I discarded a lot of baggage and bad feelings. I don't know why - they are just gone. I am good. So good that I've actually started to think about sharing this life with someone. There isn't anybody special in mind - just that maybe I'm ready to start seeing "special" in someone if they cross my path.
My health is great except for occasional back pain. My mom's health is very good for her age. And...I've learned to say "no". For some reason, people think that if you are single and don't have kids, you have all the time in the world to do the things they just don't have time to do. "Hey could you...." was becoming something I was hearing several times a day. No. I can't right now.
I don't have any financial worries and no debt. I have a good job that I enjoy and than I'm good at. 2016 was great. No reason to think 2017 won't be even better. Hoping the same for everyone.
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Post by TheHaitian on Dec 29, 2016 15:45:04 GMT -5
Struggles - lost job in January (2016 started downhill). - lost another job again in April (week of my birthday). - moved 6 hours away to start work in June - hate said work but provides the income I need and signed 4 year contract - sold our home that we both loved after 2 years when we hoped/dreamed about raising our kid(s) there. - gained a lot of weight due to the stress/depression and now have a severe case of sleep apnea, always tired and sleepy. Also got diabetes! ---> 2017 need to drop the weight, sleep apnea and diabetes. - my mom got sick and thought she was dying and not going to see her granddaughter. All her doctors finally figured out what was wrong (felt at some point every day she was meeting with a different specialist) and she is on the road to recovery. She has not work in over 2 months and itching to go back (God willing).... also cannot wait to meet her granddaughter.
Wins - wife got offered a job in DC within her first weeks here with a 15k/year raise. She turned it down because she would not qualify for maternity leave but it reinforces that DC was the right decision and hopefully will give her career the push it needed and get her out of the entry level situation.
- we are expecting! 33 weeks this coming Saturday and honest to God this is the only thing that is keeping me going.
2016 sucked big time but I think we are grateful because it showed us how strong and resilient we were.... and I can't bitch too much, our daughter was conceived in 2016.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Dec 29, 2016 15:54:18 GMT -5
There is no right time as we are all different. I look at widowers. Some people grieve for years and some people marry within the year. It is all what is right for us. And trust me when I say I was not looking for a relationship. It honestly just happened. Who knows what will happen in the future but no matter what, the last two years have taught me that I will thrive no matter what my relationship status is You touched on something very important and one of the reasons 2016 was great for me. I can thrive on my own. I discarded a lot of baggage and bad feelings. I don't know why - they are just gone. I am good. So good that I've actually started to think about sharing this life with someone. There isn't anybody special in mind - just that maybe I'm ready to start seeing "special" in someone if they cross my path.
My health is great except for occasional back pain. My mom's health is very good for her age. And...I've learned to say "no". For some reason, people think that if you are single and don't have kids, you have all the time in the world to do the things they just don't have time to do. "Hey could you...." was becoming something I was hearing several times a day. No. I can't right now.
I don't have any financial worries and no debt. I have a good job that I enjoy and than I'm good at. 2016 was great. No reason to think 2017 won't be even better. Hoping the same for everyone.
That's wonderful news! Not that you are thinking of finding someone special (which that can be great, too!) but that you have found yourself. You are awesome and it's about damn time you figured that out!
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Post by dee27 on Dec 29, 2016 16:00:33 GMT -5
GEL, Learning to say no is such a positive. There is too much clutter in our our lives and demand for our time, but when we set priorities about what is important to us, we can live more peaceful lives.
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Post by imawino on Dec 29, 2016 16:00:52 GMT -5
Struggles - lost job in January (2016 started downhill). - lost another job again in April (week of my birthday). - moved 6 hours away to start work in June - hate said work but provides the income I need and signed 4 year contract - sold our home that we both loved after 2 years when we hoped/dreamed about raising our kid(s) there. - gained a lot of weight due to the stress/depression and now have a severe case of sleep apnea, always tired and sleepy. Also got diabetes! ---> 2017 need to drop the weight, sleep apnea and diabetes. - my mom got sick and thought she was dying and not going to see her granddaughter. All her doctors finally figured out what was wrong (felt at some point every day she was meeting with a different specialist) and she is on the road to recovery. She has not work in over 2 months and itching to go back (God willing).... also cannot wait to meet her granddaughter. Wins - wife got offered a job in DC within her first weeks here with a 15k/year raise. She turned it down because she would not qualify for maternity leave but it reinforces that DC was the right decision and hopefully will give her career the push it needed and get her out of the entry level situation. - we are expecting! 33 weeks this coming Saturday and honest to God this is the only thing that is keeping me going. 2016 sucked big time but I think we are grateful because it showed us how strong and resilient we were.... and I can't bitch too much, our daughter was conceived in 2016. Carl, I liked your post - but only for the parts about your mom getting better and your wonderful baby on the way! Not any of the sucky stuff. Congrats.
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Dec 29, 2016 16:07:54 GMT -5
You touched on something very important and one of the reasons 2016 was great for me. I can thrive on my own. I discarded a lot of baggage and bad feelings. I don't know why - they are just gone. I am good. So good that I've actually started to think about sharing this life with someone. There isn't anybody special in mind - just that maybe I'm ready to start seeing "special" in someone if they cross my path.
My health is great except for occasional back pain. My mom's health is very good for her age. And...I've learned to say "no". For some reason, people think that if you are single and don't have kids, you have all the time in the world to do the things they just don't have time to do. "Hey could you...." was becoming something I was hearing several times a day. No. I can't right now.
I don't have any financial worries and no debt. I have a good job that I enjoy and than I'm good at. 2016 was great. No reason to think 2017 won't be even better. Hoping the same for everyone.
That's wonderful news! Not that you are thinking of finding someone special (which that can be great, too!) but that you have found yourself. You are awesome and it's about damn time you figured that out! What a very nice thing to say. Thank you very much. I think you are awesome, too!
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Dec 29, 2016 16:09:59 GMT -5
we are expecting! 33 weeks this coming Saturday
That's great Carl! 32 weeks is one of the key hurdle points during pregnancy. I hope making it past the 32 week mark has helped your wife's anxiety.
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Dec 29, 2016 16:10:32 GMT -5
GEL, Learning to say no is such a positive. There is too much clutter in our our lives and demand for our time, but when we set priorities about what is important to us, we can live more peaceful lives. You sure said it, Dee. I've been the dutiful daughter and sister (and friend and aunt, etc.) for a long time now. I still am. I'll be where I'm needed - I'm just not going to always be where I'm wanted the second I'm wanted. It just took me some time to figure out that is ok. Hope that makes sense!
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Post by dee27 on Dec 29, 2016 16:22:23 GMT -5
Gel, The hard part is decided when you need to say no. I took care of my parents for years, but it was stressful, and my dad could act like a petulant child at times. Learning to say no to him was difficult because like you I was always the dutiful daughter. I set him up to be more independent and he had to make a choice between bitching about it or accepting that he had alternatives. I gave him permission to be in charge of his own life and permission to myself that saying no once in awhile was healthier for both of us.
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Post by GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl on Dec 29, 2016 16:31:33 GMT -5
we are expecting! 33 weeks this coming Saturday
That's great Carl! 32 weeks is one of the key hurdle points during pregnancy. I hope making it past the 32 week mark has helped your wife's anxiety. TheHaitian: ODS was born at 32 weeks -- almost 21 years ago. Aside from some dyslexia and hearing issues, you would never know now. Yeah, it took a ton of money and my career and turned me into a staunch advocate for my son (some would say "bitch", but they're just jelly), but it was worth it. He's happy, healthy, intelligent, and headed for great things. So, as you're cruising in on 33 weeks, you are so far ahead of the game both in terms of baking time and in terms of the progress that has been made in the past 21 years in the care and treatment of premies. You both need to take a deep breath and enjoy these last few weeks of being a couple, and being a couple expecting a child. Children have a way of taking over their parents' lives, so get some couple time in while you still can. See you in 7 weeks, Carlie!!!
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Post by zibazinski on Dec 29, 2016 16:32:54 GMT -5
I'm getting that at the hospital now. Because im the only volunteer not on death row it seems I get asked to do a lot. Right in the middle of this huge project I was working on for them I got asked to help out in cancer infusion. My aunt is fighting cancer so this was hard on me and I said I didn't think it'd be a good idea. Well, because I didn't flat out say NO, I ended up there and did a couple rounds to help out. It wasn't as bad as I feared but it seemed the fact that it was okay to ask me to drop what I was doing while the walking dead just sat there, totally pissed me off. Mostly at myself.
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Post by zibazinski on Dec 29, 2016 16:35:48 GMT -5
I'm not referring to the infusion patients as the walking dead but the volunteers that just come in and sit around.
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Post by andi9899 on Dec 29, 2016 17:00:56 GMT -5
2016 was pretty ok except for the tail end of it. I'm looking forward to 2017 being better. I just wish it would hurry up and get here.
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Post by sesfw on Dec 29, 2016 17:24:40 GMT -5
need to drop the weight, sleep apnea and diabetes.
LIMIT your sodium to no more than 1500 mg per day. Make a food diary for a week and really become a label reader. Then find ways to control the sodium. All this equals a lot more fresh fruits and veggies and automatic portion control. Get rid of all seasoning blends in your pantry and buy individual seasonings. A product called 'no salt' will help, it's in the salt area of your grocery.
Congrats on the coming of your baby girl ...... enjoy her. She will turn your life up-side down and you'll love her to the moon and beyond.
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