The suckiness of life

[CCL]

Dec 5, 2016 14:52:31 GMT -5 zibazinski said:

I just was sent the obit of my high school boyfriend. Omg. Not another one.

Sorry.

[andi9899]

Dec 5, 2016 14:52:31 GMT -5 zibazinski said:

I just was sent the obit of my high school boyfriend. Omg. Not another one.

I can show you some mug shots of mine. Ex boyfriends that is, not of me.

[milee]

Dec 5, 2016 11:57:06 GMT -5 swamp said:

Dec 4, 2016 20:42:15 GMT -5 tskeeter said:

Swamp, how is the weather in your area?  What you describe sounds a bit like SAD.  I know that when I lived in Buffalo for several years, I had a real problem with the weeks and weeks of overcast weather this time of the year.  Maybe you need some vitamin D therapy.  In Las Vegas.

The weather is crappy, I haven't seen the sun in about 2 weeks, and I probably do have SAD.  I already take Vitamin D.

However, what brought this on was the death of one of my zumba instructors. She got hit by a car saving a stray dog.

She was a beautiful and kind person.

Ugh.  That does suck.  Sorry.

[zibazinski]

He looked so young.

[NastyWoman]

Dec 5, 2016 14:53:08 GMT -5 zibazinski said:

Dec 5, 2016 11:57:06 GMT -5 swamp said:

The weather is crappy, I haven't seen the sun in about 2 weeks, and I probably do have SAD.  I already take Vitamin D.

However, what brought this on was the death of one of my zumba instructors. She got hit by a car saving a stray dog.

She was a beautiful and kind person.

Double your dose

then again...maybe not:

Fat-Soluble Vitamins

"Vitamins A, D, E, and K are the fat-soluble vitamins. Unlike water-soluble vitamins, these vitamins dissolve in fat and are stored in body tissues. Because they are stored, over time they can accumulate to dangerous levels and can lead to a condition called hypervitaminosis, meaning excess amounts of a vitamin in the body, if more than the recommended amount is taken."

www.webmd.com/vitamins-and-supplements/nutrition-vitamins-11/fat-water-nutrient?page=2

[1Day@aTime]

Dec 5, 2016 11:57:06 GMT -5 swamp said:

Dec 4, 2016 20:42:15 GMT -5 tskeeter said:

Swamp, how is the weather in your area?  What you describe sounds a bit like SAD.  I know that when I lived in Buffalo for several years, I had a real problem with the weeks and weeks of overcast weather this time of the year.  Maybe you need some vitamin D therapy.  In Las Vegas.

The weather is crappy, I haven't seen the sun in about 2 weeks, and I probably do have SAD.  I already take Vitamin D.

However, what brought this on was the death of one of my zumba instructors. She got hit by a car saving a stray dog.

She was a beautiful and kind person.

Sorry swamp.

As I'm approaching 40 and DH is in his 40s, it's been increasingly unnerving when people are passing away that are our ages or slightly older. But we take our time to grieve and try to focus on our lives having been better for knowing them, more importantly the world a better place for them having been in it.

When my first husband passed away, it was very difficult to work past the anger of him dying while a few of his, lets say "acquaintances" are still living.  They are nothing but useless wastes of space...severe drug addicts and alcoholics.  Why in the freakin' world do they get to live on wasting their lives, while my DH was a kind, caring, intelligent, hard working person.

I think I just made this all about me.  Sorry.  But you're not alone, if that helps.

[zibazinski]

Dec 7, 2016 14:22:18 GMT -5 1Day@aTime said:

Dec 5, 2016 11:57:06 GMT -5 swamp said:

The weather is crappy, I haven't seen the sun in about 2 weeks, and I probably do have SAD.  I already take Vitamin D.

However, what brought this on was the death of one of my zumba instructors. She got hit by a car saving a stray dog.

She was a beautiful and kind person.

Sorry swamp.

As I'm approaching 40 and DH is in his 40s, it's been increasingly unnerving when people are passing away that are our ages or slightly older. But we take our time to grieve and try to focus on our lives having been better for knowing them, more importantly the world a better place for them having been in it.

When my first husband passed away, it was very difficult to work past the anger of him dying while a few of his, lets say "acquaintances" are still living.  They are nothing but useless wastes of space...severe drug addicts and alcoholics.  Why in the freakin' world do they get to live on wasting their lives, while my DH was a kind, caring, intelligent, hard working person.

I think I just made this all about me.  Sorry.  But you're not alone, if that helps.

Nope. I have the same feelings. It seems like the nice people have awful things happen to them and the shits live on forever.

[wvugurl26]

Dec 7, 2016 21:29:24 GMT -5 zibazinski said:

Dec 7, 2016 14:22:18 GMT -5 1Day@aTime said:

Sorry swamp.

As I'm approaching 40 and DH is in his 40s, it's been increasingly unnerving when people are passing away that are our ages or slightly older. But we take our time to grieve and try to focus on our lives having been better for knowing them, more importantly the world a better place for them having been in it.

When my first husband passed away, it was very difficult to work past the anger of him dying while a few of his, lets say "acquaintances" are still living.  They are nothing but useless wastes of space...severe drug addicts and alcoholics.  Why in the freakin' world do they get to live on wasting their lives, while my DH was a kind, caring, intelligent, hard working person.

I think I just made this all about me.  Sorry.  But you're not alone, if that helps.

Nope. I have the same feelings. It seems like the nice people have awful things happen to them and the shits live on forever.

Pretty much. I've buried both of my grandpa's and several others who were some of the best men I'll ever know. They helped raise me, mold me, etc. They were role models for lots of us my age. They are gone.

That waste of space, good for nothing husband of my mother's is still living. The one they said would die in December 2002 if he didn't clean up his act. Still smokes, drinks and eats crap and he's here. Life's just not fair.

[zibazinski]

Dec 7, 2016 21:53:14 GMT -5 wvugurl26 said:

Dec 7, 2016 21:29:24 GMT -5 zibazinski said:

Nope. I have the same feelings. It seems like the nice people have awful things happen to them and the shits live on forever.

Pretty much. I've buried both of my grandpa's and several others who were some of the best men I'll ever know. They helped raise me, mold me, etc. They were role models for lots of us my age. They are gone.

That waste of space, good for nothing husband of my mother's is still living. The one they said would die in December 2002 if he didn't clean up his act. Still smokes, drinks and eats crap and he's here. Life's just not fair.

It's absolutely not fair.

[mmhmm]

swamp and zibazinski, I'm truly sorry for both your losses. Even if it's not someone to whom you're very close, it still hurts. 

[zibazinski]

Both my husband and my old HS boyfriend were 61 years old. It's an awful thing to have your so-called golden years snuffed out .

[1Day@aTime]

Dec 8, 2016 8:12:38 GMT -5 zibazinski said:

Both my husband and my old HS boyfriend were 61 years old. It's an awful thing to have your so-called golden years snuffed out .

Sorry zibazinski.

Too young.  

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

A HS boyfriend of mine died a couple of years ago.   It really shook me up because he was a year and a half younger than me.  I am not supposed to be reading people's obituaries yet.

Nothing in the obit about how he died and it was a closed wake.    My mom said that's usually code for something really bad happened the family doesn't want to talk about.

I wrestled with going to the funeral home before the wake but decided not to.   We grew apart after I became engaged to DH and now I regret it.   It was one of those things I always thought I'd be able to mend "someday".

There are certain songs that when they come on the radio jars me into thinking about it because I associate them with HS/dating.  I have to change the station.

[Wisconsin Beth]

Dec 5, 2016 19:22:29 GMT -5 NastyWoman said:

Dec 5, 2016 14:53:08 GMT -5 zibazinski said:

Double your dose

then again...maybe not:

Fat-Soluble Vitamins

"Vitamins A, D, E, and K are the fat-soluble vitamins. Unlike water-soluble vitamins, these vitamins dissolve in fat and are stored in body tissues. Because they are stored, over time they can accumulate to dangerous levels and can lead to a condition called hypervitaminosis, meaning excess amounts of a vitamin in the body, if more than the recommended amount is taken."

www.webmd.com/vitamins-and-supplements/nutrition-vitamins-11/fat-water-nutrient?page=2

yes but if you have a deficit of vitamin D, taking the recommended dose is like spitting to put out a fire. When my doctor finally talked to me about my vitamin D levels, I was still below normal after taking a double dose for around 3 months.

I wish they'd add a vitimin D test to the rest of the blood work I'm required to do for workplace health stuff.

[tskeeter]

Hey Swamp, those unexpected losses of young friends and acquaintances are a shock.  When confronted with these situations, I find it helps to think about the 10 AM crowd at the chalet of a local ski resort.  At just over 60, I'm one of the kids in the place.  Most are at least a decade older than I am.  And they ski harder than I do.  When I grow up, I aspire to be able to play in the same league as the big kids.  What a future to look forward to!

[Jake 48]

Hugs and prayers for you Swamp,
Your not alone, I have had a family member pass and a good friends 21 year old son died from a suspected overdose this past week. This has been a sucky week

Jake

[Jaguar]

So sorry Jake 48, hugs.

[nittanycheme]

Sorry for your losses, 2016 has been sucky for me too.  My grandpa (Dad's side) passed away, my mom died (cancer, not unexpected, but they said 3 to 6 months, and it was 3 weeks), my grandma on my stepmom's side (married to my dad for 36 yrs) is very frail, my garden was hailed upon in May destroying all my newly bought plants, my favorite spring bed, and bringing on insurance PITA's, upheaval at work, and of course the craziness of the election.  Now it's almost Christmas - we haven't had a tree in a couple of years, and I went a bought a really nice artificial one.  But I'm sad to put it up since x-mas was one of my mom's favorite times of year for a long time - she would have a tree-decorating party to kick off the season.  I try to not let it get to me, but I'm sad too.  And slightly angry about it all.  Enough that I totally lost my temper with a jerk last weekend - I haven't lost my temper like that for years.....

I'm glad to see 2016 come to an end.

[Jaguar]

<< BIG HUGS >> nittanycheme

[nittanycheme]

Dec 8, 2016 22:45:08 GMT -5 Jaguar said:

<< BIG HUGS >> nittanycheme

Thanks.  Even if its only virtual, its  nice to know someone is sympathetic.  Sometimes with all this stuff, you feel so alone since you get so wrapped up in what you are feeling- probably what Swamp feels as part of her sadness too- and its nice to know you aren't really alone.  And, at 3 of the 4 other people who were present when I got mad at the jerk say that he had it coming!   I was so tired from working on cleaning out my mom's house that same day (and for the last months) I couldn't take it, and he wanted to argue about what I considered such trivial crap.....

[Jaguar]

Dec 8, 2016 22:55:38 GMT -5 nittanycheme said:

Dec 8, 2016 22:45:08 GMT -5 Jaguar said:

<< BIG HUGS >> nittanycheme

Thanks.  Even if its only virtual, its  nice to know someone is sympathetic.  Sometimes with all this stuff, you feel so alone since you get so wrapped up in what you are feeling- probably what Swamp feels as part of her sadness too- and its nice to know you aren't really alone.  And, at 3 of the 4 other people who were present when I got mad at the jerk say that he had it coming!   I was so tired from working on cleaning out my mom's house that same day (and for the last months) I couldn't take it, and he wanted to argue about what I considered such trivial crap.....

It's sad and awful to have to clean out your mom or dads place after they are gone. It's just bloody awful.

[Deleted]

Dec 2, 2016 23:02:37 GMT -5 swamp said:

I'm feeling very sad recently.  In the last few years, as recently as yesterday, several acquaintances have passed away at very young ages, suddenly and completely unexpectedly.  Things like cerebral hemorrhage, heart attack, traffic accidents, etc.  they were all the type of people that made the world a better place. Often, they left minor children.  

Then there are these nasty people running around who just wreak havoc everywhere they go, have no regard fir others, and they live on. Thrive even.  There are 2 specific ones that cause all sorts of issues in our professional lives. 

I know life isn't fair, but this just sucks. I'm just venting. 

Sorry for your loss swamp. Ya it makes you wonder sometimes.