Trying to expand my brain

[giramomma]

Nov 28, 2016 13:27:38 GMT -5 milee said:

Nov 28, 2016 13:19:39 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

The gyno told my mom that in the final year of menopause you are SUPER fertile and there is also a higher chance of multiples .   

The idea of not only getting pregnant in my late 40s, but being pregnant with multiples makes me want to cry, then barf.  Then cry some more.  

We hit that at 39 when we had to make final decisions about our family size.

I still would not have complained if we got another kid. But, I didn't want to tempt fate. We had a 30% chance of twins with the peanut. I wasn't willing to risk those odds again.

[naughtybear]

Oh good grief, no no no. I would seriously cry. A friend of my friend is 50 ??  got his GF pregnant who is 46, he never has had kids neither has she. We all think they are nuts. I have a late baby uncle but I don't believe my nanny was that old, 42 I think. I'm trying to think of any more.

[naughtybear]

How did you have a 30% chance of twins.

[MJ2.0]

Nov 28, 2016 13:19:39 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

The gyno told my mom that in the final year of menopause you are SUPER fertile and there is also a higher chance of multiples .   I forgot how long she recommended my mom stay on BC or they continue to use condoms before it was safe.

What is it, like an "EVERYTHING MUST GO" sale in your ovaries?

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"Going Out of Business" 

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

Nov 28, 2016 18:31:29 GMT -5 MJ2.0 said:

Nov 28, 2016 13:19:39 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

The gyno told my mom that in the final year of menopause you are SUPER fertile and there is also a higher chance of multiples .   I forgot how long she recommended my mom stay on BC or they continue to use condoms before it was safe.

What is it, like an "EVERYTHING MUST GO" sale in your ovaries?

What I was reading is that when women are going through menopause, they frequently won't have a period for a year, and assume that they are infertile.  Then after a year, they'll start having periods again.

I remember a friend of mine came running into my office needing a tampon.  She hadn't had a period in over a year, and they started back up.  During this time, the ovaries still eggs.

[giramomma]

Nov 28, 2016 16:00:14 GMT -5 naughtybear said:

How did you have a 30% chance of twins.

Fertility meds. Low dose injectibles+iui.

Previously, I was on clomid, where the twin rate isn't all that much higher than nature. Unfortunately, the nurse that worked with me wouldn't put me on clomid after 35 and femara didn't do enough to make me ovulate.

I am most amused that my body is working the exact opposite of normally fertile folks. I didn't ovulate in my prime child bearing years. Get into perimenopause and I'm more regular than I've been in 20-some years without being on any medication.

I also had a friend growing up, that was conceived when her mom was in her late 40s. Her mom didn't have a period for a long time and thought she was done. Turned out, she wasn't. All her siblings were in HS when she came along. For the most part, she was raised as an only child.

A former clients mom had her thyroid removed (I think it was cancer, actually) and was told she couldn't have kids anymore. When her third came, she had a 6th grader and an 8th grader (or something very close to that). I'm also guessing that she was older (closer to 40 than not) when her third came along.

[naughtybear]

I have to think that intelligence has increased for women to not believe the "because of this fill in the blank you can't get pregnant any more" I have heard that from so many women that SURPRISE. I would think that barring having no ovaries a women should always be aware of SURPRISE.

[gs11rmb]

Nov 28, 2016 13:27:38 GMT -5 milee said:

Nov 28, 2016 13:19:39 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

The gyno told my mom that in the final year of menopause you are SUPER fertile and there is also a higher chance of multiples .   

The idea of not only getting pregnant in my late 40s, but being pregnant with multiples makes me want to cry, then barf.  Then cry some more.  

I'll be 43 in a couple of weeks.  Every month, I'm panicking and then completely relieved when I get my period. It's like being in my 20's again .

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

Nov 28, 2016 21:52:07 GMT -5 naughtybear said:

I have to think that intelligence has increased for women to not believe the "because of this fill in the blank you can't get pregnant any more" I have heard that from so many women that SURPRISE. I would think that barring having no ovaries a women should always be aware of SURPRISE.

Huh?  You don't have a period for a year, you have all the symptoms of menopause so the assumption is that your ovaries have gone out of business.  It isn't a matter of intelligence, it is more that you are trying to grapple with a new normal for your body.  Things are no longer the way they were for the last 35 years.

The first time it happened to me, I took a pregnancy test and it was negative.  It happened a few months later, negative.  After awhile, not having a period does not equal pregnancy, but menopause in your brain (especially when it is validated by your gyn and blood hormone levels).  So yes, it DOES come as a surprise when your ovaries decide to go on one more binge.

I remember getting off a flight and telling TD we had to stop at a drug store.  Despite not having a period for 8 months, one started up.  I used exactly 3 tampons out of the box.  I think it is still in the bathroom, but I can probably throw it away now.

Menopause is a pain in the ass.

[naughtybear]

I was not even thinking about menopause when I wrote that post so...